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    Tired anyone else get nervous with regulars?

    As the title says, do you ever get nervous camming with a regular? I'm an extremely shy girl in real life, but on cam I totally go into camgirl mode and all my shyness vanishes; but I've noticed with custies that I've been talking/doing shows with over a long period of time, I start to get nervous sometimes! omg I don't know why. please tell me I'm not the only one haha

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    Sometimes, especially if they're a good regular that I haven't had a show with in a while. Or some regulars basically get the same show over and over again... sometimes I get self conscious about boring them to death but they keep coming back. *shrug* But most of the time I'm less nervous with regs because I know what they want, I know roughly how much they're going to spend and I know that we get along and they're not total dicks.

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    All the guys make me nervous.. most of the time i am wringing my hands in private whilst talking to them.. i have the sexuality of a 14 yr old girl.. but they don't know or understand that... this is a problem when you are older and you don't get sex or anything about it and never had many experiences that were normal.

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    YES!!! I do too, and I thought I was nuts, lmao. I have problems with getting close to people... not physically, but emotionally. And although I don't have feelings for my regulars, I do feel like I am getting to know them better and I think that is what makes me nervous. I have 3 regulars that have been coming to me since I very first started. One likes to chat for about 10-15 min before we go private. Maybe the anticipation builds up and makes me nervous. Now that I am writing this post, Im thinking more into and now I am even more confused about why I get nervous, lol.

    How I deal: I just block the nervousness and shift my attention to enjoying myself. I know it sounds silly, but I think of how the dildo feels, I think of how hot they must think I look naked, ya know, the positive shit. I think that is what they like the most. And the nervousness gives me shy-giggles which I know they love.

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    My favorite reg is the best-mannered, most pleasant person ever, and to this day I still feel a teeny bit weird when I'm doing dildo private shows for him. LOL. He's not picky or demanding or anything like that, so I guess it's just the whole 'I consider him a friend, so this is a little awkward' thing.
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    I get nervous with the regulars who I know always want specific things. I'm afraid that maybe I won't perform the way they want this time and they'll get bored and go elsewhere. It's a lot more of a personal experience with regulars so that always adds more pressure.

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    I don't get nervous with regulars but I do think 'oh dear, he's gonna be bored to death with the same old shit that I do and say over and over again' but I guess it's impossible for any man to get bored with a beautiful woman with a penis. Holllllllllla!
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    I like regulars, because I know what to expect when they come to my chat. They will not demand outrageous stuff and treat me respectfully. The fact that they are coming back is a clear sign that I am doing something right. However, I have one regular who makes me nervous, because I have a HUGE crush on him. I will never tell him, though. He is super hot, hung and has such a deep manly voice. I feel like a little girl when I am chatting with him. This kind of nervousness is not a problem for me.

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    Yay! I'm glad I'm not the only one who gets nervous with regulars sometimes.

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    I get nervous, too! My reasons:

    1) The more shows they buy, the more they expect you to remember about the personal details they've shared with you. I've kept notes, but they're sparse and sometimes I can't find/access them in time. My memory is terrible, so this is a significant problem.

    2) They often start to get antsy after a while - wishing they could have a real relationship with you, wishing you'd visit, and just generally being insecure. This happens at least 50% of the time, in my experience.

    3) I start to expect/depend on their money - even if I know better and tell myself not to. We all know that virtually every regular has a shelf life.






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    Quote Originally Posted by Sabihah View Post
    I get nervous, too! My reasons:

    1) The more shows they buy, the more they expect you to remember about the personal details they've shared with you. I've kept notes, but they're sparse and sometimes I can't find/access them in time. My memory is terrible, so this is a significant problem.

    2) They often start to get antsy after a while - wishing they could have a real relationship with you, wishing you'd visit, and just generally being insecure. This happens at least 50% of the time, in my experience.

    3) I start to expect/depend on their money - even if I know better and tell myself not to. We all know that virtually every regular has a shelf life.
    Regarding #1-- On SM, if you've been streaming for a while, when a reg pops into the room and I click on the note icon to review my "session notes," it does that annoying thing that just says "you must be logged in to view this page." But I am logged in, and if I log in again from another window, it still does it and won't stop unless I begin a new stream.

    THAT is what makes me nervous with regs. Unless they're like a level 3 or our playtime has been recent, I recognize the name, get all giddy about impressing them with my "memory" and then my access to all the memories is denied! So then I really have to work my noggin.
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    Quote Originally Posted by kittyangel View Post
    As the title says, do you ever get nervous camming with a regular? I'm an extremely shy girl in real life, but on cam I totally go into camgirl mode and all my shyness vanishes; but I've noticed with custies that I've been talking/doing shows with over a long period of time, I start to get nervous sometimes! omg I don't know why. please tell me I'm not the only one haha
    Only with the really demanding, dominant ones sometimes, or the ones I wish would just go away. There were only two and they seem to have went away, yay! They stressed me out so much but paid me a lot so I didn't want to refuse them shows. I get more nervous with new people...

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    omg, i knew there had to be others! i'm almost more shy now with my regs than randoms! like...performance anxiety? or something? because i want it to be "perfect." it's weird.
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    Quote Originally Posted by MellyMay View Post
    omg, i knew there had to be others! i'm almost more shy now with my regs than randoms! like...performance anxiety? or something? because i want it to be "perfect." it's weird.
    Yeah, you really don't want to do anything wrong when you've found someone who you know is willing to pay more in the long run!






