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    Hey guys,

    I feel super off-my game these last few weeks and I noticed today when I was talking to customers that my conversations are becoming really general and not sexually-based, these English guys are too curious about details of my life and we're ending up having the kind of conversations you would have on a first date and not at a strip club. I don't want to start having explicit dirty talk with them on the floor, but I'm realizing I'm being way too "friendly" with them and not "sexy." Plus, life is so different here that it's hard for me to have the same conversations I had with guys in LA, half the time someone tells me where they're from and I don't know where the hell it is or they tell me what they do and I don't know what the fuck it is (seriously one guy told me he does "performance for the NHS" wtf??? apparently he sends out e-mails for the NHS which is the national health system but 'performance' has an entirely different meaning in the USA...) so my conversations are already coming off a little forced and now flowing the way I was able to make it sound in LA.

    What are some sexy topics to bring up?

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    Everyone always mentions my boobs. I can't imagine why!
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    usual shitty chit chat, what brings you here tonight, i havent seen you around before, blabla

    if im feeling adventurous and the guy seems like the joking type "can i ask you an inappropriate question? whats your favourite sex position? you look like a doggy kind of guy teehee *bump butt into him*"

    "this song always reminds me of this one time..."
    make up something
    go with it

    "i love talking to you. such a gentleman *touch arm or rub shoulder* im getting a bit chilly though. how about we go for a dance and warm up? "

    etc

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    You like clothes and fashion right Audrey? Me too.

    I talk to the custies about that. Ooh I love that I can where all my sexy lingerie all the time..

    I just love fashion, when I am behind the scenes all these raunchy things happen. Everyone is just naked - even of breaks. And this one model had these huge boobs and we put her in this sheer dress...

    How is the shopping here? You look like you have good taste.. Mmm I always say the prettiest dresses are meant to be taken off..

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    Thanks guys!

    Ugh, I think it's gonna take me some time to get more comfortable being around the English... I just notice that my conversation skills are really lacking since I've been here and I think it's just that I don't feel as comfortable with them as I do with Americans!

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    you could say.. fancy a shag??

    jk !! but austin powers has a lot of crude british humor...

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    you could say.. i love your accent.. it gets me so hot... it makes me want to get all naked for you sexy. ( had a online brit bf for years! lol) plus i went to london a while back so i kind of have fun with the accents and wordplay.

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    someone on here mentioned saying " you remind me of/look so much like this guy ( teacher, boyfriend, fuck buddy) i used to have a crush on/ dated/fucked the shit out of/etc then go into a bit of light juicy detail. i tried it with this one guy, only i told him he looked like an actor ( he actually really did) that i fantasized about, and it worked!

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    I was looking through my old dancer journal and what worked for me at the top of my game was flattery, flattery and more flattery. Make every guy feel like he's Brad Pitt. You love his eyes, his accent, his "cute" name, his "sexy" voice, whatever. If he's fat then he's a "teddy bear." I'd even take lines guys used on me in regular bars and turn it around on guys at the club...only instead of trying to close with his number, close with a dance.I don't know if this would work for everyone or work in the UK but it did for me! I need to remember this when I work tonight too.

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    As a foreigner, you have the easiest segue into a topic that often turns into a goldmine for building rapport and keeping things flirty: travel! Try and get them going about a sexy trip they've taken, an exotic location they've visited, they're favourite place to travel to, a naughty encounter they've had on a business trip, a hot woman they met in some far off place, etc. Ask where the sexiest woman are, where they've had the hottest lap dance, or where outside of the UK they've had sex, etc., etc. This is my go-to topic since I'm a big traveler and find that so many strip club patrons are as well (be it for business or pleasure).

    Other good topics: music (if they're really into a band/genre, getting them talking about live shows, etc. can be great), food (since you're not from around there, ask for a recommendation of their favourite place to eat and then segue into sexy culinary talk), and movies/tv/video games (especially if there's a hot chick in them that you can bring up because it keeps it flirtier than date talk normally is on these topics).

