So it was my second night last night and very first Saturday night and I had just a horrible night. I was feeling so overwhelmed and emotional at the start and the entire night I only made 20 bucks. I guess it makes sense as I was feeling super anxious and just wanted to stay in the dressing room...my first night I did pretty well, about $340. other girls were whinging that it was a shit night too however they still had 50s and 100s in their garters! The girl training me wasn't too helpful either and I just didn't know how to handle everything. I also had a stage dance on new stages and had no idea how it really worked, they didn't even explain what to do when I got to work and that I had to write my name down, and I guess I got so confused and ended up being late and got fined $50! I was very apologetic to the dancer and offered a tip, I felt terrible. Then later on in the night I was late again, I felt so useless I couldn't believe how everything was going and I was just dying to go home. After my last stage dance I left. I spent all night there and just lost money, I even had to go to an ATM to get money to pay my fine, embarrassing! And guys just weren't buying dances...
I gave my boss 24 hour notice last night to not come in tonight just to ease into the job a bit more but she hasn't replied so now I'm freaking out and hasn't really specified details. But I am not going in, I would just be pushing myself mentally and I'm feeling a little sad and depressed today, and I almost had a panic attack the other night as I have been suffering from anxiety.. so now I'm just freaking out and guess I had to have a bit of a vent on SW!![]()
I guess I'm still trying to know if this job is for me, and was wondering if anyone else has any advice or similar experiences? I found myself enjoying moments of this job, the dancing etc. But I just feel so down from last night and cannot mentally switch off..



Reply With Quote
, maybe research into it. It will give you some common ground to start a conversation. Guys want to talk about things they like, want, or just purely themselves. Remember, this is THEIR fantasy, and YOUR money! So once he realises you both have common interest, he should keep talking about other things he likes, that you can go along with (fake it to you make it if all else fails. If he realises your faking it, he will probably appreciate the effort anyway). Then ask him if he would like to continue things in a private area, or if he would like to see a little more skin while you keep talking. Try avoid the question "want a dance?". Its not appealing. Just think of this every time you say it or go to say it . Don't be THAT girl.


Bookmarks