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    Default Freeloader Strippers in the DR- when to say no, what to charge for?

    Fellow dancers ask me for stuff all the time. Some of them generally need it and have no options, and others are just freeloaders who don't wanna buy their own crap. The former type usually offers to pay, and while I feel guilty taking their money, I know that if the roles were reversed they would want some compensation for their stuff.

    Generally it's just babywipes, tampons, etc etc. My questions are:

    Do you get asked a lot for things?
    Do they offer you money or expect you to give it to them?
    Do you offer money when you need things?
    What stuff is appropriate to charge for?

    I'm happy helping people out but I can't just hand out my stuff like candy. Opinion/experience time!

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    Default Re: Freeloader Strippers in the DR- when to say no, what to charge for?

    If it's a close friend I help em out. If I don't know them I tell them to fuck off. Simple. Usually new girls I help out the first couple of times, after that I tell them to get their own shit because none of my tattoos say "CVS".
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    Default Re: Freeloader Strippers in the DR- when to say no, what to charge for?

    ya fuck that noise! I usually just ignore everyone & keep to myself so they usually leave me alone. I loaned someone nail glue once & she didn't even hand it back to me, she laid it on the counter & walked off wtf?!
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    Default Re: Freeloader Strippers in the DR- when to say no, what to charge for?

    ^^ That's the worst isn't it. I gave this girl a tampon once, no charge, and she just grabbed it out of my hand, no thanks at all. Fuck that shit. If I don't know/like them, the answer is gonna be "Sure, you got a dollar?"

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    Default Re: Freeloader Strippers in the DR- when to say no, what to charge for?

    I always name the price of the items they want. Most stuff is $1 unless it is something like hair spray. We have a House Mom during the night shift, but us day shift girls are on our own. Usually those items are covered under the tip out to the House Mom.

    The most frustrating is when another girl eats your lunch. Literally. The dancers are asked to eat in the dressing room, so that is where any food orders from the kitchen are delivered. If the girl who ordered the food isn't in the dressing room, there are usually one or two stoner chicks who will help themselves to your lunch.

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    Default Re: Freeloader Strippers in the DR- when to say no, what to charge for?

    You learn really quick who is likely to payback (money or otherwise)and who is not. If they were someone who I knew would help me out in return or has I have no issues helping. I've even helped new girls who didn't know. Someone else though, nope I always said I didn't have extras and I didn't.

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    Default Re: Freeloader Strippers in the DR- when to say no, what to charge for?

    Depends if it's an emergency type stuff? I would give anyone a tampon for free, cause I would just hope that if I was in the situation where I had to wear a g-string in front of 50 dudes and had blood pouring out of my vagina someone would help me.

    I honestly would just not lend anyone anything and just not deal with it... I understand not wanting to give your shit out for free and I completely agree with you, but putting a price on a baby wipe is just kind of off, and honestly probably not worth the walk or drive to the store to get another one. If they ask say you don't have anything, sorry, or you only have enough for you. Cigarettes are $17 a pack here and in LA if anyone asked me for one I'd always give them one in the hopes of karma, but no one is getting a free cigarette from me here unless they're a friend, so that's usually what I say when asked-- sorry, last one!

    For me I only share with girls who share back. If I don't have a baby wipe they'll let me use their pack for the night, if they don't have any they're free to my pack. If they don't have a cigarette, they can have one of mine, etc. I don't mind as long as it's mutual and it's nice if I forget something to know I can ask someone without feeling like a freeloader.

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    Default Re: Freeloader Strippers in the DR- when to say no, what to charge for?

    If what they ask for is easily accessible and cheap I will most of the time. (Like if I'm already in the DR and someone asked me for a bobby pin) If someone comes up to me and randomly asks me for something, hell no. I wouldn't go out of my way to do it.

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    Quote Originally Posted by KikiGem View Post
    Do you get asked a lot for things?
    Do they offer you money or expect you to give it to them?
    Do you offer money when you need things?
    What stuff is appropriate to charge for?
    I don't get asked for anything because I tend to keep my stuff in a big bag and rummage around for things I need inside the bag. I do this so that other girls don't see what kind of stuff I have and then get in the habit of asking me for stuff. I also lie and say I don't a particular item, when I actually do (like lipstick, no way in hell I'm sharing my lipstick with an unknown dancer). Not nice, but they're not my friends and I'm not theirs. I'm more than happy to help if it's a friend in need.

