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    Default Stalker stalks no more....

    The awful stalker story/experience was posted by a women who's stalker could not be stopped by non lethal means and it concluded with her final post on it. Poor woman. What a POS to make her life that living hell. But it does not end the way it often does for other women in similar circumstances at least:

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    "For the past 6 months I have been relentlessly stalked and had threats against my life made from someone I dated for a month. It started with phone calls upwards of 45-50 a day, 50 page text messages and him showing up outside of my house at 5 am. When I wouldn’t not comply or feed the negative attention I began to receive threats, claims that he would murder me and get away with it, all he would have to do is flee the country. Telling me he shouldn’t have to force me to be his friend or give him another chance or else. Every time I blocked his number from contacting me, he would then call me from different ones, try and pretend to be other people or have his friends or sometimes even random strangers he’d ask on the street( I once scared a unsuspecting guy half to death after informing him that the person who had just told him to call me was actually stalking me and I sent him proof, he ended up calling the police on him. He fled of coarse) After about 2 months of that I was evicted from my apartment building due to my neighbors no longer feeling safe because of his looming presence. I then applied for and was granted a TPO, A few days afterwards I received a picture message of the note the SHeriff Civil had left on the door of my Stalkers-then residence with a message taunting me that “What you are trying to do was stupid and a restraining order is just a piece of paper.” So ultimately he just ended up avoiding the process server and simple as that, I was not being protected at all.
    May 31st of this year I relocated. This did not deter my stalker. He vowed to find wherever I moved to and threatened that if he couldn’t find me he would be able to find my family and then proceeded to send me a map of my mother’s home whom he had never met. I received a message from a woman claiming to be my former landlord, letting me know that I owed a balance on my account and to avoid late fees I needed to pay the amount which I could do with the link provided in the message. Turns out it was my stalker pretending to be a woman and the link turned out to be a tool used to grab the user’s IP address when the click the link. Upon this discovery I changed my phone number and began to systematically dismantle any trace of an online presence I once had. This action only seemed to anger him and before deleting the profiles outright I would attempt to block him from contacting me. Each and every time I blocked one he simply created a new one and proceed to contact me as if nothing had happened. 12 different reddit accounts, 9 different tumblrs, 10 different imstagrams, 3 meetup accounts, 4 facebooks (with which he changed his location to that of my hometown and proceeded to add nearly everyone from my graduating class in high school) and even 3 Duolingo accounts and myspace. Yes. MySpace
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    Then yesterday, he kicked in her door and she posted:

    From: http://imgur.com/gallery/giExlcJ

    "I’m writing this staring at the mess the police left for me, in a bit of a fog. After 6 months of stalking and threats against my life my stalker finally snapped and decided to kick my door in and make good on his promise. Out of fear, the past month I had begun sleeping with a chair propped against my front door, to give myself a few extra precious seconds in case of emergency. I shudder to think how differently things might’ve turned out had I not barricaded the door. I awoke around 115 am to the sound of the door giving way after one kick followed by the sounds of my stalker struggling to dislodge the chair while forcing his way inside. I jumped up and grabbed the gun I’ve learned to do everything even shower with. I stood at the top of my stairs and fired twice. Hitting him in the chest, I hear his scream, his disbelief that I’d stood up for myself.. 0 to 100 in milliseconds. I’ve never been so afraid in my life. I do not know if he is living, but I do know the police have him and that’s what helps the most. For months of him evading the police I began to question whether he was unstoppable. Untraceable. Houdini, he would murder me and get away with it. As of now I’m in a haze of guilt, surprise, relief and disbelief. I shook as the canines drag him out from his hiding place under a bush. I survived, where so many people do not. Holy shit, I survived."

    Nope, not a fake:

    http://www.fox5vegas.com/story/26635...-home-invasion


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    PS, posting her experience like that on social media in "real time" is not a smart idea and she'd be better off getting a lawyer and keeping her mouth shut until and investigation is complete, but there it is. Hopefully her need to tell her story online via social media does not come back to bite her in the ass legally speaking.
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    Mmmm...I LOVE a happy ending. I'm not saying people should go bananas shooting up the world but he gave fair warning and she heeded it. I ain't mad at her.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Optimist View Post
    Mmmm...I LOVE a happy ending. I'm not saying people should go bananas shooting up the world but he gave fair warning and she heeded it. I ain't mad at her.
    Hopefully now he'll do the jail time he earned. Two bad it has to come to that, but far better than the alternative.
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    Glad she's safe. No question, lawyer up quickly.

