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    I've posted occasionally on SW about how I've been continuously thinking about telling my mom about my work. It's been a real drag on my thoughts lately and today I decided, spur of the moment, to get it over with. My mom and I are pretty close, and now that I've been doing this for a year I've begun to feel the weight of this little wall it's built between us.

    I told her that something was weighing on me - one of those things she'd probably rather not know about. I quickly added, "and no, I'm not pregnant." I asked her how she would feel if I did "something between being a phone sex operator and a porn actress." She asked me to clarify, so I told her it was online webcam sex work.

    She just said "no." It felt like a ton of bricks falling on me.

    I told her I had already been doing it for about a year, and she totally switched gears. She told me that all women use "this sort of thing" to their advantage, and if it worked for me, it worked for her. She joked: "So I guess you're not going to be a senator, huh?" We laughed.

    We talked for a little bit more about it, and I assured her that I was doing my best to stay safe and take care of myself. She told me the usual: call your dad more, pay off those credit cards. And then it was done.

    I expected to feel a little more relief afterward, but I just feel... normal. But it's good. I'm glad I got it off my chest.







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    I am so happy for you that you made that step, and that youre mother reacted like she did! Must be so much easier in the future to not have that "secret part" standing between you and her.
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    Im happy for you,know you dont have to lie and your mother understand and reacted very well This is great,your fathers are divorced? I should to call my father more often also....

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    Yay! I was the same way. I felt so bad keeping it from my mom too. I'm glad she reacted well.

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    So happy for you. I wish I had a mom that cool.
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    well?? I don't have that problem.. I have no one to be close to except my kids.. and they already know .. hahaha.. I don't care about anyone else's opinion.

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    Glad it went well for you!

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    I'm so happy that you had a good experience. Congrats on having the courage to tell her.




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    Default Re: Came out to my mom today.

    Quote Originally Posted by Sabihah View Post
    I've posted occasionally on SW about how I've been continuously thinking about telling my mom about my work. It's been a real drag on my thoughts lately and today I decided, spur of the moment, to get it over with. My mom and I are pretty close, and now that I've been doing this for a year I've begun to feel the weight of this little wall it's built between us.

    I told her that something was weighing on me - one of those things she'd probably rather not know about. I quickly added, "and no, I'm not pregnant." I asked her how she would feel if I did "something between being a phone sex operator and a porn actress." She asked me to clarify, so I told her it was online webcam sex work.

    She just said "no." It felt like a ton of bricks falling on me.

    I told her I had already been doing it for about a year, and she totally switched gears. She told me that all women use "this sort of thing" to their advantage, and if it worked for me, it worked for her. She joked: "So I guess you're not going to be a senator, huh?" We laughed.

    We talked for a little bit more about it, and I assured her that I was doing my best to stay safe and take care of myself. She told me the usual: call your dad more, pay off those credit cards. And then it was done.

    I expected to feel a little more relief afterward, but I just feel... normal. But it's good. I'm glad I got it off my chest.
    Aww, that's pretty much exactly how it went when I came out to my mother (not that I stayed in the closet about it for long at all, few days maybe?). I know she'd prefer I did something else, but she'd never say so. I'm glad she was good to you about it.

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    Default Re: Came out to my mom today.

    guess at some point a lot of us have to face that kind of situations.. glad for you

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    Im happy this worked out so well for you. I live with my mom and I had to tell her. It was more of a relief to my husband who had been helping protect my secret while she was trying to knock on my door, or asking about what I was doing.
    We got in a situation where my husband was going to not have a job and she was so stressed out her asthma was getting really intense. she lives with me because shes disabled by the severity of her asthma. I had to tell her because her stress level was so high, she didn't know i had more income possibilities and it helped ease that fear, it was so hard to do.
    she starting breathing better right after though.
    and now i am not always hiding it at my own house! but she wont say a word about it ....

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    I'm so happy it went well for you. I came out to my family last year. Some were okay with it, others not so much. It feels good not having to hide.
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    I'm glad it worked out well for you! I've been putting off telling my mom for so long. My dad knows and is very supportive. He's always been very open minded about "the industry" and he's a swinger and I've found that people in the lifestyle tend to be more open to this kind of work. My mom currently thinks I just do phone sex though. She doesn't like the idea of my nakedness being on the internet at all (I've tested the waters with her saying there was an opportunity to get paid to play video games and strip on cam). She was like "don't do it". I plan on telling her soon though because we're very close and I don't want to keep hiding it from her. Reading this gave me hope for my own mom, so thanks for posting!

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    I say we should still run for office.

    (No, but really, CONGRATS babe! What a refreshing feeling it must be.)
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    That's awesome. When I told my mom she was fine with it, she just said don't shoot xxx movies. LOL

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    This story made me super happy, I'm so happy your mom respects your choices. I have been having an issue not telling my parents because I've made it a point to be truthful to them after I got "clean". So, I've been essentially more than honest with them about everything, including issues in my past we never talked about. But therein lays the issue: I told them about things, and there was a point where my mom and dad essentially told me that they were sorry but if given the choice they would rather not have known all the details (mostly because they felt guilt for some reason and didn't want that feeling).

    I've been siding on the "I wouldn't be bothered if my parents find out but I know they'd probably rather not know" angle. Thoughts???
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    On a side note, I think it's interesting that when you initially brought it up she was against it, but after you told her you were doing it for a while she basically shrugged. Maybe that's a good "tip" for other people out there wanting to come out to their parents about this sort of thing. It probably is a better idea to tell them after it's been a "thing" for a while, not when you're just starting out. More of a letting-them-know deal instead of a this-new-endeavor deal.
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    My parents would never agree with it. They are religious and don't play that shit lol. But I live in another town so we see each other a few times a year so the question never comes up. I wish I could talk to them or at least my sister about my work days but that day will never come ;( you ladies are blessed to have such cool parents <3

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    I know my mom would rather not know, but I also know that there's always the very real possibility that she will find out from someone else. I'd just rather she find out from me first. I think she'd be sad that I didn't confide in her if someone else told her first.

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    Good for you! (:

    I'm happy that it turned out so well and your mom didn't react in a bad way. It must have felt great to finally tell her after a year. I wish I had your courage.

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    Back in August/September of 2012 my husband got laid off and I was unemployed. I needed work, couldn't find it, so I started researching. Enter StripperWeb. At first I wanted to be a stripper, but several ladies on here convinced me to be a camgirl instead. So who did I decide to talk to about it? My kickass grandmother.

    Her response: "I was a stripper at 18/19 years old and loved it. Go make that money girl! Camming online is gonna be safer than stripping anyway!" And at that point I still had NO plans to tell my mother. In fact, back when I was in my Freshman year of college I was doing a report and I asked her if she thought prostitution should be legal and she said "Fuck no, girls need to learn how to keep their legs closed!" And that was THAT.

    Fastforward to the day before yesterday. I told my grandmother that I was going to Vegas to take up stripping with a friend. Her first question was "How much money we talking?" And after giving her some details about staying with some safe friends and all, she said "Go for it, have fun! Keep me updated! Oh, but I probably wouldn't tell your mother. EVER. She's not very... open-minded, regardless of the great relationship you two have had recently."

    So there ya go. There's my "coming out" story. lol
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