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    Default How do you deal with people who judge you for being a camgirl?

    First off I’m proud to be a camgirl. I love my job. I don’t seeanything wrong with it but there are some people in my life that do thing I haveno morals.
    I had a friend for three years that knew what I did for aliving from the beginning. I was asked to be her maid of honor in her wedding.I found out on Monday that she has never been comfortable of me being acamgirl. I was very hurt and saddened because over the past three years I thoughtshe accepted me.
    How do you deal with people who judge you for youroccupation? Maybe I’m from another planet but I don’t see anything wrong withit. I don’t feel like I’m disrespecting myself. I feel proud of myself. Ialmost have my bachelors. Yippee. In business of course.

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    I wish them good luck in life, say goodbye, and focus my energy on people who will be better friends to me. I have no desire to associate with people who have a problem with what I do.


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    IMO there's nothing to deal with. They can move on with life, as I will with mine.

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    I don't deal with them, I cut them off. I'm lucky to have regular vanilla friends who are open minded and support what I do. They don't cam for their own personal reasons but they've told me many times how awesome they think it is and how they would too if they could. My friends are super open-minded.

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    I"m not open about what I do because I like to keep to myself. However, for those I do tell/know that have a problem I basically tell them that I'm an adult with bills and they can feel free to pay them for me if they want and that I can probably pay my bills and theirs too and faster at that. There's nothing wrong with doing something strange for a little bit of change. Like my siggy says: "Hustlers do things for a few years that people won't so that they can spend the rest of their lives like most people can't".




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    Haha. I love you girls. Thankyou so much. I needed this.

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    I just simply ask them this 'Since you're so busy judging me, when do you find time to correct your own life?'. I don't waste time on people who are so determined to judge and misunderstand me. Life is too short to try to play up or convincing people. I am worthy of people in my life who are well-evolved and accepting. I would be hurt too if I was you. That isn't really a friend. A friend wouldn't mistreat or bad mouth a friend.
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    I can see you being 90 and flipping your long hair, still teasing the boys.



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    I have been a cam girl for a while. This one just caught me off guard i guess. Since i thought she accepted my lifestyle for such a long time.

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    People have a way of surprising you, a lot of times NOT in a good way. People that you think would be the most accepting usually are the opposite. Let their actions show you!
    Quote Originally Posted by Heidi_M View Post
    I have been a cam girl for a while. This one just caught me off guard i guess. Since i thought she accepted my lifestyle for such a long time.
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    I can see you being 90 and flipping your long hair, still teasing the boys.



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    Quote Originally Posted by Marina Starr View Post
    I just simply ask them this 'Since you're so busy judging me, when do you find time to correct your own life?'. I don't waste time on people who are so determined to judge and misunderstand me. Life is too short to try to play up or convincing people. I am worthy of people in my life who are well-evolved and accepting. I would be hurt too if I was you. That isn't really a friend. A friend wouldn't mistreat or bad mouth a friend.
    I so agree. The funny thing is she about six months ago she was making out with guys at the bar while engaged.lmao.Her husband thought i was the bad influence too. I told her that i wasnt the one she needed to worry about. He needed to worry about her. I did not tell her husband btw. I'm not that vengeful.

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    Oh, how ironic! In my personal experience, women who bash and judge what we do are almost always the ones that do the MOST FOR FREE! At least ask for a donation, ya know?


    Quote Originally Posted by Heidi_M View Post
    I so agree. The funny thing is she about six months ago she was making out with guys at the bar while engaged.lmao.Her husband thought i was the bad influence too. I told her that i wasnt the one she needed to worry about. He needed to worry about her. I did not tell her husband btw. I'm not that vengeful.
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    I'm still learning how to cope with it. Because when you really love someone and they judge you and think lesser of you because of that, it hurts. You will get stronger and stronger until the day you will just move on. I've been dealing with that for a long time so for me it not that easy. For the moment being, it is my business that I share with people who won't judge.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Marina Starr View Post
    Oh, how ironic! In my personal experience, women who bash and judge what we do are almost always the ones that do the MOST FOR FREE! At least ask for a donation, ya know?
    omg marina. You have me cracking up over here.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Marina Starr View Post
    People have a way of surprising you, a lot of times NOT in a good way. People that you think would be the most accepting usually are the opposite. Let their actions show you!
    That is so true. One of my most accepting friends is a hardcore Catholic girl who has had maybe 3 sexual partners in her entire life (if that) and would never strip or cam or do any adult work. Yet, she feels no need to judge me for what I do and is totally comfortable hearing about it or asking me questions about it.

    On the other hand, I have a cousin I had to cut out of my life because she went on a shrieking rampage when she found out what I do. She was married at the time and cheated on her husband at least a dozen times with a dozen different people. She has multiple STDs and still sleeps around constantly without using protection. She doesn't even know the father of her youngest child. But she's the one person in my life who claimed the moral high ground and condemned me for being a "whore."

    It's such a joke. The people worth keeping around have bigger and better things to worry about than how you make your living.


