Do any of you have or have had hobbyist, particularly new ones, who do not understand the Rules of Engagement. Ughh.. Now I know why most do not deal with newbies... they act like high scholl idiots.



Do any of you have or have had hobbyist, particularly new ones, who do not understand the Rules of Engagement. Ughh.. Now I know why most do not deal with newbies... they act like high scholl idiots.


A lot of them play like they're newbies to try to get away with crap and ask stupid questions but even the ones who have been around awhile still try to get unsafe services and more than what they paid for so yeah, it is kind of like arguing with 14 yr olds lol except they're twisted and a lot older :/
Last edited by yellowrose25; 05-23-2014 at 06:59 PM.



I like that analogy. I have one I am about to cut off before ever meeting. He is definitely acting like a 14 yr old who has never been out of the house. I am almost afraid he'll wet his pants the moment I walk thru the door.



So this "Newbie" is and does what he says.. No previous references. ;(
He stayed after me to txt. I told him I do not txt but use Kik. He sends 20-30 msgs a day (which ignore 90% of them) and I have not even seen him yet. First msg was "how long had I been escorting?" I immediately replied that I only discussed weather and pertinent news stories. Then they go to "I really want you. Do you really want me" "What are you wearing, favorite bra, favorite this/that... " yada yada yada.. very needy.. lol I ignore all of those.
He asked for a pic at the beginning so I sent him a back shot and informed him that was only to show him I was a real person not a bot. He would not get anymore until after we had met. So yesterday he kept bugging me again and again. Finally I said that I have been know to send an interesting email after I get an egift card. This was an attempt to get him to realize my time needs to be reimbursed in some way. He responded by saying "when it makes sense he would send a gift card". Well, I think he is cut off as it does not "Make sense" for me to take my valuable time to answer his messages all day long...
I am seriously thinking of not seeing him at all due to this seemingly uncontrollable and immature behavior.
Thoughts on this type of behavior? Is it normal or excessive? I have only dealt with a couple of experienced hobbyist in the past and what a difference.
Wow. Excessive. Definitely. He sounds like he's more looking for a sugar baby than an escort. He clearly wants someone who will always be up for giving him attention and acting like they're really into him even outside of appointments. I keep in occasional contact with a few clients via text or email a couple times a month between seeing them, but it doesn't extend past "Hey, how's it going? Can't wait to see you again."
And I would never send them pictures. I immediately stop talking to and block people who ask for pictures. Experienced or not, they should know that's a no-no. It's not worth the headache to deal with a guy like this. I would cut him off, block him, and not go through with the appointment.
Don't try to win over the haters. You are not the Jerk Whisperer.
Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you.





This joker is a waste of time. He wants a sexy girlfriend without dating or spending money.
If he didn't book an appointment within a reasonable period time, say a day or so he NEVER will. He wants free pics, free sexting & such.
Remember cops play at being newbies to get you to name what you will do for what money. Any man can go on the web & read up easily how to do these transactions.
There are plenty of pic collectors & guys who play this game & want sex for free or a discount since you are now friends. More than likely, if you contact other girls in your area he is doing the same thing with about 10 to 20 other gals. Seeing who is sooo needy for money that they will play his game for free in hopes of making a sale.
Face it, he will never book.
Sam

Yeah, 20-30 messages a day when you only respond to one or two of them is very excessive. Obsessive really. He's obviously not thinking about the message his 30 messages really sends.
That's a strange question to ask when you've never met in person. Really a strange question to ask an escort anyway unless it's part of the fun.



Thank you all so much... those were my thoughts too. Especially when he keeps asking if I am really wanting him.
@Sam38G- yes, I have kept that in the back of my mind. So I have kept all of my communications vanilla. He wanted to meet yesterday but I was busy already. He even asked if he could come to my home. I said that was not an option.
@Aurora_Sunset... I definitely am getting that type of vibe from him.



Thank you all so much... those were my thoughts too. Especially when he keeps asking if I am really wanting him.
@Sam38G- yes, I have kept that in the back of my mind. So I have kept all of my communications vanilla. He wanted to meet yesterday but I was busy already. He even asked if he could come to my home. I said that was not an option.
@Aurora_Sunset... I definitely am getting that type of vibe from him.





I had have a few of those: they're either virgin lolbertarians (a play on words on "libertarian") or cops. I don't bother with those if they ask for pictures or start asking me too many details.




Ask if he's interested in your 'girlfriend flirt service', $50 per week, entitles you to 25 emails and a couple sexy pics or whatever terms you can think up - make him realize that there is a cost, that you can discuss setting up an appointment time, but don't have time beyond that...
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I don't know what it is about me that says "wife me up." Everyone wants to choke me or date me. Or both. This job is weird.
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... Kittens are assholes but they're just so darn cute.





My guess he wants, his ego wants you to desire him as much as he wants you... once you write that you do. He will be then why do I have to pay if this is mutual.
That many text is over kill. Trust your instincts & run him off. It will only get worst. He is already pushing your boundaries before evening meeting. Wanting to know where you live, sounds like a stalker in the makings.
Sam



Sent message that I was changing my policy and would not be continuing that conversation. I then blocked him on Kik.
Thank you all... yes my instincts were telling me something was not right there. You all helped to confirm that was not normal behaviour.
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