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    Default Insulting other dancers- anyone else not do that??

    I am not into slagging people down, especially not in the club where I choose to conduct myself professionally (it is my job after all!) In fact, if I find another dancer pretty, I will compliment her hair/shoes/whatever. If I don't think she is attractive, I just won't say anything. Simple as that.

    Tonight, I was talking with a nice guy, and this other dancer kept pushing herself at him and basically twisting his arm to buy a dance from her. He was not interested in her in the least. He liked me very much, and actually wanted a dance from me; but he didn't want to go off with me because he was so scared of how she would react. She was also trying to boss me around and intimidate me, but I politely ignored her and brushed her right off. She finally left us alone, but not after she'd put us both through a fair amount of hell.

    We kept talking and later on he told me what she said about me when I first walked by: "She looks likes she's 12 and her mother did her hair." (I will never confront her about this though) TBH, this dancer is not attractive, she is out of shape, and her face is very run-down looking, like she's 10 years older than she is.

    Not trying to flatter myself, but her jealousy was *soooo* obvious- even the customer picked up on it, as she kept trying to impress him and get his attention, plus she threw me nasty looks and continued trying to belittle me in whatever way she could.

    Since the guy was scared to get a dance with me after all that, he ended up just handing me a twenty plus lots more on stage. She got zero dollars from him.

    So I'm curious- do you insult/compliment other dancers? I wanna hear your stories ladies!!

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    Default Re: Insulting other dancers- anyone else not do that??

    wow that dude has ZERO balls! he was scared? pfffff
    i like to compliment other girls. it makes me feel better, and hopefully them. i like positive energy at work. i won't insult another dancer to a customer ever, it comes off as jealousy and insecurity. i've noticed the girls who get shit-talked out back are usually very pretty and very good hustlers..the girls who aren't attractive aren't gossiped about, instead they are treated rather kindly.

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    Default Re: Insulting other dancers- anyone else not do that??

    I had have tons of dancers doing what the OP described. Also, there are the customers who simply make up stuff to create (previously non existent) drama among dancers.

    During the time I danced, I had about three or four situations (at the most) in where I had been insulted and/or I had insulted another dancer. I tried my best to keep it to myself: I already had too much drama already in the navy reserve, didn't need more from titty bars.





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    Default Re: Insulting other dancers- anyone else not do that??

    At the club where I work, day shift and night shift are hired by two different managers because the type of customers that come for each shift are really different. A lot of the day girls don't appeal to the night crowd and vice versa, so when night girls end up working day shift, customers tend to be really awful to them because they find them trashy, and tend to say really rude things about them to the regular day dancers (such as myself). And while I do agree that a lot of the night girls are pretty unpleasant, I don't ever say anything about it. And just in general, day shift doesn't really have that sort of drama.

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    Default Re: Insulting other dancers- anyone else not do that??

    Quote Originally Posted by KikiGem View Post
    do you insult/compliment other dancers?
    I don't insult other dancers because a. I don't have much to say about them and b. customers usually don't like that sort of thing since they're in the club to have a good time.

    I used to compliment other dancers sometimes to customers. I do it now only if I'm friendly with the dancer. Otherwise I don't care very much about my coworkers and try to limit having to talk to them.

    Talking about other dancers, good or bad, is a waste of energy for me and I feel it's best if I don't say anything about them at all.

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    Default Re: Insulting other dancers- anyone else not do that??

    My exp & behaviour both pretty much mirror simone87's. Talking shit only leads to trouble, you nvr know which customer or fellow dancer is friendly w/ the girl you are insulting & if/when it gets back to her, well ... we already know how that tends to turn out.

    I try to compliment the girls I work w/ sincerely, hair, shoes, looks, whatever. I think ppl can pick up on insincere compliments/ass-kissing & if they think you are being sarcastic towards them it can also lead to trouble.

    Also had my share of shit talked abt me, I just tell the person 'relaying' the info, 'Yes, so?' If they persist I ask if they really believe everything they hear, ESP in a SC. Customers will also sm times try to stir the pot between dancers bc they get off on the drama, so I esp brush off whatever crap they claim a coworker said abt me.

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    Default Re: Insulting other dancers- anyone else not do that??

    Used to insult them when I was younger. Big mistake. You just give them free publicity. If a customer says something or asks a question I just play dumb and say I don't know her well enough.
    Now if they've got bigger tits than me and more tattoos it's on. I compliment the fuck out of them.
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    Default Re: Insulting other dancers- anyone else not do that??

    I talk up other dancers all the time because most men love that I'm a little bi. It only seems to make me more money. The worst I say is "She's beautiful but not my type" if asked. If a customer complains about another dancer, I listen to what he didn't like specifically and use that information to highlight my differences. I try never to say a bad word and it only works out well. It creates positivity and demonstrates my confidence.

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    Default Re: Insulting other dancers- anyone else not do that??

    I always try to be nice to other girls and compliment them if there's something about them I like, but most London dancers are so cunty that when I do compliment them it's received with suspicion... "what the fuck you do mean you like my dress? HUH?"

    I've had an INSANE amount of girls shit-talking me to customers since I started dancing here and it sucks, but what can you do (my favorite insult is a girl told a customer I don't brush my hair, weirdest insult ever). I don't insult other dancers to their face as I'm not looking to start drama, and I certainly don't insult girls to customers as that is the EASIEST way to stop them from opening up their wallet. The only time I've ever talked badly about another dancer was if she fucked me over in some way and I was venting... but I definitely don't go around talking to other girls saying "omfg did you see her dress? it looked like shit!" I have better things to do with my time.

