We experience a lot of negative relationships. Abusive partners, toxic friends, insane co-workers, and angry family. I want to take a thread to talk about the people who love and trust us.
Tell us about the person who's waiting to get the phone call that you made it home safe- or about the warm lump under the covers who doesn't mind being jostled when you crawl in after your 3am shift. About the person who makes fun of the idiots asking to snort coke off your ass, and makes you coffee at noon. The lover who doesn't even know what you look like in full make up but thinks you're the most divine creature they've ever laid eyes on. I'll start.
I've got a man who work 50hrs a week and still earns less than me- and he has never been bitter about it, never begrudged me my free time or asked me to carry him financially. It's never even occurred to him to be jealous, his rule about my job is that he can't support it if it makes me sick or unhappy- otherwise my body my rules.
He has never made me feel objectified, and will happily give me head without pressure for me to reciprocate.
He rubs my ankles when they're swollen, and pokes my bruised knees to tease me. He makes phone calls to the landlord, or to cancel appointments, when I'm feeling too shy. He lets the cat in at 7am when I'm dead to the world. He helps my family run errands or get to the airport. He even does the fucking dishes.
He makes the best damn scrambled eggs- like with mushrooms and spinach and butter and cheese...and brews me tea with herbs from the kitchen garden he planted.
He researched and bought several alternative forms of menstrual cramp relief when traditional pain killers left me moaning each month.
He doesn't judge my vices, and he doesn't allow his to come between us. He asks me for help when he's feeling overwhelmed, and helps me up when I stumble.
I couldn't do this job half as well if I didn't know I had a loving, safe, and tranquil home to come back to at the end of a crazy night. If I didn't have my best friend to vent to about weird shit happening. If I din't have my lighthouse keeping me from dashing up against the rocks.



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I'm very happy for those of you who have such wonderful people in your life, but this thread is making me a little sad!

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