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    Well went into bar 20 on king street in Melbourne to see a old friend an see how she was doing wasn't working but met two lovely ladies one I got along with quite well and got talking about how I prefer to have a stripper for a partner. Well for me it's not the ego boost or the fantasy thing at all I just prefer a girl with a well toned body that's self secure and not just another cookie cut girl of everyday society. I was with one girl for seven years that was a dancer but didn't work out now it's time to move on and find someone new it's been two years so well n truly over her. But here's my actual problem how do I meet a girl that's a dancer the obvious answer is in a club but fact is most girls will just assume I'm just another customer and rule me out as such. There's the little things that are an obvious enjoyment like being able to go to a movie with a girl that can comfortably walk in 7" heels and not care if she's in a 6" hustler skirt be quite happy with herself and who she is. Having a partner with the self confidence to do that is awesome. so is the relaxed happy content woman that you can pick up at the end of the night wheel her bag to the car and chat with her about all the change room gossip on the trip home. Maybe once n a while asking if the dress makeup and heels fake eye lashes can all can stay on for just a little while longer after we get home for a little fun. I honestly can't figure out how to go about meeting my preferred sort of woman it's not like there's a dating site for strippers and most don't openly tell you it's what they do for a living because of judgemental people and the fantasy/bragging rights sort of guys. Obviously I'm well aware of the real reality of dating a stripper but honestly looking to do more than just date I want a long term girl possible wife one day. Just I want one that's part of what's normal to me and for me that's I can be in the middle of a club full of half naked beautiful woman and all I really see a faces and lovely woman to talk to not some naked body that I can pay for a lap dance. Desensitised maybe I don't know but just feels normal to me. Well I'm moving back home to New Zealand on the 25th of May to Hamilton I'm 5,7 slim built non smoker d/d free maybe one nice girl would be keen to give me a chance or point me in the direction of one that will

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    first of all, not all strippers are going to be like that outside of work, sorry. stripping can turn you off sex, men, and dressing up when you out out/stay in. i remember joking with girls in the dressing room that we all wear granny panties outside of work because we are so sick of thongs.
    please don't go into the clubs looking for a gf, because honestly there's nothing creepier and more annoying than that. we WANT you to look at us as sexy bodies that you want to take for a dance. anything else is eye-roll inducing.
    stop trying to date " a stripper" because of some pre-concieved notion that lumps us all together as sex-crazed vixens who act like strippers outside the club.


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    Well went into bar 20 on king street in Melbourne to see a old friend an see how she was doing wasn't working but met two lovely ladies one I got along with quite well and got talking about how I prefer to have a stripper for a partner. Well for me it's not the ego boost or the fantasy thing at all I just prefer a girl with a well toned body that's self secure and not just another cookie cut girl of everyday society. I was with one girl for seven years that was a dancer but didn't work out now it's time to move on and find someone new it's been two years so well n truly over her. But here's my actual problem how do I meet a girl that's a dancer the obvious answer is in a club but fact is most girls will just assume I'm just another customer and rule me out as such. There's the little things that are an obvious enjoyment like being able to go to a movie with a girl that can comfortably walk in 7" heels and not care if she's in a 6" hustler skirt be quite happy with herself and who she is. Having a partner with the self confidence to do that is awesome. so is the relaxed happy content woman that you can pick up at the end of the night wheel her bag to the car and chat with her about all the change room gossip on the trip home. Maybe once n a while asking if the dress makeup and heels fake eye lashes can all can stay on for just a little while longer after we get home for a little fun. I honestly can't figure out how to go about meeting my preferred sort of woman it's not like there's a dating site for strippers and most don't openly tell you it's what they do for a living because of judgemental people and the fantasy/bragging rights sort of guys. Obviously I'm well aware of the real reality of dating a stripper but honestly looking to do more than just date I want a long term girl possible wife one day. Just I want one that's part of what's normal to me and for me that's I can be in the middle of a club full of half naked beautiful woman and all I really see a faces and lovely woman to talk to not some naked body that I can pay for a lap dance. Desensitised maybe I don't know but just feels normal to me. Well I'm moving back home to New Zealand on the 25th of May to Hamilton I'm 5,7 slim built non smoker d/d free maybe one nice girl would be keen to give me a chance or point me in the direction of one that will
    I think everyone just realized you actually are a creep or atleast here anyways. What you're looking for is a fake fantasy to do a good enough job pretending reality. You also need this stripperesque woman to make you feel better about yourself which is obvious in the "look at her walking in 7inch heels and I'm going to fuck her tonight! Hey everyone look at how cool I am!".

