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    I have a regular who spends quite a lot on me. I can usually count on him for $300-600 a week. He's got this really annoying habit of telling me how he likes to get his money's worth in the dances. I haven't said anything to him and have shrugged it off because he is a very reliable spender. He is a bit of a handful, I have to remove his hands from my panties at times, and that damn tongue never stays in his mouth. Otherwise, he is basically a harmless, lonely old man.

    The whole "money's worth" comment is really starting to bother me. I just can't figure out how to tell him that he is insulting me and our business relationship every time he says it. I think he thinks he's being funny when he says it, but last time he was in, it really bugged me.

    I probably can't really say anything about the comment being insulting w/o harming the business relationship. I guess I just wanted to share one of the daily frustrations of being a stripper and the kind of rude behavior we put up with in the day-to-day exchanges with our customers.

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    Default Re: "I wanna get my money's worth!"

    i hate that. what that means to me is " unless you are blowing/fucking/fondling me, its not worth my money!" , like just getting a normal dance from me isn't "their money's worth", and i need to do something special or extraordinary for it to be worth it. its insulting.

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    It IS insulting. If you're a random old pervy stinky man, having a young hot girl even flirt with you, let alone grind on you, is worth at least $20. I'm confused about where these customers get this entitlement complex, where they feel it's not a privilege but their RIGHT to get special treatment from us. Maybe the media where every schlep seems to automatically deserve a much hotter younger woman?

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    Default Re: "I wanna get my money's worth!"

    ^^ Right? These guys probably wouldn't think twice about paying $20 just to get into a nice nightclub or dropping $100 on drinks. Yet, they seem to think that asking a hot woman, who doesn't know them and has zero incentive to even say hi to them let alone whip off their clothes and grind on them, is not worth at least 20 dollars. Like, really?

    Quote Originally Posted by starlily View Post
    I'm confused about where these customers get this entitlement complex, where they feel it's not a privilege but their RIGHT to get special treatment from us. Maybe the media where every schlep seems to automatically deserve a much hotter younger woman?
    I think it's probably this, plus the fact that it's seen as "just our job" to act "slutty." It goes hand in hand with the phenomenon where guys will beg and plead and offer ridiculous amounts of money for a single dance with the bartender or waitress while ignoring all the dancers. Or, when it's amateur night, guys will hoot and holler and throws 100's of dollars on stage for civilian girls just taking their top off, but when it comes to an actual stripper on stage, they feel entitled to just freeload-watch all night or expect you to stage dive into their lap with your pussy in their face for a measly dollar. It's like, the less you are expected to do, the more money men will throw down to get you to do even a little extra. When they already view us as just "oh, it's those sluts' JOB to take off their clothes and stick their titties in my mouth," it ups the ante as to what they expect us to do for their money. Because, you know, why spend money on a girl who is already supposed to take her clothes off and grind on you no matter what unless she's willing to do more for you than all the other guys?
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    Default Re: "I wanna get my money's worth!"

    It's for sure gross, insulting, and aggravating. However, if he's just saying it to rustle your jimmies like you suspect, then you shouldn't take it seriously. I mean I know it's so simple to say "oh girl don't let it bother you" and not so simple to actually do it -- but maybe try playing along with his joke?

    Is he saying it at specific times, like when he tries to touch you and you're moving his hands? Because you could easily shut it down and make yourself sympathetic by agreeing with him. For example, you could be like, "I know! If only I could give you more without risking having the bouncers see you, call the cops, and put you in jail for the night! I just hate to think of you at the mercy of your cellmate Bubba. Oh well, isn't this fun anyway? [boobs in face, he'll be powerless to disagree]" I find that telling guys that their behavior could get them in trouble with nebulously threatening third parties is a great deterrent. They really don't care about their behavior as it impacts you, i.e., disrespecting you or making you uncomfortable.

    But other than that, I think this type of customer is a total "You know you're a stripper when…" moment, because I think we've all dealt with a generous, mostly harmless, but relentlessly lecherous old man regular!

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    Default Re: "I wanna get my money's worth!"

    what that means to me is " unless you are blowing/fucking/fondling me, its not worth my money!" , like just getting a normal dance from me isn't "their money's worth", and i need to do something special or extraordinary for it to be worth it
    Insulting or not, the 'new normal' strip club business model not only means that guys like this will rapidly stop spending money on a particular dancer if she doesn't provide the 'extras' the guy is expecting, but also almost certainly means that this customer WILL find some other dancer who is more than willing to provide the 'extras' he's looking for.

    Beyond that, it's now also necessary to hope that this 'dissatisfied' customer doesn't post about you on a strip club review site ... which in turn would enable other customers with similar expectations of 'extras' to avoid spending money on private dances with you at all because they have already been told that you won't provide 'extras'.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Melonie View Post
    Insulting or not, the 'new normal' strip club business model not only means that guys like this will rapidly stop spending money on a particular dancer if she doesn't provide the 'extras' the guy is expecting, but also almost certainly means that this customer WILL find some other dancer who is more than willing to provide the 'extras' he's looking for.

    Beyond that, it's now also necessary to hope that this 'dissatisfied' customer doesn't post about you on a strip club review site ... which in turn would enable other customers with similar expectations of 'extras' to avoid spending money on private dances with you at all because they have already been told that you won't provide 'extras'.
    There are ways around this situation. I'm a skilled dirty talker, and the spinning of tales has trumped the need to provide extras. I didn't get here overnight, but I did shorten the learning curve a bit by reading erotica and then re-telling the tales in the stories to my customers as part of my VIP hustle. One customer was so into the story that he "remembered" the situation as getting to perform oral sex on me at the club. Alcohol was a strongly contributing factor. My manager reviewed the video just in case the customer was right, and all he saw was me whispering in the customer's ear while perched upon his lap.

    Memories are such malleable things. I try to end a VIP session on a high note even if the majority of the time spent in VIP was mediocre at best. It's the last few minutes that will stick with a person more than any other part of the interaction. Just like when you go see a movie that you are enjoying and then it has a crappy ending and the entire experience is ruined. VIPs kind of work the same way.

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    Here's how it would go in my life:

    Him: "I wanna get my money's worth!"
    Me: "Then you better make damn sure I get my money."

    Rudeness begets rudeness.

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    Default Re: "I wanna get my money's worth!"

    Quote Originally Posted by countcrabula View Post
    Here's how it would go in my life:

    Him: "I wanna get my money's worth!"
    Me: "Then you better make damn sure I get my money."

    Rudeness begets rudeness.
    During my last weeks of dancing, I had a similar scenario to this one. That particular customer got kicked out with no refund.





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