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    Default Overcoming the Fear of not making $

    Anyone else still get the fear that they "won't make anything" even after it's been proven time and time again that there's good money in stripping?
    I don't know why but it seems like every time I get ready to go audition or go into work I think "I really hope I make money tonight/this week." It doesn't matter how much I make one night. The next night I'm back to worrying that the money is going to end.

    Logically it makes no sense because even when my hustle was the WORST, the clubs were super slow, and I was one of the lowest earners, I've always 100% been able to pay the bills, put gas in the car, put food on the table and still have extra $ for fun left over as a dancer. I kept track of my earnings even from 2 years ago and I was doing fine!

    So why do I still feel so insecure about it?

    I think this is why I've been avoiding auditioning all month. Even after all this time I'm still insecure about making money. I had one bad day at my last club and now I'm nervous about trying again. How do I get over it? I would like to go into work excited and confident and not worried for once! Advice?

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    Default Re: Overcoming the Fear of not making $

    ^ im also very scared of that, and is kept me from walking in for months! if my house fee wasn't so high ( $95 if you walk in past 3:30 pm), i feel like i woudn't be so nervous..and its also because i've realized my earnings are very much tied to my self esteem, and so i'm terrified of trying and then failing.

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    Default Re: Overcoming the Fear of not making $

    The dumbest thing is, I don't actually NEED to work, so I can just relax because it would be for fun money/savings. Like you I'm afraid of not being able to make house, or wasting money on gas and not making much. In reality I've only earned less than my house fee twice-in my entire career-and both times the managers cut me a break. Maybe like you I'm tying $ to my self esteem. There's definitely some mental block I need to work through. This is probably the best time for me to dance. I can just have fun with it, yet I'm still anxious. WTF!

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    Default Re: Overcoming the Fear of not making $

    I'm the exact same way and this is why I like having another job where I get a real paycheck. Just the fact that income from stripping is not consistent and guaranteed gives me some anxiety and I feel like if I'm worrying too much about how much I need to make then it puts me in a weird mood and I don't end up making as much. But when I know I just got a paycheck or will be getting one in a week or two I'm more at ease and worry less about how much I NEED to make at the club and I make more. Plus how confident I feel that day or if I'm in a good mood or not greatly affects my money and that alone is why I need to be getting a paycheck also.

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    I think this is a real and legitimate fear that every small business person experiences. Imagine being a dancer in New Orleans in Aug of 2005. Suddenly your whole world is turned upside down because Mother Nature decided to blow your city off the map. I've worked in towns where suddenly all the strip clubs lose their liquor licenses, Seattle passed laws where strip clubs had to brighten up their interiors considerably (they called it grocery store lighting. Yeah, it's as bad as it sounds), or the local government decides to revoke the business licenses of the only club in town. Shit happens in this business, and stability is a legit concern for everyone who relies on stripping to pay the bills.

    A few slow shifts in a row still causes me to panic a bit. 9/11/01 was terrible for so many reasons, not the least of which was that the entire country was not in the mood to go party. The clubs were dead for weeks after the 9/11 tragedy, which created personal tragedy for the thousands or tens of thousands of strippers across the country. Being concerned about not being able to make any money, is totally justified.

    How you combat that concern is to put some money into an emergency fund. An amount as small as $2000 could really come in handy for unforeseen events. Try to have enough to cover 4-6 weeks worth of bills should something terrible happen where you just can't work and/or business dries up completely.

    I've also seen strippers suffer because they rely on one or two regulars for income. You need a diversified client base. If you are just happily drifting along at a club and didn't bother to notice that the club is slowly dying, losing that 1 or 2 regulars could spell financial doom. Have a back up club in mind should this happen, and try to pick up shifts at the back up club at least every other month or so.

    The fear of not being able to make my financial goals, keeps me hustling. I love my regulars, but I also try to keep hustling.

    Fear cures laziness.

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    Default Re: Overcoming the Fear of not making $

    I'm the same way. I think it stresses me out more now because I have absolutely not regulars whatsoever so there's no security. I had a terrible week and barely made $600 after working 4 shifts and I'm really worried about what this week is gonna be like!

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    Quote Originally Posted by simone87 View Post
    ^ im also very scared of that, and is kept me from walking in for months! if my house fee wasn't so high ( $95 if you walk in past 3:30 pm), i feel like i woudn't be so nervous..and its also because i've realized my earnings are very much tied to my self esteem
    I am exactly like this! The past few shifts I've worked, I went home either owing the house or making under $100. I get so nervous, I constantly come up with excuses as to why I can't go in, each time I think I should. Having so many slow nights has caused me to lose a lot of confidence in my ability to make $$ (I feel like I always make less than everyone else, even though the other girls say it has been slow for them too.) Simone - How did you finally get over your fear?

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    Default Re: Overcoming the Fear of not making $

    ^i haven't gotten over it yet but i'm starting my second job again and now that im not so desperate for money i think its going to help like the other girls have said. i also really need to be in the zone. when things are going badly in every day life, they start going bad at work. this week im getting my nails done, doing my hair differently, and putting on my new sparkly green two piece. that oughtta help

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    Default Re: Overcoming the Fear of not making $

    This fear and anxiety has never gone away for me in over 5 years of dancing. It's stressful and starts to effect my mental health in my normal everyday life (it literally makes me sick, and I already have depression issues so this only makes it worse). I wish I could control it better.

    I'm going to either start working doubles (day shifts at one club and nights at another), or get a regular day job at a restaurant and still dance at night. Especially now since most of my regulars have recently expired. I was stupid when I had a handful of them consistently coming in and I didn't work as often as I should have. I should've taken advantage of that time to make what I could so that I wouldn't be in such a pickle now. That regret also doesn't help with the desperation for money.

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    Default Re: Overcoming the Fear of not making $

    I struggle with this a bit too because I work in a high house fee club and also buy off stage, so I need to make about $150 before I see a profit for the night. The silly thing is, I do well at this club and make consistently better money there than anywhere else I've worked in my area. I also have always preferred clubs where you pay a flat fee and then keep all your dance money, even if it's a high fee. It's still a hard psychological hurdle to get past though! The only time I don't feel at least a twinge of "What if I don't make any money" as I'm getting ready is on Saturdays.

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    Yep, I have the same exact problem! But I try to constantly remind myself that, on average, I make way more than, say, a McDonald's employee. And this keeps me going and helps tame the fear a bit.
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    Default Re: Overcoming the Fear of not making $

    Every night I make lots of money feels like a surprise, a gift from the universe, or a blessing. For some reason I always go in feeling like I'll barely cover house, sitter, and still be able to tip the staff. Which is probably why my hustle is on point and I am one of the "top earners" for the club, lol

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