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    Felt soo incredibly awkward last night when asked to dance for get this.... "a blind guy" omg soo wierd.....in the 2 yrs of dancing i never done this..... I actually remember turning down a dance from a guy in a weelchair at my previous club because it felt awkward ....please tell me your intakes on this.

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    Default Re: Dancing for a handicap custy :/

    $$ is $$. It's that simple. I have danced for wheelchaired customers & others w/ handicaps of sm kind, they are there for the same reasons as any1 else. You're really overthinking it.

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    Ah, handicapps need love too! No biggie, just like anyone else..except. The ones I've danced for have been ok, more respectful than other guys, but that can vary too
    I danced for a guy w/cancer, he was cool.


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    Default Re: Dancing for a handicap custy :/

    it just semed like all eyes were on me like when I was dancing for him felt like I was taking advantage of some sort lol

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    I used to turn down dances from a regular customer in a wheelchair, but not because of the wheelchair, because he used to sniff and lick the dancers thongs.
    I didn't want old man saliva all over my thong, and I'm always pretty annoyed when customers sniff my clothes, even if they do it as a joke.
    If he hadn't been a weird old pervert though, I don't think I would have been bothered by dancing for him.

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    the only time i've ever felt uncomfortable with a "handicapped" person is when a severely retarded man came in, i did feel awkward and slightly "wrong" with the whole taking advantage thing..just thinking of anything sexual, even just a naked dance with somebody mentally handicapped person makes me feel ragingly uncomfortable like im some sort of predator.
    other than that, i don't feel weird at all with anybody handicapped. they are adults who can make their own decisions and their money is as good as any other. i danced for a guy with a leg cast, and i was just really careful not to bump his leg

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    One of my favorite regulars was completely deaf! He'd only come in every couple of weeks or so, and usually later in the night. But whenever he'd come in, he'd buy dances from me until closing. The initial sale was extremely quick (I just smiled a ton, gestured towards the private rooms, and held out my hand). No matter what I did during my dances, he was in heaven. Smiling the whole time, dancing along to the music with me... He'd always get an enormous erection that would stay hard the whole time - even though I was in a low-contact club, I could feel it whenever I leaned back against him!

    I've also danced for paraplegics and all sorts. I find them to be a novelty and always put in 100% whenever I get the opportunity. They put up with enough shit elsewhere in their lives; they deserve a good lapdance!

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    I've never had a blind customer, but I can't imagine it being too difficult; it's just another thing about a guy to keep in your head. I've had many customers with disabilities over the years, and only one sticks out in my mind as being particularly difficult because of his disability. I once did a few hours in a CR with a wheelchair-bound older man with a colostomy bag (perhaps that is the wrong term; I mean he constantly carried around a bag of urine and a bag of feces attached to his person). The smell was almost unbearable. I spent 3 hours pretending to be turned on by a guy who smelled very strongly of stale piss and shit. I will admit that I left very proud of my professionalism and my acting skills.

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    Physical disabilities usually don't bother me but a blind customer would give me pause. I'd have to wonder what he was really getting out of the dance. LOL

    I can't handle some mental disabilities though. There's no way I could do anything for someone with the mentality of a child. I've seen them in the clubs and brothels and some girls can handle it. I'm not one of them. We all have our limits.

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    I can't remember ever dancing for someone that had a handicap. What has me scratching my head is those who have seen a mentally handicapped person in a club. I could never dance for a mentally handicapped person and this has me wondering how they ended up in a strip club. Obviously they didn't take themselves and I can't imagine the person that takes care of them bringing them to a strip club? A lot of people confuse mental retardation with ALS, once ALS gets severe enough the person with ALS can look like they are mentally handicapped but this is most defintely not the case. It can even get to the point that the personcan no longer talk normal or hardly talk at all and they usually become fully paralyzed eventually.

    Sorry for the sort of thread jack, lol, just wanted to point that out so if someone does see a person in a club they think is mentally handicapped, make sure it isn't ALS instead.

