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    As a camgirl, we talk to endless amounts of people on a daily basis.
    I'm going to share a personal story about one of my experiences I've had.

    I had begun MFC in March of 2013. It was a downhill spiral. I couldn't seem to get the hang of it, anytime my camscore would go up, it'd go right back down, blah blah blah. A common MFC story.

    One day, as I was hanging out in my room, a basic comes along. He doesn't say much, he's actually rather polite. The same routine happened, and I logged off angry.

    The next day, that basic came into my room again and made small conversation. After a few back and forth comments, that basic turned premium. Tipped well. That was the beginning.

    He came into my room almost every time I'd log on. The first time he ever took me private, he wanted C2C. I accepted, and realized, "Holy crap. He's hot. Really..hot. Wow he looks like Luke Bryan."

    First guy I could actually orgasm to online. Haha. (TMI... ANYWAYYYYYYYYYYY)
    We started talking more and more and found out we had quite a bit in common. That talking turned into texting. Everyday. Constantly.
    That texting turned into phone calls.
    Those phone calls turned into a crazy online attraction that I wasn't expecting to have.

    When you become a camgirl, you don't realize that these things can actually happen. I told myself when I started, "There's no way I'll ever DIG someone from here."
    I was obviously wrong.
    What wasn't to like about this guy?
    He was funny, nice, hot, close to rich, and gave me such amazing attention?

    In July of 2013, he became my highest tipper of all time.

    In August of 2013, he sent me a text saying that he had to let this go and to have a good life.

    I cried and cried. I couldn't believe I was crying over something like this! How did I manage to fall for a guy three states away from me, 8 years older then me, THROUGH WORK?
    I just couldn't understand why he let me go. That is, until I found out from someone in my room that he was married.

    This incident destroyed my earnings for the next four months. I couldn't go on MFC. Suffered from depression.
    I know this story was kind of dull, but I feel like it was important enough to write about.
    No matter how attractive a customer might seem, always keep your guard up.
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    I didn't think it was dull. I think it's pretty brave of you to be so open.

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    Thank you for sharing this. I've been there (... kind of am there, and it's not looking good and is bothering me a lot more than I ever would have thought something like this could) and it sucks so fucking hard. Sorry it happened to you.

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    *hugs*

    It can happen to anyone. It's easy to think that all clients are the same and you could never, ever, not in a *million* years be attracted to one... until it happens.

    A few girls have shared similar experiences and they tend to end the same way: the person on the web is not the person in the flesh. As the good Doctor House says, "Everybody lies."

    If anything, you should bolster your defenses as soon as you find yourself developing feelings for any client - because all you can know about a person over the web/phone is what they want you to know.






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    it happened to me twice.... it took me around 4 months off cam each time to cope with depression and anxiety (yes, both of them were married.) the thing that helped me to get through it was to tell myself that i'm younger than them, prettier than their wives (guess that's the reason why they started to pursuit me in the first place).. you deserve better, hun. Stay strong !

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    It's been almost a year and I still think about him. I guess a part of me wishes and hopes he'll one day show up in my room. I tried messaging him once, saying, "I know we don't speak anymore but it would be really amazing to see you in my room again. Just to say hi." He never showed up. The sad masochist in me is grateful that this has happened to others, that I'm not alone.

    I'm sorry that this has happened to others, I hope you're all coping with it! <3
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    So sorry you fell for the okie doke, lils. I've been there as well and I always have to remind myself that no matter how wealthy they are, how charming, how generous, and how attractive they are CUSTOMERS and nothing more. Just like we can log on and rock their worlds, never to return, so can they. I'm sorry your heart hurt but I'm glad you learned a valuable lesson. NEVER get too close to a custy. I've caught myself a few times and had to block because I almost let a few of them fly me across country . Not this bitch!




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    This is why I always masturbate BEFORE I get on... and log off if I get turned on. And refuse to work even slightly high or drunk. It really is important to keep those lines REALLY clear for yourself, or shit like this can happen to you surprisingly easily.

