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    Hey all - sorry if this has been posted before!

    So I'm semi-new to camming and testing all of the waters, etc, trying to see what works and doesn't. I'm getting better at fielding questions as I continuously get them more often, but the one I never seem to be able to tackle is the whole "I'll drive all the way to your state to meet you." Ugh.

    Obviously I'm never going to risk meeting one of these guys in real life. That's pretty much begging to get murdered or whatever. Also, I'm trying not to be a total bitch. A lot of these guys are paying members who are generally nice online (generally), and I realize this is fantasy, but get real dudes, I ain't gonna give you my address and phone number!

    How does one gently say "I cannot meet you. Ever. The end."? Or should I just say "fuck off" and end it?

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    My advice? Be a bitch.

    They know they're on a pay to play site. They aren't stupid.

    This is just a fantasy to them, they want to push you to see how far they can take it. If you give them an inch, they'll take a mile. Don't give them any inches. (:

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    Sometimes I'm totally straightforward, and say no way. Others, I say, oh, I'd love to but I'm married. Or I don't know you. In a private session I have learned to feel out if it's part of the fantasy, I'll say, if you were here what would we do, etc. Suggest things. Then if they push and push for reality let them down easy.

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    I just laugh like it's ridiculous that they'd even ask and say "I'm not going to meet anybody from this site, that'd be crazy!" or if I'm lazy I just say "uh, no." hahaha either way, I'm sure they know you're going to say no, so do it however you want!

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    Ditto on the fantasy things. Some guys just want to pretend you are their girlfriend. But some are obviously confused about being able to date you or buy IRL time with you.

    It's easier if you say you are taken. Unfortunately in our society being seen as a man's "property" is seen as a no, whereas simply saying no is seen as a "challenge" to many guys.

    Well you can be married and some still see it as a challenge

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    I do the same as when guys I don't want to fuck/date hit on me IRL... I blame it on my imaginary boyfriend. "I don't think my boyfriend would like that very much! But he's cool with me playing online "

    With guys that I'm doing more of a GFE thing with or give me the impression that it would hurt their spending if I ruined the single girl next door fantasy I suck it up and tell them "Sorry, I don't mix online and offline, I'm sure you understand!" I've done the whole not-quite-saying-no, "Let's spend some more time together first!" thing before and trust me, it is soooo not worth it.

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    Don't worry about being a bitch, just tell them no if you're not comfortable with what they're saying. They're boundary pushers or fantasists. I'm sure most of them wouldn't know what to do if they saw you in person and would chicken out of a meeting with a hot camgirl.

    I like the idea of spinning the conversation into a private or exclusive show. "Tell me more about what you'd do if we met ..." But I'd have to test the waters first to make sure there was absolutely no chance of this guy turning up in my town/city.
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    I go the same route I went when I was stripping. I never encourage this type of guys. I would never try to squeeze money out of someone by leading them on. ( not knocking those who hustle this way- they make way more $$$ then I do and always have.) Most of these guys are harmless and like RedAlice said would chicken out. But I always think of that one chick that drove cross country in a diaper ( so she wouldn't have to stop) to do some nefarious shit. ( I forget, but I think she killed someone) Plus I think about the guys on that TV show that drive long distances to meet some underage kid that they met online and is really a cop. The cops look in the guys car and find duct tape and ropes ect. No thank you. I personally cringe when guys come into my room with their gang bang fantasies. To me gang bang is just the way they get around doing a gang RAPE, by calling it something else. The ladies rarely look like they are liking it- they look like they are being raped.

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    Thank you ladies! I knew you all would have a good assortment of brilliant ideas! I really love the fact that SW proves that cam girls are super smart bitches who don't fuck around lol. I'm gonna try all of this and see what works. Of course I think the taking it to private is the best if it doesn't backfire, because it has the potential for the most $

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    I get a lot of guys asking to meet up, begging me to run a "meet me" contest, etc. Part of it (I think, anyway) is that I really work the "girl next door" and "super friendly nerd girl" angles, and while it works well for me (tips to talk about Star Trek? HELLS YES!) it also kind of encourages the guys to think of me as a friend. I always just say "sorry, I don't meet up with people in real life" and if they protest, the first time I say "I'm sure you're a nice, normal guy, but for every 1 decent guy online there are 99 complete nutters" and the third time they ask I say "this is not up for discussion. The answer is no. If you can't accept that, I will be forced to ban you." Fourth ask and I follow through. I'm overly lenient with people though, so you might not want to give them a fourth strike. That's what works for me though (and I have only had to ban 2 guys for this...most of them give up after the second ask). One of my biggest tippers is a guy I had to give my second answer to, and he never asks anymore (and sometimes tells the guys in my room who ask that it's a no-go).