    There's one thing to be proud of the woman that you're with and then there's using her as a strobe light on a regular street to make an outward statement to anyone with eyes. Problem is are you man enough to deal with what may happen when a bigger man than you decides he likes the woman you're with or are you the type to trash her for wearing exactly what you want to see anyways? Can you handle that kind of attention if some stranger puts his hand on her? She will not be asking for it of course but you don't get to control other people's reactions to her 7inch heel cat walk down the produce aisle.

    Bottom line keep your fantasy in the club and spend enough money and maybe a dancer may date you but when she realizes she's arm candy she'll make sure to milk you for all your worth. Rinse and repeat.

    Ohh and the whole I'm 5'7, d/d free ( umm sorry anyone that even attempts to type d/d free is usually the guy that has enough viruses running through his blood stream to make an Ox vomit uncontrollably) . Point is no one believes that but most are now thinking about the diseases you do have. Ohh and this is not a stripper-to-go-box catalog site. You'll have to spend just like any other guy in the club and hope you make the impression that you're not another cheesy douche-puff.

    Anyways good luck and may you find someone that wants to be a fantasy 24/7. Hopefully you're one high spender that enjoys a woman that will clearly tower over your 5'7" height in 7inch heels of course unless she's 4'8" without them. The average woman doesn't like dating men that are shorter than them and yes this includes dancers too.

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    ^^^^

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    *vomits*

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    Hmmmm...you should write for Penthouse Forum because that is not did not happen in real life. I doubt that you anything more than just a troll looking for his jollies Both in real life and on Stripper web.


    Quote Originally Posted by Desoto230 View Post
    Well went into bar 20 on king street in Melbourne to see a old friend an see how she was doing wasn't working but met two lovely ladies one I got along with quite well and got talking about how I prefer to have a stripper for a partner. Well for me it's not the ego boost or the fantasy thing at all I just prefer a girl with a well toned body that's self secure and not just another cookie cut girl of everyday society. I was with one girl for seven years that was a dancer but didn't work out now it's time to move on and find someone new it's been two years so well n truly over her. But here's my actual problem how do I meet a girl that's a dancer the obvious answer is in a club but fact is most girls will just assume I'm just another customer and rule me out as such. There's the little things that are an obvious enjoyment like being able to go to a movie with a girl that can comfortably walk in 7" heels and not care if she's in a 6" hustler skirt be quite happy with herself and who she is. Having a partner with the self confidence to do that is awesome. so is the relaxed happy content woman that you can pick up at the end of the night wheel her bag to the car and chat with her about all the change room gossip on the trip home. Maybe once n a while asking if the dress makeup and heels fake eye lashes can all can stay on for just a little while longer after we get home for a little fun. I honestly can't figure out how to go about meeting my preferred sort of woman it's not like there's a dating site for strippers and most don't openly tell you it's what they do for a living because of judgemental people and the fantasy/bragging rights sort of guys. Obviously I'm well aware of the real reality of dating a stripper but honestly looking to do more than just date I want a long term girl possible wife one day. Just I want one that's part of what's normal to me and for me that's I can be in the middle of a club full of half naked beautiful woman and all I really see a faces and lovely woman to talk to not some naked body that I can pay for a lap dance. Desensitised maybe I don't know but just feels normal to me. Well I'm moving back home to New Zealand on the 25th of May to Hamilton I'm 5,7 slim built non smoker d/d free maybe one nice girl would be keen to give me a chance or point me in the direction of one that will

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    Step 1: Dont be a creep.

    Since you havent passed step one yet, work on that, then come back for the next steps.

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    Honey, not all strippers are going to have the traits that you listed. Many of us bum it in sweats and sneakers when we're not working and some of us aren't all that confident or outgoing either. Strippers are not really a "type" that you can like because we are all very different from one another. Being a stripper is a job, not a lifestyle, and we are all unique in our personalities and the types of lives we have outside the club.

    If you want a girl who's "strippery" through and through, go to a regular non-strip dance club. There you will see women that actually like to wear 7" heels and show off a lot of their toned bodies in their personal lives. That sounds more like the type of girl you're looking for & they'll be more open to dating you too.

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    Agreed w/ ^^^^ esp. Do you know how many women we encounter ITC who fancy themselves better 'dancer material' than those of us who actually do it for our living? 'OMG I would nvr get out of those gorgeous monster heels, You're SHY?! You can't POSSIBLY be shy if you do this job!, OMG MY pole tricks on the random street sign would blow all y'all out of the water' & the big one 'how could you NOT want to date sm of these hot/rich/whatever customers?!'

