Hey im a new dancer and I wanted to know is it every guy who just feel like just because we are dancers they can try to finger us and touch us every and anywhere! ?
And how do you react and tell them stop with out losing money!?![]()
Hey im a new dancer and I wanted to know is it every guy who just feel like just because we are dancers they can try to finger us and touch us every and anywhere! ?
And how do you react and tell them stop with out losing money!?![]()





i tip the guard to keep an eye on them, so he's yelling at them instead of me, or i'll say " i'm having fun with you, but you don't want to get kicked out and get me in trouble do you?". i'll always start out light, but if they continue be very firm or just kick them out and make sure they paid upfront. dance defensively. i used to put my hands down on the floor and shake my ass on their lap but then i realized they took advantage of the situation to try and put a finger in me, so i stopped..especially if the guy tried to pull things before. every girl has her own boundaries, just make sure they are clear before the dance and stick with them! these guys should not be allowed to assault you with their fingers..you may end up losing an extra 20 bucks or so, but is 20 bucks really worth being finger raped?



Make sure to be very firm on your boundaries and communicate what they are. Some girls allow this and sadly guys will assume what is okay with one dancer is okay with everyone. As soon as they try taking my thong off, touching my pussy, ect I firmly say that is not allowed. If they try again I warn them I have been known to get violent if they keep it up. If they keep trying I end the dance (possible slap) and make them pay double; then have the bouncer kick then out. My stripper persona is very aggressive and dominant, due to this I tend to attract more submissive men that just do what I say anyway. However once in a while I get one that misbehaves. Just don't let them get away with anything that makes you uncomfortable!





It's not EVERY guy, please don't get too jaded so early
You will learn to dance defensively, where you can block them from getting their fingers places they don't belong. Personally, I will put up with their behavior and dance that way for about half a song; if they don't get the non-verbal message, then I will say something like "Nope, that's my personal boundary line" and move their hand away. If they still do not stop, I will remind them one more time and after that it's air dances standing a foot away.
I've never had to call bouncers in; that would just ruin the mood and kill your sale; often guys will stop their nonsense and get a few more dances if you handle it nicely yourself. BUT I would definitely tip the bouncers a few bucks every night anyway; you never know if/when you may get a real asshole that tries something serious, and you want them to have your back.
You can also wear 2 thongs; that way if they do catch you off guard and get a finger under one, they have another layer between them and your lady bits.
"People jack off with the left hand and point with the right."
"You can check out any time you like, but you can never leave."
Thank you everyone Ima try all of these and try to be way more dominant!




Two thongs is a good idea. Also, get your dance money before the dance (if you can). I try to have the business conversation before I take anything off.




Negative reinforcement. Customer being bad? Take away something they like! Namely you. Stand up from their laps, put distance between the two of you. I mainly do this when they're trying to lick or kiss me.
I also am a big proponent of dancing defensively. Something I like to do for overly handsy guys is to hold their hands in mine. Like, if I'm sitting in their laps with my back to them, I'll take their palms on the backs of my hands, lace our fingers, and runs their hands along areas I don't mind being touched. Also, if someone tries to kiss me without much notice, I'll do a quick body slide down them--it gets you out of the kiss vicinity and usually distracts them, since you're suddenly on your knees and kind of look like you're about to blow them. I also like to play dodge the boner, which is just shifting your weight to avoid dick while giving seemingly high-contact dances.
If that doesn't work and you're being manhandled, just end the dance by whatever means necessary.




I grab their hands, pin them against the backrest of the booth and purr that I like to be in charge.


^I do that sometimes.
Otherwise, I gasp and do a sort of giggle and say "You don't want me to get in trouble, do you?" Some guys stop, others say "You won't get in trouble, no one's paying attention." Then I tell them there's a camera. I'll start dancing more defensively and playing hand ninja where my hands are one step ahead of theirs. There was one guy that got so bad (he actually begged for one more song so he could touch me everywhere) that I stood up and very loudly said "Give me my money, and we're DONE." Other dancers heard me, and he didn't get another that night.
I usually move their hands and give them a polite warning. If they're really bad I end the dance, tell them to give my money and inform the bouncers if needed. Grabby hands happen but you do not have to put up with it. Never do anything you aren't comfortable with. If it's happening a lot you may need to switch to a better club. I've left clubs where it's "expected." I just don't have the patience to fight guys off me all night.
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