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    I've not danced for ages, having been self employed for 3 years+ . And there is no two ways about it, I'm fat! I put it down to a mix of psychiatric meds, borderline hypothyroidism caused by long term lithium use and , I admit it, generally eating badly and not moving enough.

    I'm a size 12 at the moment and I danced at a size 10 before. But I'd really like to be a size 8 which would suit my hourglass shape without losing my boobs. I bought a waist cincher so I'm going to see if I could get away with that and start now but a waist cincher can only do so much!

    I figure it would take a loss of 60 pounds to get there which seems insurmountable but I know it can be done with the right diet and exercise regime. I'm keen not to get stretchmarks/sagging so 2-3 lbs a week is ideal.

    My diet just now: 1,500 cals a day
    My exercise just now: yoga and Pilates twice a week
    my weight loss now: 0 lbs/week

    So, right away I see I need to up my exercise to include more cardio. But as for diet, I'm at a loss. I'm a vegetarian and find it hard to stay away from carbs if that helps with suggestions. Also, I can't cook

    I know I could get hired in my local dive now because when I worked there before there was a woman who was at least a size 18 and she made some money. But I observed she was perhaps the token "roly poly" stripper the stag do's would buy a dance for the stag as a joke.

    I don't want to be a joke.

    So if you have any suggestions on how I can get on a sensible weight loss plan without resorting to illegal diet pills/horse asthma medication (been there done that) please do share.

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    ugh, i'd like to subscribe so i can hear suggestions. i was a scrawny, bony girl for years and years til i got on these meds an i've now gained 35 pounds in the past 3 months!! i'd maybe try switching meds if you can, second the cardio ( i'd recommend the eliptical and swimming. jogging is bad for your joints, and eventually will make your skin sag over time). lots and lots of water.

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    Wow, this really speaks to me! Last month, I got disgusted with the 20 lb. weight gain I had since moving here two years ago, so I finally decided to do something about it. I'm a size 10 and my goal is to get down to size 6 again. While I haven't lost any weight whatsoever, I lost inches off my stomach, chest, and hips and look a lot better already. I exercise 4-5 times a week. My schedule usually go like this:

    Monday: Intermediate Zumba class (1 hour)
    Tuesday: Kickboxing (1 hour)
    Wednesday: Belly dancing class (1 hour)
    Thursday: Cycling (45 minutes), Yoga (1 hour)
    Friday: Water aerobics (1 hour) Weight training

    My body looks better already, and I am thinking of replacing one of these cardio classes for a weight training session so I can tone up faster.

    Increase your exercise days by another two days (or 1 day at first, then 2) so you can have a total of four exercise days as your main goal. You should be in shape in no time.

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    Thanks for the tips so far. It. Seems clear upping exercise is the way to go. The bf has been talking about swimming once a week so there's immediately one extra day. And I've been considering buying an exercise bike too. And that's a great tip about measuring myself because its do easy to get unmotivated when the scales don't move.
    Unfortunately I can't change my psych meds, I have psychotic depression and was in hospital a month ago so its too soon to rock the boat. I'd love to be off meds entirely one day

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    To lose weight (especially the stomach area) it all starts in the KITCHEN. I feel like this is where women generally mess up. 1500 calories a day is cool and all but what type of food are you taking in...

    I personally never count calories. I also think it's pointless to do so since most people who count calories are looking for short term results and never solving the bigger issue. Fitness and health is a lifestyle.

    However, if you are looking for fast results. For a week go on a liquid diet. With this diet you can, of course, only ingest liquids. Natural, no sugar added fruit and/or vegetable juices, water, and protein shakes (the protein shakes are a meal replacement). I would also take a laxative the first day too. After this eat as much vegetables & baked lean meats with no fat as you would like. (No butter, no frying, light oil and seasonings). Avoid carbs esp complex carbs like bread & pasta, sweets, alcohol, and drinks. It's advised to not eat fruit during the evenings because of sugar but I eat it whenever I like.

