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    Default Having a webcam sub.

    Hi there ladies!

    I recently met someone on MFC who wants me to dominate him for a weekly amount of tokens.
    I've had experience with doing this in real life, but after a few sessions I've gotten out of ideas what to do with him on cam..

    With a real life sub you can do so much, but what can you do with an online sub?

    I also feel like this person really wants me to be extremely cruel while I'm used to a more respectful dom-sub relationship..

    Any experience would be lovely
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    Default Re: Having a webcam sub.

    This can be a tricky one...especially since the way you might cultivate a D/s relationship online can be a bit stifled by the fact you cannot be face to face with them.
    First thing, make sure they understand what submission means and also what it means to them. Generally with online submission the interactions become very cerebral and thus require a different kind of play and often caters to completely different fetishes.

    Have your first session be the negotiation. Interview him, grill him, and make him list very clearly what it is he is wanting to experience.
    Also, as with lifestyle D/s arrangements, make him earn the right to be your submissive. Have a time that he is under your consideration...don't just give him the right immediately. Make him work for it.

    Online acts of submission generally show up in forms of service but if he is wanting cruelty or for you to be strict he might be into humiliation or objectification. This doesn't mean you aren't being respectful. The only way you can be truly disrespectful is by ignoring his limits or when he states his safe word which still applies in online play. With humiliation I pretty much strip them down mentally and take away what they find is 'comforting' to them. Once I had a guy who kept referring to himself as "just a dog" actually eat off a plate on the floor with no hands and sleep on a pillow at the foot of his own bed. I humbled the fuck out of him.

    Cruel doesn't have to mean actually coming from a place of hate. It's humiliation with the intention of promoting growth. I think of it as a very zen concept.

    I won't give everything away but hopefully that is a start.

    The important thing is that you do have a session that is negotiation, his statement of intent, and making him work to actually be your sub.
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