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    Duh New study says women don't like nice guys.

    http://www.askmen.com/news/dating/nice-guys-study.html

    "These studies, executed by Israel’s Interdisciplinary Center and the University of Rochester, showed that though men reported a higher level of attraction to women they found to be friendly and agreeable, that same type of behavior tended to turn women off. While many men would expect an attentive ear to be all-important when setting their sights on a lady, women reported such eagerness to please to be off-putting. Both research teams came to this same conclusion, whether the study focused on in-person or online interaction. "

    I don't know about other women, but I like a man who challenges me and helps push me to be my best. This does not mean hurling insults at me in an attempt to help me "improve." Blind adoration and worship is also a bad idea. Doormats don't get me hot. In fact, if I wanted to hang out with doormat-types I'd hang out my Dominatrix plaque.

    Maybe just try acting normal around women? How fucking hard can that be?

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    Submissives are not doormats.

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    Guys are always categorized as either alpha or beta AKA nice guys--after dating alphas I realize that a mix of alpha/beta is the ideal man for partnership
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    Quote Originally Posted by LaurenAus View Post
    Guys are always categorized as either alpha or beta AKA nice guys--after dating alphas I realize that a mix of alpha/beta is the ideal man for partnership
    I'm curious, what caused you to come to that realization? Don't tell me it was a decrease in your market value as a result of father time.

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    Default Re: New study says women don't like nice guys.

    Those women just didn't like the so-called "nice guy" in the first place, and used being nice as the reason she didn't like him. If a woman met a NICE GUY who was also hot and her type, there's no way in hell she would ever say no to that.

    I think women should just know 1.) what their type(s) is(/are), and 2.) what to look/dress/act like/be into in order to attract that type of guy. Then, after that, dating is just a numbers game.

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    I'm not sure it's even an issue of nice guy/bad boy, but more an issue of confidence and assertiveness. Nice guys tend to be more reserved, whereas "bad boys" don't give a shit and are bolder.

    So be a bold nice guy. And yes, blind adoration and worship are also big no-nos. You can be a nice guy without pandering to her every whim.

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    My problem with "self-professed" nice guys is that they're usually not actually that "nice." I'm not saying they're all evil douches. They could very well, at their fundamental core, be pretty nice people - but for some reason, when romance is involved, the "niceness" warps into something not-so-genuinely-nice. Like the study says, "The first [reason] has to do with the general (and totally deserved) jadedness of the modern woman; female respondents assumed that ulterior motives lurked behind male attentiveness, perceiving responsive guys as manipulative and looking for action." IME, that's pretty true. All the "nice guys" I've ever known were only "nice" to me for so long. Only for as long as it took them to realize, for real, that they were never going to win me over with grand gestures of "niceness."

    Sometimes I think the only difference between the "asshole" alpha and the "nice" beta is that the asshole is blatant and knows how to move on and play the numbers game when he's shot down, so of course he gets more play. Whereas the "nice guy" keeps trying to slowly and strategically "win the game" with one person at a time and then reacts more negatively when all that time and effort isn't "rewarded."

    Right now I am being pursued by a "nice guy" who I have straight-up, honestly communicated with that I was not looking to date him. He respected that for about 2 weeks, and then launched into doubling his efforts to "show me what a great boyfriend he could be," and trying to "earn points" with me. He has actually used those words and phrases, and I've been told by a mutual friend that he's actually said, "Yeah, she says she doesn't want to date me now, but I'm just gonna keep being super nice and super charming, and eventually I'll win her over." Fuck. That. That's not NICE. That's creepy and a complete dismissal of what I specifically stated I wanted and was comfortable with and overt pushing of my already-stated boundaries. But then his friends want to get up my shit about "Oh, but he's such a nice guy!" Umm... no... not if everything he does for me has this ulterior motive designed to make me "change my mind" from what I already said I wanted. Even if certain guys from my past haven't been so bold as to state that stuff out loud, I'm pretty sure that's what was going through their heads as well. So, no, that's not nice.

    Have I been attracted to "assholes," or alphas? Of course - there is something instantly charismatic about people who appear confident and "IDGAF." But at this point in my life, I've dealt with enough of them to know we could probably be great friends with similar strong personalities, but they are shit for dating (at least for someone like me - most of them have gone on to have very successful relationships with more mellow women who can deal with their aggression).