    You, my dear, do not want to date a stripper. What you should really be looking for are the stripper wannabes.

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    What the fuck is 'd/d free'? You don't play Dungeons & Dragons?

    The women here are correct. You don't really want a stripper, not one who's been dancing for longer than 6-8 months anyway. Unless maybe you have a lot of blow, I know some who will enact whatever stripper fantasy you want for that shit.
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    ^I have no idea what that means either but you made me laugh....

    Oh my god if a guy asked me to keep my heels/fake lashes on after work I would say "sure as long as you don't mind me sticking my 7" heel up your ass." Who strippers are at work is not who they are in real life, I don't even speak the same way at work as I do outside (my voice at work is high-pitched and especially in the UK I work the California "like" "uhhhmmm" "omg!" "that's sooooo cool" t'd making everything sound like a question by raising my voice at the end of the sentence thing). Even if you do find a stripper who's willing to go out with you, the fact that you just want her to role-play herself at work is going to mean the relationship goes nowhere and she's going to end up seeing you as a customer and not a boyfriend, and she WILL treat you accordingly. It sounds like what you need is a prostitute who will dress up for you all the time and do whatever you want cause you're paying her to be there. Real women are not perfect all the time. And if you really want to attract a smart, confident woman, then you need to become a smart, confident man yourself, not a whiny little turd looking to make himself look hot by being with a hot girl.

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    but fact is most girls will just assume I'm just another customer and rule me out as such
    Yep! You sure are right on the money there.

    Also: hahahahahaha

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    D/D lol @ Dungeons and Dragons. It stands for Drug and Diseased free. It seems to be a carry over from men that shop for tail off of craiglist and are stupid enough to post it on regular dating profiles. When a guy sends you a message saying " Do you host" he's outing his activities lol.

    I remember the first time I got "Do you host" and I thought wait you mean a T.V. show? Huh? I did some extra work once but why is that important?

    When a guy has "D/D free" on his profile or even mentions it I mentally get a picture of him laying face down in his own vomit while being sucked off by a street walker that hasn't bathed in a week plus she has injection tracks down her arms and maybe her veins are a special shade of Bubonic Plague Black.

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    Become a multi-millionaire & move to LA. Dating that type of girl there usually aren't strippers, but plenty with that look who will use your money for more lipo, Louie heels, lip injections & bigger boob jobs.

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    When I was a bouncer if we got too many complaints about a guy creeping out dancers we would give them a warning, then ask them to leave. If it was enough ladies we would ask him to leave without warning. I get the feeling you are the type that would be barred from the club within a few days. Falling for a dancer because "she is into you" is just you being a sucker for them doing their job. We kept an eye on the solo guys as they could be the creepiest. Most of the dancers put up with them because they also had good money, but when the money stopped flowing they would stop paying attention and that is when creepy became a bad thing.
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    By being a guy that specifically "wants to date a stripper," you're already losing that battle. You say you don't want a stripper girlfriend for the ego boost or because you objectify them, but everything about your "stripper gf" fantasy contradicts that. The guys that actually don't date strippers for the ego boost and don't objectify them, are the guys who would date a stripper... or a waitress... or a lawyer, or any other woman they're interested in, just because they like her personality.

    When you lump all strippers into this generalized personality that you wish to date, you reveal that you actually have no concept of dancers as actual individual people. There are just as many different personalities in strippers as there are in any other profession, and most of them are not going to fit your ideal "stripper gf" checklist.

