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    Duh First shot at Escorting and hung up on a caller! I'm ready but still have concerns..

    How do you guys verify a potential client? I understand their are some websites where I can run his phone number but if its a google voice number, then what? I read on here that some of you ask for references (as in past providers), I'm assuming? Doesn't this just annoy the guy and he goes elsewhere since it takes time to send you over that information? Or do you expect him to give you his name so that you can search on the databases to check his references... If you can't find anything on him, do you nix the appointment?

    After making an appointment and arrive, do I simply take a picture of his ID and text it to someone for my safety?

    Do you guys say someone is waiting for you outside (whether or not its true) for extra security. What other measures do you take?

    Do you accept the money the moment you are face to face or wait a bit to ensure he is not a cop.

    Are there questions you can ask to see if he is a cop over the phone? (And no, undercover cops don't have to say they are a cop if you ask. At least not in my state)

    I notice girls don't always list their rates on backpage. Do you prefer to discuss rates over the phone or in person? Or is it better to list your rates on your page?

    What the hell do I do when I arrive? Chat a little, feel him out, or just get into it...?

    I posted on Cityvibe and Backpage just to see if I can even go through with this before spending more money on Eros. I know I am ready. I've been contemplating escorting for the past year as the sugar baby life is going nowhere fast.

    Anyway, thanks in advance.

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    Default Re: First shot at Escorting and hung up on a caller! I'm ready but still have concern

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    Quote Originally Posted by Exxotica View Post
    How do you guys verify a potential client? I understand their are some websites where I can run his phone number but if its a google voice number, then what? I read on here that some of you ask for references (as in past providers), I'm assuming? Doesn't this just annoy the guy and he goes elsewhere since it takes time to send you over that information? Or do you expect him to give you his name so that you can search on the databases to check his references... If you can't find anything on him, do you nix the appointment?
    Verifyhim.com + references. If he can't give you references, ask for workplace info and discreetly contact to make sure it's him. I lurve LinkedIn, personally. Yes, you might lose a bit of business, but you don't want the kind of guy that won't give you time or information to screen. It's standard procedure to get name, phone, e-mail, and references. I don't necessarily nix the appointment if I don't find anything on him, more or less just suss out how I feel about him. Sometimes it's a go, other times it won't happen.

    Quote Originally Posted by Exxotica View Post

    After making an appointment and arrive, do I simply take a picture of his ID and text it to someone for my safety?
    I mean, you can, but I think it's overkill. It's less obtrusive to show up, ask to 'freshen up', and then text your safe call in the restroom.

    Quote Originally Posted by Exxotica View Post

    Do you guys say someone is waiting for you outside (whether or not its true) for extra security. What other measures do you take?
    I don't. I just keep records and let my safe call know.

    Quote Originally Posted by Exxotica View Post

    Do you accept the money the moment you are face to face or wait a bit to ensure he is not a cop.
    I just wait for it to become apparent? Sometimes he'll hand it to me, others it'll be in a white envelope in the bathroom. Just don't ever talk about money.

    Quote Originally Posted by Exxotica View Post

    Are there questions you can ask to see if he is a cop over the phone? (And no, undercover cops don't have to say they are a cop if you ask. At least not in my state)
    Not really. Cops just seem deceitful and authoritative. They'll focus hard on trying to get you to agree to sex for money, when actual clients are focused on your companionship.

    Quote Originally Posted by Exxotica View Post

    I notice girls don't always list their rates on backpage. Do you prefer to discuss rates over the phone or in person? Or is it better to list your rates on your page?
    I list my rates on my website.

    Quote Originally Posted by Exxotica View Post

    What the hell do I do when I arrive? Chat a little, feel him out, or just get into it...?
    Go with the flow, silly. I prefer to chat and seduce him a bit first.

    Quote Originally Posted by Exxotica View Post

    I posted on Cityvibe and Backpage just to see if I can even go through with this before spending more money on Eros. I know I am ready. I've been contemplating escorting for the past year as the sugar baby life is going nowhere fast.

    Anyway, thanks in advance.
    I have had zero return on Cityvibe and Backpage, but we're different people advertising in different areas at different rates. I strongly prefer Eros. Whatever works for you though. Best of luck and I hope you find my responses helpful.