    The flip side to the guy above though, is there is a guy I'm interested in now who I believe is genuinely nice. He has never been a jerk to me. He is very good at listening and not judging me when I talk to him about problems. Never ignores my texts or blows me off, or has really ever done anything douchey to me. I would legitimately classify him as a nice person/guy. But I can tell that's just his general personality. I've known him a good while and he's not just doing this stuff in leaps and bounds trying to get with me. My most recent ex was the same way - Nice guy that I was actually attracted to because it didn't come off as sleazy. It's perfectly do-able to be nice without being the self-professed "nice guy" who is only nice as part of a "woman-getting plan."
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    I'm curious, what caused you to come to that realization? Don't tell me it was a decrease in your market value as a result of father time.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Aurora_Sunset View Post
    My problem with "self-professed" nice guys is that they're usually not actually that "nice." I'm not saying they're all evil douches. They could very well, at their fundamental core, be pretty nice people - but for some reason, when romance is involved, the "niceness" warps into something not-so-genuinely-nice. Like the study says, "The first [reason] has to do with the general (and totally deserved) jadedness of the modern woman; female respondents assumed that ulterior motives lurked behind male attentiveness, perceiving responsive guys as manipulative and looking for action." IME, that's pretty true. All the "nice guys" I've ever known were only "nice" to me for so long. Only for as long as it took them to realize, for real, that they were never going to win me over with grand gestures of "niceness."

    Sometimes I think the only difference between the "asshole" alpha and the "nice" beta is that the asshole is blatant and knows how to move on and play the numbers game when he's shot down, so of course he gets more play. Whereas the "nice guy" keeps trying to slowly and strategically "win the game" with one person at a time and then reacts more negatively when all that time and effort isn't "rewarded."

    Right now I am being pursued by a "nice guy" who I have straight-up, honestly communicated with that I was not looking to date him. He respected that for about 2 weeks, and then launched into doubling his efforts to "show me what a great boyfriend he could be," and trying to "earn points" with me. He has actually used those words and phrases, and I've been told by a mutual friend that he's actually said, "Yeah, she says she doesn't want to date me now, but I'm just gonna keep being super nice and super charming, and eventually I'll win her over." Fuck. That. That's not NICE. That's creepy and a complete dismissal of what I specifically stated I wanted and was comfortable with and overt pushing of my already-stated boundaries. But then his friends want to get up my shit about "Oh, but he's such a nice guy!" Umm... no... not if everything he does for me has this ulterior motive designed to make me "change my mind" from what I already said I wanted. Even if certain guys from my past haven't been so bold as to state that stuff out loud, I'm pretty sure that's what was going through their heads as well. So, no, that's not nice.

    Have I been attracted to "assholes," or alphas? Of course - there is something instantly charismatic about people who appear confident and "IDGAF." But at this point in my life, I've dealt with enough of them to know we could probably be great friends with similar strong personalities, but they are shit for dating (at least for someone like me - most of them have gone on to have very successful relationships with more mellow women who can deal with their aggression).

    The flip side to the guy above though, is there is a guy I'm interested in now who I believe is genuinely nice. He has never been a jerk to me. He is very good at listening and not judging me when I talk to him about problems. Never ignores my texts or blows me off, or has really ever done anything douchey to me. I would legitimately classify him as a nice person/guy. But I can tell that's just his general personality. I've known him a good while and he's not just doing this stuff in leaps and bounds trying to get with me. My most recent ex was the same way - Nice guy that I was actually attracted to because it didn't come off as sleazy. It's perfectly do-able to be nice without being the self-professed "nice guy" who is only nice as part of a "woman-getting plan."
    I think you pretty much nailed it, what the "Nice Guy" is usually about.

    In general I disagree with jerks being labeled as "alpha". That isn't what that term means. Alpha means leadership. Sure depending on the social circle an alpha might be the loud douche attention whore try hard guy. Among grown ups it is likely to more someone who is a good person (not necessarily nice) with high standards and some drive and deals with things fairly straight forward.

    Anyway, I think this was a pretty unnecessary study. In my completely unqualified opinion, the more feminine a woman is the more masculine man she will find attractive and vice versa.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Aurora_Sunset View Post
    My problem with "self-professed" nice guys is that they're usually not actually that "nice." I'm not saying they're all evil douches. They could very well, at their fundamental core, be pretty nice people - but for some reason, when romance is involved, the "niceness" warps into something not-so-genuinely-nice. Like the study says, "The first [reason] has to do with the general (and totally deserved) jadedness of the modern woman; female respondents assumed that ulterior motives lurked behind male attentiveness, perceiving responsive guys as manipulative and looking for action." IME, that's pretty true. All the "nice guys" I've ever known were only "nice" to me for so long. Only for as long as it took them to realize, for real, that they were never going to win me over with grand gestures of "niceness."

