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    Hello SW. I am starting this thread in case anyone is going through something similar and is ready to sober up with me.

    I've been drinking heavily since I graduated high school in 2006. All through 6 years of university and especially in the last year of my life since I moved to Vegas to strip. I don't know if I'm an alcoholic per se since I don't crave alcohol on my days off, but at work I crave it SO badly to the point that I feel I cannot work without it. I can easily drink 10+ drinks during a shift at work without getting too drunk so I know I have at least a psychological addiction for sure. I start out my shift with at least 3 or 4 drinks and then drink all night with customers and especially in VIP. I work 3-4 days a week so basically I have been drinking WAY too much and it's affecting my life very negatively. I also do drugs occasionally (once/twice a month) and smoke cigarettes when I'm drunk and I'd like to stop doing these things too.

    I never do the things I used to love because I'm always so hungover. I never go rock climbing anymore or go to the gym since I always feel so crappy, and I struggle to work 3/4 days a week when I should be working 5. I also usually ALWAYS have 6 pack abs, but lately I've been all bloated and squishy feeling and am suddenly covered with cellulite....surely gaining weight from all the booze. I'm a model as well as a dancer so this is NOT ok lol. I'm ready to take my life back!

    Today will be the first day I work sober in over a year. I'm going in early at 4pm because I'm hoping that there will be less of a party crowd there earlier. No matter how badly I want to drink today, I won't. Taking it day by day.

    I'll also be checking out some Narcotics Anonymous meetings, starting tomorrow. I will update this thread as often as I can to hold myself accountable. Please feel free to share your stories with me if you've gone through something similar!

    Also....if any Vegas ladies work sober at either Sapphire or Rhino, please say hi I'd love to have some sober friends in an industry where it feels like EVERYONE drinks lol.

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    There is a physical component to alcoholism, but that is minor. It is the mental aspect that causes people to drink and to relapse.

    Here is something to think about: You wonder if you are an Alcoholic. Have you ever wondered if you were a Duck?

    If you are chemically addicted, you have to quit all mind altering chemicals. Drug addicts cant drink, alcoholics cant use drugs. In addition to NA, go to AA. There is usually more long term sobriety in AA meetings.

    You might want to read this topic, and let us know how you are doing.

    https://www.stripperweb.com/forum/sh...nt-to-AA-today

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    I've been working sober, and doing better. At first, I really couldn't get through one hr without drinking. Now, I just convinced myself I can't drink so I don't. I was nervous getting onstage at first but now, it's been a week and I don't miss it anymore. I also have a drinking problem, so I kinda needed to quit. Just act like you're tipsy, super fun, super happy, not many will notice, trust me. Pretty soon you'll realize the advantage you have, when drunk customer tries to waste your time you quickly move the subject back to dancing. You have the clear head. It's so much better, Im thinking of all the money I didn't make in the past from getting too drunk, too lazy, too sloppy, too feisty, too party girl like. I wish you luck.

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    I second the link, my personal, very honest entries with my alcoholism =) https://www.stripperweb.com/forum/sh...nt-to-AA-today

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    I second the link, my personal, very honest entries with my alcoholism =) https://www.stripperweb.com/forum/sh...nt-to-AA-today
    Weird one....I actually read your whole thread already!! Read it last night I loved it....it really helped me to read that.

    I WORKED SOBER TONIGHT!!!! I didn't think it was possible. Haven't had one drink in 3 days now. Work was difficult in some ways though. People kept pushing me to drink over and over again. I kept saying "It's too early for me to drink" or even tried "I don't really drink at work" but people kept trying to make me taste drinks, take shots, have some beer, etc. It was REALLY annoying and actually made me NOT want to drink even more. I tried being honest with one really persistent dude and said I kinda had a problem and needed to quit, but then everyone else at the table started high fiving and saying they all had problems too but still chose to drink. So obviously telling people you have a drinking problem is not a good idea lol. I think I'm going to start saying that I just hate the taste of alcohol or something.