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    I laugh at them uproariously. Fucking prudes. I don't judge them for sitting on their ass in an office for 8 hours under those horrible lights, being nagged by a boss they hate, so that they can barely spend time at home or on vacation...
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    Oh wow! Once again, the irony! I feel for your cousin. I hope she charged for all the pain, suffering and emotional distress.
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    That is so true. One of my most accepting friends is a hardcore Catholic girl who has had maybe 3 sexual partners in her entire life (if that) and would never strip or cam or do any adult work. Yet, she feels no need to judge me for what I do and is totally comfortable hearing about it or asking me questions about it.

    On the other hand, I have a cousin I had to cut out of my life because she went on a shrieking rampage when she found out what I do. She was married at the time and cheated on her husband at least a dozen times with a dozen different people. She has multiple STDs and still sleeps around constantly without using protection. She doesn't even know the father of her youngest child. But she's the one person in my life who claimed the moral high ground and condemned me for being a "whore."

    It's such a joke. The people worth keeping around have bigger and better things to worry about than how you make your living.
    Quote Originally Posted by ~Carmen~ View Post
    I can see you being 90 and flipping your long hair, still teasing the boys.



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    This was in response to Marvelgirl's comment:
    ^^ you know what it is?? Looking at you, doing what you do for a living?? would make her have to look at her immoral issues. So therefore, it is much easier just to judge you and condemn you rather than looking in the mirror and fixing herself.

    I had the same problem with a friend, 11 yr friendship and she never stopped saying how she didn't think what I was doing for a living was right and she just didn't agree with it because I had kids, mind you she is 1 yr older and never had kids and actually married a guy for 9 months cuz she didn't want to be an old maid by the time she was 30 AND she slept with tons of guys just a matter of fact like how a guy would.. and often would tell me I need to get laid...LOL.. not my thing to have casual sex with this or that guy... so same thing.. so one day I asked her to respect me, ALL of ME.. my job, my music, my hair , my makeup etc etc and she said nah I have other friends now... so that was that never spoke again..it's been about 5 yrs now. Too bad because even though we didn't agree.. we were " ride or die" friends.. and she always said I was the only girlfriend who would NEVER sleep with any of her b/f's ...lol

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    Quote Originally Posted by SaintSlutface View Post
    I laugh at them uproariously. Fucking prudes. I don't judge them for sitting on their ass in an office for 8 hours under those horrible lights, being nagged by a boss they hate, so that they can barely spend time at home or on vacation...
    Surprise suprise! She has called me plenty of times because her boss has had her in tears and i have always been there for her.

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    Quote Originally Posted by SaintSlutface View Post
    I laugh at them uproariously. Fucking prudes. I don't judge them for sitting on their ass in an office for 8 hours under those horrible lights, being nagged by a boss they hate, so that they can barely spend time at home or on vacation...
    Quote Originally Posted by ~Carmen~ View Post
    I can see you being 90 and flipping your long hair, still teasing the boys.



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    Aw I can understand why you would be hurt. Lol at the story you told about the bar. I haven't told anybody in my personal life what I do except one person. My boyfriend on the other hand has told a few of his friends. One day we got to talking and he had brought up that the only person he ever heard say something negative was his friends sister who had overheard them talking, she was all "And that doesn't bother you? None of my boyfriends would have ever been cool with that". But like Marina had pointed out, most of the ones who judge are the ones giving up for free, after I found out I was a little like "who does this bitch think she is?", facebook crept and well there she is in all of her glory hoeing it up with facebook pics, you know the kind I'm talking about, the ones that make you feel a little embarrassed for the person because they are corny and you can tell the person is trying way to hard to be sexy and there are like 5 pics in different poses in the same bathroom mirror and same outfit...anywho I think any of the hate we get mostly comes from jealousy. I hope you feel better about things with your friend and I am sorry that she feels like that. Don't let it get you down :-) Sounds like off cam you are a little angel :-)

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    I'm so freaking proud of anyone that goes against a social norm. Although i do beleive camming is becoming much more accepted. In most cases, i do think people admire us for our confidence to be comfortable enough with our bodies and embrace our beauty. Were fucking intimidating because were confident in our own skin.

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    It gets me high to go against the norm. I love being a beautiful woman with a penis. That just goes against so many social norms.
    Before camming, I was so ashamed of my body. Now I am so proud. My confidence is unshakeable.
    Quote Originally Posted by Heidi_M View Post
    I'm so freaking proud of anyone that goes against a social norm. Although i do beleive camming is becoming much more accepted. In most cases, i do think people admire us for our confidence to be comfortable enough with our bodies and embrace our beauty. Were fucking intimidating because were confident in our own skin.
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    I can see you being 90 and flipping your long hair, still teasing the boys.



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    If you don't accept my job, you don't accept me. This is a big part of my identity. I may find it a hassle most days, but that doesn't mean I'm not proud of myself for doing it.






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    My family doesn't respect what I do save for my younger sister. So I don't speak to them anymore. It's been HARD but I demand RESPECT for what I think is the best thing that has EVER happened to me. I am VERY open about what I do and anyone who doesn't respect me for it is likewise cut off. =D

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    Quote Originally Posted by o0Pepper0o View Post
    My family doesn't respect what I do save for my younger sister. So I don't speak to them anymore. It's been HARD but I demand RESPECT for what I think is the best thing that has EVER happened to me. I am VERY open about what I do and anyone who doesn't respect me for it is likewise cut off. =D
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