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    I wouldn't be a bitch about it, I would play it to my advantage. I have guys wanting to meet all the time because they all have the fantasy of being with a transsexual. When they ask to meet up, I'll say 'I'm open to it but I am not 100% sure. I don't know anything about you. Let's get to know each other better and see if we're compatible...'.
    Then they'll take me private. The 'let's get to know each other better' can take days, weeks while I'm getting paid
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    I tell them that I 'get off' on the virtual aspect and that is what makes me really horny. That it is the sexiness not meeting in real life that gets my motor running.

    Since there is the risk of STD is real life.....why would I ever want to meet up in real life?

    Some guys get it but every once in a while I will get a guy who jokes that it feels better is real life.....to which I'll reply, "I am sorry, I didn't realize you only cared about you own sexual needs. Why would I ever want to meet up with someone who doesn't care about mine?" Since men have a tendency to 'make a joke' to test the waters to see how far they can manipulate a current situation, they then will now generally backtrack very quickly since they need for you to see them as 'a nice guy' in order to leave and opening for them to try and manipulate you into bed with them in the future.

    This answer keeps the illusion that I am a sex-hungry slut while giving me an excuse to never meet up.

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    I just tell them "Oh, I don't meet up in person." Usually they'll accept it after posting a sad face or saying "Aw, that's too bad." LMAO.

    But if they keep nagging you about it, asking you "Why not?," and not taking no for an answer, ban them. You are working right now, and it's rude for some guy to be nagging you about a service you don't even provide in the first place. And there's other sites on the internet for that sort of thing, but it seems like some guys would rather stick to their 'I know it's a long shot, but I'm gonna try to get a cam girl to meet me in person' routine.
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    I had one regular, who, when he saw me wearing the sweatshirt that had my boxing gym's name on it that I go to in Brooklyn, actually went there looking for me!


    The owner called me right away, and knew it was me he was looking for, because I'm the only girl who trains there. (Plus the dipshit actually had the nerve to tell me about it).
    He's a puny little twerp, and those bad boys of Brooklyn wanted to beat the crap out of him!
    Now, he always comes into my chat room whenever I'm on, says "hello sexy", then leaves.
    I used to tell guys the state I live in, (because my accent is so thick I just figured they already knew, as soon as I opened my mouth). It turns out there are way too many guys who live here also, so I don't say anything anymore, and change my accent every chance I get.

    the ones who persist with meeting once they go to prvt. I just make them tell me where they would take me, and what we would do.
    I just kill time, so I at least get more money.
    I never tell them I would meet them, because I had 2 other stalkers when I first started camming.

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    I've tried humoring them in the past by being vague and keeping the fantasy of "maybe meeting someday" alive and all it did was bring me huge pains in the ass. Guys that wouldn't leave me alone about it.. they'd stop buying shows because they were waiting for me to give in. So I changed up my game.
    Now I simply say "I'm not an escort." If they persist and say they want to "be in a relationship with me" then I tell them I have a man and I'm not on the site to meet up with random strangers. This is my job and I just like to play online. I make it clear as day as to not have any confusion and keep them off my ass in the future. Those guys are the WORST!

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    I tell them I'm strictly virtual, if they are looking for meet ups let me suggest ChristianMingle. Follow it up with my bitch look and ignore.

    I have one guy who tips me all the time but is convinced he can find love on camsites. I tell him all the time no sweety, we girls love your money.





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    This used to drive me up the fucking wall. I literally stopped camming for 6 months because 99% of my members asked. I just had a guy last week tip 200 tokens and start pming me asking if I date from the site. Then proceeded to ask me what position I liked. I had to tell him that's exactly why no model would meet him. When would you join a dating site pay to chat with a girl you would want to date and then ask her what position she likes. I got into this long drawn out speech since he's not looking for a real person but the fantasy then he's online for that. If he wanted to meet someone for real and date them he'd have to join a dating site. Ohh and looks, body type, income, age, relationship status will all be apart of why a woman will not date you. That shut his ass up. Funny he's still on my friend's list but doesn't say anything to me now. I've tried the 'hey how's it going" but no response. I think I'll be dropping him soon because those types tend to get bitter. Still why would I ever meet someone that spent all of $10 on me. I mean really?

    Another guy tried the same. I get alot of guys doing the "will you meet to fuck in person routine". Jsut the other day one of my AW camguys that's on my skype asked "Do you escort". it's like umm do you see escorting on my AW profile or any escorting reviews?? I said umm again my profile is clear it says " Direct Chat , Direct Cam , Direct IM, booked skype. That's it.

    Still now I'm tired of these types and I'm just going to waste their time and money. I've never lead any guy on but it would always irritate me when asked. I would usually say "are you hot, under 35, not married, no kids, hung and wealthy? OOH NO? Awww too bad, I guess we can both pretend you are.Umm yeah I have fantasies too bitch! hahah

    On AW I get it less but it seems so dumb that men ask cam models when there are many escorts with multiple reviews on their profiles. it's like hello all of those men can't be wrong, she sounds like a blast. Get out of my face and book her!