    Regardless of topic, always be redirecting the conversation to them. Don't elaborate too much on their questions (I know you get a lot about what brings you to the UK, etc.), but give them a quick answer and turn it back to them immediately with a related question. Avoid yes/no things since you want to get them talking.

    Above all, work the body language! You can talk about mundane, regular date topics without getting friend zoned if you keep the body language flirty: play with their hair, rub their thigh/arm/shoulders/chest, look into their eyes and then glance down at their lips and then look back into their eyes with a coy smile, mirror their body language, sling a leg over theirs, just always be touching them and look interested in whatever they're saying (eye contact + constant nodding + smiles). Doesn't matter what they actually say or if you understand it -- "Oh wow, you send all the performance emails for the NHS? That's so interesting! Do you ever get any naughty replies?" No worries if you get things wrong -- you're cute and foreign and don't know any better! And you can always ask follow up questions to understand/get them talking.

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    This is something I never did. I'm asexual as fuck, so that didn't help.

    I would, however flirt. That's something that came naturally to me. I became very good at finding something unique about the guy I was talking to and would focus on that. In other words, I'd try to find something I genuinely thought was interesting about each customer and then would center the conversation around that. But then, I was always the hustler who, instead of keeping things light and fluffy, would try to find something (quickly) that hit an emotional chord with each customer, and would sell based on that. Which is a fairly emotionally draining way to hustle. It worked for me very well monetarily, but caring about each customer contributed to burning me out.

    These days when I dance, I try to keep things shorter, less serious, and more flirtatious. But I still do try to find something interesting about each customer. It practically guarantees multiple dances and helps quite a bit when upselling.

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    charlie what do you mean by hitting an emotional cord? like what sort of things would do that for a customer in conversation?

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    Quote Originally Posted by pink_bunny View Post
    charlie what do you mean by hitting an emotional cord? like what sort of things would do that for a customer in conversation?
    I'd find something to talk about that they really cared about, that was a central part of their identity in some way, or sometimes even something that they were having a difficult time with emotionally. In other words, I'd pull something out of them about which they cared. And by demonstrating that I cared about whatever they cared about, that created an instant bond between the two of us. Which would then make it pretty difficult to turn down a dance from me. And it created a 'product' that other girls in the club weren't offering (i.e. emotional connection / intimacy).

    But obviously I'd have to do this in a way that still put them in the mood for a dance. It'd have to be deeper than "racecars" and more superficial than "last week I thought about killing myself," which is a difficult needle to find in the haystack. And it's not like I'd sit there for 30 minutes talking them up. I was naturally skilled at doing this with people before I started dancing, and I used my time stripping to really hone that technique. The customers I found myself naturally drawn to tended to be those who would respond well to this approach. I always abhorred talking to young men and type-A-adult-baby types (e.g. immature, rowdy businessmen). With the latter two types of customers, I'd always use a much shorter and ditzier hustle.

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    if i were there, my flirting regimen would include how "my girlfriends and i" talk about British men are so much better than American men because they dress better, are more well-composed, have better taste, love the accents, oh they have great figures too, etc. (i dont actually think these things are objectively true and no, my gfs and i dont actually talk like this)...
    Use broad generalizations that inflate their egos, borrow stereotypes that boost the British morale... maybe a line or two about their being well-endowed or good in bed...

    There's the stereotype that American women love British men and so they (they women) are seen as an easy lay. My last British regular told me that the All-American woman is typically stereotyped as fun, flirty, maybe a little ditzy... you could somehow play with those concepts... Or act like you're there because you're a Anglophile fetishist, maybe it'll give them some silly ideas.

    Google "american woman british man" and/ or do some research on interests/ temperament of the Brits, it will probably be helpful for navigating conversation... but im sure if you just keep going in to work enough you'll catch on and feel more natural about it pretty quickly.

