
Originally Posted by
tuesdaymarie
Melonie, you are becoming my financial spirit animal. Reading responses, it seems more reasonable to plan for purchasing a home in 24-48 months, rather than 12-24. Disappointing, but I'm glad to have a more realistic timeline.
We will definitely be married if we buy a house--that is my rule. My boyfriend is all about commitment, and if it were up to him, we would already be married. His idea of the perfect relationship is molded by his grandparents. One set of them has been married since they were 15 and are still devoted to one another. The other set were married till his grandmother died from a number of illnesses. Before her death, she was in a wheelchair and largely dependent on her husband. My boyfriend is still a little hurt and confused by the fact that his grandfather found a second partner after his wife's death. His parents are still together as well and have been married since they were in their early twenties. Recently, we ran into my boyfriend's old best friend's little brother and his fiancee. I could tell my boyfriend was a little jealous that they were getting married. He has been looking into engagement rings (he's horrible at hiding things...), so I believe we will be "officially" engaged soon. I don't want to be married till we're 26 though, because of health insurance. He does need to work on budgeting and the like, but we are on the same page regarding financial goals and major obligations, like where we want to live and the fact that we don't want children. I am rambling, but I guess my point is that I will definitely heed the advice about co-ownership and marriage. I don't believe I could own a home with anyone who didn't want to be legally married, and I don't believe I could marry anyone who didn't have such devout feelings about marriage.
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