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    We've been together for about a year and a half. I danced before I met him (briefly) and was a top earner at both of the clubs I worked at every night I worked. I work full time as a dog groomer, and the money is okay, but it's nothing compared to the extra money I could earn on weekends dancing. And we kind of need the money since he's a fulltime student. We've gone to clubs together and I've bought him dances and he loves strip clubs, but god forbid it's his girlfriend up there. His reasoning is just that it makes him uncomfortable, which I understand, but I'd like to make him comfortable with it. I'd be willing to travel to a couple clubs out of town (we're about a hundred miles from Myrtle Beach where there's money all year, and Florence where the money is during Nascar season) I wouldn't want to work in the clubs here. Anybody have any advice or gone through something similar?

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    Are you joking w/the screen name?
    Try a search for this topic, lots of info for you. Also, there's a section called Life Support, there's similar threads there.
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    Default Re: Convincing SO into letting me dance.

    sorry, but isn't that a big hypocritical of him to go to stripclubs and spend money on strippers dancing naked on his lap, but its not ok for you to go in there and make money? sorry but that's laughable, don't have time for those kinds of hypocrites.

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    Default Re: Convincing SO into letting me dance.

    meh, yeah it's hypocritical. i don't want a huge fight, i'm trying to make him feel like he wants me to do it.

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    Default Re: Convincing SO into letting me dance.

    If you want to make money being a stripper, then just do it. My ex boyfriend would tell me if I ever became a stripper then he would leave me; and guess what? I still became a stripper. He still stuck around but I eventually ended up seeing him as the broke loser that he was and I dumped him. Funny thing is that he was willing to get a second job at mcdonalds to support me. Makes me think that guys who don't want their girlfriends stripping feel threatened.

    I'll be damned if I ever let a man stop me from making a great living doing something I'm comfortable and fit to do, simply because he's not cool with it. With my career I have managed to do a lot more in 6 months than I could ever do in 2 years with a minimum wage job; while being a full time college student. Women with your particular type of issue need to stop letting these inconsiderate closed minded money blockers (monetary term for cock blocker) rule their life.

    You need to decide which is more important; a man or making a good living in minimal time. You can also do it once a week behind his back like I did with my ex before I came clean but believe me, it's no way to live.

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    Are you his property? He can't "let" you do anything because you are your own person. Grow a pair and leave his ass.
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    Default Re: Convincing SO into letting me dance.

    I'll put it the way I would to any of my friends- "are you his girlfriend, or his bitch?" Sorry if that's crass, but it's the blunt and honest fact of the matter. You're a grown woman and YOU decide what you want to do, not him. I'm all for communicating and trying to make him feel comfortable with it, but if you need his permission, then what you really need is a new boyfriend.
    Exotic dancing is like any other job.
    If you work in an office, you wear dress shoes and a suit.
    If you work in a restaraunt, you wear skid resistant shoes and a uniform.
    If you work in a strip club, you wear 7" stilettos and lycra g-strings.

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    Default Re: Convincing SO into letting me dance.

    Sorry but there's a huge difference between enjoying a lap dance and wanting/ not wanting your girl friend up there, so everyone who enjoys porn is a hypocrite for not wanting their significant other to do porn themselves?

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    Default Re: Convincing SO into letting me dance.

    Quote Originally Posted by Ninelives View Post
    Sorry but there's a huge difference between enjoying a lap dance and wanting/ not wanting your girl friend up there, so everyone who enjoys porn is a hypocrite for not wanting their significant other to do porn themselves?
    Hmmm, pretty much, esp if the person saying 'It´s ok for me but not for you' is a paying customer. I would almost liken it to sm1 saying 'Alcohol is of the devil, but I am going to partake of it anyway but you be associated w/ it in any way bc of [XYZ reason], & you are a Bad Bad Person if you go against my mandate on this subj.'

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    Default Re: Convincing SO into letting me dance.

    actually, i'd say that going to a striclub and PAYING to have somebody else grind up naked on you for enjoyment's sake is worse than going there just to make money. the motivations are completely different.

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    Default Re: Convincing SO into letting me dance.

    My advice in this case is, "It's better to ask forgiveness than to seek permission."

    This is something you want to do. If he threatens to leave the relationship over your job, then that would cause you to resent him. You'll eventually get sick of him and leave anyway.

    Just go back to dancing. If he has a problem with it, that's all on him. He will either get over it, or he won't. You can't control his feelings, you can control your financial future, though.

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