    You can tailor the intellectual level of the conversations according to the customer... If they seem like the thoughtful, articulate type, ask them what they think about these stereotypes, compare their responses with whats "real" (the Real you and him, there, in the club), then lead the conversation towards closing your sales (i.e. "lets find out about our physical chemistry," etc).
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    Quote Originally Posted by shanna dior View Post
    As a foreigner, you have the easiest segue into a topic that often turns into a goldmine for building rapport and keeping things flirty: travel! Try and get them going about a sexy trip they've taken, an exotic location they've visited, they're favourite place to travel to, a naughty encounter they've had on a business trip, a hot woman they met in some far off place, etc. Ask where the sexiest woman are, where they've had the hottest lap dance, or where outside of the UK they've had sex, etc., etc. This is my go-to topic since I'm a big traveler and find that so many strip club patrons are as well (be it for business or pleasure).

    Other good topics: music (if they're really into a band/genre, getting them talking about live shows, etc. can be great), food (since you're not from around there, ask for a recommendation of their favourite place to eat and then segue into sexy culinary talk), and movies/tv/video games (especially if there's a hot chick in them that you can bring up because it keeps it flirtier than date talk normally is on these topics).

    Regardless of topic, always be redirecting the conversation to them. Don't elaborate too much on their questions (I know you get a lot about what brings you to the UK, etc.), but give them a quick answer and turn it back to them immediately with a related question. Avoid yes/no things since you want to get them talking.

    Above all, work the body language! You can talk about mundane, regular date topics without getting friend zoned if you keep the body language flirty: play with their hair, rub their thigh/arm/shoulders/chest, look into their eyes and then glance down at their lips and then look back into their eyes with a coy smile, mirror their body language, sling a leg over theirs, just always be touching them and look interested in whatever they're saying (eye contact + constant nodding + smiles). Doesn't matter what they actually say or if you understand it -- "Oh wow, you send all the performance emails for the NHS? That's so interesting! Do you ever get any naughty replies?" No worries if you get things wrong -- you're cute and foreign and don't know any better! And you can always ask follow up questions to understand/get them talking.
    Thanks so much for this Shanna it was really helpful! I read through it before my shift and realize I seriously need to dumb myself down at work, I'm just being too normal and too smart, and start re-incorporating body language. I did so much better tonight and really felt a lot more like myself!

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    Quote Originally Posted by audrey_k View Post
    I seriously need to dumb myself down at work!
    I think this is the key,but its hard to do when you are intelligent. I used to say I was saving up for my masters in computing science when they asked me why I did this job and was met with a blank look and then got ignored. Then I learned to giggle and say "I'm an exhibitionist! I love getting naked" *wink wink*
    OK that's an extreme example but you get the point.
    If in doubt channel barbie lol.

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    Yeah it's really hard for me to do emotionally because I identify myself by my intelligence, not my looks/sexiness... but you gotta do it to make money. When they used to ask me why I moved I would say "well I just finished university and I want to live in another country, experience another culture and travel before I go to graduate school" and tonight I just said "I love traveling and British men are so much better in bed that American men!" and giggled and stroked their shoulder/back and it got me a lot more dances, lol!

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    On sober nights and/or when I don't feel like "dumbing myself down", I tend to go more with the slow, sensual, "grown ass woman" persona.
    Anxiety is nearly inevitable for me, but when I feel I'm going to stumble on words then I just start speaking more slowly and quietly and use filler phrases like "you're so handsome..I love your eyes..I can't wait to have you all to myself (VIP shortcut)..I love being with you.." I act very charmed by them and I fill the otherwise awkward silences with caresses and intense looks in the eyes. (Heh!)

    When I'm in party mode and particularly on weekends, I still try not to "dumb myself down" so much as just be A LOT more flirty, smiley, and deliberate and flashy with body language. What seems to work really well is to act like I'm really horny and get the guy to talk about himself a lot and act really turned on, amused, and impressed with all statements that bring out his "manliness" such as his accomplishments at work, his motorcycle, his "bold" pink shirt..stroke that ego! In this persona, I find myself flirting more openly: "You smell so good..gosh, your gf is lucky..does (whatever move or body part) turn u on?...let's drink together, I'm kinda handsy when I drink..you're the sexiest man in here...Oh,an engineer, IT guy? u must be really smart!.."

