
Originally Posted by
KimKlass
Camming can most definitely be self-damaging. Particularly to our mental states. So I'll focus on that.
I think much of this can be avoided though if, for starters, cam ladies did only what they were personally comfortable with instead of bending to pressure from customers or even from themselves. For example: If you aren't comfortable with a particular thing but maybe are having a bad day on cam and some guy offers you money to do it- DON'T do it. If you cannot look yourself in the mirror and be proud of yourself instead of feeling low after doing something- DON'T do it. Never disregard your mental health for this job because as we all know, it can certainly take a toll on it and it is simply not worth it. Your self-esteem is absolutely priceless. Yeah, that extra $$ might feel good for a minute but when you wind down after your shift and think about it ... was it worth violating your boundaries? Everyone of us has different limits, but I really do wish all the ladies would stick to them. It's much healthier for us, IMO.
I learned very quickly that I have to run my chat rooms exactly my way and to be unapologetic about my boundaries. Because probably 90% of the guys on these sites don't give a single fuck about how you feel when you log off or if they're making you uncomfortable. You have to look out for yourself when you turn off the webcam. The same applies to overworking yourself, letting slow times stress you out to an unhealthy degree, giving customers too big a piece of your headspace, and all that jazz that can come with the territory. Take care of yourself, and this job won't be damaging (or at least not too damaging haha).
My personal experience so far with two and a half years of camming, however, has truly been positive overall. I have definitely had some stressful times, even depression resulting directly from this job. But I have learned how to manage the stressors from camming. I'm constantly tweaking this thing and that thing. I have turned my camming experience into something that is mostly enjoyable. Actually, it has taught me quite a bit about myself and about other people and I appreciate the life experience. So basically, when done right for YOU camming can be a great thing. When done wrong for you, camming can be disastrous.
Sorry for the ramble lol.
tl;dr Make boundaries and stick to them or you'll feel like shit.
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