    Working sober also made me notice how annoying everyone else is when they are drunk. I could smell it on everyone (I usually can't) and it was gross. I saw soooo many people acting really dumb and it made me sad to think that I'm usually the crazy drunk one.

    I barely made any money....probably because I was so annoyed all night by people. When I'm drunk, it is so much easier to tolerate the boring conversations and the disrespectful customers. I literally almost punched some dude tonight because he walked by and slapped my ass....I RAN after him (tripping over my heels in the process lol) and grabbed the back of his shirt and yelled in his face about how he can't just walk around slapping random girls' asses. He was so shocked and really seemed sorry lol I really overreacted. I felt rage flowing through my veins and I NEVER get like that. I'm always so laid back.

    Is it normal to feel such rage when you stop drinking?? lol I thought alcohol made people more angry but it mellows me out apparently.

    I dunno if anyone is gonna keep reading this but I'll keep updating it just in case any girls might benefit from it.

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    Just don't tell customers, it's not a good conversation topic, might turn them off, if they start thinking about their own alcoholism lol.

    Last time I worked with my old friends I didn't make money either, I took home less than $100 but I didn't care, it still won't make me drink. A dancer once said,"all that money won't buy you a new liver." That should be a quote in the stripper bible. It's so true, looking at it from an outer space point of view. We're literally using our bodies to make the owners rich and in the long run, were the ones getting screwed.

    I got really angry, then sad during first couple of weeks. It's normal. Eat hard candies, like jolly ranchers, drink lots of water too.

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    OP, the rage sounds like a normal part of withdrawal-induced mood swings. Actions like that piss me off plenty & I don't even drink at work, but when I am having worse anxiety nites or struggles w/ my own former addiction, I get much more high-strung than normal & things like that will be enough for me to fly off the handle.

    Drinking was nvr a problem for me at work for a few reasons -- one of which being, I literally get sick b4 I get drunk 99% of the time. I have told customers this when they tried to pressure me to drink, explaining that alcohol just doesn't agree w/ me, plus it is not really a good thing to mix w/ all the polework I do (/faceplant, anyone? ). When faced w/ the realisation that trying to get me drunk will have me skipping 'fun drunk' & going straight to 'pukey drunk' they back off real quick.

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    If I were you, I might tell customers something like "OMG I can't have another one...I've already had too much!" Then amp up the party attitude. Make it seem like you've already been drinking for the last few hours - like they're the ones who are late to your party. "You've gotta catch up...is this your first beer?" Try to turn the tables on them pressuring you - pressure them right back!

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    Worked sober again last night and made $560!! A huge step up from monday when I made 120 bucks working sober lol. It is SO much easier to hustle guys when you are sober....I already feel that I'm getting used to it and I don't miss alcohol at all! Guys literally cannot even waste my time anymore lol. If they aren't getting a dance within a few minutes of talking, I bounce to the next table. When I drank I used to waste sooooo much time sitting with people just because they were buying me drinks lol. Drinks don't pay your bills!!!

    In the VIP I ordered Virgin Bloody mary's and got my healthy dose of tomato juice for the night I think the salt is also good too since we sweat so much. I'm trying to think of other virgin drinks that are yummy....let me know if you have any suggestions!

    Telling people that I'm already wasted is a much better way to go than being honest! The guys that try to force you to drink are probably not thinking of your best interests anyways....they are probably trying to take advantage of your time or body somehow. Thank you guys for the advice!!

