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    Sigh. I hate this thread, because I know all you girls are right.

    I care too much about breaking the stereotype, and impressing people with how big my brain is, and blah blah blah. It's just so hard to let that go, even knowing that I will make more money. :-(

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    Quote Originally Posted by Starling View Post
    I always play dumb. Men coming to the strip club are not looking for a smart woman. They're coming in to watch naked women dance and they probably think we're floozies to begin with the minute they step through the doors. Also the dumber I sound the less time wasting questions they ask. I wouldn't tell them about my real life or my real job because then they ask why I'm even there and all these other personal questions which distracts from them spending money.
    This might be a good tip for me!! lol I've had customers appreciate a "smart stripper," but they would just draaaaagggggg out the conversation! Tonight, I'll play dumb.

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    Always! Now that I cam and do phone sex most of the time, it works as well.
    What works better for me.......is to be quiet.
    I even tried this with my know it all brother, and he's a lot nicer to me when I just shut up, cock my head to one side and listen.
    Stupid, because I consider myself to be smart, with a lot to say, but......in my head I just repeat... "Women, like children, should be seen, and not heard."
    It keeps me from being pissed that no man cares about what I have to say.

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    ^Awww! *HUGS* I don't think all men are like that...the good guys want to hear what you have to say, but in the club/cam world they either don't spend $ or want to wife you up. But yeah seen and not heard is a good strategy as well...and I feel less burned out if I don't talk as much.

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    I do act ditzy sometimes - I can be a little air-headed sometimes so it's not hard. I'm not a complete idiot though.. lol.. When customers treat me with condescension I stop giving a shit and pull out some $10 words and raise my focus so they have a much harder time looking down on me. I'm sure I've missed out on some cash this way - but sometimes I can't help it.

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    It's my go to weekend/turn and burn hustle (I dislike young guys and seem to scare them so, the "dumb blonde" act helps me work them), but I pick and choose my targets. I usually get caught out though because I'm a smart ass . Often ppl are like, "wait a minute-you're smart" and "you have a brain?!"-to which I reply "Oh no, the blonde was supposed to disguise that...it can be our secret! *giggle*" .
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    Yes dumb ditzy and happy... That's always been my hustle. That's not to say you can't have a semi normal/ meaningful conversation with a customer AFTER you've got the cash. I've always gone with an agreeable, chatty, upbeat positive persona. Ive found in the past using comments like "oh my god, I love this song soooo much, lets go for a dance NOW!" has really worked for me. If a customer asks how my night has been, I would never tell them "its been shit", I'm always like "its been soo busy, I've had the best night". Guys go to a strip club for entertainment, and to feel good. I find with the ditzy/ cheeky/ giggling persona you can even be a bit more pushy and and playful, because you can demand things (like more money)in a non-threatening way to the customer.
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    I can't dumb myself down; I'm not that bright to begin with!

    I enjoy having conversations with substance. I've had many consecutive hour rooms of just talking (no dancing).

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    It really depends on the situation. If you're just trying to get more tips from some random or insecure guy, it's probably best to play the dumb routine. But if I did that all the time, I would have really missed out on some great longtime customers. Several of them became friends or more outside of work, due to the great conversations. A few years ago, I met a wonderful man who I later found out is a CEO of a very large company. It was our conversations that always drew him to me, and me to him. We eventually saw each other for dinner, started dating, and then a relationship that was both an acknowledged SD situation and more. He would tell me about his life and business, and when he learned out I was about to enter grad school for finance, we started talking more and more, and he was (is) genuinely interested in me as a person.

    He takes great care of me, makes sure I don't have to worry about grad school tuition or anything else, and always told me that I would never need to strip again if I didn't want to. He did double take but did not renege after I told him how much I made, lol. He does have a wife, and he trusts my advice for his home life as well. When he goes on overseas business trips, I will often go along as a "personal assistant" or "international liaison" (the shopping is better for me in Europe he will always tell me.) So all of this would never have happened if I had just been playing the dumb brunette glamor girl.

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    Quote Originally Posted by sugarmouse0707 View Post
    Fuck yes!But I don't find it easy.I often joke that I read the Daily Mail (trashy paper) before going into work, to get on the customer wavelength.
    Worst. Newspaper. Ever! American conservatives LOVE the Daily Fail for some reason.

    Bit OT, I know.


    For a while, I was somewhat of a niche dancer; I tried to be the intellectual dancer because I was too bad at lying. It didn't attract many customers, but when it did, money came in LARGE quantities. I stopped doing this after it didn't turned out to be as good as I hoped. I sometimes dance occasionally, and I have to pretend I'm nearly brain dead.





