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    So I'm not a newbie but I feel like one. I spent this summer visiting my parents and only worked one very mediocre shift before finally coming home. The entire time I was there, I complained about not working and kept talking about how much I wanted to be back home so I could work and make some actual money. I got home a week ago and I haven't worked a single shift since being back because I get the most ridiculous anxiety when I think about working. I don't understand what is wrong with me, I have more anxiety about working now than I did on my first night dancing. I've worked at a total of 12 different places over the past 10 years so I'm confused and frustrated as to why I am so anxious. Any advice? Tips?

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    Does it feel like 'new club' jitters, even if you're going back to a place you've been at for awhile? Even after 5yrs & over a dozen different clubs I still have a little bit of nerves for the first few nites at a new place until I settle in.

    I always have sm measure of anxiety going back to work after a break, whether it was just for a wk or esp during longer times being away from dancing for whatever reason. A lot of things abt the job make me a bit anxious to being w/ but that's just me, I am an introvert. I have always found that the only way to quell it is to just suck it up & go in & get back to work. Even if the first nite or two back is a bit rocky, I can chalk it up to just having that extra 'on-edge' feeling, just like when I first started working at that club. Once I re-acclimate then I am fine, or at least back down to 'normal' anxiety lvls.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Aniela View Post
    Does it feel like 'new club' jitters, even if you're going back to a place you've been at for awhile? Even after 5yrs & over a dozen different clubs I still have a little bit of nerves for the first few nites at a new place until I settle in.

    I always have sm measure of anxiety going back to work after a break, whether it was just for a wk or esp during longer times being away from dancing for whatever reason. A lot of things abt the job make me a bit anxious to being w/ but that's just me, I am an introvert. I have always found that the only way to quell it is to just suck it up & go in & get back to work. Even if the first nite or two back is a bit rocky, I can chalk it up to just having that extra 'on-edge' feeling, just like when I first started working at that club. Once I re-acclimate then I am fine, or at least back down to 'normal' anxiety lvls.

    Yes, that's exactly what it feels like. When I first started dancing, I was more nervous about the physical aspect of the job. I was outgoing and friendly so talking to people (staff, management, other dancers, customers) didn't bother me. Now the thought of having to interact with so many people makes me feel extremely anxious. I didn't have a bad shift the last time I did work so I don't know why I'm feeling like this but I wish it would go away. I don't want to go to work feeling like I'm going to vomit but I also don't want to sit around the house dwelling like I've been doing for the past week.

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    I get like this too every time I take a break and go back! I am a natural introvert and talking to dudes all night (especially approaching strangers) takes a lot out of me. This might sound silly but I've found it helps to get yourself into "stripper mode" at home and "practice." Do your hair, make up, put on your tallest shoes, dance in front of the mirror, do whatever makes you feel sexy. Also I always talk to the DJ on the first night and try to be one of the first girls on stage. I love being on stage and usually (hopefully)a guy will approach my tip rail and break the ice. Once you talk to the first one, it becomes easier and easier. Also pretending that you're in a regular bar helps. In a regular bar these same guys would fall over themselves if I gave them the time of day so I just try to put myself in that mindset. Maybe even go out with your girlfriends the night before work and practice flirting with regular Joes. Then you can see how much power you really have over them.

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    I've gotten it too. It takes awhile to get over believe me.
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    i've found that working more gets rid of the anxiety for me..the less i work the more i'm absolutely paranoid about not making money, award conversations, rejection, pretty much everything. then i get into the swing of things and the dread and worries fade into the background

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