Page 4 of 9 FirstFirst ... 23456 ... LastLast
Results 76 to 100 of 214

Thread: How many dates till you sleep together?

  1. #76
    God/dess carmen_b's Avatar
    Joined
    Apr 2007
    Location
    the mountains ....
    Posts
    14,202
    Thanks
    15,168
    Thanked 21,346 Times in 9,308 Posts

    Default Re: How many dates till you sleep together?

    ^ I think it would be much more effective overall if you could only message one person each day and use it a max of like 30-45 days .

  2. The Following User Says Thank You to carmen_b For This Useful Post:


  3. #77
    God/dess carmen_b's Avatar
    Joined
    Apr 2007
    Location
    the mountains ....
    Posts
    14,202
    Thanks
    15,168
    Thanked 21,346 Times in 9,308 Posts

    Default Re: How many dates till you sleep together?

    ^ It's the " overuse " aspect of it that makes it tricky. I personally think men have more addictive type use with it along with time wasting behaviors.
    Some men say that they rarely get a match at all though ..... like not one real woman ( non-escort or cam girl or IG model haha ) for 1-2 weeks even.

  4. The Following User Says Thank You to carmen_b For This Useful Post:


  5. #78
    God/dess Raziel's Avatar
    Joined
    Aug 2011
    Location
    Somewhere
    Posts
    2,438
    Thanks
    414
    Thanked 1,568 Times in 989 Posts

    Default Re: How many dates till you sleep together?

    Yeah, i've never gotten anything but requests for a steam or amazon card out of a dating app. Why do these people think i'm that stupid? They talk to me, they have to know i'm not an idiot.

    (And why do these scammers want a Steam card? They like playing Video Games or something?)
    Sarchasm (n): The gulf between the author of sarcastic wit and the person who doesn't get it

  6. #79
    God/dess Raziel's Avatar
    Joined
    Aug 2011
    Location
    Somewhere
    Posts
    2,438
    Thanks
    414
    Thanked 1,568 Times in 989 Posts

    Default Re: How many dates till you sleep together?

    BTW, WTF is the "Tinder Mentality" when i go on Tinder it's brainless. There doesn't seem to be any mentality to it at all! miss.a.p1600 mentioned a "Tinder Mentality" what's that?

    Those people are probably fucking retarded if they have a Tinder Mentality (Which is something of a laugh to me). Lets just say, if i had a Daughter, i wouldn't let a guy with a Tinder Mentality within a MILE of her. He'd meet my gun.
    Sarchasm (n): The gulf between the author of sarcastic wit and the person who doesn't get it

  7. #80
    God/dess SnuffleUffleGrass's Avatar
    Joined
    Mar 2009
    Location
    HearstCastle, Rosebud
    Posts
    8,848
    Thanks
    22,676
    Thanked 17,513 Times in 6,696 Posts
    My Mood
    Angelic

    Default Re: How many dates till you sleep together?

    There's a super successful doctor in LA who slept with his wife on the first date...even though you wouldn't guess that would be his style. They're still together, happy, with kids, decades later.

    This question is too subjective.

    IMO most of the time playing the waiting game while dating can bungle up things. Harmonious friendships and romances rest on a variety of factors, not just sexual compatibility.

  8. The Following 2 Users Say Thank You to SnuffleUffleGrass For This Useful Post:


  9. #81
    God/dess Raziel's Avatar
    Joined
    Aug 2011
    Location
    Somewhere
    Posts
    2,438
    Thanks
    414
    Thanked 1,568 Times in 989 Posts

    Default Re: How many dates till you sleep together?

    Quote Originally Posted by SnuffleUffleGrass View Post
    There's a super successful doctor in LA who slept with his wife on the first date...even though you wouldn't guess that would be his style. They're still together, happy, with kids, decades later.

    This question is too subjective.

    IMO most of the time playing the waiting game while dating can bungle up things. Harmonious friendships and romances rest on a variety of factors, not just sexual compatibility.
    Yeah, well, good for them. But that's how i do things. I don't like kissing on the first date, i want to, but i won't. And i only want to fuck when i know either she is cool with it (or it's an escort or something), or when i know she has a way to skip town. You know me Snuffle. We've known each other a long time.