    During this time you want to exercise. Twice a week will hardly give you results try atleast 4-5 days a week. High intensity cardio offers the best results (sprinting & running up hill for shirt distances and repeated with rest in between. Like sprint a minute/ walk a minute). You also want to incorporate weight training to keep curves and to continue burning calories when the workout is done.

    Disclaimer lol: I'm not a doctor, nutritionist, or certified trainer. I worked for a gym where I had to train customers and I know what has worked for me & friends I have also trained.

    You can do it!

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    Quick update. I am going to use meal replacement shakes for two meals a day along with a low carb dinner. I am now also the proud owner of an exercise bike! Going to do HIIT on it.
    5 days a week cardio + toning exercises every night. So motivated to finally do this and see it through! Thanks for all the suggestions I've been inspired by them.

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    I really think meal replacement shakes and whatnot are a bit ridiculous. And taking lots of protein is very hard on the kidneys - even bodybuilders don't need much protein (I studied this in college). So be careful with that. You may get 'results' by eating tons of protein, but you're harming other systems in your body. There are healthier options available to you.

    My advice is to simply take the foods you normally eat and find healthier options for them. Whole wheat instead of white (carbs are *not* the devil; simple carbs are!), olive oil instead of butter, fruits instead of candy, fish instead of steak, nut mix instead of chips, etc. Eat more dark leafy greens (green smoothies make this easier). Remove red meat from your diet and replace it with fish and grilled chicken. Increase water intake and drink more green tea (though remember, your body can only absorb ~8 oz of liquid every 15 minutes). You get the idea.

    I highly recommend the elliptical for weight loss. It's zero impact (doesn't hurt your joints) and is 100% cardio. Do 50-60 minutes a day, 5 days a week. Take a morning or evening walk on top of that.

    And overall, be good to yourself. You aren't looking just for short-term weight loss, you're looking to change your lifestyle. So make changes gradually and sanely.

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    ^ exactly! plus females do not need as much protein as males, and americans consume WAY more protein than they need. meal replacement shakes are packed full of GMO's and corn syrup, had to say goodbye to my ensure plus when i found that out

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    Oops I already got overexcited and ordered 3 weeks worth of meal replacements. Ingredients wise there's no corn syrup but sugar is the first ingredient :s we shall see how it goes even if its a kickstart thing then i can move onto sorting my portion sizes and making healthy swaps.

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    Quote Originally Posted by pinkpvc View Post
    borderline hypothyroidism caused by long term lithium use
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    ^ if you are currently unmedicated, that in itself may be contributing to your inability to lose weight.

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    Of course every person has different needs and not everything works for everybody. I am still modifying my diet (transistioning to vegetarian then vegan). I do agree with whats stated above. But seeing as this seemed like something you wanted to do fast I explained to you what I did for fast results in the stomach area. Meal replacements are my best friend esp when I'm busy and need something quick or lazy and not wanting to grab something too unhealthy. Compared to what most eat, I'm okay with the sugar in my already made protein shakes. Don't be afraid of protein, however, especially plant based. But no I'm not advocating pig out on steaks & chicken lol everything in moderation

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    One of the nice things about ellipticals is they never make me sore. Which means that if you're trying to lose weight quickly, you can work out 4-5 days in a row without needing recovery days. Obviously, once you've lost the weight, you'll want to add some variety to your workouts (weightlifting is fantastic for bones & muscles). By then, you'll also be able to tell which parts of your body you'd like to emphasize / downplay with more focused workouts (butt, arms, legs, etc.).

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    Just wanted to share some motivation.

    When I first started dancing At 18, I was 5'7 and 140 pounds of lean muscle. I was an intensive ballet dancer back in the day and I looked more like I weighed 120 because muscle weighs more than fat.

    After taking a couple years off, I ballooned up to 205 and at 205 I looked like I weighed around 180 because I was lucky to gain weight proportionally and still looked toned. But I wasn't happy and I decided to make a lifestyle change and over the coarse of 5 months have lost 40 pounds slowly and kept it off. The key thing I'm proud of is that I've kept it off. It feels good to look at the scale and not feel the fear of the weight creeping back.

