Hopefully I have put this in the most correct category...
Ok, so this is mainly a bit of a rant against this therapist (who I will not be returning to) after she was so judgemental about my choice to be a stripper. It basically became a feminist debate (which hey, I'm usually down for, but I'm seeing a shrink for therapy, I'm not there to be judged or to argue).
She said it was dehumanizing, objectifying and all the usual shit. Also that I was naive and "disconnected" with my body. Like, what the fuck? I was so angry and emotional by the end of it, I was literally shaking. I had never felt so judged by anyone with this job, and I've told many people as I've decided not to keep it a secret, and ironically I felt the most judged by someone who is a feminist. I'm definitely a feminist myself, but when I tried to explain my experience and perspective with the job being a feminist I was completely dismissed. Her judgements were completely biased and when I tried to ask questions about the difference between being a retail slave and being a stripper, basically analysing things, she just dismissed me and said "this is a common response from sex workers - justifying and rationalising the decision." Ugh, fuck you. Treating me like I have no capability to make a decision because apparently I am "disconnected" with myself. I also understood her perspective as I used to be a little sceptical of sex work and now I have a different view of it but NOPE she just shook her head at me.
Her saying my choice of profession was "dehumanizing" simply felt dehumanizing, along with not listening to a damn word I had to say about dancing. Not to mention, she is a sexual assault counsellor so obviously she's spoken to sex workers who were assaulted, so OBVIOUSLY they're going to seem distraught, not because of their job but because of the unfortunate sexual assault they experienced.
Ugh, I was so upset for a couple of days and I've returned to my other therapist who I had previously and she has been amazing in response to me working as a stripper, always was. And as a feminist myself, I couldn't imagine just dismissing someone like that because of their "objectifying" career. Never have and hopefully never will.



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