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    I don't try to impress customers with my smarts, I just mirror whatever level they seem to be on. If they are condescending or obviously so insecure that they need a woman who is or acts dumber than them, that gets annoying way too fast for me and typically I won't even continue to talk to someone like that (fortunate to work in a club where I can afford to walk away). I just try to be the kind of person I would want to have a conversation with, so I don't correct people on things that don't matter, I joke around, and I'm not afraid to be wrong. I think showing off intelligence is silly. I'm never really impressed or endeared by anyone who seems smarter than me, and assume most others are the same way.

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    I tend to just play the under-informed, but totally interested yes man. "Really? I don't know all that much about that [but I know enough to know what questions to ask about what, and to understand what you're talking about even if you do a horrible job of explaining it]. Please, tell me more." "Right, that makes sense. I totally agree with you. You are so right. How can people who disagree with you be so stupid?"

    On the flip side, there are definitely cases where you telling them something they didn't know can throw them off guard in a happily surprised way. Usually works best with very very specific old white dudes who are used to (and tired of) yes men, or with almost any geek who walks into the club. With geeks, the more in depth/obscure your knowledge about their particular media/fandom, the better.

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    I think women should be "Obscene and not heard."
    I saw this on twitter today and it made me lol,and think of this thread.

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    I tried acting dumber with some customers at the beginning, but couldn't stand doing it for long. I'm not particularly keen on perpetuating that dancer stereotype and personally found that the "innocent, nerdy posh girl" filled a niche at the clubs I worked at. It meant I had luck attracting the older, wealthy and cultured types as they enjoyed having conversations they wouldn't have pictured themselves having with a stripper of all people before. Like Candycups, I'm also a bit of a yes-man which seems to do the trick of flattering them without putting yourself down.

    While acting dumb works for a lot of girls, it doesn't help if everyone is acting that part. In the end, just do whatever feels right for you. It's all just hustling after all.

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    ***EDIT*** Initially had posted a quote from dakdakdak but SW seems to have a bug ... anyhow the quote was:

    "I don't try to impress customers with my smarts, I just mirror whatever level they seem to be on. If they are condescending or obviously so insecure that they need a woman who is or acts dumber than them, that gets annoying way too fast for me and typically I won't even continue to talk to someone like that (fortunate to work in a club where I can afford to walk away). I just try to be the kind of person I would want to have a conversation with, so I don't correct people on things that don't matter, I joke around, and I'm not afraid to be wrong. I think showing off intelligence is silly. I'm never really impressed or endeared by anyone who seems smarter than me, and assume most others are the same way."

    And THAT very likely could be what some girls are occasionally misinterpreting as guys having a preference for less intelligent women. Not to say that always is the case-- I have a personal friend who always confides in me and is like "I PREFER dating bimbos. They're fun and keep life more simple..." BUT I think that in strip clubs there are dudes who very much would appreciate intelligent conversation, just not one with a girl who is TRYING to impress with their brain power, trying to one up them, or coming across as egocentric or pretentious... so after being put off by THAT turn to the "dumber" gals whether an act or not.

    Agreed that this is a TOTAL turnoff. I myself very much value intelligence as a trait but I, too, would much rather sit with a bubbly, silly, but air-headed person rather than hear someone spout off a bunch of self-important BS that is obviously just being spoken to impress.

    Me... I personally can't dumb myself down, but I definitely don't aim to impress with brain food, I try to be myself. Also as many have said, just going at the same wavelength as the customers at least to feel them out is generally sufficient. Now if I come across a guy who obviously does not respect or care about intelligence or even is put off by it I definitely just keep conversation as light as possible and just flirt, flirt, flirt.

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    I think some people misunderstood what I meant by "playing dumb." I don't go out of my way to act dumber than I am...I mostly just keep my mouth shut, nod and smile, ooh and aah, laugh at their "jokes" and ask them questions....Most of all I try to resist the urge to talk about my interests or my major which is a turn off to them 99% of the time. Yes I have lost sales over bringing it up and I'm not kidding. I had a guy who was a research scientist in biotechnology the other day and it was so hard to not talk about it..but I resisted the urge and he got an hour champagne room.

    Even the customers that truly do love smart girls and are turned on by smart girls-well they also usually try to take things otc and date me rather than give me their money. Look at porn. Even the "smart" naughty teacher isn't that smart. All I know is that my income has gone up since I quit trying to 'prove something' to customers like some #notallstrippers movement.

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    Depends on the customer for businessmen or older dayshift guys or guys currently in school, I don't, I tell them I'm in school and try to talk business and careers with them, it works a lot of the time I get them to spend on me because they are so impressed to have found a "smart" stripper lol. For the blue collar guys I try not to talk much about that because I don't want to seem like I'm trying to gloat or whatever. For guys from other countries like India or the middle east I act like a horny idiot a bit. I just say I find Indian (or whatever place they are from) guys so sexy and they get me so horny, I feel like that's more of what they want. So far this has been working pretty well.

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    Usually not, it takes a lot of energy.
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    Close contact, for an hour, for $40? And I guess I'll have to make conversation with them too?

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