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    You really ought to try not to be too anxious about it though, you really can't control who will stay and who will go ultimately. Life happens, they get a girlfriend, their eyes stray, it's a relationship of sorts but nothing is certain. Do your best for every show for guys who deserve it and treat your regulars extra special and they'll come back as long as they're willing and able. If they're not, it most likely doesn't have much at all to do with you.

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    Well, you know when you're in public around strangers and you're not feeling too self-conscious about looking bad/doing something embarrassing/etc because you think, "I don't know these people and they don't know me. I'm never seeing them again. Who cares?" but once you get to know someone, those old defenses come up because you know they can hold it against you in the future. Their constant existence is a reminder of your past faults and mistakes. You know they remember it, therefore, you can't let yourself live it down. All those embarrassing moments will forever live on in the people who continue to stay a part of your life.
    So, when you're camming with a regular, you're afraid to mess up because you know you'll be reminded of it every time you cam with them in the future.
    As well as the fact that, whether you like it or not, you develop some kind of dependence on your regular customers, because you expect them to be there again. If you mess up and lose them, that's x amount of money you won't have anymore.

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    i also have a soft spot for Regs, so i tend to go....above and beyond......not outrageously so, but, i appreciate them, they appreciate me, we have a good time, i don't mind. HOWEVER...... i like, or at least try, to keep a balance of NOT giving up too much outside of the tip/contribution amt so they don't come to expect it. Always a delicate line and i often am concerned i'm selling myself short. they don't make me feel that way, i just don't want to get to that point, ya know what i'm saying?
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    Quote Originally Posted by gothpuppy View Post
    Well, you know when you're in public around strangers and you're not feeling too self-conscious about looking bad/doing something embarrassing/etc because you think, "I don't know these people and they don't know me. I'm never seeing them again. Who cares?" but once you get to know someone, those old defenses come up because you know they can hold it against you in the future. Their constant existence is a reminder of your past faults and mistakes. You know they remember it, therefore, you can't let yourself live it down. All those embarrassing moments will forever live on in the people who continue to stay a part of your life.
    So, when you're camming with a regular, you're afraid to mess up because you know you'll be reminded of it every time you cam with them in the future.
    As well as the fact that, whether you like it or not, you develop some kind of dependence on your regular customers, because you expect them to be there again. If you mess up and lose them, that's x amount of money you won't have anymore.
    thank you! this is EXACTLY it!! I just didn't know how to word it right, thank you

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    I´m extremely shy in RL, I don´t mind to be half naked in front of a bunch of strangers, but when it comes to a regular, I get all clumcy LOL I guess is because I´m afraid to mess it all up, maybe say or do something really stupid, or boring. This happens to me also if I don´t know him, but he tips a large amount, I mean, of course I love it, but the fact that I feel he´s waiting something from me and I don´t have a clue what it is makes me really uncomfortable. Glad I´m not the only one!

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    I only have one reg who makes me nervous because he tries to push my buttons. Tips me 150 and asks me to vomit. I don't like that. I've explained to him its uncomfortable when you put me in those situations, and no means no. I've blocked him before, but it looks like its gonna happen again.





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    I mean, they're coming back for a reason
    I do like to switch it up from time to time but if you think you're boring the regs, just ask them something like "you liked the last show, huh? want some more of that?" If they say yes then just do your thing! It may only seem boring because you're probably do it alot. In their mind they're probably thinking "I could watch this all day."

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    Quote Originally Posted by audritwo View Post
    I only have one reg who makes me nervous because he tries to push my buttons. Tips me 150 and asks me to vomit. I don't like that. I've explained to him its uncomfortable when you put me in those situations, and no means no. I've blocked him before, but it looks like its gonna happen again.
    ugh i have a guy like that too, he'll come into my room and tip me like 200 bucks and want me to masturbate in free chat (on sm). i alwaaays tell him no but he's done it like 3 times. maybe he get's off on me saying no idk

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    Quote Originally Posted by audritwo View Post
    I only have one reg who makes me nervous because he tries to push my buttons. Tips me 150 and asks me to vomit. I don't like that. I've explained to him its uncomfortable when you put me in those situations, and no means no. I've blocked him before, but it looks like its gonna happen again.
    I hate when guys push for vomit, when I've already said no. I do hard deepthroat shows but I will never vomit, hard limit even if it wasn't against the site rules. He could have at least asked you if you would soften your limit if he tipped said amount before trying to guilt trip you into it, sheesh. It's all on him there. I've considered blocking a couple of regs who pushed me constantly like this to the point of my limits, but eventually when I put my foot down and just did up to what I was comfortable with, they slowly started fading away. Good riddance! Some regs are not worth having.

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    I hate regulars, though i see why businesses like to create regulars. They take a lot of energy to maintain. But in pussy buisness it only takes so much time, before it gets old. Porn is about the new meat all the time. An abundance of new customers daily i call good camming. Seeing the same few regulars, who will soon expire, scare me, even if they give you 1000 today, tomorrow you might get a big fat zero from them. I'm all for new traffic.

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    Quote Originally Posted by kittyangel View Post
    as the title says, do you ever get nervous camming with a regular? I'm an extremely shy girl in real life, but on cam i totally go into camgirl mode and all my shyness vanishes; but i've noticed with custies that i've been talking/doing shows with over a long period of time, i start to get nervous sometimes! Omg i don't know why. Please tell me i'm not the only one haha
    omg...i do too...

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