    So far my only pitfall is that I get PISSED really easily. I'm sober so it's more obvious when guys are being assholes. Last night I was getting pissed at dudes sitting at the tip rail gawking and REFUSING to tip, even when I asked nicely for a measly dollar. I'm really hot (not to be conceited lol) and I work HARD on stage so I am worth WAY more than a f*cking dollar lol. I need to look around hustle hut for ways to deal with this because explaining to them that sitting at the TIP RAIL means they need to tip or GTFO...doesn't work lol. I hate freeloaders >.<

    On the bright side....two of my stripper friends want to quit drinking too!! I was worried that quitting drinking would ruin some of my stripper "friendships" but it has had the opposite effect. Last night they drank but waaay less than usual and they were so happy. I want to spread this around to everyone and help as many girls as I can! I seriously cannot put in words what a huge difference this has made in my life already. Thank you guys for the advice and encouragement <3

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    High five girl!

    Awesome virgin drinks: piña coladas/daiquiris if your bar has a blender. You can tell the cocktail waitresses your situation, order drinks normally, but have them not put any alcohol in it. Rum and coke sans coke, etc.

    I think NA might suit you better, simply because it's less hokey/cult like usually... Though like was mentioned, AA has longer sobriety people usually. That's just my opinion though
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    The longer you are sober, the better it gets.

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    Well I made over $700 at work last night!! And I HATE Thursdays usually!! I was very tempted to drink in the very beginning of the night because these customers opened a bottle of Grey Goose right in front of me, but I whispered to the waitress to just pour me a soda and cranberry sans vodka. I'm proud that I resisted because that was the first time I was really tempted.

    I noticed that I still feel sorta hungover the mornings after I work, even though I haven't been drinking! I realized that working, even while sober, is TOUGH on your body and dehydrates you even if you drink tons of water. This motivates me to NOT drink because my body is already being abused and dehydrated enough...I do not need to do further damage by drinking booze!

    Also...I noticed my face is breaking out SUPER bad. I don't know if it's related....maybe I'm detoxing or maybe it's just the stress of a lifestyle change. Either way...I'll take a face-full of zits instead of a hangover any day lol.

    Tonight my goal is to break $1000, and to drink TWICE as much water as I drank last night! Hope I'm not annoying you all with these posts but I really want to hold myself accountable

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    Just got home from work again...didn't make over $1000 but beat my earnings from last night which is great and I didn't drink!! So overall it was a great night. I NEVER made this much money when I was drinking....I would have a few sub-200 dollar nights a week due to the fact that I'd get super wasted on those nights and have NO hustle. Never again!!!

    I was tempted to do a shot in VIP with this ridiculously sexy customer who looked just like Ryan Gosling lol but I didn't!! I hope that the longer I go without drinking, the easier it will get. I don't like feeling tempted! I'm terrified of screwing up and being hungover because I know I will be soooo depressed if that happens.

    It feels so great to drive home sober and not have to worry about a DUI. I KNOW I am such an idiot....I used to drive drunk all the time. I am very embarrassed to admit that...I know it's awful I have no intentions of being a bad person but alcohol made me so stupid that I thought it was ok...I definitely felt invincible. I am so lucky I never crashed! If I ever hurt someone from drinking and driving I would not be able to live with myself. Now I just have to worry about dodging all the other drunk drivers here in Vegas. >.<

    I'm going to update less often since you all are probably sick of these long posts lol. It just feels good to get all this stuff off my chest. If anyone needs support or is struggling with alcohol or drug abuse then feel free to pm me <3

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    Glad to see you're doing great sober! You're right, I think drinking can affect sense of time and it's easier to hustle guys sober because you're less likely to waste money.

    I had a big problem with drinking too a few years ago and it affected my health. I already had some existing minor health issues and drinking had exacerbated it. I eventually stopped by working in a club that didn't serve alcohol and like you it was irritating at first and I didn't make a lot. I'm not a naturally friendly or social person and it was a hard adjustment without alcohol as a crutch. I had to learn to fake it and went more often to the hustle hut threads and used some of the stuff I read there to practice hustling more at work. I'd say I got better after a week or so. Now I pretty much have a set hustle down more or less.

    It's also irritating too when customers or others would try to force drinks or shots on me. I would usually just say "no thanks, I already drank enough earlier" or "no thanks, I have to drive later" (this one usually works). Sometimes I'd tell them I can't drink that night because "I'm taking allergy medication."