    I have another comment though. She was stalked and forced to a life or death scenario yet the news shows her apartment unit, releases information about where she lives, etc. Seems highly inappropriate.

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    Quote Originally Posted by The_Adict View Post
    Glad she's safe. No question, lawyer up quickly.

    I have another comment though. She was stalked and forced to a life or death scenario yet the news shows her apartment unit, releases information about where she lives, etc. Seems highly inappropriate.
    The news give a damn about people's safety when there's a story to be had? Crazy talk..
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    I clicked a bunch of other links, trying to learn more about the texts. I didn't find the texts but stumbled on an interesting article that got me thinking. I've never thought about what life would be like not having to take some many things into consideration before opening the door to leave home. Interesting article.

    "A woman must consider where she is going, what time of day it is, what time she will arrive at her destination and what time she will leave her destination, what day of the week is it, if she will be left alone at any point … the considerations go on and on because they are far more numerous than you or I can imagine. Honestly, I can’t conceive of having to think that much about what I need to do to protect myself at any given moment in my life. I relish the freedom of getting up and going, day or night, rain or shine, Westside or downtown. As men we can enjoy this particular extreme luxury of movement and freedom of choice. In order to understand rape culture, remember this is a freedom that at least half the population doesn’t enjoy."

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    I was hoping the ending was she shot him and he died. Not that I support murder but in his case he deserves it. He's a piece of shit. I support the right of people to own guns and this is not changing.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Airrrie2 View Post
    I clicked a bunch of other links, trying to learn more about the texts. I didn't find the texts but stumbled on an interesting article that got me thinking. I've never thought about what life would be like not having to take some many things into consideration before opening the door to leave home. Interesting article.

    "A woman must consider where she is going, what time of day it is, what time she will arrive at her destination and what time she will leave her destination, what day of the week is it, if she will be left alone at any point … the considerations go on and on because they are far more numerous than you or I can imagine. Honestly, I can’t conceive of having to think that much about what I need to do to protect myself at any given moment in my life. I relish the freedom of getting up and going, day or night, rain or shine, Westside or downtown. As men we can enjoy this particular extreme luxury of movement and freedom of choice. In order to understand rape culture, remember this is a freedom that at least half the population doesn’t enjoy."

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    I'm not sure whether or not this would have made a difference in this case, but after reading this, it sounds like a good idea to do a criminal background check on someone before dating him or her. Perhaps there was something on his record to indicate what a threat he was.

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    She survived! That's what matters!

    I have a personal stalking story of my own.

    When I was a teenager, I met this guy at a theme park I was at with my friends. My friends were more boy crazy then I ever was. They would go and they would pretty much look for another group of guys to hang out with, hold hand for 4 hours, then awkwardly kiss. I tagged along not to left behind.

    We became acquainted with a group of guys. Weirdly enough this one guy was pretty into me. He laughed at my stupid jokes and would want to sit next to me on rides. At the end of the day, we swapped numbers and AIM screen names. I talked to him maybe twice. Then nothing for 3 years.

    This guy called me out of no where. The outgoing person I am who enjoys the sound of her own voice, had a long conversation with him. He started calling me more often. This was weird, because I never had a guy call me. I wasn't interested in any sort of relationship. I discussed this with him. I just thought of him as a friend because there was distance. When he started being more pushy about seeing me and started telling me he was falling in love, I stopped talking to him. I blocked him from AIM and MySpace. I also am really good at ignoring phone calls. So that didn't bother me.

    One day I came home from school, he was sitting in his mom' scan outside my house. I went up to him to tell him to leave him alone. I didn't want my parents freak out that I had "minor" stalker and I thought if I ignored him, he'd go away. No. He didn't.