    You know i love ya, Hun.
    Last edited by Raziel; 08-19-2020 at 07:37 AM.
    Sarchasm (n): The gulf between the author of sarcastic wit and the person who doesn't get it

  10. The Following 2 Users Say Thank You to Raziel For This Useful Post:


  11. #82
    God/dess miss.a.p1600's Avatar
    Joined
    Jul 2012
    Posts
    16,440
    Thanks
    47,046
    Thanked 34,925 Times in 12,871 Posts
    My Mood
    Aggressive

    Default Re: How many dates till you sleep together?

    Quote Originally Posted by Raziel View Post
    BTW, WTF is the "Tinder Mentality" when i go on Tinder it's brainless. There doesn't seem to be any mentality to it at all! miss.a.p1600 mentioned a "Tinder Mentality" what's that?

    Those people are probably fucking retarded if they have a Tinder Mentality (Which is something of a laugh to me). Lets just say, if i had a Daughter, i wouldn't let a guy with a Tinder Mentality within a MILE of her. He'd meet my gun.
    to me a “tinder mentality” is a guy (Could be a woman though) who is so cheap n lazy so rather than attempt to meet in real life or even do a hybrid of real life plus online he’s just online mainly

    on a number of different dating sites
    Mass messaging women to see who responds.
    offering free or extra cheap dates (if he offers dates at all - might just be a time wasting pen pal)
    goal of fucking on first date (no later than second)
    sees women as disposable (can always come back to dating site to find more) so never a deep connection

    It’s like using dating sites similar to UBER eats but for getting quick fast easy pussy and if they can’t get that then free pen pal attention

    Just guys there to basically waste a lady’s time and or use her for sex whilst make zero to no effort whatsoever

  12. The Following User Says Thank You to miss.a.p1600 For This Useful Post:


  13. #83
    God/dess Raziel's Avatar
    Joined
    Aug 2011
    Location
    Somewhere
    Posts
    2,438
    Thanks
    414
    Thanked 1,568 Times in 989 Posts

    Default Re: How many dates till you sleep together?

    Yeah, okay. I just see Tinder as a massive time waster. Just a way to see pictures. I mean whatever, maybe you know more about it than i do.

    I haven't had ANY luck with dating sites, so maybe my shit is colored.
    Sarchasm (n): The gulf between the author of sarcastic wit and the person who doesn't get it

  14. The Following User Says Thank You to Raziel For This Useful Post:


  15. #84
    God/dess miss.a.p1600's Avatar
    Joined
    Jul 2012
    Posts
    16,440
    Thanks
    47,046
    Thanked 34,925 Times in 12,871 Posts
    My Mood
    Aggressive

    Default Re: How many dates till you sleep together?

    I met two guys in dating sites

    One turned out to be a racial supremacist n textbook narcissist .... he tried to push my boundaries especially regarding sex (there was a thread I posted where he tried to convince me to have sex with him without a condom ... on the first sexual encounter) - I quickly got out of that.

    And the other was a better experience - a pretty decent older guy but I realized after a while that he didn’t want the same long term goals I did so we parted ways

    After these two experiences I realized that I’m not a huge fan of dating sites cause it takes A LOT of sifting through unsavory people to luck up on a decent guy.

    It’s like going to a thrift store 69 times spending an hour each trip an on the last time you find some rare hidden gem that looks like it’s not supposed to be there and you immediately get it all to yourself.

    Like a needle in a haystack experience that could like you say waste a lot of time only to come up empty handed

  16. The Following User Says Thank You to miss.a.p1600 For This Useful Post:


  17. #85
    God/dess
    Joined
    Oct 2018
    Location
    North Carolina
    Posts
    3,546
    Thanks
    4,562
    Thanked 7,021 Times in 2,699 Posts
    My Mood
    Amazed

    Default Re: How many dates till you sleep together?

    Quote Originally Posted by carmen_b View Post
    Right ? ! ?

    My friend was saying she liked it and I'm just here thinking " God, men are such whiny bitches these days. Now they can't even initiate a conversation and I have to do it ? No way. Lol.
    It’s not that I’m above initiating a conversation, but the interest on my part has to more than a fleeting casual interest, and that’s where these apps fall short. You’re not going to fit anything in the blurb of a dating app profile that’s going to be substantial enough for that to happen, and anyone who could be adequately summed up in that space… well, they’d be pretty dull and boring.