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    Thanks for sharing!! I'm the same as you...not naturally very outgoing or friendly to men in general so it took some getting used to also. I'm glad you were able to adapt to it and were also able to cut down on the alcohol! It's inspiring and makes me feel that I can stick to it if I try

    Hustle hut has been SO helpful to me too! I read it every day before work to get into the right mindspace! Instead of drinking to loosen up, I brush up on my sales techniques and it's been working much better!

    I also love your line "I have to drive later!" I think customers appreciate when strippers are BOTH fun and responsible

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    I also love your line "I have to drive later!" I think customers appreciate when strippers are BOTH fun and responsible
    I don't know about them liking it because we're being responsible, but it's a legit reason and they'd understand not wanting to get a DUI or getting possible jail time. After I say that it's usually no questions asked. This might open up into questions about what kind of car you drive or where you live, I just lie to them about the make of the car.

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    Also...I noticed my face is breaking out SUPER bad. I don't know if it's related....maybe I'm detoxing or maybe it's just the stress of a lifestyle change. Either way...I'll take a face-full of zits instead of a hangover any day lol.

    Tonight my goal is to break $1000, and to drink TWICE as much water as I drank last night! Hope I'm not annoying you all with these posts but I really want to hold myself accountable
    When alcohol is consumed to excess it becomes an integral part of the body chemistry. This is why alcohol withdrawal can be fatal. Your body chemistry must readjust to sobriety. When it does the breaking out will clear up.

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    Please keep updating! This is awesome! <3

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    I definitely want to see updates too...I don't struggle with drinking now but I did in the past, and I'm not a dancer (cam girl) but I can definitely understand where you are coming from! Keep up the GREAT work...this is the best gift you can give yourself, mentally, physically, and financially
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    Oh god, vegas and especially the Rhino are hard places to work sober. That may be the real issue is dancing in vegas clubs. You can pm me, if you want to know more.

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    Hey...just wanted to post a quick update! It's been 12 days now since I've had a drink and I feel great The past two nights at the club were pretty crappy but I am just thankful that I am not hungover! I used to get plastered whenever I was having a bad night at work...which would put me out of commission for at least a day or two due to the hangover...ugh!

    I started working at a new club right when I quit drinking and it was been wonderful. I've never had such good rapport with the hosts before! Being sober and always tipping a little extra goes a long way. When I was always wasted I would always forget to tip them or forget which host helped me out, which would put a quick end to our working relationship lol.

    I hope this thread will inspire someone else to quit drinking too!! I can't stress how much this has improved the quality of my life. Every day has been getting easier and I feel less urges to drink. If I can do it, ANYONE can....seriously!

    On a slightly weird/tmi note, my pee is always clear now. It used to be yellow/orange before!! Gross!! Lol

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    Full props to anyone taking the plunge to stop or get it under control. Addiction is tough. I'm pulling for you!

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    Quote Originally Posted by pickes View Post

    On a slightly weird/tmi note, my pee is always clear now. It used to be yellow/orange before!! Gross!! Lol
    You can help your liver recover by taking Milk Thistle esp. in liquid form. Great job. Here's to your continued good health! http://www.puritan.com/herbal-author...15C=1782926623
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    Quote Originally Posted by pickes View Post

    On a slightly weird/tmi note, my pee is always clear now. It used to be yellow/orange before!! Gross!! Lol
    You can help your liver recover by taking Milk Thistle esp. in liquid form. Great job. Here's to your continued good health! http://www.puritan.com/herbal-author...15C=1782926623
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    I've also read that coffee enemas are great for liver detoxing. Obviously, only give it a go if you enjoy trying crazy health-related stuff. I personally love that kind of thing! I first heard of them when I read a book by Dr. Gerson, who used coffee enemas to treat cancer patients. Fascinating, eh?

    http://www.mygutsy.com/the-ultimate-...coffee-enemas/

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