    Sometimes I think the only difference between the "asshole" alpha and the "nice" beta is that the asshole is blatant and knows how to move on and play the numbers game when he's shot down, so of course he gets more play. Whereas the "nice guy" keeps trying to slowly and strategically "win the game" with one person at a time and then reacts more negatively when all that time and effort isn't "rewarded."

    Right now I am being pursued by a "nice guy" who I have straight-up, honestly communicated with that I was not looking to date him. He respected that for about 2 weeks, and then launched into doubling his efforts to "show me what a great boyfriend he could be," and trying to "earn points" with me. He has actually used those words and phrases, and I've been told by a mutual friend that he's actually said, "Yeah, she says she doesn't want to date me now, but I'm just gonna keep being super nice and super charming, and eventually I'll win her over." Fuck. That. That's not NICE. That's creepy and a complete dismissal of what I specifically stated I wanted and was comfortable with and overt pushing of my already-stated boundaries. But then his friends want to get up my shit about "Oh, but he's such a nice guy!" Umm... no... not if everything he does for me has this ulterior motive designed to make me "change my mind" from what I already said I wanted. Even if certain guys from my past haven't been so bold as to state that stuff out loud, I'm pretty sure that's what was going through their heads as well. So, no, that's not nice.

    Have I been attracted to "assholes," or alphas? Of course - there is something instantly charismatic about people who appear confident and "IDGAF." But at this point in my life, I've dealt with enough of them to know we could probably be great friends with similar strong personalities, but they are shit for dating (at least for someone like me - most of them have gone on to have very successful relationships with more mellow women who can deal with their aggression).

    The flip side to the guy above though, is there is a guy I'm interested in now who I believe is genuinely nice. He has never been a jerk to me. He is very good at listening and not judging me when I talk to him about problems. Never ignores my texts or blows me off, or has really ever done anything douchey to me. I would legitimately classify him as a nice person/guy. But I can tell that's just his general personality. I've known him a good while and he's not just doing this stuff in leaps and bounds trying to get with me. My most recent ex was the same way - Nice guy that I was actually attracted to because it didn't come off as sleazy. It's perfectly do-able to be nice without being the self-professed "nice guy" who is only nice as part of a "woman-getting plan."
    Actually, I have gone on various dates with lots of self-proclaimed nice guys. But nothing about majority of them screamed "hi I'm nice!" so yeah. Every time I go on dates, the guy opens the car door for me on my side, holds doors, etc etc and then they ALWAYS make the comment "I like being nice, I bet most guys don't open doors for you, right?" And I lol because literally all of them do.

    So they often have this self-proclaimed "nice guy" image of themselves, but they aren't like... doing anything that "nice" thats above and beyond. They just use the "I'm such a nice guy!" mentality in THEIR OWN minds, in order to justify being mega persistent in order to get what they want. I have had that happen to me a lot when very casually dating.


    In general, I think its really important to look at your own personality and physical characteristics (how you are coming off to people as well as how you really are), and then look for something that is complimentary to that. That's what I do, and my relationships usually go pretty well. I'm feminine and subby on the outside, but definitely more topping-from-the-bottom on the inside. So I work well with a guy who is masculine and dominant on the outside, but likes quite a bit of input from a girl in order to function the best. I also can only date men smarter than me or I literally want to die. So knowing these things are important IMO.

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    1) There is a study out there to prove every concievable point on earth at this point, and it's not hard to manipulate studies in a variety of ways in order to "coax" the results one wants.

    2) I don't put a whole lot of stock in any information coming out of Israel these days.

    3) Cultural differences have not been accounted for--Israel is a pretty traditional and conservative country and men and women there generally conform a lot more to traditional gender roles than in North America and have also been far less exposed to alternative male identities.

    4) I know way too many women who think the macho man thing is a HUGE turn off. I'll take a nice guy any day, I know plenty of women who agree. I find it the exact opposite of off-putting when a man is nice and respectful towards me and I think women that define that as a turn off are possibly a bit off in the head and have poor self esteem/have established bad male role models possibly in their early years. I mean to each their own, but in my mind there's something going on if you DESIRE to be treated like shit instead of nicely.
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    ^I think the point that the more... Dare I say "self actualized" (anyone understand why that's a double entendre?) women here are making is very simply that what you (Odette) are referring to as a "nice guy" - "not an asshole" - is a REAL nice guy, whereas the guys that profess to BE "nice guys", just aren't. Really, Aurora and Glamor laid it down perfectly.

    This "nice guy" phenomenon has other ramifications, too. REAL nice guys are looked at cynically by a lot of strong women now. It's gotten to the point where many times, being a good person really IS the starting from behind the eight ball position that the "nice guys" complain about it being - simply because they've been douchebags for so long that girls that are the object of their "affection" (obsession) end up being jaded toward any guy that comes off as sweet for years afterward...

