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    I'm not referring to your lady area Lol

    In real life how open are you about your camming? Do you tell anyone and everyone you meet? or do you keep it hidden and pretend you do something else? If so, why do you keep it secret?

    Just asking out of curiosity as everyone and anyone I meet, I tell them im a cam girl and I find 90% of people don't even know what that is and I have to explain a little without any graphic details. So far I haven't seen an issue with me being so open because I've not had any bad comebacks. Is it wrong to tell everyone?

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    Everyone knows except my family.They are open minded but I did not wanted to be asked questions about the job.They know I am an online counselor.I have a few close friends and no reasons to hide my job from them.I tell everyone I befriend with if I`m asked what I do for a living though I`m in a country where being a cam girl is not something to be proud of.I just don`t care.Oh and my landlord will never know.I think I`d be kicked out in a second.

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    No one knows but my fiance and that's the way it is staying. I would NEVER tell anyone. If anyone ever guessed I would feign complete ignorance, and if I really couldn't get away with it i'd just never speak to them again lol. I'm actually not worried about my family/ friends etc, I am more concerned with the implications on my future family if I ever have children. i f I were "Successful" in some way, as in my website looked pro and I was very well known I probably wouldn't mind so much. But because I am 'just' an amateur camgirl i feel it's kind of tackier somehow, and I wouldn't really want people thinking that about me.

    You never know what will come back to bite you in the ass later on so I personally think it's a bit silly to tell people willy nilly like that. Keep things to yourself unless people really, really need to know x
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    I've only told close friends...my partner knows.
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    I love telling strangers to see their reactions but only a few close friends and my brother knows, you all might recall a post I made back in January when my brother found me on a popup when he was watching porn.
    My dad knows I make fetish clips for eating and other non-sexual fetish acts but if I dare tell him I get naked he will lose his shit, lol

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    The last time I was home, I installed ad blockers on my brother's computers.





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    My mom knows, but she's the only family member I'm very close to. The rest of my family doesn't. My friends all do but they were mostly people I met in the BDSM community or fellow camgirls I met online initially. Most of my husband's friends don't know, it would be too awkward. I regret telling his two male friends because I feel strange around them now, like they judge me, luckily I hardly ever see them and they probably think I stopped anyway. I moved to the country and so far I haven't told anyone. If I became close friends with someone I might tell them if I didn't feel like they were the judging type, but I'd rather not have that side of my life define me anymore.

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    This might sound silly but.... I just assume everyone knows when I meet them. You never really know who you are meeting, and you never really know someone no matter how many years you've known them (unless you've lived with them). So I never really know who has seen my porn out of everyone I encounter in life, so I assume they all know. Its fantastic because when people do find out, I just say "well... I figured you knew already... whats the big deal?" and often times... its still a big deal to them, but its never been a big deal to me which saves me so much wasted emotional angst. I don't have to wait and wonder and worry if any one knows, I just assume they do and live my life. Not sure if this makes any sense.

    Edit: Wanted to add, that yes this means I do NOT actively tell anyone I meet. But the majority of my family already knows.
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    I've told most of my friends. I have a hard time keeping that kind of stuff bottled up. I've almost let it slip to my parents a few times, I talk to my mom almost every day and sometimes I wanna call and say 'guess who made $120 in 3 hours?!', but I'm not there yet...

    I'd honestly be fine with my dad knowing. He's always encouraged me to be a sex therapist and/or researcher because we've always had some pretty keen talks on sexuality and the sociological and psychological aspects of it. I bet he could handle the idea of me camming, because a) he's not really conservative like that, he has always acknowledged that my body is mine to use for whatever I want to use it for, and b) it doesn't carry the inherent risks of a lot of sex work, like excess drinking at a club or possible violence or theft via escorting. I'm just trying to figure out a way to tell him, really. My mom... is a different story. She thinks camming (I asked her about it once) will RUIN MY LIFE and no one will ever respect me ever again, and I'll never be able to get a job, and the whole general public will know about me. So I'm going to wait until I'm more established so I can show her the serious cash is worth it.
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    all my family and so called used to be friends know.. it's a don't ask, don't tell situation.. we do not discuss.. it's just my business and how i get my paycheck.. If something else paid me more I would be doing that. Any new people i meet I do not mention cam or anything sex related at all because it is not who i am and my personal life is completely opposite and I should not have to defend my paycheck to anyone... so nope not going to tell.

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    Really interesting to hear the different responses. My whole family know including my dad (who's reaction was like he expected it from me).
    I think the reason I don't care about telling anyone is because I hold no shame on what I do and I don't really care about outsiders judgement on me.

    However, lately I have been wondering if this will one day come back to bite me on the arse

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    Only my best friend and boyfriend know, I plan on keeping it that way. I have a vanilla job so I just tell people I do that, but if I didn't have that I would probably lie. You never know what peoples motives are and how they will handle information when presented to them so I don't go out of my way to tell them anything about me. But I am naturally a private person that keeps EVERYTHING to myself not just camming so that is factor

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    Right!.. I feel the same way.. no shame in what you do for a living.. but better to safeguard your heart and just not have to go through the unbearable agony of judgement.. it's not a pleasant thing, I used to be like that .. Oh i don't care and I paid for it with my LIFE.. and i mean MY LIFE!.. i could be dead by now .. just lucky i suppose...now?? i just save people from themselves and keep it to myself.

