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    Default Help me help you! I'm a new waitress.

    I am getting ready to go into my 3rd shift at a mid-tier club, we make most of our money by selling dancer drinks, and champagne rooms. I feel like I'm in a great position to work together with the dancers to
    help them sell both of those also, since it's likely I've had more interaction with the customer they're talking with them they have. For example, if Paris goes and sits down with one of my customers, would it be frowned upon by the dancer for me to go up and ask if would like to buy her a dancer drink? How do I sell this so that he understands that buying her a drink is how he gets her to stay there and chat? Are most dancers okay with me taking initiative there?

    I am definitely wanting to be successful, and would be dancing if this club wasn't in my hometown, I am in Wichita and I have people I know coming in probably once a weekend. My only other option would be to make the hour drive to emporia, and I haven't heard anything positive about those clubs.

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    Default Re: Help me help you! I'm a new waitress.

    Asking if the customer would like to buy the lady a drink is par for the course, so I wouldn't even think anything of it as the dancer. In fact, I think it'd be strange if a waitress *didn't* come up and ask if he'd like to buy me a drink, at least if the club isn't busy -- though if it was busy, I could understand the waitress waiting until she's doing her next round to ask if he'd like to buy me a drink. Besides, many dancers love drinking at work and will even push the sale for you so they can get their drinks.

    Most customers know how clubs work, so you don't generally have to worry about educating them that they have to pay to play and that drinks buy them a bit more time on the floor before they have to start spending real money to keep the dancer's attention. So, offer the opportunity to buy a drink for the dancer, but leave it at that. You don't have to say anything about the drink keeping her there to stay and chat, because quite frankly that's a promise you can't make for the dancer.

    Like GL suggests, you can verrrrry subtly try to push for the CR for the dancer, but I really hate when people try to sell for me while I'm there because it may not align with the hustle I'm using on that particular customer. Focus on selling drinks, and only worry about CR if the dancer brings it up while you're around or otherwise indicates she wants your help. Over time, you may develop hustle relationships with certain dancers where you work together to push the sale, but when you're new, let the dancer do her thing because she will generally know what she's doing.

    That said, if a customer asks you about the CR/otherwise spending time with a dancer or asks for a bottle, THEN feel free to push the sale and bring in a dancer you think he'd like. That's a great way to build that hustle relationship with a few dancers.

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    Default Re: Help me help you! I'm a new waitress.

    Thanks for the input, my main frustration is that all of the dancers have great relationships with the one waitress that has been there for awhile. Last night was slow, but she had about $500 in sales, compared to my $200, she had 4-5 CRs. I am hustling my ass off, and may be taking care of 75% of the runs out on the floor, but as soon as the dancers sell drinks for themselves or sell a CR, they call her over. I completely get that I have to work my way up and build relationships with the dancers, but it is super frustrating now when I'm walking out making $10 an hour, and getting chewed out by the bartender because my tip out was less than $20 (but still $20%).

    I'm just trying to figure out how to be good enough at my job that the dancers want to flag me down opposed to her.

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    Default Re: Help me help you! I'm a new waitress.

    When a waitress points me in the direction of a big spender, and he indeed spends a good amount on me, I always give her some of the money I made from that guy. We don't have CR's in my club, but if we did, I would grab the waitress that always does her best to hook me up. Also, sometimes guys tell the waitress, "Send over a blonde with big tits/latina girl/brunette etc" and if the waitress sends me over, I make sure to give her a tip later and thank her for thinking of me.
    Basically, pointing dancers in the direction of customers you think will spend on them will really help you out and maybe the dancers will think of YOU next time they get a CR

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    Default Re: Help me help you! I'm a new waitress.

    ^Yeah, unfortunately building those relationships takes time, so you may not see much from your efforts right away. Do you always work shifts with this other waitress, or is it possible to work opposite shifts? It seems like it'll be hard to break through while she's around and available, so it might be worth looking into working when she isn't so you have an easier in with the dancers, and can actually start helping each other out.

    Another thing to keep in mind is that serving staff has very high turnover in strip clubs, so once you prove that you're sticking around, more of the dancers will warm up to you and be willing to work with you. It just doesn't often seem worthwhile to start building a relationship sometimes when so many servers come and go.

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