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    Hi girls! I feel bad about lying to my father about my work,He dont know i do webcam and there are any way i can tell him,before I made other work sexual and he know,he suffered and i dont want this happend again,i would like he be proud of me,my mother know i do webcam and thanks god she dont tell nothing and she assumes i think is only because what i did before is much worse for a parent to assume...my dream would earn enough to buy a house to my father and my mother and to help them,they are very working people and also my father is sick but i dont earn enough not.
    Does your parents know? I dont care about brothers or other family for me the more importants person in my life are my parents

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    Yes, mine know.

    They will eventually find out, no matter what you do. It's a hazard of the business.

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    My parents do not know. I would rather them not know because I know the reaction won't be pleasant. My brother accidentally found me once while he was watching porn and he was cool with it, but I know my dad would lose it. My mom also has become pretty close-minded although she was a stripper when she was younger. A year or two ago I mentioned I was going to do phone sex and she told me how disgusting she thought I was. Luckily as far as I know my brother hasn't told either of them. But I always have this feeling of guilt about not making my brother upset or mad because he has the knowledge to damage my relationship with my parents. Personally I wouldn't say anything if you know it will upset your dad but that's just me.

    Edited to add: for the past 2.5 years I was a trainer for a call centre company from home so I luckily I can still say I am doing that as work as a coverup to my parents I am prepared for them to eventually know but for now this works lol

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    My parents don't know...they don't even ask much about the "fake" job that I told them I do. It's none of their business what I do anyway. I'm in my 30's and I support myself...that's all that matters. I keep to myself mostly...I like things that way.

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    Why do they need to know? There's a big difference between honesty and disclosure. You're not doing anything illegal. My parents are no longer alive but I told my family on my own terms.
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    My family knows, they knew from the beginning, they supportive, it was impossible to hide my work, we are very close to each other, often visiting and such. Wish u all the best in dealing with this situation. Ur father dont need to know if u not comfy with telling him about ur work, have a story ready for him if he asks what u work there. That's why i decided to do cam, from all sex work jobs camming is the safest and u can mostly keep it as secret. Depending on ur living situation u can hide ur work. You living with ur parents in the same house? How old r u? You study also or have another job as well? Tell us more so we can better understand and help. Good luck!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Tsepmet1 View Post
    Yes, mine know.

    They will eventually find out, no matter what you do. It's a hazard of the business.
    you totally wrong, I did something much worse and never found much less webcam

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    Quote Originally Posted by Bambola View Post
    you totally wrong, I did something much worse and never found much less webcam
    It's not that they're guaranteed to find out, it's that you can never totally eliminate the risk. All it takes is one family friend recognizing you on cam.

    Anyway, I haven't told my parents yet, but I plan to tell my mom. I actually think about just calling her up and letting it all out all the time.






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    Quote Originally Posted by AliceFun View Post
    My family knows, they knew from the beginning, they supportive, it was impossible to hide my work, we are very close to each other, often visiting and such. Wish u all the best in dealing with this situation. Ur father dont need to know if u not comfy with telling him about ur work, have a story ready for him if he asks what u work there. That's why i decided to do cam, from all sex work jobs camming is the safest and u can mostly keep it as secret. Depending on ur living situation u can hide ur work. You living with ur parents in the same house? How old r u? You study also or have another job as well? Tell us more so we can better understand and help. Good luck!
    Im very close also,very very,i dont live with him,i dont have other job now and not study,i know i can hide i dont have to tell and i dont tell for sure not ,but is something that made me sad when i speak with him,he is very hardworker he work 12 hours every day and i feel like im always choose the easy way (i did porn before) and know this way,i dont want to say webcam is easy because is not,but if he know my work i know he will think that,and also dont be proud of me.Im 26 years old now,and start camming months ago..

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    I don't think it's fair to tell someone they're wrong for sharing her view and experience. I think you mean well but saying 'I did something much worse' made it sounds like camming is something bad or to be ashamed of!

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    you totally wrong, I did something much worse and never found much less webcam
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    Quote Originally Posted by Marina Starr View Post
    I don't think it's fair to tell someone they're wrong for sharing her view and experience. I think you mean well but saying 'I did something much worse' made it sounds like camming is something bad or to be ashamed of!
    I mean much worse for the parents to assume...

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    It boils down to , you do not have to tell your parents everything, plus you are an adult, are you always going to be telling your parents what you are doing for their approval it actually gets exhausting waiting for them to give their input.
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    Marina, she is not an english speaking girl, it's a matter of poor vocabulary and wording, she means for her parents porn - webcamming is something to be ashamed of, it's a cultural thing, not sure where u from Bambola but i bet in ur society that's something very bad to do.
    Many of us keep cam work secret, either from family or society or both, parents most times wanna be proud of their children, everyone has different morals, i dont know how many parents are or can be proud of their kids doing cam work, she just wants to please her parents or not upset them, it's understandable.
    I know my family accepts my work but i am sure they cant be 'proud' of me, i just know i do what i can here so even they cant be proud at least they ok with it.
    Some people are more conservative than others, u dont know how every family is.