    I have no idea what's an appropriate amount to charge. Best to not lend anything at all and keep your stuff hidden so nosy dancers don't have an opportunity to ask for stuff.

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    Default Re: Freeloader Strippers in the DR- when to say no, what to charge for?

    I've gotten asked for tampons (I've only lent them out to people that are nice to me, but those people ask rarely so I don't mind), and I ALWAYS get asked for gum...which I tell them it's $1/piece, but even then I only do it to people who are nice to me and not in excess (my gum is my vice, I can't give it all away and have none for myself throughout the night or I'll go nuts). I don't like lending out any items like outfits, makeup, baby wipes, deodorant, perfume, etc for 2 reasons - 1 reason being that I never borrow anything from anyone so they shouldn't expect it from me, 2nd reason being that the cost adds up after a while and I have no time to be every dancers Target. If girls ask me for any of the items I don't lend out, I tell them nicely I don't share my things and it's nothing personal.

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    Default Re: Freeloader Strippers in the DR- when to say no, what to charge for?

    Ugh I have to STOP doing this...I never get asked for stuff if the house mom is there, but on Sundays I am baby-wipe, tampon, body spray and breath mint central. :/ I ran out of wipes last week between using them for myself and giving them away. I think I just go into Mom Mode and feel like I need to take care of everyone.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Tourdefranzia View Post
    I always name the price of the items they want. Most stuff is $1 unless it is something like hair spray. We have a House Mom during the night shift, but us day shift girls are on our own. Usually those items are covered under the tip out to the House Mom.

    The most frustrating is when another girl eats your lunch. Literally. The dancers are asked to eat in the dressing room, so that is where any food orders from the kitchen are delivered. If the girl who ordered the food isn't in the dressing room, there are usually one or two stoner chicks who will help themselves to your lunch.
    It happened to me too! It's so annoying, some of them also help themselves with leftovers.

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    Default Re: Freeloader Strippers in the DR- when to say no, what to charge for?

    If you leave things out, girls are going to use them unfortunately. If you have a locker or dance bag (you can get a lock for it if it's really bad), put your belongings in there after you finish getting ready to stop them helping themselves so much. And, when someone shouts out "does anyone have xyz?" ignore them. If they ask you directly, just say "No, sorry" or "I'm sorry I'm really low on/running out of xyz". Doing your make up, hair, tan, nails etc at home helps if people are using these kinds of things but it's hard not to carry the essentials for touch ups etc .

    I use a $200 perfume (I hate coming home smelling foreign, so I use my day perfume at work too. It's strong, you don't need much and it lasts up to 6 months) and if I leave it out or even poking out of my bag girls often pinch a spray or two (I'm the only one who wears it, I can smell it on them lol). If they ask and they are "friends" it's ok, but when drunk bitches douse themselves in it, instead of someone's Britney, it's just plain rude.
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    Default Re: Freeloader Strippers in the DR- when to say no, what to charge for?

    If it annoys you that girls ask you for stuff then just say "no". I think it's sweet when girls try to offer me money for something I give them, but I never take the money, nor do I expect anyone to offer it up because really, a couple dollars isn't worth anything to me.

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    At the risk of sounding like a complete bitch, I think you are really overthinking this. Unless it's a tampon there's really no reason to volunteer your stuff whenever sm1 else runs out. If it's a girl you're friends w/ that's one thing. Otherwise keep your stuff to yourself. Like other girls have said, ignore them or just say 'No I don't have any' or 'Sry I'm running low myself' when asked directly. It will save you a lot of aggravation.

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    Default Re: Freeloader Strippers in the DR- when to say no, what to charge for?

    I had only lend stuff to other stripper if:

    -A dancer immediately runs out of something and there's nobody else around. For example, a dancer runs out of baby wipes and is the last set of the night I may give her one or two.

    -Female emergency.

    -Wardrobe malfunction. Most clubs I had worked on didn't have house moms, so I had let a few dancers to use my portable sewing kit if they didn't have spare clean outfits.


    Other than those three, I didn't lend my stuff.





