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    I dont know what to do anymore.. that domb ass made an account and came into my room.. ofcourse i saw right away that it was him.. his initials ande birthyear.. how stupid.. and when i saw the ipad next to his bed.. with history deleted i know for sure! I forgor to block him.. in panic i just kicked him out.. how will i know its not him every time i work i hate this i know he really wants to know what im up to in my little room upstairs.. but he cannot do this right

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    Default Re: my boyfriend is checking me out while im camming :(

    I honestly have more questions than answers...

    Has he mentioned that he wants to see what you do on cam? Have you mentioned your preferences? Have you talked about this at all?
    Is there a reason you're posting about it here, before opening up a discussion about it with him (presumably coming into your cam room)?
    Why did you panic?

    If you two are living together (or at least especially so)...it sounds like you both need to communicate more? I don't intend to sound mean, I'm just going off of what little information you've given us.

    You called your boyfriend a dumbass, and you haven't indicated that you two have even really talked about this. You're scared that he's going to come back. And he lives with you? This doesn't really seem like a healthy relationship.

    It would seem to be a breach of trust if he was indeed trying to go into your cam room behind your back (though you checking his ipad isn't much better), but I can't comment much without really knowing what's going on. Neither of you seem to be approaching this in a very mature fashion.

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    Default Re: my boyfriend is checking me out while im camming :(

    I love my husband being in my cam room and so do my viewers.

    I agree with Naiad. Did you have an agreement that he wouldn't watch you and that's why you're so mad at him?
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    Default Re: my boyfriend is checking me out while im camming :(

    This is something you'll need to personally work out with him, it's an issue that needs to be addressed you cant just block him and ignore that he's doing something you're uncomfortable with. Is there a reason youre not comfortable with him seeing you cam? Sometimes my dude is in the room with me off to the side watching tv and stuff but he knows what I do, we've just gotten use to it. You can always block him when he comes in your room but for the health of your relationship this should be mentioned to him in person.

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    Default Re: my boyfriend is checking me out while im camming :(

    mine has done this, he didnt believe me what douches some of the free chat guys are so i said come and see. While he was in there there wasa guy with an offensive username asking me if i was a 'passport hunter' obviously that guy got banned.

    you need to talk about it with him then talk about it some more. Its weird but as a new cammer i think i know how you feel, im happy camming (so happy) but a bit embarassed if my bf was watching, i guess its because i dont care what the other guys think so long as they enjoy the show but i want my bf to thhink that im super duper hot and awesome haha

    you really do need to talk though, he should tell you if he wants to watch and you should tell him if you dont want him to watch.

    my bf works from home too, if he is mega stressed at work then i dont work because i know he cant concentrate on his job when he knows i have my legs in the air and a dildo in my ass haha

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    Default Re: my boyfriend is checking me out while im camming :(

    Next time ask him to take you Exclusive. I mean if he's already there, might as well.
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    Default Re: my boyfriend is checking me out while im camming :(

    ^^LOL, Marina! I was going to say that the only reason I'd be upset is if he decided to spend (shared) money on a show. Especially since you know he forgot to sign up using the cammodels link (or similar referral link for whatever site it is).

    Although it is a little worrisome that he feels the need to hide it, and that you feel the need to be upset about him being there. Is it really a big deal as long as he isn't driving away other custies, distracting you too much, or wasting money (not that money spent on you is wasted, but since he could just hand it to you in person, spending on the camsite seems silly)?

    Also, this is your boyfriend, who seems to live with you and have sex with you and hopefully loves you. He's probably just curious. He knows it's sort of you on cam, but sort of not you, and that's intriguing and sexy. He gets to play with "another woman" without cheating on you. Why not do a "cam show" roleplay with him? You be your cam persona, he's an anonymous, pervy customer, there's an imaginary computer screen physically separating you, and just do whatever you would do at work. Trust me, it can get very hot, even if you keep the "computer screen" up and never touch each other. If he wants the true cam experience, you could even do it over Skype. If he really REALLY wants the true cam experience, he can pay you from his personal money, or work it off in chores.
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    Default Re: my boyfriend is checking me out while im camming :(

    I had a boyfriend who'd literally stand within view and watch me while I was trying to cam. I finally had to tell him to knock it off - he was more jealous than my usual type, and I knew I was toning myself down because he was there.

    Bottom line: tons of guys think it's HOT to see you camming, but very, very few boyfriends want to sit there and watch you flirt with other guys. If I had a guy with that fetish, I might consider letting him watch. Otherwise, no.






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    Default Re: my boyfriend is checking me out while im camming :(

    I was gonna say... I'm single but in this kind of situation I don't know what I'd be more pissed off about--him spending money or him not spending money.