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    Default Re: Insulting other dancers- anyone else not do that??

    Yeah, I never insult other dancers to customers. Talking shit about the club or other dancers makes you look bad by comparison. If they suck so bad what does that say about YOU for working in the same establishment? Plus it just encourages customers to be rude, grabby, and not spend, and who wants that? There is seriously no reason ever to talk shit.

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    Default Re: Insulting other dancers- anyone else not do that??

    He was scared of how the dancer would react if he got a dance? Sounds like a pathetic excuse to not get a dance. I would have just told him that she doesn't own him and led him to the dance room; if he still didn't want a dance then I would have just left. Don't waste your time and energy trying to compete with that crazy psychotic dancer; not worth it.

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    Default Re: Insulting other dancers- anyone else not do that??

    The only dancers I ever pay attention to are my friends. The rest of them don't exist. If a customer asks me about a non friend dancer, I just say that I don't really know her and change the subject.

    My friends will always get complements from me and, if the custy I'm dancing for shows a lot of interest, I'll always encourage them to get a dance. Or if I'm sitting with a group, I'll wave them over. My besties and I always try to hustle for eachother.

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    Default Re: Insulting other dancers- anyone else not do that??

    I had another dancer try to fuck me out of my best night ever. She kept saying nasty things about me to the customer and was being really bossy. I was so irritated by her I wanted to break the champagne bottle over her head. But little did she know, Her and another dancer got to spend another hour in the room but the guy paid for my drunk friend and I the same amount for the room price so I could take care of my drunk friend. He told my manager I was lovely but he was tired of that bitch trash talking me so he basically paid for and my friend to KICK IT and said the joke was on the bitch because she had to grind on cock while my friend and I basically did what we want.

    I don't insult other dancers though. I try to be as professional as possible and really don't pay attention to them unless they are my friends.

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    I had another dancer try to fuck me out of my best night ever. She kept saying nasty things about me to the customer and was being really bossy. I was so irritated by her I wanted to break the champagne bottle over her head. But little did she know, Her and another dancer got to spend another hour in the room but the guy paid for my drunk friend and I the same amount for the room price so I could take care of my drunk friend. He told my manager I was lovely but he was tired of that bitch trash talking me so he basically paid for and my friend to KICK IT and said the joke was on the bitch because she had to grind on cock while my friend and I basically did what we want.

    I don't insult other dancers though. I try to be as professional as possible and really don't pay attention to them unless they are my friends.

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    Default Re: Insulting other dancers- anyone else not do that??

    Quote Originally Posted by Plutoniangirl View Post
    I had another dancer try to fuck me out of my best night ever. She kept saying nasty things about me to the customer and was being really bossy. I was so irritated by her I wanted to break the champagne bottle over her head. But little did she know, Her and another dancer got to spend another hour in the room but the guy paid for my drunk friend and I the same amount for the room price so I could take care of my drunk friend. He told my manager I was lovely but he was tired of that bitch trash talking me so he basically paid for and my friend to KICK IT and said the joke was on the bitch because she had to grind on cock while my friend and I basically did what we want.
    LMAO that sounds so similar to what happened to me yesterday. The other dancer kept pushing the room on him, saying he could take us both to the CR and she would "teach me how to give a lapdance" (bullshit because I already know, just her trying to belittle me)

    But she just didn't take the hint that he didn't like her!! In the end like I said before, the guy ended up just handing me more money than I would have made if I had gotten him to go private. Joke was on her because I got some money for nothing, she ended up being in a bad mood all day and hid in the DR, and didn't sell a single dance that day, plus she took off early.

    Trying to feel some sympathy for her, but it's hard to because she brought it all on herself; the minute she started trash talking me, the guy was turned off. She should know better.

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    Default Re: Insulting other dancers- anyone else not do that??

    If I'm talking to a customer, you'll never catch me insulting a dancer. Even if it's a dancer I don't like who I know has talked shit about me. Why? Because if a dancer is constantly talking shit about you to a customer (very unprofessional) while you carry yourself with poise, you are going to look "better" to the large majority of customers; you'll seem more mature, like the better person, etc. Even if it's a dancer you detest - it's better to be nice-nasty than just nasty. Lol.
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    Default Re: Insulting other dancers- anyone else not do that??

    I never talk shit about other dancers. I learned my lesson the hard way when I wasn't even trying to be mean - a customer pointed out another dancer and said "That girl seems kinda bitchy" and I just agreed and said "Yeah, she can be." A little while later, said dancer burst into the DR while I was in there and started yelling at some other girl about how a customer told her that that dancer said she was a bitch. The poor other dancer had no idea what was happening, and I just slunk out of the room...

    Not only is unprofessional to talk shit about other dancers, but there are way too many customers who get off on the drama. You barely even need to say anything to feed it, and it can go off the rails quickly cuz they think it's "funny." Girls should be focusing more on making themselves look good than trying to make other others look bad.
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    Default Re: Insulting other dancers- anyone else not do that??

    Pretty simple; Insults are childish. Seems to be common sense, who has the time otherwise? Bullies are pathetic.

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    Default Re: Insulting other dancers- anyone else not do that??

    The only time I will "talk about" another dancer negatively is with friends I KNOW will not repeat the information. I think it's just stupid to bad mouth another girl in front of a customer-you simply make yourself look bad, period. No wonder he didn't want to spend any time or money on her.
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