I wasn't sure where to post this, but I figure this forum is the best place for advice I can trust. I have a situation I will try to explain as simply as possible but it will be long.
Ok, so I'm 33 (told I look 24-25), recently divorced, trauma after trauma the past 10 mo., moved to Las Vegas, live in a house w/ my brother, his wife & her sister, drowning in debt, just decided to start dancing, need my own space, found an amazing home in a mansion like house in a gated community, pool of my dreams, caves, waterfalls, lighting..
owner of the house owns 7 businesses...he's legit rich...super elite social circles in Vegas, Beverly Hills, and Dubai...seen all the proof down to photos with numerous celebrities, business docs and websites...knows Im a dancer...has taken a liking to me...knows every manager to every club I've always wanted to work at, has called his friend at spearmint rhino about me working there but I'm just way too intimidated to start at such a huge club..but whether or not he is legit isn't my concern at this point. The fact I know he is legit is what scares me as he is now talking working with me as he knows my background as an executive assistant. He's told me super sensitive business info & shown me financial statements.
Promises he has made thus far: my breast implants for free by his friend, new wardrobe for work, a position as an executive assistant for 3 of his 7 companies, a business trip to Dubai in 2 weeks, VIP hookups at the club I am going to be dancing at, all my student loans paid off, and a $30,000 per month, yes month, salary + expense account. On top of building my resume & providing a cover for dancing as well as a way out within months if I want. (but I actually love dancing from the little I've done so far so want to keep dancing regardless for as long as I can)..
Problem: I'm naive & have been thinking I could keep this on a professional only level. I've given absolutely no reason for him to assume otherwise except that I dance I guess if that's even a reason. I don't know, this is Vegas. I thought I had made that clear, yet tonight in regards to my implants I swear he said something about "seeing alot of me in that regard" and he just texted asking if it's ok to start buying me gifts. He asked my shoe size. He also mentioned me wearing lingerie while we are working. Ok, now I see I think I've been naive as hell and I guess what I'm asking if you ladies think there is any way possible to get this to a professional level and still take advantage of the opportunity in any way, shape, or form...or am I kidding myself?
I'm about to move into this guy's house & am freaked at the possibility of moving in...then having to deal with this. So I have to make my feelings clear now. I responded to his message saying I felt bad taking things I haven't earned. I'm waiting for his reply. I don't have anything against those who do, but I just can't be sexual with this guy no matter how I think about it. I'm cool with wearing lingerie but that is as far as that goes. He's over 70...looks 50 though...ex wives are playmate level...he's attractive for his age, no doubt....if there ever was a 100% perfect sugar daddy this would be the guy. But I just can't. But then I think about how shitty my life has been & this is the opportunity of a lifetime & wonder if there is anyway around this to keep it professional and get these ideas out of his head....but thinking that's when he will likely tell me to kick rocks if he's thinking along those lines.
I've already paid the deposit and am supposed to move in Friday, although he wants me around everyday as I think he's lonely...says he wants us to "become best friends" and "business partners" ...I know in life you don't get something for nothing, but I've made it super clear that I am more than willing to work hard and am all about my independence. I don't know, creep factor is near zero with this guy, he's really actually sweet & very smart. Makes this feel impossible...like I'd be a complete idiot to walk away from this for any reason. He talks about me taking over when he can't work anymore because all his friends are "only out for money" and he has "no kids or heirs." I feel like no matter what I do...it will be wrong.



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your monthly expenses should stay under 2k/month. 

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