    You sound like a few guy friends I have who try to act like they're so progressive about dating a sex worker. One talks all the time about the one career stripper he dated, but he only ever talks about her stripping job... I've never heard him actually describe her personality or anything they did together. The other will talk about how he would love to date a porn star because they're obviously very sexually liberated and would be good at sex... as though porn acting in any way translates to real sex or a girl's general personality in a relationship... Point being, the guys who specifically want to date a sex worker, are actually the worst kinds of boyfriends a sex worker could have, because they generalize and fetishize us even worse than a typical idiot customer by demanding that our work personas also be the real us 24/7 for your pleasure.
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    Ok clearly I didn't put in all of my reasoning I was trying to keep it short that's all. Fact Is I met a girl dated her for two years before she Finnished uni and decided to look for a dancing job as she had been a dancer most of her life just turned out it was a stripping job which she wasn't aware of at the time as she found it on seek after she found out she asked what I thought told her the decision was hers to make not mine but I was fine with it if she did. And well she ended up doing it after four years of her stripping and obviously meeting her friends that were dancers it just became normal. And no she wasn't always arm candy my favorite thing to see her in was one of her full circle rockerbilly dresses fact is her in one of her stripper type outfits was something that only happend as a surprise once in a while or for a bit of fun one night out. Fact is I won't date a girl unless I can find myself attached to their personality I only do long term relationships I have never done the one night stand thing as the idea makes me uneasy. The only reason I had asked the question I had is because I honestly miss the circle of friends I had made within the scene and the social life an atmosphere that came with it. I noticed one girl suggested dating a stripper wannabe thanks for the suggestion but no thanks can't stand those girls that go into clubs and putting down the girls who really are strippers heard too many of the things they said about my ex and her friends. My ex used to compete in the show comps which I enjoyed helping her making her costumes pick and cut music with her take her to her practice sessions out side club hours. While she sorted her routine. An then there's the fact I wouldn't date a girl just because she was a stripper I originally posted compleatly wrong and I apologise for that it was late when I got home clearly wasn't thinking right was still winding down from a night out with two lovely girls that I've since gotten to know quite well. And your all right every stripper is different and individual not every one has a high sex drive or likes her heels outside of a club or highly confident. One of my favorite memories is how hyped me ex used to be after work and would be talking flat out on the way home till she found a moment to be quiet the would almost instantly be asleep get home and even a shower was out of the question the tired little angel would just want to crawl into bed and sleep. Would always just lay a cuddle her an watch her for a while before going to sleep. And yes she was short she was only 4'11 so she loved her 5-7" heels always wanted to be tall for some reason but I found her adorable just as she was. Been two years since I've been with her over her now but will never forget the fond memories she's left me with.

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    Yeah, the OP is creepy, but, there is some irony in these "I want to date a stripper" threads. The irony is that there are sad threads every week about some dancer whose BF cannot accept her stripping and their relationship is doomed. Yet, when any blue posts about wanting to date, and possible marry, a dancer, such a post always gets the "you're a creep" reaction from the pinks. Why is it a bad idea to have a dating site for people in the adult entertainment industry and other open-minded people?

    Wanting to date a stripper is simply a guy's version and a guy's equivalent of a girl wanting to date the "bad boy", like the high-school drop-out rebel guitar player in the local band, who fathers hate because of his uncanny ability to corrupt their virgin daughters. Girls love bad boys; girls fantasize that the bad boy will be exciting and edgy, and that sex with the bad boy will be naughty and rough, compared to lame vanilla sex with "nice" boys. A "nice" girl can get bored with "nice" guys that treat her like a princess, and she wants the "bad boy" who doesn't give a shit and will present her a real challenge and rollercoaster ride of thrills and drama.

    For the "nice" and responsible male that is burdened with extremely high societal expectations of good education, good career, good wife, morality and virtue,... a life of work, work, work... etc., the "bad girl" stripper presents an escape from this dull existence and a new life of liberation, exciting thrills and erotic adventures. Obviously, this is just a fantasy. A dancer could be a very conservative church-going pre-law college student who dances to pay her college tuition and is very vanilla in the sheets. But, blame it on the media (specially music videos) which has created the modern mystique of the stripper: that she is hot, smart, sexually adventurous, seductive, mysterious, rebellious, dangerous, exciting and ultra confident; sort of like the nymphs of ancient lore.

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    Ohhh. You don't want a stripper, you want a girl with the same traits as your ex.

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    Focus more on meeting interesting women everywhere else and creating a new dynamic for a new relationship and life with a new person than trying to recreate your past relationship. It sounds like you are not as over your ex as you claim to be. I feel like if you try to date a different dancer, even if she's a perfectly wonderful person, you'll always be comparing and being disappointed if she doesn't do things the same way your ex did. And there is nothing more annoying and insulting than to be the girl that "never measures up" to a guy's ex.
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    Ohh and this is not a stripper-to-go-box catalog site.
    Lol I imagined OP looking through a holiday stripper catalog and circling his favorites.





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    Have you considered dating a paragraph? I think a good paragraph is what you need. The best part about paragraphs, they don't care how many others you are seeing!
    -It could be that the purpose of your life is only to serve as a warning to others!
    -It's always darkest just before it goes pitch black!
    -The secret to success is knowing who to blame for your failures!

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    Rather than approaching the community cold and asking for where to find a partner, maybe you would get more success building a relationship with the members here. Getting a feel for the place and what you can offer.

    Then on the basis of that you would build trust and hopefully more understanding and probably be in a better position to find a dancer partner.

    So many people come here approaching us cold and asking for something without offering anything in return. Thus the negative reaction..

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