^ Raziel, with all due respect you say things that sound poetic and philosophical, but, don't really mean anything at all. What does 'standing by my side' really mean? I know its a metaphor, but, you sound like a monk who says simple poetic things that don't mean anything in the real world.
No two people are equal. Whether you compare two men, two women, a man and a woman, people of difference races, etc. There is no wisdom is not saying "we are all equal" and "we all stand side by side". That's just 'progressive' BS that does more harm than good. Each of us has an enormous potential to shine and be special in some way, but, we also suck at many things.
If you have a kid that sucks at baseball and you give him a trophy and encourage him to continue wasting time on something that can only lead to disappointment, that is not helpful. Instead, you should tell that kid, "Sorry kid, baseball is not your thing, you suck at it. But, there are a million other activities you can do. Go FIND YOUR THING and you will be BOSS at whatever that thing may be."
My approach to finding my partner is not in finding my 'equal', but, in finding the woman that challenges me. (And, I am no good to her, unless, I also challenge her.) In somethings, she is my clear superior, and she will make me a better man. In other things, I do the same for her. We are human, we each have strengths and weaknesses. We complement each other and watch each other's back.
Many 'feminist men' treat women like white progressives treat minorities, i.e., lets lower the standards and use affirmative action to artificially 'elevate' them to a position equal with males. That is patronizing and condescending BS.
Instead, of trying to artificially make women 'equal', why not just recognize their inherent strengths and those qualities that tend to make them actually superior to men? In many ways, men are the weakest links and women are the solid and strong links that have to make up for the weakness of men. In our patriarchal culture, we downplay those qualities in which women tend to show superiority (e.g., peace, order and creating nurturing environments), and, we emphasize the qualities in which men tend to show superiority (e.g., territorial aggression and claiming possession to things). We need to be cleansed of this brainwashing. Women do not need affirmative action, they just need to be acknowledged. I come from a family of very strong women. They are the strong links that keep shit together when all hell is about to break loose, and, the men have been weak links (although, they APPEAR to be powerful under society's patriarchal standards of power).
What makes me a feminist is not that I am not an 'ALLY', but, that I am a WITNESS to the power of women. I have seen it, I continue to see it, and I can testify to it.
And, I have always been attracted to powerful women. If I tell my partner that we have to stand side by side, I am going to slow her down. Instead, I am going to encourage her to go at her own pace and I am going to work my ass off to try to keep up. And, once in a while, I will be ahead and she'll have to work harder to keep up.



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