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    Why women don't like nice guys:




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    For every 'Nice Guy' whining about how all the women go for disrespectful douchebags, there's a woman whining about how her douchebag boyfriend keeps disrespecting her.



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    Default Re: New study says women don't like nice guys.

    i disagree with that study that men like "nice girls". back when i was a nice girl, i got dumped and treated like shit from every bf i had…now that i'm a bit of a bitch, i've had my longest happiest relationship. nobody like a doormat overly eager to please and desperate. not men, not women. i also agree with aurora fully..really "nice guys" are hard to find, while whiny creeps who complain about "friend zones" and how women don't appreciate nice guys because they just wanna get laid are plentiful.
    i love actual gentlemen, REAL good men..but i also like somebody who has self respect, is independent, confident, and doesn't just lay down and take it from everyone. what exactly do they mean by " friendly, agreeable men"?

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    ^^This is true. I much prefer women with some spirit, who refuse to take shit from any man, to the types that let guys walk all over them.
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    I like genuinely nice guys. These guys are nice to everyone and that's their personality. In fact there is a guy I am friends with who I'd like to date because he is so sweet and kind. He works with animals and he is so gentle with them.

    However, I'm willing to bet he wouldn't label himself a nice guy in this context. The guys who usually label themselves nice guys usually aren't. They are only nice because they want a woman and when they get rejected turn into a mean asshole. I've known a few, they bend over backwards thinking I'll be interested and when I tell them no they do nasty things, like ditch me at a rock concert or yell at me.

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    The term "Nice guy" is a red flag to me. Nice people don't have to go around constantly describing themselves as nice, it's just obvious to everyone that they are. If you have to tell people, you're doing it wrong.

    It's like if someone constantly said, "I don't steal twinkies from the gas station and shove them in my anus!" Eventually you would start to think that guy did indeed have a nasty habit of stuffing pilfered twinkies in his asshole.

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    ^^^Same here goes for all the girls who proclaim that they can always tell who the PUAs are & that they always blow them off, etc. Usually they are the ones who fall first & hardest for the PUA shit.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Djoser View Post
    ^^^Same here goes for all the girls who proclaim that they can always tell who the PUAs are & that they always blow them off, etc. Usually they are the ones who fall first & hardest for the PUA shit.
    Is that your experience? I've though that PUAs are easy to spot as they are not attractive yet bouncing around spouting compliments and then negs to women who are obviously out of their league looks wise. Also young, college-age guys. Since that is not a group I am interested in, this is not something I've bothered to think about beyond the occasional thread here and there, and how sad it is that some guys are so desperate to come to this.

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    It's been my experience, yes. But I have spent a lot of time working in stripclubs. And way too many years before Key West spent in Daytona Beach. That place is a PUA magnet.

    I don't mean the guys who read a couple pages from the PUA sites & are trying it out the first time. I mean the real PUAs who are skilled with the negs, etc. If they have some blow also, they will always have waiting lines lol.

    But yeah you can sure find hordes of wannabe 'nice guys' in the clubs too.
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    This perfect combo is what most women want: genuinely good person (no doormat) with an edge (not an asshole).

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    Quote Originally Posted by Vyanka View Post
    This perfect combo is what most women want: genuinely good person (no doormat) with an edge (not an asshole).
    Exactly. And that guy IS nice whether he is deemed a "nice guy" or not. There are a lot of guys who look like "nice guys" but do asshole things. And there are a lot of genuinely nice guys who aren't deemed a "nice guy" just because they look imtimidating/edgy/whatever else.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Djoser View Post
    ^^^Same here goes for all the girls who proclaim that they can always tell who the PUAs are & that they always blow them off, etc. Usually they are the ones who fall first & hardest for the PUA shit.
    I would be wary of women who even talk about PUAs often. I admit I just had to look up the term to be sure what you were talking about.

    People who don't associate with them probably wouldn't feel the need to talk about them. They'd just avoid them. It's like people who say they hate drama yet always have so much of it. Then you have the people who have no actual drama in their lives and barely ever even use the word "drama."

    People will usually tell you who they are if you just listen.
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    Default Re: New study says women don't like nice guys.

    Quote Originally Posted by MarvelGirl View Post
    People will usually tell you who they are if you just listen.
    Yes! That's a classic.

    I was starting to wish I had just stayed out of this thread lol. That right there makes me glad I didn't.

    No offense to the OP, you were just telling us about yet another seemingly useless study telling us what we already knew. And the suckup guys do get old, I am sure.
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