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    Really interesting to hear the different responses. My whole family know including my dad (who's reaction was like he expected it from me).
    I think the reason I don't care about telling anyone is because I hold no shame on what I do and I don't really care about outsiders judgement on me.

    However, lately I have been wondering if this will one day come back to bite me on the arse

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    Another reason I do not tell people anything is because I want them to judge me on WHO I AM, my knowledge, my intelligence, my personality , my attitude. Not what I do for a living.. there is ONLY one way to judge that to the rest of society. And who wants to defend themselves on who they are truly not?? doesn't make sense at all.. It's not about being ashamed it's about being judged based on fairness and equality.

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    Another reason I do not tell people anything is because I want them to judge me on WHO I AM, my knowledge, my intelligence, my personality , my attitude. Not what I do for a living.. there is ONLY one way to judge that to the rest of society. And who wants to defend themselves on who they are truly not?? doesn't make sense at all.. It's not about being ashamed it's about being judged based on fairness and equality.
    That's a 100% correct. People often will judge others based on their chosen job, if people say they work in a supermarket, they will be judged and people assume that they do not hold much intelligence. Which is a huge shame. Majority of people will assume we lack intelligence because we are cam girls.

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    Oh golly. I'm the worst. I'm extremely open with it. Pretty much, if the topic comes up, I'll go ahead and share. I figured that anyone who deems it fit to judge me isn't really worth my time to begin with. Aaaand, if they try to 'gossip' about it, either they're around someone who already knows or just someone I haven't gotten to yet. :p

    From my experience, people are more curious about it than anything. It pretty much just turns into a Q&A session, and then the fascination is over and everyone goes about their day.

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    Nope, I don't tell people about it. I mean, look at the way people lose their minds over grown women twerking (y'all saw that video I posted on here of that chick bitching about women who twerk). And it's not even just about the holier-than-thou "Where's your self-respect?!" idiots. I don't like it when men treat me differently when they find out. Like, all of a sudden, I'm that webcam chick who clearly must be an easy lay. As Marina used to say on here...I AM A HUMAN BEING FIRST. Or guys IRL will start nagging me with questions about it and want to come see me on cam...or they expect free goodies because they know me. I don't like having to deal with all that shit.

    I'm also one of those people who doesn't feel the need to ask a person "So what do you do for work?" within 5 minutes of meeting them. I mean, I just don't get that. That's like the first thing my grandmom asks me when I tell her about a new guy in my life ("And what does he do?").
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    Let's not forget.. the ones who are not judging may very well soon become our competition. loose lips sink ships!
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    I just moved and no one here knows what I do. I feel like its a clean slate and I plan to keep it that way until I move on to the next place. I was more open about it before, but now I realize the unnecessary ish I brought on myself. My parents have some idea but not completely. HAHA They love me regardless but no need to share the particulars. A few other relatives are aware but that's because they too have worked in the adult industry. I have a boyfriend and he is aware of my camming. I wish I had told him myself before he found me on a site. Oh well I can't go back in time. He was more upset that I had been lying to him for 2 months. I just needed to know if it was real and worth sharing the info. No sense in telling him if it was just gonna be a casual thing, ya know?

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    If you watch Martin, to my friends and Family, I'm Tommy. That is the explanation that every one uses when the topic of my job comes up.They are probably using the phone book and asking random places if I work there.
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    I get pretty shocked at 99% of the people I tell have no idea what a camgirl is, how can people not know?

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    Quote Originally Posted by scarletl View Post
    I get pretty shocked at 99% of the people I tell have no idea what a camgirl is, how can people not know?
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    Quote Originally Posted by TransdimensionalPrincess View Post
    Playing dumb to not look like such a pervert.
    I actually don't think a lot of people know, or if they do they have a lot of misconceptions about it.

    For example, I knew that girls did this from all the "free live sex chat" ads. But my conception about camming was that the girls did this for free. I mean, since all the ads I have ever seen go something along the lines of "meet up with a girl in your city and have sex tonight!" how could I not think this? So when you tell someone your a camgirl they could #1 Genuinely not know what a camgirl is or #2 have an idea of what a camgirl does but since they know you and think you would never do what the ads/videos portray they are curious about finding out more about what you actually do.

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    I don't tell anyone. The only person that knows is my husband and his friend because my husband "needed" to tell someone. It's private for me and I don't think anyone ever needs to know. The more people you tell, the more of a chance you have at being "outed" and if you don't want that to happen I suggest you just keep your blabbermouth exclusive to stripper web. Seriously, this forum is my support and I'm able to get all the support I need and all of my customer rants out of my system on here.

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    I don't think they do know. I certainly didn't have a clue until something i'd heard and dismissed was discussed in a serious way by very serious people, on a serious money saving forum!! Honestly, did not have a clue. My partner had once shown me a site (mfc I now know it as ) where girls were making $100's per hour and I said don't be so stupid, that is a script, those are not real girls, it's just clever advertising... just like all those phone sex ads you see on babestation and the like!!!! Unless you come from an adult related background or know someone who does, it's unlikely you would know about camming.
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