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    Quote Originally Posted by AliceFun View Post
    Marina, she is not an english speaking girl, it's a matter of poor vocabulary and wording, she means for her parents porn - webcamming is something to be ashamed of, it's a cultural thing, not sure where u from Bambola but i bet in ur society that's something very bad to do.
    Many of us keep cam work secret, either from family or society or both, parents most times wanna be proud of their children, everyone has different morals, i dont know how many parents are or can be proud of their kids doing cam work, she just wants to please her parents or not upset them, it's understandable.
    I know my family accepts my work but i am sure they cant be 'proud' of me, i just know i do what i can here so even they cant be proud at least they ok with it.
    Some people are more conservative than others, u dont know how every family is.
    If alice thanks for understanding, I'm not english speaking, maybe I sounded very radical.Anyway yes you are right..but is not a work forever so i dont have to worry more, at least my mother knows and she understand,most people usually is very conservative. Anyway thanks for the answers!!!

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    During a really nasty fight the other day my sister shouted "AT LEAST I'M NOT SHOWING MY TITTIES TO STRANGERS ON THE INTERNET! YEAH, EVERYBODY KNOWS ABOUT IT!" I'm not sure how "everyone" knows about it since I've never told any of my Bible-thumping family members about it. So maybe I got some Nancy Drew bitches in the family who've been digging for info, and decided to pass the info along like it's a game of Telephone. And if that is the case, they can kiss my stretch-marked ass...because I don't want to associate with self-righteous people who think they're better than me just cuz they know how to post a Bible scripture on FB. LOL!
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    My mom thinks Im a foot fetish model... she was like but you dont have model cute feet and I was like ummmm yeah i have pudgy feet. men are idiots and like weird things. I think she would be ok if she found out but the foot thing weirded her out enough!

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    Im really struggling with this. I'm living with a fam member and I need the money. they offered to get me a vanilla job but I like stripping but I dont want them to find out! I mean IDC if they did since im giving less fucks these days ^_~ but the not knowing the consequences if any is eating me up..How would I even go to a strip club since I dont know the city?!
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    I am lucky, my family loves me no matter what. My Dad told his girlfriend either she was pleasant to me or he was leaving her. She hates it when he spends any money on me too. LMAO

    My Mom, loves me & asked if she could do it too in a joking way. She has high security clearance & explained how her daughter was a porn star to the FBI then showed them my pics.. They said, "yes, we know her & she is a good porn star, too." LOL

    My sister, head of the church choir & keys to the church told me I don't do enough marketing.

    Life is short. Laugh & love.

    Explain to your Dad that you do work hard to make more money so you can help him too.

    I am close to Angelina Castro, her whole family knows too & thinks nothing of it. Her Grandmother is in her 90s & told us we weren't shit compared to her back in the day. She was the original puta. LOL

    Except yourself, Love yourself. We have nothing to be ashamed of. The whole world has sex, they had sex for you to be here. Many products & companies use sex to sell products with no shame at all.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Bambola View Post
    you totally wrong, I did something much worse and never found much less webcam
    Not worse, maybe harder?? Sex work is not a bad thing! Unless you don't enjoy it. But happens with all the jobs in the world.

    Regarding the topic, if he is old fashioned, and you think he would be hurt, just don't tell him.
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    I told my family. Then I just stopped talking to them because of the blatant disrespect. It's fine though, I'm pretty happy they gave me a reason to get the hell away from them and their craziness and opinions... ugghh. MUCH happier without them being free and happy and living my life how I like it guilt free. Pretty much everyone knows..I suck at secrets lol

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    I don't cam but I've been a dancer for seven years. I told my dad a few years in because I went in to his office and his coworkers were chatting about a strip club in town (luckily not the one I worked in). I was worried they'd venture over to mine and recognize me. So I called him up the next day after coming up with a script and told him I had been dancing because I didn't want him to face office gossip unprepared in the worst case.

    I made sure to tell him that my motivations were to build a nest egg and work toward a better future. I reassured him that my club was clean and nobody was making me do anything I didn't feel comfortable with. In your case, I suggest emphasizing the solitary nature of camming -- this means that nobody is touching you and there is no possibility of drugs being passed around the workplace.

    It was difficult for him to swallow. Luckily he doesn't react with anger, but he was very quiet. He asked if I could stop, and I said I could, but wasn't going to. He said okay and hung up. I didn't hear from him for a couple months, but when he got over the shock, we were able to talk more openly. When he found out just how lucrative the sex industry is and how much I'd saved, he was actually empathetic and maybe even envious. At this point, I'm confident he has few doubts about my safety and lack of addictions. It just takes a little time for loved ones to realize you aren't changing for the worse.

    Good luck whatever your decision is!

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