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    I don't tell my family or my friends. My friends know I have an adult based job, but they don't know I cam. I think my family would be accepting. When Belle Knox (the Duke porn star) wrote her article, my family and I had a discussion about porn and they all said they understood her viewpoint and would be accepting of anyone's life choices as far as adult jobs go. They certainly wouldn't be thrilled for me, but they'd accept it, particularly since it's not what I want to do permanently.
    I still don't want to share that with them at this point.
    The only person who knew was my ex-boyfriend. I think that's the hardest part of dating again- sharing that and having guys immediately think you're a slut. At least that weeds everyone out pretty quickly.

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    Only my best friend who I tell everything too knows. I told this story already but I finally worked up the courage to tell him and he was like "Oh, I guess now I can tell you about those videos I posted online." It was a great moment.

    Now, I've only been camming for 2 months and I've already told him....I have a really hard time keeping shit like this bottled up but I really die inside at the idea of all my family & friends knowing what I do.

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    I'm open to my husband and a few friends. My mom doesn't know I'm camming now, but she used to know about it when I cammed back in my university years. The only reason why I'm not telling her is that she's convinced someone my age should have a "real" job.
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    I used to be secretive about camming but I drunkingly told my conservative religious parents recently. My mom didn't talk to me for 2 weeks. Now I don't care who knows.

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    Quote Originally Posted by apryll11 View Post
    If you watch Martin, to my friends and Family, I'm Tommy. That is the explanation that every one uses when the topic of my job comes up.
    My dad just gave me the "You ain't got no job..." line the other day. He was telling me that a particular grocery store is hiring. FUCK THAT...
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    Quote Originally Posted by pippapippa View Post
    I think that's the hardest part of dating again- sharing that and having guys immediately think you're a slut.
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    Quote Originally Posted by TheBrownFox View Post
    My dad just gave me the "You ain't got no job..." line the other day. He was telling me that a particular grocery store is hiring. FUCK THAT...

    TORTURE!

    I mean I could understand if a cam girl wants to go from a cam girl to a lawyer, nurse or any other higher or equal paying career.
    But going to something that's a 1/4 of your wage for double your hours of work, would be a really painful process.

    I'm not a job snob and I would do almost any job if I needed to.

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    Quote Originally Posted by scarletl View Post
    TORTURE!

    I mean I could understand if a cam girl wants to go from a cam girl to a lawyer, nurse or any other higher or equal paying career.
    But going to something that's a 1/4 of your wage for double your hours of work, would be a really painful process.
    Exactly. And the only reason he made that comment is that he's annoyed that I owe him money. Look, I had a bad pay period. Naturally, I'm gonna pay for NECESSITIES first (food, etc.) before anything else. A reasonable person would've said "Okay, just pay me when you can." No, he has to make little remarks like "Well it must not be a very good job then if you can't pay." Oh, really? This is coming from the same man who's been such a cheapass lately that he made my son eat in the dark. Hmmm. Maybe YOUR job ain't that good, bruh...
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    yea I understand that.. I owed my sister money for awhile over a dining room table that I wanted /needed.. all she talked about was how i wasn't paying her. She didn't want a relationship with me at all... ruined our whole relationship.. and then I had to buy a house because my rent was going up and up and i couldn't afford to pay it or move and saw myself as a homeless person with 2 kids.. So i bought a house with no money down and then my sister sent me a card.. Congratulations .. WELL! now that you can afford to buy a house you can afford to pay for this and she enclosed a bill.. she is a real bitch and she was being nice to me.. you should see the way she treats others who owe her money who aren't related...LOL
    So now i have finally paid her off and I have no more guilt and she still doesn't ever want a relationship with me.

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    Exactly. And the only reason he made that comment is that he's annoyed that I owe him money. Look, I had a bad pay period. Naturally, I'm gonna pay for NECESSITIES first (food, etc.) before anything else. A reasonable person would've said "Okay, just pay me when you can." No, he has to make little remarks like "Well it must not be a very good job then if you can't pay." Oh, really? This is coming from the same man who's been such a cheapass lately that he made my son eat in the dark. Hmmm. Maybe YOUR job ain't that good, bruh...

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    I think it's unwise to volunteer this info to family and friends for a lot of reasons.

    I used to do typing at home for hospitals and as far as everyone else is concerned I still do. Only my boyfriend and a few close friends (who are mostly all camgirls) know.

    If anyone asks I send them to workplacelikehome online where there are plenty of work at home typing jobs (minimum wage but oh well

    It's none of their business.