    Quote Originally Posted by Raziel View Post
    Hey, they the ones that created Bumble and it's stupid rules, not I. They won't LET US (Men) initiate conversations. I suspect Bumble is pretty similar to Tinder, anyway. Evil.
    I think they meant well with it. But it was always kind of a doomed proposition. And I’m pretty up front and straightforward, but I won’t initiate such a conversation 1: because too many guys have a propensity to assume it means something that puts them at the advantage and 2: any time I did swipe right on those apps, it was always just because. Maybe something in their profile amused me, maybe it was just because, “I’m using this app, might at well swipe right on someone”, etc. That’s it. So…

    It did amuse me once when I stated that I had a penchant for black humor, and one guy was telling me, “Oh, me too! I love Dave Chappell, the Wayans, …”, and I’m just like, “That’s… not what I meant at all”.
    Written on the walls at the house of sorrow
    You can find the names of those who burned
    Greater yet, the pain in little drawings
    I could not remain in that room

  18. #86
    God/dess Raziel's Avatar
    Joined
    Aug 2011
    Location
    Somewhere
    Posts
    2,438
    Thanks
    414
    Thanked 1,568 Times in 989 Posts

    Default Re: How many dates till you sleep together?

    Quote Originally Posted by AChildOfBoredom View Post
    I think they meant well with it. But it was always kind of a doomed proposition. And I’m pretty up front and straightforward, but I won’t initiate such a conversation 1: because too many guys have a propensity to assume it means something that puts them at the advantage and 2: any time I did swipe right on those apps, it was always just because. Maybe something in their profile amused me, maybe it was just because, “I’m using this app, might at well swipe right on someone”, etc. That’s it. So…
    LMAO, Men do NOT have the advantage. In dating, that's all the Woman. If she don't want it, it don't get done.
    Sarchasm (n): The gulf between the author of sarcastic wit and the person who doesn't get it

  19. #87
    God/dess
    Joined
    Oct 2005
    Posts
    6,948
    Thanks
    2,846
    Thanked 5,526 Times in 3,113 Posts
    My Mood
    Angelic

    Default Re: How many dates till you sleep together?

    Quote Originally Posted by AChildOfBoredom View Post

    It did amuse me once when I stated that I had a penchant for black humor, and one guy was telling me, “Oh, me too! I love Dave Chappell, the Wayans, …”, and I’m just like, “That’s… not what I meant at all”.
    That is hilarious. It is amazing how stupid people are.

  20. The Following User Says Thank You to slowpoke For This Useful Post:


  21. #88
    God/dess SnuffleUffleGrass's Avatar
    Joined
    Mar 2009
    Location
    HearstCastle, Rosebud
    Posts
    8,848
    Thanks
    22,676
    Thanked 17,513 Times in 6,696 Posts
    My Mood
    Angelic

    Default Re: How many dates till you sleep together?

    Quote Originally Posted by AChildOfBoredom View Post

    It did amuse me once when I stated that I had a penchant for black humor, and one guy was telling me, “Oh, me too! I love Dave Chappell, the Wayans, …”, and I’m just like, “That’s… not what I meant at all”.
    **** Facepalm Emoji *****

  22. The Following User Says Thank You to SnuffleUffleGrass For This Useful Post:


  23. #89
    God/dess miss.a.p1600's Avatar
    Joined
    Jul 2012
    Posts
    16,440
    Thanks
    47,046
    Thanked 34,925 Times in 12,871 Posts
    My Mood
    Aggressive

    Default Re: How many dates till you sleep together?

    It’s ironic you all mention the woman initiating the conversation

    I actually liked that aspect.

    Mainly because I ain’t got all cotdamn day to idly wait for a guy to “pick me” so I like the reverse where I choose.

    It reminds me of the strip club where the lady initiates the conversation.

    I like taking the control in that aspect but other than that I let the man lead as far as calling me to ask for a date/planning a date/etc

    Also I like men who have a slight touch of feminism in them like they can empathize with women, understand where they are coming from, and know how to open them up (pun intended lol)

    And I find that men who are extremely masculine most likely would never accept a woman approaching them. They assume she’s desperate n thirsty and so that dating app takes the stigma out of women leading the initial interaction.
    Last edited by miss.a.p1600; 08-19-2020 at 06:06 PM.

  24. #90
    God/dess Raziel's Avatar
    Joined
    Aug 2011
    Location
    Somewhere
    Posts
    2,438
    Thanks
    414
    Thanked 1,568 Times in 989 Posts

    Default Re: How many dates till you sleep together?