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    I'd only be so pissed if he didn't sign up through my cammodel link. His ass would for sure be sleeping in the dogs house if I'm only getting 35%. TRUST!

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    I was gonna say... I'm single but in this kind of situation I don't know what I'd be more pissed off about--him spending money or him not spending money.
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    Default Re: my boyfriend is checking me out while im camming :(

    How long have you been dating and how long have you been camming? I have dated a guy who never got used to me camming and would come in my room and call phone constantly if he was not home. That one did not last. Another guy i dated was jealous at first and watched me online but then let me do my thing. It may help to make him feel involved. Let him take some pictures or videos of you or let him join in. I'm sure you will beable to figure out what to do soon. Just dont give up on camming if you enjoy doing it.

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    Default Re: my boyfriend is checking me out while im camming :(

    You're camming behind his back? Like, he doesn't know what you're doing upstairs? (or, it seems, he actually does)

    Doesn't sound like healthy communication to me...Why be with a guy who you have to hide the fact that you cam from?
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    Default Re: my boyfriend is checking me out while im camming :(

    When I first started caming my husband was curious about it. He would watch me on cam (in the guest chat area), and listen in on sessions. He didn't 100% understand that caming was not a sexual thing for me in the beginning so he was a little bit jealous. We had a long talk about it and now he's 100% on board with it. He still sometimes comes and watches me in the guest chat. Sometimes it's just because he wants to interrupt me and tell me it's time for dinner or something and he wants to make sure I'm not in a private show first. I don't mind that he does this though. But if you are not comfortable with your bf spying on you (and it sounds like he is trying to be secretive about it) have a talk with him.

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    Default Re: my boyfriend is checking me out while im camming :(

    Ban his customer account and then have a talk and say you don't feel comfortable being watched by people you know and explain why.

    I don't like being watched by those I know, I'm SURE it happens but ignorance is bliss. If you are going to perv me, at least be sneaky about it so I can lie to myself.

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    I get shy and nervous if my boyfriend watches me so we've agreed that he won't. I promised I would try to work up to him being able to just because he thinks it's hot and wants to be able to watch but I perform better if he isn't watching and since this is my full time job he doesn't mess with that because I buy the groceries and feed him lol.
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    Default Re: my boyfriend is checking me out while im camming :(

    I don't know if it's logistically possible to keep your boyfriend from knowing that you cam. You definitely want to talk that through.

    That said, I love performing when my guy is watching. I pretend I'm flirting and performing for him, and it makes things so much easier. He tips me so I'll go on and on about how special "that reg is" heh.

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    Default Re: my boyfriend is checking me out while im camming :(

    My husband is welcome to sit in my room and play angry birds on my tablet or watch me, but he understands now that it's not all "his" type of things that go on in there, so that pretty much stopped his curiosity.

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    Definitely have a chat with him about it. My soon to be ex husband didn't mind watching other women and paying for shows until I signed up. He made such a fuss about me working, got over it, but would use it against me in fights and sit and watch me through my cammodel's link. It made me really uncomfortable and when we broke up he still stalked and still does today. I try not to think about it but it makes me feel creepy and I feel like I cannot perform as well in free chat when someone I know is watching me. It got to the point where he would pick fights because he thought I flirted too much or I wore something in free chat that he didn't approve of. He couldn't separate my job from reality.




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    Default Re: my boyfriend is checking me out while im camming :(

    If you are uncomfortable about it - talk to him about it.

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    Default Re: my boyfriend is checking me out while im camming :(

    he girls thank you so much for all the answers.. i wass sad en feeling bad when i wrote my message this morning and i think with to little information.. so this is the story: My boyfriend and i where dating for 1,5 years but not in a serious relationsship yet.. he found out about me camming when it started to get serious and i it wass time for me to tell him.. but he found out by checking my phone and reading my conversation with my friend about it...

    He is pretty cool with it.. but so damn curious about how i do that, and how it go's. When we have our special quility nights he always asked me to log inn and show him what i do.. But i just can't.. it feels so weard him watching me .. and i always tell him .. maybe i will do that but when im ready... someday.. i just feel shy and embarresed.. i do love camming ! alot! but its my thing.. my own .. dont want to share with him..

    Then last night i came down to cuddle a little and go back to work later.. he started asking me questions about show i did that night.. and for who.. i sad nooo idea.. the one is called superman the other badman.. but no idea who they really are... he said.. So you will never know who it is ?!? i said no..

