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    Angry Long time waitress trying to mess up my money

    I've always bounced from club to club, but my home base club is this dumpy hole in the wall that oddly enough I'm very fond of and happy to work at. I've been with this club on/off (always on good terms) for almost 2 years. NONE of the bartenders, waitresses or managers have changed, only the DJs and the dancers except for a core group of girls like myself that disappear then come back. Everyone has always been cool with me, I believe for a few reasons;

    1. I'm not a druggie
    2. I'm not an extras girl
    3. I don't start drama with anyone, and tend to keep to myself
    4. I'm not at work to steal customers from people, I just wanna make my own money from my customers and go home.

    My issue with this latest return is that a long time waitress (she's been at the club since the dawn of time) has been trying to not only gossip to staff about me with untruthful bullshit, but high spending customers!!! She's never done this to me before ever. It's really starting to make me mad. I already spoke to management about her and they said she will be gone soon enough but wth! Customers that happened to like me are now texting me saying they don't wanna come see me because they don't wanna hear her trash talking me while on stage, in the restroom, etc. These customers aren't assholes, they tip everyone well and they spend a lot of money both at the bar and on drinks. Why scare off good clients like that!?!? I really don't understand why now, and she's literally doing this every night I work now. I already tried to pull her aside (politely) and discuss things calmly and quietly like adults..but she just blows off the conversation and says it's all good but goes right back to her bullshit.

    I'm really sorry for the long post. I'm just really fed up with her and I don't know what to do. I don't wanna leave the club for a while, I don't wanna keep going to management or her about it...I just dunno what to do. I keep resisting from smacking the stupid off of her old, bitter, hag face...but I'd have to be hitting her for a long time.

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    Default Re: Long time waitress trying to mess up my money

    I feel you. Staff members have periodically fucked with my money over the years and the rage is like no other.

    The only strategy that has ever worked for me aside from leaving the club or avoidance until their grudge disappears is so hard to do, but it works every time. I suck it up and strategically flatter them, say glowing things about them to customers, and tip them when the club culture permits. Chances are she's petty and fickle enough that buttering her up will not just alleviate your problem but even create a mutually beneficial relationship.

    It's so hard but I just tap into situational sociopath mode. I think everyone has this ability in them. Good luck.

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    ^ Yup. Kill them with kindness is the only method that has worked for me in these situations. She'll eventually move on to the next. It sounds like she is very jealous of you, so you must be doing something right! Don't leave, keep on keeping on and try to ignore her, which I know first hand is very hard to do.
    Curiosity skilled the cat.

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    I know the wait staff and other dancers have fucked up my money for years...It gets frustrating but in the end I realize the customers who react and avoid me bc of rumors or gossip arent customers I want to have or deal with anyway. ANd when uve been dancing for years like me the comments are even nastier at times..Its hard to ignore..thats why imho its best to take breaks from all the negativity...It isnt healthy. But its with the negativity that others who are shitty people live to see u crumble..Success and survivialism is the best revenge

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    if these are great customers, then they should think no less of you, and a lot less of the girl spreading catty immature rumors! if they don't want to hear it, then they should be telling her that or avoiding her, not you

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    It's such a turn off to see grown men involve themselves in such juvenile behaviour. Drama kings. Not worth your time, they can and will all be replaced.
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    I would just switch clubs until the bitch quits or gets fired. Make sure management knows why you are leaving to speed up the process.

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    There are so many spiteful, conniving females in this industry that I'm sure many of us have shit talked about us that we don't even know about. I remember when I danced with 2 of my best friends there was a club I would sometimes work at with them, but only once or twice a week. Never had problems with any of the girls there at all. I stayed home one night but my 2 friends went into work and came home telling me that a dancer was going around telling customers she doesn't like me because I'm a bitch. The confusing/funny/stupid thing was, I didn't even know who this girl was. My friends described her to me, I still didn't know who she was. They pointed her out to me next time we all worked together and saw her and I STILL didn't know who she was. I had never even had a conversation with this girl or known of her existence yet when I wasn't at work, she was going around telling customers my name and talking shit. Petty.

