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    Okay so I finally have worked my confidence back up and have had a positive attitude at work. Today there weren't many girls here so I was in a good mood. Now they're filing in and bringing all their nasty bitchy attitudes, bitching at me for no reason, complaining. When I'm just minding my own business and not talking to anyone. Then my "friend" come in , we had used to be best friends but now she's acting bitchy and hanging out with people she says she "hates". But anyways I'm not here to bitch, any advice or positive quotes you ladies can give me to help avoid the negativity and keep my head up and my hustle on game?

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    Oh and bitches are loving to talk shit to me about how my spray tan is "grayish" or "looks bad" when it looks just fucking fine. I didn't ask anyone. And they keep riding my ass about it.

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    don't go near them or around them. try and keep out of the dressing room, and away from them! for the most part, girls are going to bitch when they feel threatened, so take it as a compliment. back when i was making really good money a year or two ago, was the time when i had girls all over me bitching about my hair, my weight, my outfits, etc.

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    Come in as early as possible & spend minimal time in the dressing room or anywhere else they are infesting. Sounds like you are really letting them get into your head; why?? No, seriously -- why?? If they are just being constructive, treat them like the buzzy, insignificant gnats that they are. Whatever they are on abt, let it literally go in one ear & out the other.

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    Please. Read the thread in Hustle Hut, "Law of Attrac. & Me being a $ Maker" at the very top, also join the LOA group mentioned on the last page


    MANY MEN WANTED TO LAY ME DOWN, BUT FEW WANTED TO LIFT ME UP

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    I couldn't. I let it get to me . After making 600$ on day shift, the girls came in and wouldn't leave me alone. Even on the floor. Constantly hounded. A drunk girl even came up to me when I was with a customer and said "why are you talking to her?! She doesn't even have tits!!!!" And was like slurring and all crazy. I was there 6 hours. I left with 10$ in tips. Not a single dance in 6 hours. I feel SO DEFEATED. My manager even said " you couldn't get shit. Not even 20$ ? " and laughed at me. I feel like crying.

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    WHY are you letting these a**holes get you down? Please, re-read above, thank you. Also: https://www.stripperweb.com/forum/sh...y-other-dancer


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    OP this business will eat you alive if you do not grow up & toughen up. Other girls are mean & don't approve of you? Tough shit -- they are not paying your bills so you sure as fk do not owe them any submissive bs.

    $600 on dayshift is great -- why are you letting them suck your confidence up? Hopefully you are not giving them any hint as to your earnings -- they see you as a threat & are trying to run you out. You can either grow sm emotional waterproofing & let that crap slide right off, find another club where the girls are not so aggressive, or get out of dancing altogether, bc even in the best clubs you will find this behaviour.

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    You don't see them. You don't hear them. You're a star and they're dirt under your feet. I literally will not talk or acknowledge another girl's presence unless she has something nice to say. I've heard girls talking shit right behind me and I just pretended they were invisible, finished getting ready and walked out of the dressing room. I will walk away from them in mid sentence if they say something negative to my face. If they criticize my appearance I'll say something like "uh okay, whatever" or "if you say so" and go on with my day.

    One of my besties at my old club started making serious money and got seriously bullied by the other girls because she engaged in their behavior. Eventually her money suffered. I finally would start pulling her away from the bullies and tell her to only talk to me unless a bitch had something positive to say. I have rarely been criticized or bullied because I absolutely refuse to participate in their little game. Disengage from them altogether.

    I read a quote the other day "Have you ever met a hater doing better than you? Me neither." So true! Keep repeating that to yourself every time.

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    I'd also love to know if your manager can pull $600 a day. What does he make, like $10 an hour? Next time you have a good night give him a $10 tip and tell him he probably needs it more than you do.

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    Maybe just work the dayshift then. You'll be getting changed to go home as the night girls are coming in. It's possible that they were getting to you because you were tired after a long successful dayshift. 6 hrs is a long but do-able time to be hustling and dancing...that might just be your physical limit.

    Also, your management sounds ridiculously unprofessional. Both because dude laughed at your for not making money and because they allow behavior like what your described with the girl coming up to your customer to talk him out of getting dances. Shit is not ok and you may wanna think about finding a club with more professional management.

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    Quote Originally Posted by wednesday86 View Post
    You don't see them. You don't hear them. You're a star and they're dirt under your feet. I literally will not talk or acknowledge another girl's presence unless she has something nice to say. I've heard girls talking shit right behind me and I just pretended they were invisible, finished getting ready and walked out of the dressing room. I will walk away from them in mid sentence if they say something negative to my face.
    Exactly. This is how act. I don't even look at the other girls. I make it a point to not even notice them. Sometimes I think it would be nice to have friends at work to chat with when it's slow but it's not worth all the bullshit that comes with it. I have zero drama because I refuse to engage.

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    $600 on dayshift? No wonder they mad

    Just brush it off, stay on the floor, let them act foolish and make asses of themselves to customers.

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    I recently switched clubs primarily to avoid stereotypical dressing room drama. Yes, it is important to learn how to deal with horrible people, but why deal with them if you don't have to? The culture can vary dramatically from one club to the next, even if they're on the same block. I've learned to avoid clubs that tolerate open drug use and clubs that have house moms, just because it makes my job less stressful and it's easier to make money when you're in a good mood. Toughening yourself up is always a good idea, but have you tried other clubs in your area?

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