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    You lost me at "he looks like Luke Bryan"..... mmmm
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    Oh man, that's tough. It happens though, probably more than you would think but most are too embarrassed or whatever to talk about it. Props to you for having courage to share this! <3

    It makes me wonder, what do our regs/customers feel like when we have to cut them off for whatever reason? Kind of makes me feel like you were the one getting played, when we are so used to it being the other way around. We are suppose to be the ones fulfilling their fantasy, making them come back for more, we tell the stories and be who ever they want us to be. Not the other way around. That must have been a really scary position to be in, so I can see why you took time off for LOTS of reasons.

    Definitely a good reminder to always be on top of things.
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    LUV you, Lily!!! Don't forget there's my fantasy of you & the rice pudding, (just tryin' to make you laugh)!


    MANY MEN WANTED TO LAY ME DOWN, BUT FEW WANTED TO LIFT ME UP

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    Quote Originally Posted by Missbeth View Post
    You lost me at "he looks like Luke Bryan"..... mmmm
    Don't even let me talk about his genital area...Omg
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    I mean, you don't get to pick who you fall for. I know this is a very specific line of work, but in the vanilla world people fall for their clients or coworkers all of the time. There is no shame in crying, 5 months of getting to know someone is still getting to know someone. I think the line that needs to remain uncrossed is texting and phone calls on your "off hours". Snapchats and Tweets are one thing, but I know that I would get attached to someone that I talked to every day when I wasn't in "work mode". I know some camgirls who have ended up with clients (Hell, isn't that the whole story of Pretty Woman?) and it's turned out okay. All I'm saying is, clear boundaries between clients and friends shouldn't be crossed unless you've talked about it and want to pursue something more intimate. I know how bad a heartbreak can be, but it shows you're still alive.
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    I'm still very new to camming, but I can see how this could happen so easily. Some of my custies are very sweet, or at least try to appear to be respectful, and then when we c2c and they're cute... trouble. I'm sorry for what you've been through, but thank you for sharing, Lily! It's a helpful and important reminder.

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    I've seen this happen a lot, I've been camming 13 yrs now, I ran a studio and seen cam customers marry the girl's and have children too!! How crazy is that!! I say to most definitely keep your guard up, some of those sweet good looking guys could be killer's, I grew up in Wichita Ks, with BTK (bind torture kill ) he would break into your home and cut the phone line, wait until u got home ect....Not pretty! If they can't proved you with a facebook, twitter ect. REALLY be on the look out, don't give out to much info. I'm not saying you can't find true love online, just be on point. Check it all out, make sure he isn't married ect. When I started dating my guy, I made him pay for my apartment for 1 yr, so I could travel. We spoke on the phone for 3 months and when we chose to meet, I made him pay for a joining room to his, in case it was weird ect. I've also had guys pay and pay and never return, its crazy! Usually these guys can be in other cam girls rooms, saying the same shit they say to you. Be careful.

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    That's SCARY Lexi, wow.
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    something very similar also happened to me when I first started camming .. same thing!..my highest earning customer .. talking on yahoo all day.. on the phone all day with a headset while working.. letting him watch my cam shows all day on yahoo.. he was paying me so much and oh i felt so special....so special that I did meet him.. we had a 3 month affair..he was going to be my boyfriend.. i thought .. and then he CUT ME OFF without warning.. I was so upset also.. I lost alot of income.. how cruel to treat me so well .. I had 2 kids to take care of.. they truly don't give a shit.. I think that is when I changed and just started to have this hatred that I have for them.. they are all liars, pretenders and fakers.. and if you continue to think that way.. albeit bitter.. they will NEVER take advantage of you again... good story.. cuz the other girls need to hear this.. don't believe the hype!

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    A sex-worker quote from one of my favorite movies, Dangerous Beauty: "Love love, but do not love the man, or you will be in his power."

    I think we should be very, very cautious about attaching strong feelings to an individual customer, or allowing him to be part of our hopes and dreams. I agree that doing so will get you hurt.

    On the other hand, I like the idea of being able to "love love." It's fun to have crushes, to get a little thrill when someone comes around, to enjoy yourself in their company. The feeling of falling for someone is a huge aphrodisiac and generally makes life seem a bit brighter. If you can manage your feelings and spread them out across all your favorite customers, I see nothing wrong with allowing yourself to enjoy some of that. It makes camming more fun, and gives you a little sparkle that the guys notice.

