Any advice on how to get my wife to go to the strip club with me?
Any advice on how to get my wife to go to the strip club with me?





Umm, how bout asking her?
If she says no, offer an incentive (shopping trip, etc.)?
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If she says no, I would just leave it at that. Nothing worse than a woman in a strip club who doesn't want to be there. I doubt anyone woule have a good time.
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You could just respect her personal boundaries. You know, since she's your wife and all and you're supposed to love her.





Doesn't going to the strip club with your wife sort of defeat the purpose for being there in the first place?
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If it's not something she enjoys, then she would only be there out of obligation. That wouldn't be fun for either of you. Find something else "naughty" to do, that you both enjoy, instead.
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um, no. don't make her go. you can always spot the couple where the wife is really uncomfortable and wishing she were anywhere else. it kills the fun party vibe, and drives the strippers far, far away.
im sure there are lots of places YOU would feel uncomfortable in, put yourself in her shoes.









Have you asked her? Why do you want her to go? Some of the rudest behavior I've seen in strip clubs has been from female "customers" who didn't want to be there. Last week ! saw a couple having a great time together in a club but, honestly, that's rare. If you think it might be fun well, you might be right but only if she wants to be there. Do you go by yourself? Does she know? Has she ever expressed even the slightest curiosity about it?




I took one girlfriend once, I think it was her idea but do not recall, she knew I went on occasion. Let's just say it was a fun ride home.
I would not suggest pushing it, especially if she has expressed disinterest or outright hostility.
Maybe, now maybe mind you within a few weeks of broaching the subject and providing you still posses your testicles, go out to dinner at a place that you can arrange to drive by a pre screened club[as in no crotch grabbing at the front door or bjs in the aisle] afterwards and give her the old, 'hey wanna go look at nekkid women and have me attack you afterwards?'
But take no as an answer, no begging. As the ladies have noted, nothing worse than a woman who doesn't want to be at a strip club..........
As a side note, I remember a few years ago a chubby little Latina sitting at the stage, with 2 guys. Turns out one was her husband and it was her 21st birthday. She was a bit shy at the stage, but when one of the dancers came over and did some floor work, and spread out for her, she smiled a huge smile, she was fucking thrilled. The guys were trying to be all cool, 'I've seen that before' but she, absolutely no guile, big grin, she was loving her some vagina that night. The kids were obviously pretty broke, so a couple of guys, myself included put a few bucks up in front of her. She had fun, the dancers had fun, and I am certain her husband had fun later on. A fun strip joint moment for sure.
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I never thought I'd say this but I can empathize with them....I feel bad for female custies that get dragged in against their will.
Just leave her at home dude. You're just going to piss her off, then dragging her in there miserable will piss off the dancers. Break the cycle.
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Yeah, definitely let it go. Even women who "think" they will be okay with it usually aren't ok once they get there. Which is totally understandable. I don't know what your wife is like, but for the average American woman, I'm sure it would be overwhelming and maybe a little shocking.
Plus you don't to run the risk of making her feel insecure or bad about herself. It would probably just end in a fight. I've seen it time and time again....
As others have already said, if you've asked and she's said no, then leave it alone. I understand why it's a fantasy for some guys, but a wife/gf that doesn't want to be in a strip club but got pressured into going is the worst for everyone involved. She will hate it, and as a result, will act snarky, insecure, and just all around no-fun. This will piss off the dancers and they will avoid your table. Then you're gonna be upset and disappointed that your wife is acting bitchy and the dancers want nothing to do with you. Why would you want to put anyone, yourself included, through such a terrible night?
Last edited by Aurora_Sunset; 05-16-2014 at 10:08 PM.
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This is customer convo. Customers are invited to this section to ask questions. That is all the OP did. There is no reason for anyone to go into snark mode here. If a guy goes too far he deserves what gets dished back to him. That is not the case here.
Yoda, I'm going to reply to your post because you asked the most questions and it should cover all of the other posters questions/replies (hopefully). Have you asked her? Yes, many times. Why do you want her to go? She has it stuck in her head that all dancers are W#0&*$ (her words) and I would just like to show her different. Do you go by yourself? Only once in a while. Does she know? Yes, and that's what pisses her off. Especially when I want sex when I get home, that's when the shit hits the fan. Has she ever expressed even the slightest curiosity about it? No. I'm not looking for a 3-way, I don't want her to get dances, I just want her to relax. Thanks everyone.




Look, basically she is already pissed off. If you bring her in, all you are doing is inflicting your shit onto some other people[dancers]





You are fighting a losing battle here New Kid. She already hates these women. They don't need someone like that in the club when they are trying to work and, quite frankly, why on earth would you want to bring this kind of shit storm down on yourself?
Thanks for confirming that I did the right thing by NEVER mentioning strip clubs to my ex wife even though I went to them through most of our marriage...
There are some things you can't "fix". This is one of them.





Do an exchange. Go to a quilting bee with her if she goes to a club with you.
I hear what you're saying, I'm just not the type of guy to sneak around or lie about things. There is nothing illegal about going to a strip club, massage parlor, watching porn, etc. As far as the "shit storm," I'm just not a confrontational person, so it just goes in one ear and out the other when she starts her "shit storm."










So she thinks all dancers are whores ... Knows this deep down in her deepest heart of hearts ... This is one of those 'lead a horse to water' situations. I have fun w/ women that come to the club for a good time, but bring her into my club when I am working, if she gives me that kind of attitude she will leave in tears. Save yourselves & the dancers the aggravation of dealing w/ her ignorant righteousness & leave her at home.
She doesn't want to be around us, and we DEFINITELY don't want to be around her.
Do you honestly expect us to give you lines to use on your wife to make her agree to be dragged to a strip club?!
There are some women who don't care if their husbands go to SCs and lots that do care. Do you really think showing your wife the place where her husband spends money on strange, hot women that obviously rile him up sexually is going to go over well if she already clearly has an issue with it? She's not going to go in and see what wonderful, intelligent people we are, and that we're "just doing our job" which is "harmless fun." She's going to see a place full of "floozies," walking around naked, being flirty with her and her husband, and trying to sell songs worth of grinding (lapdances).
It's nice that you want to be honest, but if you do, I think you're just gonna have to make peace with the fact that you and her are not going to see eye to eye on this topic.
Don't try to win over the haters. You are not the Jerk Whisperer.
Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you.





Some things are just meant to be kept secret, private, just for you. You won't regret it. Just keep this to yourself from now on, and enjoy the fuck out of yourself. That way, when you've hit 70 and are divorced, you will at least have the strip club memories that all belong to just YOU. You own those memories, and the current times of being in sexy fantasy land without worrying about the ill criticisms from your wife. And then you can say to yourself, "fuck that bitch I was married too."
In the meantime, try spooning her and kissing her softly against the back of her neck. Go slow, be seductive. Turn her on. Tie her up, get kinky. Do something to get HER off, then maybe you two can have a more sexually fulfilling relationship!
"Dancing tables, making deals with devils like a drunk beauty queen"
You sound like a mellow dude with honest intentions. Your wife sounds cray-cray.
If you want to show her another side of strippers, why don't you find a particularly intellectual thread on stripperweb and show it to her? Or tell her there are doctors and lawyers and engineers who danced to help pay for their education, and yet SOMEHOW they've gone on to be pillars of the community instead of killing children, stealing everyone's husband, and dying of a heroin overdose.
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