    First thing I changed was diet and alcohol consumption. I also cut down my portions and stopped eating at night after work. Instead of reaching for something to eat, I would drink a lot of water before bed. Not only did this help with the hunger pangs but I slept well and woke up well rested because I wasn't dehydrated.

    On diet alone I lost 20 pounds. My alcohol and sugar consumption was ridiculous. Then I joined a gym and am now a gym addict. When I first started I couldn't even run a mile. Now I can run four miles straight without stopping. I don't know if you've heard of the runner's high but it's when you don't feel the burn anymore and you can just keep running forever. I thought it didn't exist until one day I hit it and I finally understood those people that just run for miles.

    Running definitely helped with the weight loss. But strength training and changing up my routine by taking classes were what toned y body and gave it shape. At first I was intimidated by the meatheads on the strength training floor at the gym, but those guys are some of the nicest, non pervy people I have ever met. They can appreciate a woman that is interested in taking weights seriously and wants to know how to use the machines properly. They are some of my closest friends now.

    Also I noticed using the sauna every day after my workout really helped. My body recovered well after intense workouts, my skin is the softest it's ever been, and my hair has grown like crazy. And my weight dropped even more (it's water weight but still the steam sauna has those other benefits). I love going to the gym before work and using the sauna after my workout because I have a glow all night at work and I definitely notice on days I go to the gym I make more money at work then on days I skip it.

    If you can't afford a gym, I highly recommend joining an online weight loss community. It helps to have the support. I don't know what I would do without my friends at the gym. I can't imagine doing this journey without their support.

    Good luck. You can do it. I know what it's like and 5 months ago never did I think I could do half the things I could do now. Pm if you need anything.

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    And as for working at a dive. I had to do day shift there and I banked as a big girl. You won't be the token big girl there at a size 12. Be confident and funny thingis, I made more money there as a big girl than now when I go back to work every once in a while. Confidence is key.

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    Firstly, it's common to put on weight when taking medication like this. So, I would suggest consulting your doctor to see if there is another option. Also, if you have thyroid problems try to seek help for that from your GP or a naturopath. Due to my thyroid problems, the only way I can get below a size three is if I work out for 3+ hrs a day and eat next to nothing-it's frustrating, I understand . At least you have height on your side , so when you do loose some weight it will be really flattering!

    I would recommend doing a lot more cardio and also lifting weights (and no, it won't make you bigger !). If you can afford it, hire a PT at your local gym for motivation and direction-even if it's only for a few weeks, they will help you to get motivated, show you what to do and how to do it etc. There are heaps of motivational pages on social media sites like instagram etc. It's fun to follow people who inspire you and have already been on their own, successful weight loss journey. They show that it IS possible!

    Additionally, replacing some meals with green smoothies or fresh juices and soups can help to shed weight faster. Also, meal prepping and not having junk in the house helps you to limit your snacking and stay on track. Juice fasts are good, but many people just loose water weight and regain lost weight when they go back on a solid diet.

    It's hard work and takes blood, sweat and tears to make yourself healthier and happier sometimes. But, if you have clear goals and will power-you can do anything!

    If you carry your weight well and know you can get hired-go for it. The extra cardio and confidence from dancing will be positive...plus, the money is a always a bonus .
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    I did Paleo and shed 30llbs. I've also kept it off too. If you have to stay vegan/vegetarian stay away from crappy carbs. Stick to the suggestions I PM'ed you. I know you can do it. You've already taken a big step by admitting that you're not happy and want to change. That gets mad respect in my book.

    I am now about 80/20 or 85/15 Paleo. I do eat quinoa and brown rice for variety.
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    I'm in the same boat. I need to lose about 60 pounds.

    I have used meal replacement bars before. They work in the short term and I have lost the same 20 pounds multiple times. I do still keep them around though for when I am in a rush or out without a healthy option.