    Cuddling a little more.. going back to work.. mc1982 logs in.. the name he always uses for everything! i know it wass him.. and it scared the hell out of me..

    its just not cool..

    maybe its me... maybe im to mysterious about what i do.. maybe like some of you say i have to involve him more.. maybe i should open up a little bit about this..

    after i kicked him out of my room.. i sended him a text message.. you are not sleeping mister.. i saw you mc1982... this morning he said whats up with the message.. and untill now he claims that it wass not him.. and that he deleted his ipad history because he wass whatching porn.. ( we always watch porn together and never delete it)

    i dont know whats upsetting me more.. him comming in.. or lie about it... maybe he does not want to tell because he knows il be pissed..

    Just told him.. That it would really make me feel bad.. and i really dont want him to do this..

    dont know what to do or say more.. if he denials

    this is so not cool

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    It sounds like you need to be more assertive and have a talk with him. Does your boyfriend not know that the word 'NO' is a complete sentence?
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    he girls thank you so much for all the answers.. i wass sad en feeling bad when i wrote my message this morning and i think with to little information.. so this is the story: My boyfriend and i where dating for 1,5 years but not in a serious relationsship yet.. he found out about me camming when it started to get serious and i it wass time for me to tell him.. but he found out by checking my phone and reading my conversation with my friend about it...

    He is pretty cool with it.. but so damn curious about how i do that, and how it go's. When we have our special quility nights he always asked me to log inn and show him what i do.. But i just can't.. it feels so weard him watching me .. and i always tell him .. maybe i will do that but when im ready... someday.. i just feel shy and embarresed.. i do love camming ! alot! but its my thing.. my own .. dont want to share with him..

    Then last night i came down to cuddle a little and go back to work later.. he started asking me questions about show i did that night.. and for who.. i sad nooo idea.. the one is called superman the other badman.. but no idea who they really are... he said.. So you will never know who it is ?!? i said no..

    Cuddling a little more.. going back to work.. mc1982 logs in.. the name he always uses for everything! i know it wass him.. and it scared the hell out of me..

    its just not cool..

    maybe its me... maybe im to mysterious about what i do.. maybe like some of you say i have to involve him more.. maybe i should open up a little bit about this..

    after i kicked him out of my room.. i sended him a text message.. you are not sleeping mister.. i saw you mc1982... this morning he said whats up with the message.. and untill now he claims that it wass not him.. and that he deleted his ipad history because he wass whatching porn.. ( we always watch porn together and never delete it)

    i dont know whats upsetting me more.. him comming in.. or lie about it... maybe he does not want to tell because he knows il be pissed..

    Just told him.. That it would really make me feel bad.. and i really dont want him to do this..

    dont know what to do or say more.. if he denials

    this is so not cool
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    He doesn't respect you. Thee end.







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    Default Re: my boyfriend is checking me out while im camming :(

    I personally love having my bf in my cam room modding. If he wants to perv and watch me, I'm putting his ass to work! So, on a more serious note, unless you had the state you're in blocked, it's kind of your fault. Sorry if it sounds like I lack pity, but you put yourself at risk for this position, especially if you know he watches porn or pervs in cam rooms. I'm not trying to knock girls who don't block their state (I wouldn't if I lived in a high camming traffic state) but you had to have thought about the risks of NOT doing so, especially if you were trying to HIDE it from him. if you don't block it, people you know will eventually find you, especially if they're looking for you or familiar with the site you're on. If you did have your state blocked and he found a way around it, I'm sorry you're dealing with this... though it sounds like he's a live in bf so I'm surprised you didn't tell him considering he was IN the house.

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    Quote Originally Posted by caramelcraze View Post
    I personally love having my bf in my cam room modding. If he wants to perv and watch me, I'm putting his ass to work! So, on a more serious note, unless you had the state you're in blocked, it's kind of your fault. Sorry if it sounds like I lack pity, but you put yourself at risk for this position, especially if you know he watches porn or pervs in cam rooms. I'm not trying to knock girls who don't block their state (I wouldn't if I lived in a high camming traffic state) but you had to have thought about the risks of NOT doing so, especially if you were trying to HIDE it from him. if you don't block it, people you know will eventually find you, especially if they're looking for you or familiar with the site you're on. If you did have your state blocked and he found a way around it, I'm sorry you're dealing with this... though it sounds like he's a live in bf so I'm surprised you didn't tell him considering he was IN the house.
    Geoblocking only blocks if you are on Streamate.com. If you are viewing popups or a whitelabel they still see you. Basically it's useless.

    He knew she cammed but he's obviously not caring about her wishes - which is to have it her private thing - she doesn't want him all up in her biz and he is obviously not respecting that.







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    Default Re: my boyfriend is checking me out while im camming :(

    Sorry to hear that, Charlie. But I'm not surprised. As soon as guys find out what you do, if you actually do tell them the site name(s) they're gonna get curious and come on there looking for you. I know, it's fucking annoying.
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