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    Dizzy Retired and got fat, save me ladies!!!!!

    Some of you may remember me but I'm sure a lot of you are pretty new by now.
    So heeeeeey! Aria's stopping by for a little sisterly love.

    I retired from camming...ummmm....about 2 years ago now I think. It was better for me and my boyfriend and my wallet if I went mainstream *eyeroll*. Don't get me wrong I looooooooooove my day job but the other day at my day job I had a guy offer me $500 for 3 minutes of like, no work (he just wanted me to watch him while he wanked) and I was like in my head thinking "Shiiiiiiiiiiit I wanna be all over this SO BAD!!!!" But I turned it down. *facepalm*. Not worth getting caught and getting fired. (Oh I'm a manager in a really nice hotel btw).

    Anyway, the point is, I've gotten SOOOOOOOO fat!. I'm the heaviest I've ever been. And I'm not talking Hollywood fat I mean I've packed on the pounds over the years since retirement. I keep trying to get to the root of WHY I cant seem to get my weight under control but the moment I try to think about it too hard my mind is like "Oh look a squirrel!!!".

    Today I realized that I started really gaining wait once I left the adult industry! I quit and then just got fatter and fatter and fatter. There is like, no outside force keeping me in check. My man loves me no matter what (dont get me wring thats GREAT!) but I don't feel the motivation to always look disgustingly fiercely savagely queen out of your darkest wet dream fuckable every day. I used to wear 6" stripper heels to the beach for chrissake!

    My mind keeps wandering to escorting and how much weight I would have to loose in order to escort and what a great motivation that would be, etc etc. It's like, if I'm not making money off my looks and my body I just cant get a handle on it.

    I dont really know the point of this post, I just think that I needed to get this honesty out there and need some support from people that might understand me when I say, "I think the only way I can stop myself from getting fatter is if I focus on a career where I fuck people for money" or "How did I gain all this weight so fast? Oh you know, I stopped fucking myself for cash on the internet".

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    Remember me? Good to see you back! I got fat, got fat shamed, got crackhead skinny with no ass, now I'm a slamming 110 llbs with tits and ass. I had to change my entire lifestyle to get what I wanted. I got on the Paleo diet and did mad cardio for about 8-10 months. Like insane cardio. 60-90 mins 4-5x a week. After I veered in the other direction and realized I was looking like I had a saggy granny pancake ass I cut it down to 30-45 minutes and started focusing on weight lifting. I'm now squatting 140 on the Smith.

    I know you can do it! You didn't get fat overnight and you won't get fit overnight. You're going to have to bust your ass and make the changes to get what you want.

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    Default Re: Retired and got fat, save me ladies!!!!!

    Im in the process of losing weight. Join me

    I have a thread - Paelo and weight loss support thread. And Tempest always tells it like it is!

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    Tempest!!! Yaaaaay!! How are you? I know that I can do it and get myself back on track, well know it in my head. I've worked my butt off before and gotten great results, but I feel like every day my heart just sinks a little bit more and I want to just pull my blankets over my head and give up on life. Not just about my weight but I little bit of everything and my weight is just a symptom in the end. I know I need to get my shit together but I just don't seem to be able to get started. I feel like I've been trying so hard for so long to reach my life goals and I keep getting punched in the tit by the universe. Yes I'm having a bit of a PMS pitty party today, I'm very much aware. I know this won't last forever, it just really sucks right now.

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    So how "fat" are we talking? As vets of this industry "fat" is VERY regional and very subjective. Are we talking a candidate for "My 600 Pound Life" fat (I don't think anyone can get that heavy in such a short amount of time) or just a few extra llbs of chub luv that you may have put on during domestic bliss?

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=F-q3cUmLO8E

    If you can do that then I'll say you may have a problem.
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    Default Re: Retired and got fat, save me ladies!!!!!

    Oh my god I saw the open screen of that video and was too afraid to hit play. Hahaha!
    No if I lose like 50-60lbs I'd be back to like, the skinniest I've ever been and my overall goal. Though I may be overstating since I don't even own a scale but I think that's about right, who knows it may just be 40lbs and weight training needed. If you remember I'm a pretty thick solid babe naturally so it can be confusing sometimes lol, so clothed I'm still look pretty hot, cause I dress really well, but I need to get back to cardio and weights. I'm not beig hard on myself I'm definitely in the "fat" caragory these days but not like 600lb or anything.
    But I'm definitely in the "let's start by losing 40lbs and lifting some serious weights then reasses the situation" caragory. This is of course gained over 3ish years I guess.