    I see a dietician to help me. I have lost 6 pounds so far and I exercise 45 minutes a day. I build it into my day by making myself walk everywhere and do squats at night. I know I still need to do a lot more but its a good start.

    I take it one meal at a time. I work on getting one meal or habbit sorted out each week. Its a long process with a lot of habits.

    I still eat wayyy to much chocolate, fruit and ice-cream. I find when I admit I can make the steps to change it.

    Haha by having to publicly admit that makes me seriously motivated to change!!

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    Two sessions of yoga and/or pilates a week will not make you lose weight. I do one hour of cardio 7 days a week. I eat locally as much as I can, cut out sugar and processed foods. I will usually eat granola and unsweetened yoghurt for breakfast, some kind of sandwich for lunch (on locally made bread) and protein, veggie and starch for dinner (like roasted chicken, sauteed veggies and a small portion of rice or potatoes). I also don't snack. If you're hungry before bed, drink water.

    I have lost 17lbs since the last week of December, and this doesn't include what weight my body has replaced with muscle, so it's likely more. I've never been heavy, but I've never been FIT.

    Follow this and you'll look amazing.

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    Do you still get to eat fruit? Berries, apples etc

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    Remember that in general you should avoid diets that cut out entire food groups (i.e. carbohydrates, proteins, fats). Your body needs a bit of everything - it just needs them in healthy forms and in moderation. Eat fruits, veges, and whole grains. If you aren't vegan / vegetarian, include lean meats, fish, eggs, and some dairy. Your body craves certain foods for a reason! Pay attention to what is at the core of your cravings and find healthier alternatives. Also pay attention to emotional reasons for eating (boredom, nostalgia, anxiety, sadness) to help tell the difference between true cravings and emotional cravings. Check in with yourself regularly.

    And overall, keep your diet sane. Otherwise your lifestyle won't be sustainable, and you could end up doing more harm than good. Be kind to yourself!

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    Quote Originally Posted by amberlly View Post
    Do you still get to eat fruit? Berries, apples etc
    Sometimes I have pineapple or a banana with my breakfast. They're not a huge staple of my diet, but I throw them in here and there. Pineapple is great for sugar cravings.

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    Tbh Paleo helped me out a lot but it's definitely not for everyone. (I like it better than the Fatkins diet though) I do not consume grains, legumes, or dairy. 3 years eating Paleo and I've kept the weight off. Fad diets don't work. The weight will come back twice as bad. (I actually agree with the fat pride movement on a key point!)
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    I'm a size 12US (16 AUS) too. I got booted from my last club for gaining weight. At my current club they keep me off stage during night shift. Whatever, just more time for hustling. Hardly anyone in Aus tips. I need to lose 10lb for starters. I'm comfortable just being a 10 because I'm 5'10 and carry my weight in my E cup boobs (don't want to lose them) and my hips. Are the meal replacement shakes low carb?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Shy2 View Post
    I'm a size 12US (16 AUS) too. I got booted from my last club for gaining weight. At my current club they keep me off stage during night shift. Whatever, just more time for hustling. Hardly anyone in Aus tips. I need to lose 10lb for starters. I'm comfortable just being a 10 because I'm 5'10 and carry my weight in my E cup boobs (don't want to lose them) and my hips. Are the meal replacement shakes low carb?



    If they are not, you can buy protein powder (usually in the same section of the store but in a big tub) and milk and make your own. Sometimes I mix a scoop in with my big mug of coffee for an easy quick breakfast.

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    Quote Originally Posted by chloemay View Post
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    If they are not, you can buy protein powder (usually in the same section of the store but in a big tub) and milk and make your own. Sometimes I mix a scoop in with my big mug of coffee for an easy quick breakfast.
    I do the same thing when I'm in a hurry. It keeps me from grabbing something bad on the go.

    I follow a semi-paleo diet. I don't eat any baked goods, pasta or rice but I will eat oats and beans. My diet is mostly vegetables with meat and some fruit. The only dairy I eat is the occasional scoop of whey protein and string cheese. It works very well for me and it's pretty easy to maintain.

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