    I have a degree in Criminal Justice, but I rarely discuss that unless it seems like it'll benefit me. If I do, I create a hot cop, slutty secretary or paralegal, fishnet-wearing/vodka- drinking-judge fantasy for them. I watch their faces carefully on this one and if it seems like that's not their thing, I quickly shift their focus onto my stereotypical female qualities about how I'm a great cook, I'm considering massage school, cosmetology or real estate, or I lead into my "secret"..that I LOVE camming (BC I'm so naughty, horny, love entertaining mysterious men while I'm in the nude..blah blah). Lol..no shame!
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    On sober nights and/or when I don't feel like "dumbing myself down", I tend to go more with the slow, sensual, "grown ass woman" persona.
    Anxiety is nearly inevitable for me, but when I feel I'm going to stumble on words then I just start speaking more slowly and quietly and use filler phrases like "you're so handsome..I love your eyes..I can't wait to have you all to myself (VIP shortcut)..I love being with you.." I act very charmed by them and I fill the otherwise awkward silences with caresses and intense looks in the eyes. (Heh!)

    When I'm in party mode and particularly on weekends, I still try not to "dumb myself down" so much as just be A LOT more flirty, smiley, and deliberate and flashy with body language. What seems to work really well is to act like I'm really horny and get the guy to talk about himself a lot and act really turned on, amused, and impressed with all statements that bring out his "manliness" such as his accomplishments at work, his motorcycle, his "bold" pink shirt..stroke that ego! In this persona, I find myself flirting more openly: "You smell so good..gosh, your gf is lucky..does (whatever move or body part) turn u on?...let's drink together, I'm kinda handsy when I drink..you're the sexiest man in here...Oh,an engineer, IT guy? u must be really smart!.."

    I have a degree in Criminal Justice, but I rarely discuss that unless it seems like it'll benefit me. If I do, I create a hot cop, slutty secretary or paralegal, fishnet-wearing/vodka- drinking-judge fantasy for them. I watch their faces carefully on this one and if it seems like that's not their thing, I quickly shift their focus onto my stereotypical female qualities about how I'm a great cook, I'm considering massage school, cosmetology or real estate, or I lead into my "secret"..that I LOVE camming (BC I'm so naughty, horny, love entertaining mysterious men while I'm in the nude..blah blah). Lol..no shame!
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    ^It's funny, because that's exactly what I think of when I think "dumbing down." Like, I don't think actually acting stupid is a good hustle, but to me, dumbing down is increasing the flirtation tenfold (so many compliments that you'd have to be dumb to think are all true ), not bringing up the smarter parts of my life (an advanced degree, intelligent hobbies, etc.), and just playing into the bubbly, feminine female stereotype, mixed in with lots of nodding, wide eyes, smiles, and impressed "oh wow!" comments.

    Of course, if you come across a nerdy guy, sometimes "smartening yourself up" will help you hit the jackpot!

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    Sometimes I find myself having a really good rapport-building conversation over the least sexy topics (sports, foreign affairs, science). I just let it flow. After a few songs I'll fake catch myself, do a double take to the customer, and say like, "Wait, why are we talking about xyz?! That's not very strippery/sexy! Why don't we go to the back and you can get me naked instead?" or finish it with, "Hey, let's continue this conversation with me naked in your lap!"

    I bet you could do something similar. Find a way to exploit their curiosity of you as an exotic American rather than avoiding it.

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    If we're not talking about my most obvious features then I'll bring up physical fitness if it's appropriate. I got some lunkhead in the CR by purring "I love a fit man who takes care of his body. I bet you can go ALL NIGHT LONG." Works very well with military.
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