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    Default Re: First shot at Escorting and hung up on a caller! I'm ready but still have concern

    You didn't say what area you're in, but different areas have more active boards. Some actively participate, some just post that they are available on their 'free ad' boards. No matter what yo think of the review sites many, many more guys lurk and read than post on them: TER Redbook (West Coast) ECCIE (Primarily TX but oter places also) Grainbeltnews, there's a Canadian one, etc. Just post your availability dates and direct to your website.
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    Default Re: First shot at Escorting and hung up on a caller! I'm ready but still have concern

    You can run phone numbers thru FB as well.If someone (I don't know why they would) has their phone number on their FB acct is will link to them. Now that being said, I have had it link to the account owner (i.e.. their mom lol ) but since that person listed family members and did not have acct set to pvt I was able to find real holder of phone number.

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    Default Re: First shot at Escorting and hung up on a caller! I'm ready but still have concern

    Thanks guys! Especially abarrett! Very helpful info to get me going. I still have some research to do but I'm hoping to start in the next week or two.

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    Default Re: First shot at Escorting and hung up on a caller! I'm ready but still have concern

    Hey there! I highly recommend Eros. The clientele quality is higher and they don't mind paying more. Once you sign up with Eros you won't remember Backpage or Cityvibe...

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    Quote Originally Posted by bosslady View Post
    Hey there! I highly recommend Eros. The clientele quality is higher and they don't mind paying more. Once you sign up with Eros you won't remember Backpage or Cityvibe...
    This has always been true for me too - Eros brings in a great level of clientele and for me it's worth the money because even with adding category upgrades and stuff, just one appointment that it brings in will cover all of it and then some. Leaving behind plenty more appointments with good, well-paying clients. I never had any luck at all with CityVibe, and I think even they themselves know that things are sucking for them, because every few months I'll get a call from their sales team saying they're going to put my ad back online a month free of charge, and if I'd like to upgrade to higher amounts of pics etc to just let them know, blah blah blah. I had ZERO success with Backpage, but I've seen girls on here that say that they've found good quality clients on there if you take the time to word your ads well and sift through the losers. I wish I could say the same but I had a Backpage ad for a month when I first started escorting - I think I paid for a category that stays higher up the list or something too? - and literally all I got every night was things around 2am like "hey bb, could you do $150 for half hour? u can cum 2 my house, u do anal?". My whole experience with Backpage was a total facepalm.

    Do you have a website? That's some awesome permanent advertising - mine costs $10 a month and I put the link everywhere I post ads etc. That way clients can check it out in their own time, see all your pics and just generally take the time to look over everything you couldn't fit in a little ad.


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    Quote Originally Posted by bosslady View Post
    Hey there! I highly recommend Eros. The clientele quality is higher and they don't mind paying more. Once you sign up with Eros you won't remember Backpage or Cityvibe...
    This has always been true for me too - Eros brings in a great level of clientele and for me it's worth the money because even with adding category upgrades and stuff, just one appointment that it brings in will cover all of it and then some. Leaving behind plenty more appointments with good, well-paying clients. I never had any luck at all with CityVibe, and I think even they themselves know that things are sucking for them, because every few months I'll get a call from their sales team saying they're going to put my ad back online a month free of charge, and if I'd like to upgrade to higher amounts of pics etc to just let them know, blah blah blah. I had ZERO success with Backpage, but I've seen girls on here that say that they've found good quality clients on there if you take the time to word your ads well and sift through the losers. I wish I could say the same but I had a Backpage ad for a month when I first started escorting - I think I paid for a category that stays higher up the list or something too? - and literally all I got every night was things around 2am like "hey bb, could you do $150 for half hour? u can cum 2 my house, u do anal?". My whole experience with Backpage was a total facepalm.

    Do you have a website? That's some awesome permanent advertising - mine costs $10 a month and I put the link everywhere I post ads etc. That way clients can check it out in their own time, see all your pics and just generally take the time to look over everything you couldn't fit in a little ad.


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    Default Re: First shot at Escorting and hung up on a caller! I'm ready but still have concern

    Does Eros minimize the risks of getting arrested because its so involved in referrals and such? Can a client still be a cop despite having referrals? Are there a certain number of referrals that puts a client in a "safe zone?"

    Quote Originally Posted by bosslady View Post
    Hey there! I highly recommend Eros. The clientele quality is higher and they don't mind paying more. Once you sign up with Eros you won't remember Backpage or Cityvibe...