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    Just remember nothing happens overnight! I would start with intense cardio and modifying your diet. Are you a vegan/vegetarian/any special moral or religious consideration?
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    No I have no dietary restrictions. I actually used to work in a weight loss clinic, volunteered in youth military as well as followed an IIFYM diet so it's not that I don't know HOW to lose the weight, I've just been all
    messed up and unmotivated. Lol. I even already have some free weights Im pretty sure are unpacked from the move *eyeroll*.
    But I actually think that I may have started to turn a corner. An amazing work opportunity presented itself and my job has been one of my major stress factors (I absolutely love it but have been feeling stunted here). It gave me hope, I felt happier and have made healthier food choices all day. It's just a small thing but it's a start.
    I'm hoping that if I can keep myself from feeling defeated I will feel motivated to keep treating myself better and to stop eating my feelings etc.

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    Default Re: Retired and got fat, save me ladies!!!!!

    Girl, lets support each other, and Tempest can be our drill instructor. I had my gallbladder removed 2 months after having a baby. I hung up the heels because I was tired of being the fatty that doesn't get fired because she has been at the club so long. I gained 20 pounds BEFORE my retirement and have to lose it all to get back to my comfortable weight/least effort needed in club to make more money status. My BF and I are trying to buy a new house (upgrading to a better neighborhood) and don't want to give up our current lifestyle.

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    Ok ladies I'm in a rush cause I'm starting at my new club tonight but here's something to think about: Hold yourselves accountable but don't beat yourself up either. What's done is done. No miracle pill or diet is going to produce worthwhile results. Getter done!!!
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    Welcome back A., & ladies, I need to tone!


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    I would just say very little carbs, no sugar, and cut your portion sizes in half (or less if you are eating binge-like meals). I really need to take my own advice right now though lol.

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    Default Re: Retired and got fat, save me ladies!!!!!

    This happens to the best of us once we hang up our stripper shoes. It's because we obviously don't have to be as conscience about our body as we had to be before. Try cutting out junk food asap, cut down on breads, rice & pastas. Also start adding some cardio in at least 3-4 days per week. Oh and drink tons of water to help you feel full.

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    Attacking the psychological side: use a journal to write down your feelings when you think you want to eat. This is an exercise that improves your mindfulness. You want to bring those difficult emotions into consciousness. Don't try to analyze or shame yourself for any feeling. Feelings are not wrong, you are not wrong. Feelings are not weak or shameful, you are not weak or shameful. Just get to know your subconscious mind. Ask yourself what started or inspired the emotions. Write that down. You can begin to make choices to change what you are doing, remove the trigger from your life, or consciously decide to live with the irritant. You will not feel victimized or powerless about that trigger anymore. You will not want to self medicate with food. You will not feel "hungry" for no reason. You will only feel your forbidden feelings, embrace them, and feel resettled.

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    BTW This is an unbiased article on the benefits of cool laser fat sculpting.

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    Quote Originally Posted by tempest666 View Post

    I know you can do it! You didn't get fat overnight and you won't get fit overnight. You're going to have to bust your ass and make the changes to get what you want.
    ^This, unfortunately. If you want to get back into the adult industry, use it as your motivation. Having a reason to do something helps, also approaching exercise as something fun, instead of punishing yourself with it really helps at first; go with a gf to a dance class or hot yoga as well as training so that you have some fun, but healthy activities in the mix. I know it's expensive, but a getting a PT short term is great for motivation and to get you back on track.

    Why not go on a couples health kick too? It's really annoying when you are eating a green smoothie for breakfast and your boy friend is eating *insert solid food here* lol. That way you can support each other.
    “Give a girl the right shoes and she can conquer the world” -Marilyn Monroe

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    Default Re: Retired and got fat, save me ladies!!!!!

    I recently lost weight because I saw I was getting fatter than I wanted. This would happen when I got lazy and stopped working out. How I did it was simple things. I cut out a lot of junk food (I drink a lot of soda)and replaced it with healthy things like fruit and vegetables. I also started walking everywhere, and drinking lots of water. Those simple things made me drop two dress sizes. Now that it's summer I plan on walking even more and drinking more water instead of soda.

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    im in the same boat. I need to lose weight to have abdominoplasty, and the aim is to pay off the Op by stripping again.
    Theres no sense crying over every mistake,
    you just keep on trying till you run out of cake

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