
Originally Posted by
Naiad
You can be happy without being complacent, but you will never be happy if you focus on what other people are doing except as a source of inspiration - not to be a copy or exactly like them, but to be in awe at the possibilities.
If I had said that I think a "moderately successful model" under the conditions listed makes about $20 an hour, it may stroke your ego, but would you feel complacent? The first week I started, I was making $18 an hour, and I was ecstatic about it at the time, but the key is that I was not complacent. I could have continued to make $18 in ignorant bliss, thinking that I was totally rolling in it and keeping that as my hourly goal, but I would have been worse off for it. Not only in terms of money and job comfort, but in the boredom that comes with such static goals and expectations.
I find it hard to believe that after 8 years, you are just now realizing that there are girls who make more money than you. If I recall correctly, you're in Asia (?), and so maybe you hadn't spent a whole lot of time on sites like SM or MFC (?), but if you want to be at the top of your game not just amongst your immediate peers, but in the industry at large, you need to be resourceful. I can't say what information you had access to 3, 5, or 8 years ago, but you've made it to stripperweb, so except in cases where your residence is a barrier to signing up with or accessing a site, I can only assume that you have access to a plethora of resources.
Even if we didn't post numbers, all you need to do is spend a little bit of time on SM, watch models on the first few rows, and see what kind of money they're pulling in. You know about SM at this point, so if you haven't done that kind of "market research" it's due to a lack of resourcefulness. This all ties into "drive" and "thinking critically and adapting to various situations in an active, positive, and forward thinking manner." I know it may sound harsh but this is exactly the information that you need to be successful...not just the vague notion of "trying harder."
We all have our own obstacles to overcome, though. I don't know where I'd be without stripperweb; it's been a great resource for me. I've been a fly on the wall here for a while now and studied this forum like the camming bible it is before I even started. I read through the raise your rates threads, I've read through Fridays posts and sooo many others that have contributed towards me having high expectations for myself and from my customers. But ultimately, my success comes down to me and how I apply myself throughout this process. You know, internal locus of control.
There will always be people who are prettier than us, smarter than us, and making more money than us. Short answer? Deal with it. You are not alone. Focus on your own happiness and success, however you choose to define it.
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