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    Default Re: First shot at Escorting and hung up on a caller! I'm ready but still have concern

    From my experience, the clientele on Eros are usually high-level executives for big companies (CFOs, VPs, Partners, etc) or European athletes....so I am able to somewhat verify them "online" through their company profile. Of course I still get their full name, I Google them, and their number. I also get references too!
    Whether you decide to see them or not.....it comes down to some good ol' common sense and discernment!

    Here in *Atlanta* , my Eros clientele are usually:
    -from out of state or the country (Traveling for business)
    -Book at very high-end hotels ( Ritz, St. Regis, The Mandarin)
    -Have *public company* profiles because of their high position (so they value discretion too!)
    -The locals have homes or condos in very affluent neighborhoods, and they also have "public executive profiles"
    -They will also volunteer to be verified and will offer references ( to show they have nothing to hide)
    -My highest paying clients have booked 1st through *EMAIL*

    I started out on Backpage and Craigslist (yikes! lol), and I would receive A LOT of cop calls when I posted on those sites, because they are looking for girls who are possibly being trafficked, pimped, or just outright too desperate to turn down a call. I've seen plenty of "documentaries" where the sting operations have been based on sites like CL and Backpage.

    Advertising on Eros is just being smart about the game. ( Having professional photos , website). Eros will allow you to build your brand as a companion, which will separate you from the hundred of bogus, scary ads on BP!

    Go for it! and you might as well go for the gusto!
    Good luck girlie!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Exxotica View Post
    Does Eros minimize the risks of getting arrested because its so involved in referrals and such? Can a client still be a cop despite having referrals? Are there a certain number of referrals that puts a client in a "safe zone?"
    In my opinion Eros does lower the risk somewhat seeing as the men that use it are more respectable and understand that a girl will require references, and they'll have them from other established girls. A guy that has zero references is shady to me - plain and simple. Either the guy is genuinely brand new (in which case I don't want to put up with him not knowing how anything works) or he has no references because he's a) a cop or b) treated previous girls so badly that none will vouch for him.

    It's not so much about how many references a client has, as how many RECENT references he has. A guy with 20 references, all from 2009-2011, is a guy with no references as far as I'm concerned. To me, that looks like an ex-client who's been busted and now the cops have his profile. Check out the girls who are his references too, instead of just blindly emailing them. Last week I had a guy give me three references, two of which replied that he was great. I looked up the girls - none of them have had any online activity whatsoever in ages. For years they'd had no reviews, no active ads, website offline, no posts on any forums.... but they're replying to my email within a couple of hours? Again, shady.

    Definitely agree with what bosslady said about obvious cops on Backpage. Respectable clients understand how the game works. Both cops and bad clients will say things like "what do I get for my money?" , "do you do greek?" , "is it ok if I have some weed waiting?" . That's also known as incriminating evidence.

    PLEASE don't bypass screening - the worst thing a girl can do is lower her screening because she needs the money or has a "good feeling" about him. Hundreds of dollars isn't worth much when you need to spend it to make bail.


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    Quote Originally Posted by Exxotica View Post
    Does Eros minimize the risks of getting arrested because its so involved in referrals and such? Can a client still be a cop despite having referrals? Are there a certain number of referrals that puts a client in a "safe zone?"
    In my opinion Eros does lower the risk somewhat seeing as the men that use it are more respectable and understand that a girl will require references, and they'll have them from other established girls. A guy that has zero references is shady to me - plain and simple. Either the guy is genuinely brand new (in which case I don't want to put up with him not knowing how anything works) or he has no references because he's a) a cop or b) treated previous girls so badly that none will vouch for him.

    It's not so much about how many references a client has, as how many RECENT references he has. A guy with 20 references, all from 2009-2011, is a guy with no references as far as I'm concerned. To me, that looks like an ex-client who's been busted and now the cops have his profile. Check out the girls who are his references too, instead of just blindly emailing them. Last week I had a guy give me three references, two of which replied that he was great. I looked up the girls - none of them have had any online activity whatsoever in ages. For years they'd had no reviews, no active ads, website offline, no posts on any forums.... but they're replying to my email within a couple of hours? Again, shady.

    Definitely agree with what bosslady said about obvious cops on Backpage. Respectable clients understand how the game works. Both cops and bad clients will say things like "what do I get for my money?" , "do you do greek?" , "is it ok if I have some weed waiting?" . That's also known as incriminating evidence.

    PLEASE don't bypass screening - the worst thing a girl can do is lower her screening because she needs the money or has a "good feeling" about him. Hundreds of dollars isn't worth much when you need to spend it to make bail.


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