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    Quote Originally Posted by MiraMichele View Post
    I can't remember ever dancing for someone that had a handicap. What has me scratching my head is those who have seen a mentally handicapped person in a club. I could never dance for a mentally handicapped person and this has me wondering how they ended up in a strip club. Obviously they didn't take themselves and I can't imagine the person that takes care of them bringing them to a strip club? A lot of people confuse mental retardation with ALS, once ALS gets severe enough the person with ALS can look like they are mentally handicapped but this is most defintely not the case. It can even get to the point that the personcan no longer talk normal or hardly talk at all and they usually become fully paralyzed eventually.

    Sorry for the sort of thread jack, lol, just wanted to point that out so if someone does see a person in a club they think is mentally handicapped, make sure it isn't ALS instead.
    I've seen fathers bring their handicapped sons in to get dances (or get laid, in the case of brothels.) Plus, not all handicapped people need full time care. Some are capable of living in group homes and working simple jobs.

    With all due respect, I'm not going to approach someone and quiz them on what's wrong with them. If I'm uncomfortable, I respect my feelings and don't approach. I don't do anything I don't want to do and I wouldn't encourage anyone else to either.

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    Quote Originally Posted by MarvelGirl View Post
    I've seen fathers bring their handicapped sons in to get dances (or get laid, in the case of brothels.) Plus, not all handicapped people need full time care. Some are capable of living in group homes and working simple jobs.

    With all due respect, I'm not going to approach someone and quiz them on what's wrong with them. If I'm uncomfortable, I respect my feelings and don't approach. I don't do anything I don't want to do and I wouldn't encourage anyone else to either.
    The type of mentally handicapped person I was talking about is one that is severe as in no way possible to function by themselves or even know what is going on, I just couldn't see someone bringing someone like that in a club. But if you mean like Forest Gump not all the way there but not comletely helpless then yes I can understand that.

    I would never say to question someone on what they have but if you see someone there and they are in a wheelchair and obviously have something wrong or look like they might not be "there" and you are the type of person ok with approaching someone like that, then you should be able to tell pretty quickly if the person is "there" or not without having to ask.

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    Quote Originally Posted by azaleanola View Post
    I've never had a blind customer, but I can't imagine it being too difficult; it's just another thing about a guy to keep in your head. I've had many customers with disabilities over the years, and only one sticks out in my mind as being particularly difficult because of his disability. I once did a few hours in a CR with a wheelchair-bound older man with a colostomy bag (perhaps that is the wrong term; I mean he constantly carried around a bag of urine and a bag of feces attached to his person). The smell was almost unbearable. I spent 3 hours pretending to be turned on by a guy who smelled very strongly of stale piss and shit. I will admit that I left very proud of my professionalism and my acting skills.
    OMG^! Wow..just wow. Yes indeed you are Totally..Idk if I could, I've a very sensitive nose..props to you!


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    At one of my old clubs, one of my regulars was a guy in a wheelchair. He had been in an accident when he was younger. Of course, I had to get a little creative when I was dancing but he was a nice guy.
    I've done other wheelchair dances too and it doesn't bother me.

    I won't dance for severely mentally handicapped people. In the past I've seen them come in organized groups with a chaperone but I don't engage with them.
    When I was in high school a very mentally handicapped boy randomly shoved me down a flight of stairs at school. His strength was incredible. I remember teachers having a hard time restraining him at times too. (Not that everyone is the same, but it's always been a pretty traumatic memory)

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    Quote Originally Posted by azaleanola View Post
    I once did a few hours in a CR with a wheelchair-bound older man with a colostomy bag (perhaps that is the wrong term; I mean he constantly carried around a bag of urine and a bag of feces attached to his person). The smell was almost unbearable. I spent 3 hours pretending to be turned on by a guy who smelled very strongly of stale piss and shit. I will admit that I left very proud of my professionalism and my acting skills.
    Ummm, sound like he had a catheter and a colostomy bad, neither of which were working. Colostomy bags don't smell unless you empty or change them, catheters shouldn't smell at all. I don't usually turn down money, I've danced for a few guys in wheelchairs, one with a SLIGHT developmental disability-he worked and had an apartment, just took longer to process things after a car accident, and a lady who lost the bottom half of her body. As in, no lap. That was incredibly awkward and I ended up having a mild panic attack in the bathroom afterwards. I have no idea what happened to her and didn't ask, she was there with friends and wanted me. Only me. Curse that flattering, forgiving strip club lighting! I guess I would have felt worse turning her down than I did dancing for her. In my experience, the handicapped tend to be more polite, almost apologetic in getting dances-it's probably the highlight of their incredibly difficult lives.
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    Close contact, for an hour, for $40? And I guess I'll have to make conversation with them too?