    Maybe I'm just a slut where emotions are concerned (as opposed to a slut for sex, which is probably also true), LOL! So, yeah, if you're the type that can't handle it and that gets too attached to specific guys, please keep it strictly business and don't try this at home, kids.
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    Also, not to mention, reading your story again there might have been something else going on here. He may have been developing feelings for you as well, but for some reason - he had a girl IRL that was interested in him, he had a girlfriend and she found out about it, maybe he assumed you'd never meet up in person and was a good enough guy to cut it off before it crossed professional boundaries. I'm not saying he didn't pull a dick move by not explaining his abrupt departure but he may not have been a bad guy.
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    Yeah, they're not friends or boyfriends, they're customers. I'm sorry that you got hurt, that really sucks.

    At the same time, he didn't do anything wrong just like I wouldn't be doing anything wrong if I stopped going to my regular coffee shop. Even if the barista there really liked me and enjoyed talking to me and missed me when I stopped showing up.

    It's important to remember these are just business transactions.

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    Quote Originally Posted by SaintSlutface View Post
    Also, not to mention, reading your story again there might have been something else going on here. He may have been developing feelings for you as well, but for some reason - he had a girl IRL that was interested in him, he had a girlfriend and she found out about it, maybe he assumed you'd never meet up in person and was a good enough guy to cut it off before it crossed professional boundaries. I'm not saying he didn't pull a dick move by not explaining his abrupt departure but he may not have been a bad guy.
    To be completely honest, I was planning on heading out his way for a long roadtrip. I actually insinuated meeting up with him at a bar or something.
    What I think happened was at that moment, he felt it had gotten "too real." That's what I think.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Magical_Hoohah View Post
    A sex-worker quote from one of my favorite movies, Dangerous Beauty: "Love love, but do not love the man, or you will be in his power."

    I think we should be very, very cautious about attaching strong feelings to an individual customer, or allowing him to be part of our hopes and dreams. I agree that doing so will get you hurt.

    On the other hand, I like the idea of being able to "love love." It's fun to have crushes, to get a little thrill when someone comes around, to enjoy yourself in their company. The feeling of falling for someone is a huge aphrodisiac and generally makes life seem a bit brighter. If you can manage your feelings and spread them out across all your favorite customers, I see nothing wrong with allowing yourself to enjoy some of that. It makes camming more fun, and gives you a little sparkle that the guys notice.

    Maybe I'm just a slut where emotions are concerned (as opposed to a slut for sex, which is probably also true), LOL! So, yeah, if you're the type that can't handle it and that gets too attached to specific guys, please keep it strictly business and don't try this at home, kids.

    I completely agree. When I was talking to him everyday, I was having the TIME OF MY LIFE. I LOVED camming. I literally couldn't WAIT to go on. It was nice to feel so special.
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    I appreciate all of these responses and I have learned from the experience. I just hope by posting this story, I save someone the aggravation and consequences in the future.
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    Wow LilyAnderson what you typed out was sad, and the same exact thing happened to a well known performer on CB. She was off cam for a while after that happened to her, she came back and had a very hard time making tips, because she counted on 1 guy. But she became rude to all other members while her big tipper and seemed like much more than that (he sent her gifts, had her cell etc) was around.

    She burned her bridges, to this day she is not near the money she once mads, while some customers come into my room at times and mention her.

    I chatted with her a couple times, nice girl to performers, but will let you know if you are going to be there in her room tip her, as I did a few times then heard about this with her. So sad.

    It's not just you, guys do this. Never think they will stick around, they won't. My huge tipper who followed me from every damn site has dropped off the tips, go figure.

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    Wow LilyAnderson what you typed out was sad, and the same exact thing happened to a well known performer on CB. She was off cam for a while after that happened to her, she came back and had a very hard time making tips, because she counted on 1 guy. But she became rude to all other members while her big tipper and seemed like much more than that (he sent her gifts, had her cell etc) was around.

    She burned her bridges, to this day she is not near the money she once made, some customers come into my room at times and mention her.

    I chatted with her a couple times, nice girl to performers, but will let you know if you are going to be there in her room tip her, as I did a few times then heard about this with her. So sad.

    It's not just you, guys do this. Never think they will stick around, they won't. My huge tipper who followed me from every damn site for years has dropped low on the tips, go figure.
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