    But here's the thing - a respectable customer should know that when another dancer, waitress, (etc) is wasting HER breath talking about another dancer, they should take whatever the shit-talker says with a grain of salt. There's a lot of jealousy and spitefulness in this industry and customers who are grown men should know that if a girl knows at all how to do her job she's not going to waste time giving her negative comments about other girls which really only makes her look bad, not you. I never even confronted the girl who was talking shit about me. I just continued to smile and make money. She was a very unstable alcoholic extras girl who would sit in the dressing room and literally complain to the house mom that her rates for sex and BJ's are so low that she can never make money. So I didn't lose any sleep over her talking shit about me.

    If you kill her with kindness you're winning in the end. Customers will see you being nice to her so when the girl opens her mouth to say bad things, they'll remember you as a very nice girl who doesn't talk trash about the other girls, and they'll probably view her as a not-so-nice gossip girl.
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    I LOVE Nina! Where ya been, girl?
    Anyways, I find this all over, in vanilla jobs, & IRL too


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    The last few shifts I've worked with her I've been trying to kill her with kindness. She in turn intentionally "spilled" a full glass of pepsi on me. All over my shoes, everything...while I was with a whale.

    I since have still been kind. However I also move all of my regulars and customers to the bar for us to drink. No tips for you bitch! It's the least I can do.

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    Quote Originally Posted by whirlerz View Post
    I LOVE Nina! Where ya been, girl?
    Anyways, I find this all over, in vanilla jobs, & IRL too
    Aww you too! I've been a little busy, but I'm back.
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    I have completely had that happen I hate that!!!!

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    Waitress is at it still. Trying to scam MY regulars into tipping her a lot for absolutely nothing. Mind you; if she were serving drinks or whatnot, I have not problem with her getting tipped as I want a team effort from the club in which we all make money. BUT; when you cut champagne rooms so short that makes the guy livid, don't bring drinks and then try to beg/demand a tip (or flat out lie for one when I'm in the restroom.....with my regular I brought to the club). What an asshole. I told management again and all they said was they can't fire her until they replace her. I had to tell my 2 whale custys last night that I only wanna see them on the one night in the wk she doesn't work. They agreed only based on the fact that they wouldn't have to deal with her. I also told mgmt this too. She's fucking with my money or attempting to, and I'm about ready to sucker punch this old hag in the throat.

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    Oooh that sucks, hope they fire her soon, wtf.


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    ok, management is insane it they are going to piss off big spenders. in this economy they can't find anybody to replace a bartender? ok....
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    The management is frustrating. They are always respectful and nice to me, and they know changes need to be made in order to make the club more profitable...they are sissies. None of the managers want to be the one to take the first step towards those changes. It's ridiculous. This waitress (while she has worked for the club a long time) is toxic. She's unattractive, she scares off or pisses off GOOD customers, runs girls out that she doesn't like, starts drama, etc. by management not doing a damn thing about it, they are basically giving her full rights to do whatever she wants with no consequences. It's frustrating. I've told management that I don't want to take MY customers elsewhere, but if she keeps doing what she is doing then I will. I'm just hoping my words for fall on dead ears, since I do like this club.

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    I have the exact same thing going on. There's a waitress who looks down her nose at the high earning dancers and tries to sabotage them. More than once, she's tried to interrupt table dances (yes, I'm actually topless and dancing for a customer when she tries to butt in) or tries to interrupt me while I'm trying to sell a dance. Yesterday, I was 10 seconds away from closing a sale when she ordered me to get up, because another customer was sitting in the chair I was in. I laughed it off and told the customer that she probably thinks he's hot... just like I do. Dance sold. Management was told and it will be dealt with.

    But, to the customer, spin it into a complement. Tell them that she's envious of you because you get spend time with him... while she's running around serving drinks.

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