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    I tell them we don't want to ruin our thing we have going online. I love being with them online I tell them.
    I also tell them I could be a woman with many issues, why would they want that baggage, lol lets keep our online relationship.
    Even though we do not have an online relationship other than my pay really, we still do chat and have a 'like' for one another... they love to know I give attention while they pay, and we have that relationship, period.

    If they fail to think other, big deal. It's their fault. I do not lie to them.

    PS with respect to customers, I see more profiles on token sites with a raffle to an actual real meet and FUCK! I would never put her name out here, but wow!
    So with these 'date' raffles, I see more and more of. And why would a customer who is attracted to us not try, right? An easy answer to let him down easy always seems to work for me.
    Good luck.

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    I've told guys that I would only CONSIDER meeting if they spent x amount of dollars online with me.
    I usually make it something outrageous like $1000+
    I've had a few guys try to get to that # and they give up lol. It sets an expectation that I don't just meet anyone, you have to be special. This methods gotten me a few $100 tips before.

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    I've told guys that I would only CONSIDER meeting if they spent x amount of dollars online with me.
    I usually make it something outrageous like $1000+
    I've had a few guys try to get to that # and they give up lol. It sets an expectation that I don't just meet anyone, you have to be special. This methods gotten me a few $100 tips before.
    Ouch, I would be afraid that some idiot would tip out the amount asked for a meeting! You have guts, gotta give it to you. Maybe I should do a one hit of 10,000 tokens for a possible IRL meeting with police all around me, while I meet you out of state or some stuff like that. Still.... You never know. Wow, jk... I am far too scared to even put a price on a real meeting.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Camigirl View Post
    Ouch, I would be afraid that some idiot would tip out the amount asked for a meeting! You have guts, gotta give it to you. Maybe I should do a one hit of 10,000 tokens for a possible IRL meeting with police all around me, while I meet you out of state or some stuff like that. Still.... You never know. Wow, jk... I am far too scared to even put a price on a real meeting.
    Lol hence why I tell him Id consider it, I never promise anything lol

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    Thank you ladies! I knew you all would have a good assortment of brilliant ideas! I really love the fact that SW proves that cam girls are super smart bitches who don't fuck around lol. I'm gonna try all of this and see what works. Of course I think the taking it to private is the best if it doesn't backfire, because it has the potential for the most $
    If they ask me in email, free chat or anywhere but paid I immediately shoot them down. Fuck that! The only time I treat it like a fantasy is in private, when they're already paying for a fantasy. If they get too creeper about it I nip that in the bud immediately. Sometimes they just want to believe you really could like them or want them, you know? If they start to ask about booking a ticket though, or anything too serious other than sexy talk I snap into reality and mention my husband.

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    It is annoying. I usually tell them no. If they insist I block, it is rude to keep asking the same question over & over again. If they can't take no over the web can you imagine what they are like in real life? Ick.

    Unless they are my fantasy of Ryan Gosling aka rich, talented & good looking, isn't happening. Now, if one day he comes into private & cams2cam with me it is ON!!!! haha You never know, a girl can dream. Most guys just laugh & give up at that point. If they email me on a cam site about it, I tell them my fantasy of them buying me a new Mercedes & a 3 bedroom condo on the beach, how they can buy me diamond & platinum jewelry & such. Funny, they never message me back after that. Guess the gold digger part of me runs them off.

    LOL Reminds me, I was on a date with a hot muscle male model from Paris, France this past weekend in South Beach. Asked why he doesn't ever hit the clubs down there. He told me because of all the 'Gold Diggers', I laughed & said "What the fuck are you doing with me, I'm a gold digger." LOL He thinks, I'm joking, but I'm not. He is hot, sweet & makes good money.

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    Here are a couple other threads that deal with how to handle guys that want to meet:

    https://www.stripperweb.com/forum/sh...sts-to-Meet-Up
    https://www.stripperweb.com/forum/sh...rson-Would-you
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    I love this idea! I don't get a buttload of requests to meet but usually its from guys who just popped into my chat room for the first time and have never spent any money on me. I don't upfront say 'NO!!" but I usually say something along the lines of that I need to get to know them better and they just met me haha. Then they try to give me their skype id and email address so they can talk to me for free. Oh and then they also send me a few penis pictures. UGHHHHHH.

    I will attempt more of a hustle next time this happens.

    Quote Originally Posted by TattooedBBW View Post
    I've told guys that I would only CONSIDER meeting if they spent x amount of dollars online with me.
    I usually make it something outrageous like $1000+
    I've had a few guys try to get to that # and they give up lol. It sets an expectation that I don't just meet anyone, you have to be special. This methods gotten me a few $100 tips before.

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