Hoped some others might enjoy this article also.
http://convergemagazine.com/26-unmar...hildless-8736/
Hoped some others might enjoy this article also.
http://convergemagazine.com/26-unmar...hildless-8736/





I stopped reading when I saw "no career". At 26, she should have at least a career or at least being "in between" careers (not jobs, but actual careers). She really IS wasting her time.
Well I have a four year degree and have been working in professional capacities since I was 22 and I still wouldn't say that I have a solid "career"

Unmarried and childless at 26 is no big deal. Why follow the norm simply to follow the norm? Don't get married until you want marriage, and don't have children until you want children. If you ever want them.
While I can see myself getting married if I found the right person (I was actually engaged at one point), it's not important to me to be married. And I'm not sure I ever want kids. Certainly not at this point in my life.
I'm sure it's somewhat different for women who definitely want biological children, seeing as their clock is ticking down. However, I've never understood the importance of blood when it comes to family; I'd be perfectly cool with adoption.


26 is actually pretty young still.



She makes it sound like she's 45 or 50! Calm down girl, jeez...
A lot of people nowadays are getting married and having kids a bit later in life than previous times anyways. She should be glad she still has her freedom and youth.





I think you guys are forgetting the "no career" part.
Ok, she is not hitched nor has a brat pulling her hair...good for her.
However, she hasn't even bother to develop herself professionally and that's bad for ANYONE: family of their own or not!
Last edited by Jay12; 06-03-2014 at 07:37 PM.
50% of marriages end in divorce anyway and children are a hassle in my opinion.She's not missing out on much I'm 29 and not married and childless and I feel fine about it.





I don't know many who get married this young. My brother and sister in law did get married at 25 but they had been together on an off since they were 16 (though had been friends since about 12). I am 43, childless and unmarried and have mixed feelings. I had my chances to get married but knew the guys weren't right. I always had mixed feelings on having kids because while I do like kids I was always terrified of pregnancy and afraid the man would stick me with the majority of the care of the baby. I would like to get married though but unfortunately at my age most of the good ones are gone. What's left seems to be the workaholics, the ones with mental problems and dads (I will never date a dad). I did meet a guy I connect with but he too has some mental problems (a drinking problem he is dealing with and asking me on a date with him AND HIS MOTHER). I tried online and got creepers, perverts, abusive misogynists and guys obviously single or divorced for a reason.





Stats show those who marry before 25 have a very high chance of divorce. Seems like too high of a risk.
I really liked it. I'm almost 26, unmarried, childless, and no career. It's really NOT that old... But people do act like you should have everything figured out already. The people who know exactly what they want and they've already pursued and achieved those milestones - great! But it's not the end of the world if it takes more than a few years out of college and in "the real world" to find something truly fulfilling.
I'm not going to throw myself into some stupid corporate world or shitty relationship just cuz other people think that's where I should be at this point. Like the article said, what if those aren't my ultimate goals? Maybe my goal isn't to have a husband or fancy career that I can splash all over Facebook - maybe it's to have the freedom to spend as much time as I want with friends, family, and other loved ones; maybe it's to see the world, because how can you change the world if you have no idea what's out there?
Sure, it's one thing to sit in your parents' basement and smoke weed all day with no purpose whatsoever to your life, but being husband-less, childless, and career-less in your mid-20s doesn't necessarily mean you're some pathetic slacker. Again, it's REALLY not that freakin' old... I'm sure most older people look back on being 26 and think about how much time they still had ahead of them at that point...
Don't try to win over the haters. You are not the Jerk Whisperer.
Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you.





^ i know right?? i'm 26 and this article is made me feel old, when..its really not. i have a child, but no husband and no vanilla career as of yet, although i do have concrete plans for one. its better to hold off until you are ready then to lock yourself into something as huge as that when you are just beginning to get to know yourself and what you want.
Right. Isn't there something about how your brain doesn't even stop fully developing until you're 24, or something like that? Yet, people expect you to throw yourself into something huge before you really take the time to figure out what's what?
I know some 40/50 year olds who bounce around to a different location and different career every 3-5 years, because they know they wouldn't be happy staying in one lifestyle forever. Some people are never going to fit the mold - that doesn't mean they're irresponsible or clueless even.
Don't try to win over the haters. You are not the Jerk Whisperer.
Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you.




I will say what I told a girl I was dating who was about 25 at the time, and was stressing about maybe quitting her shit job and didn't want to seem like a flake:
If you retire and get the gold watch at 65 after working for the company for 25 years, how old were you when you started there?



yes, i am tired of this. i hear the crap from my friends. those friends are drowning in underwater mortgages and broke. still pay for 5 yr old cars. i OWN my car and can fix it myself. THAT is a skill i will keep for life. is it a career? no. but from what i've learned from this recession, is that it isn't just about what top paying career you can get and how much stuff you can buy. all of that can be gone before your eyes. it's how much can you ADAPT and how self-sufficient can you be when there is no money. my life has it's own challenges, but i wouldn't trade it for a 9-5, white house with picket fence, etc.
to quote something from fight club:
"We buy things we don't need with money we don't have to impress people we don't like."
people change careers all the time nowadays. and honestly, sometimes having had different jobs can bring various skills you learned that can be applied to a current job that may not be present if you stayed in the same field the whole time.
she should get married and have kids when she wants to and is ready. if she never does that, that's ok too.





well it SHOULD always be the case that a parent puts their kids first, but its not always unfortunately. i've seen many cases of moms ( saying moms here because i'm not friends with any single dads) put their boyfriend first and either ignore their child in favor of spending more time with their man, or even in some cases allowing their children to be abused by their partner, all because they just can't cope with being single for awhile.
a man is not necessarily a "piece of shit" if he can't afford fancy restaurants, ESPECIALLY if he's spending all of his money on his previous responsibilities but he might not be the guy for you if that what you want.
26 isn't old at all! I think the US female average age for first time child is 27-29 depending on the location.





Got some reports about this thread so cleaned it up.
This is about women who are 26 and childless, not why single men with children are inferior dating partners.
That dead horse has been beaten into an unrecognizable pulp, so please let's back off the subject in other threads that aren't about that either, as well.
You must have chaos within you to give birth to a dancing star.
Friedrich Nietzsche
Free your mind, and your ass will follow.
George Clinton
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I was right about 26 when suddenly my job art director for a game company was transformed into a freelance arrangement, so basically I was given a kickstart into founding my own business. It was a few years after that, that I thought of becoming a DJ.
You must have chaos within you to give birth to a dancing star.
Friedrich Nietzsche
Free your mind, and your ass will follow.
George Clinton
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