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    I'm open about it to friends because they've found out anyway one way or another, and have to warm up to new people before I want them to know.

    My boyfriend's family and friends know because he told them. He's not ashamed of it and says I shouldn't be either. It's probably because of him why I'm so comfortable with being open about it now. I think when you keep something hidden it makes it look more sketchy than it really is. Plus people's opinions don't bother me, I live a healthy productive life and not some lazy schmuck camming cause I don't want a "real" job.

    And people can judge behind your back all they want... But the look on their face when you pull up in a sick car is priceless.

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    Quote Originally Posted by scarletl View Post
    I'm not referring to your lady area Lol

    In real life how open are you about your camming? Do you tell anyone and everyone you meet? or do you keep it hidden and pretend you do something else? If so, why do you keep it secret?

    Just asking out of curiosity as everyone and anyone I meet, I tell them im a cam girl and I find 90% of people don't even know what that is and I have to explain a little without any graphic details. So far I haven't seen an issue with me being so open because I've not had any bad comebacks. Is it wrong to tell everyone?
    I use to be more open about it when I first started but that was mainly because I was naive. But now I'm alot more private about it. I tell people that I'm a web designer but I need to come up with something else because some people ask about my web designing but I don't want to do any projects for them which makes things awkward. I would like to say that I'm an online business owner but then I know they'd ask doing what and then I'd have to come up with something. I keep it a secret because I honestly do not want to be judged or have to answer questions. I wouldn't tell everyone because you never know who could be dangerous and like Laurie said I feel like its no one's business.

    The only people that know what I do are my mom, sister, and ex-boyfriend but my ex is the only one with an extensive knowledge. People from high school knew(because like I said I was naive) but I'm not sure many remember because it was years ago when I outed myself. I don't talk to anyone from my past so even if they still remember it has no bearing on me.
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    I do not talk about it. I do not tell anyone. I don't have to tell anyone, I have people who do that for me, and the impression it leaves in the minds of the fair majority who look in from the outside, is a negative one. It doesn't matter if you do fauxcore, softcore, or hardcore. The impression it leaves is the same. We live in a righteous society full of hypocrites. The guy who drives drunk but doesn't get caught holds a righteous opinion against the guy who drives drunk but does get caught. The guy who got arrested for driving drunk holds a righteous opinion against the guy who brought an STD home to his wife. The guy who brought an STD home to his wife believes the mail clerk, who gave him the STD because she sleeps with every boss in every department above her own, is more respectable than a woman who takes all precautions to remain disease free and gets paid for providing a girlfriend experience. Everybody looks down on somebody even though we all have skeletons of our own.

    The poster who said she assumes everyone knows because you never really know who knows, is 100% spot on. There's always somebody who eavesdrops, watches, and (or) waits for a reason to gossip, and there's always someone who loves to see you frown simply because you are smiling. I don't talk about camming. Ever. I learned real fast "friends" and non-friends alike will slap me across the face with it. It's not a question of "will I let them" slap me in the face with it. The truth is it hurts to be judged negatively. It hurts to be judged harshly. It does have a psychological effect. We can blow it off all we want and be as strong as we want but at the end of the day when we are without our masks and with our true selves, it hurts.

    Talk about it? Nope. No way. I'm an adult. I made an adult decision. End of story. I don't want to hear anyone's negativity.
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    I personally started about 2 months ago and haven't told anyone I'm close to anyway. I spent weeks agonizing over how to tell my husband. I figured id get him drunk let it out and he'd be happy because I'm making a lot more money than what I was doing before. Well p.s. I never found the right moment and he still doesn't know. I finally made up something about editing blogs online because the checks have been coming in and I want to share the wealth! I'm so torn over this but feeling somewhat better now that he thinks im at least working online. He doesn't even go online he's very old school so I don't worry about him finding out by looking on my computer or anything. I have geographics blocked in mine and neighboring areas but I read that if people watch on their phone it doesn't matter. I do worry about him finding out not from me one day and think that would be crazy to him. I don't even think he understands how web cams work lol. One night he woke up and saw me playing with my tits and i told him they were sore from pms lol. I am so envious of you girls that told your mates and wondering how did you tell them! where you already married did you tell them right when you started? Honestly i didn't because I didn't know if I would be any good at it. He knows I'm extremely sexual and that I love women and all that and that I was a stripper in vegas in my early 20's but Im afraid he would look at me different.

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