    I don't believe a Man CAN be a Feminist, though. In order to be a Feminist you have to know what struggles Women face, and how can a Man know that? I think Men can be Allies, and that's all. But that's OK. I don't mind being an Ally. I think it's good.

    You just have to tell us the secret things you go through. What else is there? What things do i not know? How can i be a better Ally?
    Last edited by Raziel; 08-19-2020 at 08:38 PM.
    Sarchasm (n): The gulf between the author of sarcastic wit and the person who doesn't get it

  25. The Following User Says Thank You to Raziel For This Useful Post:


  26. #91
    God/dess SnuffleUffleGrass's Avatar
    Joined
    Mar 2009
    Location
    HearstCastle, Rosebud
    Posts
    8,848
    Thanks
    22,676
    Thanked 17,513 Times in 6,696 Posts
    My Mood
    Angelic

    Default Re: How many dates till you sleep together?

    Quote Originally Posted by Raziel View Post
    I don't believe a Man CAN be a Feminist, though. In order to be a Feminist you have to know what struggles Women face, and how can a Man know that? I think Men can be Allies, and that's all. But that's OK. I don't mind being an Ally. I think it's good.

    You just have to tell us the secret things you go through. What else is there? What things do i not know? How can i be a better Ally?

    My answer to this is- if you FEEL you can't live without a woman, that is the clue as to how compatible you are.

    The physical part of a romance is one part. Two people working together against the world is a successful romance.

    Men can be feminists. That's an entirely different conversation.

  27. #92
    God/dess Raziel's Avatar
    Joined
    Aug 2011
    Location
    Somewhere
    Posts
    2,438
    Thanks
    414
    Thanked 1,568 Times in 989 Posts

    Default Re: How many dates till you sleep together?

    I don't believe i CAN live without a Woman, but i am forced to. If i had one, i would do everything i could to make her happy. I don't give a shit about the physical part, as that will come on it's own.

    But right now, unfortunately, i don't have a Girlfriend. A fact that bothers the living CRAP out of me.
    Sarchasm (n): The gulf between the author of sarcastic wit and the person who doesn't get it

  28. The Following 2 Users Say Thank You to Raziel For This Useful Post:


  29. #93
    God/dess Raziel's Avatar
    Joined
    Aug 2011
    Location
    Somewhere
    Posts
    2,438
    Thanks
    414
    Thanked 1,568 Times in 989 Posts

    Default Re: How many dates till you sleep together?

    And two people marching together, hand in hand, into the future, is exactly what i believe a romance is. Maybe different words, but the same notation Snuffle.
    Sarchasm (n): The gulf between the author of sarcastic wit and the person who doesn't get it

  30. #94
    Newbie meganq2's Avatar
    Joined
    Aug 2020
    Posts
    6
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 5 Times in 4 Posts

    Default Re: How many dates till you sleep together?

    It is difficult to answer, depends when you will trust a man.

  31. The Following User Says Thank You to meganq2 For This Useful Post:


  32. #95
    God/dess
    Joined
    Oct 2018
    Location
    North Carolina
    Posts
    3,546
    Thanks
    4,562
    Thanked 7,021 Times in 2,699 Posts
    My Mood
    Amazed

    Default Re: How many dates till you sleep together?

    Quote Originally Posted by Raziel View Post
    LMAO, Men do NOT have the advantage. In dating, that's all the Woman. If she don't want it, it don't get done.
    But when you approach them, they tend to feel that they do. Even earlier today, I was shopping and I heard a guy ask of any of his friends had a lighter, so I offered him mine. I don’t smoke, I just carry one because. Of course, he took that as a come on, and after a minute of trying to chat me up, he offered me a cigarette. When I declined it and told him I don’t smoke, he asked why and I saw my opportunity to kill the conversation then and there, so I narrowed my eyes, clenched my fists, started taking slow, deep breaths, and I said to him, “When Ragnarok comes upon this land, Surtr will charge forth wielding a sword off of which will be emitted a great flame which will consume the earth… and I shall become the flame”. He just kinda stood there looking stunned, so I walked off.

    It’s really the same at the club… if I approach someone at the club, they typically know why and I have to use powers of persuasion on them (which I can do pretty well). If they approach me and initiate a conversation - men or women - it’s a lot easier for me to get them to spend money.
    Written on the walls at the house of sorrow
    You can find the names of those who burned
    Greater yet, the pain in little drawings
    I could not remain in that room

  33. #96
    God/dess Raziel's Avatar
    Joined
    Aug 2011
    Location
    Somewhere
    Posts
    2,438
    Thanks
    414
    Thanked 1,568 Times in 989 Posts

    Default Re: How many dates till you sleep together?

