I need advice bad & would love advice from ladies familiar w/ dancing in Vegas. Any comments are welcome & totally appreciated, I just feel that clubs here can be different from other cities...
Background: Started contemplating dancing 1.5 yrs ago while married, never went through w/ it as husband didn't like it...fast forward 6 mo., divorce, moved to Vegas, decided to dance...worked a few days at Crazy Horse 2, was dead (they just closed today FYI) so never went back until a couple days ago when I was hired at Cheetahs. I've been wanting to do this for a long time & have put a ton of time, money & research into making it happen. I sure thought I knew what I was getting into...
Some things just can't be researched though. I guess what I'm wondering now is if how I'm feeling can be overcome or does this mean I'm just not cut out to be a dancer.
I would love advice from anyone who can relate to what I'm saying...especially those w/ experience in Las Vegas clubs. I guess I'm just looking for encouragement...hoping to hear of others who have overcome these types of issues...I've done a search, but was looking for more info specific to Vegas & this situation. This is one place I know I can go to for relevant advice I can trust. And in a city like Vegas you can trust nobody.
So problem is I worked my 2nd night last night & left for the 2nd time down my house fees....as in made nothing except $20 last night in a 2 for 1 deal. I have ZERO hustle. None whatsoever. I'm concerned because I am a former real estate broker & quit real estate because I'm not a naturally good sales person. In fact, not only do I have no hustle...I have negative hustle...as in I'm doing so many things wrong...I'm not sure what to focus on or where to start making changes but it all needs to change.
My #1 problem is selling....I'm not too bad at approaching customers, but I can't figure out how to ask for dances. I get sucked into these long conversations...entertaining the typical Vegas BS entirely too long. Seriously I think 100% of the customers I've interacted w/ have A. tried to get me out of the club B. asked how much for X,Y, Z sexual favors C. tried to pimp me out or D. talked about their oh-so-fabulous celebrity studded lifestyle & how successful they are or E. all the shit they can do for me, yet can't even manage to buy me a drink, let alone a dance
I am attracted like a magnet to the worst types of customers....the types who think they're too good to buy dances....or fronting like they have $ but are too cheap....& if not w/ these guys I find myself chatting it up in the friend zone. I can't blame them...it's all my fault...I have to realize early on that it's not rude for me to get up and walk away.
I'm way too friendly w/ customers....to the point of me forgetting I'm working & why I'm there. Since I'm new to the city I confuse the fact I'm not out kickin it & socializing, but need to be focused. Because of this I've decided to limit or forgo alcohol consumption at work..I think it will help but still...
I just can't seem to ask for dances...I can force myself to approach customers, but I get this thought stuck in my head that if they wanted a dance, they would ask....SO WRONG & so ridiculous I know. It's like I just assume they are all going to say no. I will never be a successful dancer w/ this mentality so I need help breaking it. Management, house moms, staff are all amazing. They think I'm going to do great...say the customers will love me...so I can't figure out what is wrong w/ me? It's all mental & I know there is a bit of a confidence problem...I'm not centerfold skinny so was nervous about getting hired...they really loved me & quickly stuck me on night shift so I got over myself. Especially when I saw the other girls, I was surprised that I was actually one of the smaller girls working.
What really got to me is watching these girls on stage & working their hustle...they looked beautiful & they were amazing. The confidence was just glaring off them & honest made me wonder WTF is my problem & if they can own their sexiness & be so confident...why can't I? I'm learning to love my body, looks wise I know I'm pretty, I have a good personality & I have no problem doing lap dances...have done an hour of VIP (literally handed to me on a silver platter though)...but am also nervous about stage..I've only done it once when the club was dead & usually pay to avoid it. I realize that is getting me nowhere but broke & now I'm to the point if I want to work at all I can't afford to skip stage anymore.
I'm sure I can overcome my stage fright in time....but can a person who is the polar opposite of a salesman & who has the mentality that they are most likely going to say no... can I turn this around while working in the club? If so...how? Or is this personal work I'm going to have to do on myself outside of the club first? Or am I just in the wrong city? Back in Portland I cocktailed in strip clubs & frequented as a customer & wasn't like this as much...at least not so many people preying on others trying to get something...in my experience anyway. One of the hosts told me to come back tonight & he would hook me up w/ other hosts & could definitely get me business as long as I take care of them. I will def work w/ them, but I know I can't be relying on hosts to get me all of my business...I want to be able to be confident in my own ability to sell....do I sound hopeless? I don't want to give up....been wanting to do this for so long...but this is getting really expensive kwim
Please help me!



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