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    Default Re: Freeloader Strippers in the DR- when to say no, what to charge for?

    at the club i'm at now, i'll always share because all the girls have always shared with me on the rare occasion i've ran out of baby wipes or tampons or forgot my hair dryer..there was this one girl though who would ALWAYS mooch off of me, never bought her own shit, and then would talk shit about me afterwards!! after that i just said " sorry, i'm fresh out!". it really depends on whether they regularly try and mooch and whether or not they share with you..give and take

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    Quote Originally Posted by Tourdefranzia View Post
    The most frustrating is when another girl eats your lunch. Literally. The dancers are asked to eat in the dressing room, so that is where any food orders from the kitchen are delivered. If the girl who ordered the food isn't in the dressing room, there are usually one or two stoner chicks who will help themselves to your lunch.
    I had a girl do this at my old club, she was super fucked up on pills and alcohol and she went through everyone's bags and ate all our food.. I had brought a sandwich with me and she ate it, and she ate another girls noodles--- COLD noodles. I don't know how f-ed up you'd have to be to do that! I remember she kept trying to steal a customer from me all night and she could barely stand, she got fired, thank god...

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    Default Re: Freeloader Strippers in the DR- when to say no, what to charge for?

    Do you get asked a lot for things?
    It doesn't feel like it, since most of the things being asked for are reasonable to me.

    Do they offer you money or expect you to give it to them?
    Some girls do, some don't. I don't expect it.

    Do you offer money when you need things?
    Sometimes yes, sometimes no. It depends.

    What stuff is appropriate to charge for?
    I would give anyone anything they ask for within reason and not charge (tampon, wipes, hand sanitizer, safety pin, gum, single cigarette). I'm ok with loaning things (borrow scissors, lighter, tweezers, body spray, etc). I don't loan out clothes, except for a select few. I have "spare" shoes I've retired that I'll loan out too.

    My club seems a little different than many I've worked in, in that the girls actually are pretty close, helpful, and loan/borrow/give each other things on a pretty regular basis. It's not uncommon for girls to give each other brand-new "saw this and thought of you" makeup, socks, eyelashes, hair color; or used outfits, jewelry, shoes. Of course girls also sell their old stuff too. It seems pretty laid back and even the girl that asked for tampons from me and the other girls all of one week no one was stressing over. lol

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    Default Re: Freeloader Strippers in the DR- when to say no, what to charge for?

    I personally rarely hand out anything to any girls only if they're my actual friend, or I've spoken to them often and they don't usually ask for stuff. I rarely ask for anything, maybe a baby wipe if I've run out or gum for after smoking when i used to.

    I've given people to use small scissors, baby wipes or tampons. Other than those no and I don't think anyone should be asking for anything else unless they're your mate.

    I used to give cigarettes out but that's when I was drunk and it was always reciprocated at that club I worked in. I expect people to offer money or something as a trade but I would never receive it (especially for cigarettes).

    If someone asks to use my makeup I just say i get infections easily so don't share my brushes, liners, etc etc. Or that I get pink eye (I haven't ever!) so unless they want pink eye then no. hahahahahah

    other wise i say i'm fresh out or i have only one left and i'm saving it for laters.

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    Default Re: Freeloader Strippers in the DR- when to say no, what to charge for?

    I guess cause Im usually nice and have quality stuff, I seemed to get asked for stuff like tampons and lighters and cigarettes.

    Crazy broad asked me to borrow eyeliner once. Im like you know what just keep it. It was old and needed to be replaced but really Who the hell borrows eyeliner?!?! I don't want no eye diseases b!tch.

    I had someone ask to borrow some leg warmers but she was smart enough to give me $10 and she end up keeping them anyways.

    I really hate people asking me to borrow stuff especially if Im not cool with them like that. Like walk your happy a$$ to the house mom and get it yourself. ugh! Gotta start attaching a dollar amount now for 'convenience charge' lol!

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    Default Re: Freeloader Strippers in the DR- when to say no, what to charge for?

    For girls im cool with I honestly don't have a problem helping them out because they'll do the same for me . the issue is when that one random chick that thinks we're friends reaches for something that's when I'm like oh girl that's $2
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    Three of us were at the carpark lastnight paying our $16 fee and a dancer came up behind us and asked to borrow $16 for her ticket... after a full night working? Ummm no.
    I always have my parking fee money with me, always...imagine being trapped in the carpark when you just want to get out?! I refuse to believe she had no money.
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