    Quote Originally Posted by AChildOfBoredom View Post
    “When Ragnarok comes upon this land, Surtr will charge forth wielding a sword off of which will be emitted a great flame which will consume the earth… and I shall become the flame”.
    Girl i LOVE THAT. I know EXACTLY what you're talking about. I've read all that stuff! I know Norse Myth as well!

    This is the COOLEST POST I've ever seen here!!!
    Last edited by Raziel; 08-21-2020 at 12:41 AM.
    Sarchasm (n): The gulf between the author of sarcastic wit and the person who doesn't get it

  34. #97
    God/dess Raziel's Avatar
    Joined
    Aug 2011
    Location
    Somewhere
    Posts
    2,438
    Thanks
    414
    Thanked 1,568 Times in 989 Posts

    Default Re: How many dates till you sleep together?

    Quote Originally Posted by SnuffleUffleGrass View Post
    Men can be feminists. That's an entirely different conversation.
    Then maybe it's one we should have.

    Can a Man be a Feminist. I don't think he can, i think he can be an ally, but no further. And i am happy to be an ally.
    Last edited by Raziel; 08-21-2020 at 05:32 AM.
    Sarchasm (n): The gulf between the author of sarcastic wit and the person who doesn't get it

  35. #98
    God/dess SnuffleUffleGrass's Avatar
    Joined
    Mar 2009
    Location
    HearstCastle, Rosebud
    Posts
    8,848
    Thanks
    22,676
    Thanked 17,513 Times in 6,696 Posts
    My Mood
    Angelic

    Default Re: How many dates till you sleep together?

    Feminist man- loves and cares for his long term romantic partner.

    Feminist man- has basic boundary comprehension

    Feminist man- because of the two things I mentioned here, he is popular with women. Even women who claim to "hate feminism."

  36. The Following User Says Thank You to SnuffleUffleGrass For This Useful Post:


  37. #99
    God/dess Raziel's Avatar
    Joined
    Aug 2011
    Location
    Somewhere
    Posts
    2,438
    Thanks
    414
    Thanked 1,568 Times in 989 Posts

    Default Re: How many dates till you sleep together?

    You're describing part of an Ally, hun. That's not all. But it isn't a feminist. Feminism is really a Woman-Thing. I just don't think there's anything a Man can do with it. But i'm happy to be an Ally. And i'm not the only one, there are more Men.
    Sarchasm (n): The gulf between the author of sarcastic wit and the person who doesn't get it

  38. The Following User Says Thank You to Raziel For This Useful Post:


  39. #100
    God/dess Raziel's Avatar
    Joined
    Aug 2011
    Location
    Somewhere
    Posts
    2,438
    Thanks
    414
    Thanked 1,568 Times in 989 Posts

    Default Re: How many dates till you sleep together?

    Look, the way i see it is this: I don't believe Women stand ahead of me, i don't believe Women stand behind me, I DO believe Women stand by my side, totally equal with me. I've always believed that. And we can walk forward into the future, Together. Side by side. ALL of us.

    I realize this might be a little idealistic, but i still believe it.
    Sarchasm (n): The gulf between the author of sarcastic wit and the person who doesn't get it

Page 4 of 9 FirstFirst ... 23456 ... LastLast

Similar Threads

  1. Eed overthe counter sleep meds to fix sleep schedule
    By FiendishGyrator in forum Body Business
    Replies: 7
    Last Post: 08-15-2014, 01:55 PM
  2. Night terrors..sleep panic attacks...wtf..hate sleep
    By TigersMilk in forum Body Business
    Replies: 12
    Last Post: 02-24-2008, 04:00 PM
  3. In Chicago till Monday
    By Vanessa6175 in forum Club Chat
    Replies: 2
    Last Post: 06-12-2006, 08:47 AM
  4. Replies: 5
    Last Post: 06-14-2005, 02:28 PM
  5. 2 weeks till audition....
    By REDHED in forum Newbie Board
    Replies: 6
    Last Post: 03-17-2005, 08:32 AM

Bookmarks

Posting Permissions

  • You may not post new threads
  • You may not post replies
  • You may not post attachments
  • You may not edit your posts
  •