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    Why do you guys think it is that disabled customers make some dancers uncomfortable?

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    Quote Originally Posted by charlie61 View Post
    Why do you guys think it is that disabled customers make some dancers uncomfortable?
    I really think a lot of it is almost like a stereotype, but for everyone, not just dancers. It seems that a lot of people in our society look at them in a lower grade than the general population, just like they do with sex workers.

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    Quote Originally Posted by charlie61 View Post
    Why do you guys think it is that disabled customers make some dancers uncomfortable?
    Well, I can't speak for anyone but myself but the reason mentally handicapped customers make me uncomfortable is because they remind me of children and I would feel like a pedophile giving them a lap dance.

    That's the only disability that bothers me though. Although, I don't think I could dance for a person who has one of those disorders where they genuinely look like children either, for the same reason.

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    Quote Originally Posted by charlie61 View Post
    Why do you guys think it is that disabled customers make some dancers uncomfortable?
    other than mentally disabled customers ( who i only feel uncomfy dancing for, for reasons i explained) i think people either feel disgust towards them, or they just feel awkward around them..i remember in my CNA class how we discussed how people avoid looking at anybody with a disability because they don't want to be caught supposedly "staring" or "pitying" or bringing up their disability, so they ignore them altogether.

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    Quote Originally Posted by charlie61 View Post
    Why do you guys think it is that disabled customers make some dancers uncomfortable?
    The fact that severely DD guys are like kids mentally. I hate pedophiles and cringe when a situation that makes me feel like one. Also, different abilities cause different physical reactions in some people. I gave a mildly DD guy who was there with family a string of dances and when he left, he took a dump outside the front door and a dancer rolled her rolley luggage through it Yeah, took a while for me to live that down.
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    Close contact, for an hour, for $40? And I guess I'll have to make conversation with them too?

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    Quote Originally Posted by MISS_TENAY View Post
    Felt soo incredibly awkward last night when asked to dance for get this.... "a blind guy" omg soo wierd.....in the 2 yrs of dancing i never done this..... I actually remember turning down a dance from a guy in a weelchair at my previous club because it felt awkward ....please tell me your intakes on this.
    wow, how rude of you,

    how would you like it if you walked into a restaurant and they refused to serve you because you are a stripper?

    if you can pick and choose your customers, would you be offended if other people did the same toward you?

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    Once I accidentally knocked a guy over who wore a back brace. I think he had CP. I felt so bad....but he was nice about it.

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    Quote Originally Posted by yup its me View Post

    if you can pick and choose your customers, would you be offended if other people did the same toward you?
    While I understand where you're coming from, everyone in the adult industry can and should be able to pick and choose their customers, for any reason. We are not sex slaves.

    This is not McDonalds. What we do is a hell of a lot more personal than handing someone a Big Mac. No one in this industry should be forced to do anything they feel uncomfortable doing, even if their reasons for feeling that way are offensive.

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    The only customer I would not dance for would be a mentally handicapped person because that would just make me uncomfortable. But I don't do well with mentally handicapped people in the real world, let alone a strip club. I have too much empathy for people sometimes and I start to feel so bad for them it makes me sick.

    But I would be happy to dance with anybody who had a physical handicap, if anything I would rather offer my services to them over someone who didn't. I imagine they have a more difficult time with the ladies and deserve a lap dance for their troubles!

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    I have two handicapped regulars. One is in a wheel chair the other has MS and has trouble walking and with control of his body movements. If you can talk with the customer, just ask him what he likes when he gets lap dances. I've had customers in the past who couldn't talk without the use of a machine, and that makes it harder to figure out if you are causing them discomfort.

    Just because a customer has a disability, doesn't mean that he is somehow not interested in sex or sexuality. I do well with blind customers because I love telling dirty stories and using verbal descriptions during dances. Also, don't underestimate a customer's douchebaggery based on the fact that he's in a wheelchair. I've had handicapped guys refuse to pay for dances, and treat me generally like shit because they were just assholes who couldn't walk. Probably mowed down in traffic by an ex.

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