    He got out and forced me in the vehicle. I was struggling and screaming to get away while he held onto me. He held onto me begging to love him back. He was stroking my hair. Some jogger saw what was happening and came to my aid. Pulled him off and restrained while I called the police. He was charged for attempted kidnapping. He was found not guilty for reason of insanity. It was his first offense, he was young, and he got diagnosed a paranoid schizophrenic. He was also ordered by my request not to ever contact me ever again.

    Restraining orders don't work. Two years later, he must of googled my name and saw my graduation announcement from high school. The article mention the college I was planning on attending in the fall. Turns out he moved to the same town and enrolled in the local community college. He was off his meds for 6 months. He learned my schedule, found my apartment, and began becoming acquainted with friends. I never saw him. Probably because I look at my feet when I walk. But a month into my first semester, I ran into him at a party. I started screaming at him like a crazy person. I ended up announcing to everyone what he did to me. I left right away. My night was ruined. My one roommate was a big guy, so I wasn't too worried since he was a slim guy.

    But he ended up convincing majority of people that I mind fucked him and been stringing him along for years. Also told people we planned to come here together. I apparently got cold feet and he came anyways since he had no where else to go. Hindsight now, I wished I called my parents. But I didn't want them to worry. I was 1,600 miles away.

    For the first semester I lived pretty secluded. I only left my apartment for class. My roommate turned into my body guard. My stalker called me daily, mailed me letters, and would hang outside my apartment. I got close with this one girl and somehow he found out about our relationship. He like many assumed I was gay. He would leave messages saying I'm only gay because I'm rejecting my true feelings towards him. I kept ignoring and not playing into it. I went home Christmas break and he kinda dropped of the edge of the Earth.

    Turns out he committed suicide. He mailed me a letter explaining that his death was my fault because I refused to love him. Hindsight, I should of contacted my parents, or the police. I'm so thankful I wasn't home because I don't know what he would of done. He would probably be back on his medication and be alive.

    But this man attacked me then proceeded to follow me years later cross country. He was a troubled person, and that is not my fault. I'm so grateful I wasn't the one dead. When I really think about, he probably could hurt me.

    If you are being stalked, go to the police. Get protection!



    Sorry if that was a lot. I just felt so much for this girl.





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    ^^^ damn .... sorry to hear that you were forced to deal with this literally 'sick' individual ^^^

    it sounds like a good idea to do a criminal background check on someone before dating him or her. Perhaps there was something on his record to indicate what a threat he was.
    Unfortunately, this is where things get 'dicey'. For some reason, America now treats mentally ill individuals with 'kid gloves'. Or put another way, America now seems to place the 'rights' of mentally ill individuals to remain 'free' in society above the 'rights' of regular Americans to be protected from the irrational acts of mentally ill individuals. I won't get into that particular policy, other than pointing out that part of the 'kid gloves' treatment is the confidentiality of medical records ... meaning that until a mentally ill person actually commits a 'chargeable' offense it's unlikely that anything would show up in a background check.

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    I have so much to share on this topic but it will have to wait. Audritwo I am so sorry you had to go through that.

    Thank you for posting the OP Will.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Melonie View Post
    ^^^ damn .... sorry to hear that you were forced to deal with this literally 'sick' individual ^^^



    Unfortunately, this is where things get 'dicey'. For some reason, America now treats mentally ill individuals with 'kid gloves'. Or put another way, America now seems to place the 'rights' of mentally ill individuals to remain 'free' in society above the 'rights' of regular Americans to be protected from the irrational acts of mentally ill individuals. I won't get into that particular policy, other than pointing out that part of the 'kid gloves' treatment is the confidentiality of medical records ... meaning that until a mentally ill person actually commits a 'chargeable' offense it's unlikely that anything would show up in a background check.
    The Baker Act is really messed up. It was written to protect innocent people from being carted off to mental health facilities wrongly, like, an ex boyfriend calling the police and having his ex girlfriend institutionalized for breaking up with him, claiming she is having a mental breakdown. It makes it very difficult for family to get help in real mental health crisis situations. I think around 1999 the Act was revised to make it easier on families by involving a court hearing to establish intent, family connections and history of mental health. In audritwo's situation, depending on the year, had she told her parents as she wishes she did, the situation would have ended much differently. Such a sad story.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Airrrie2 View Post
    I clicked a bunch of other links, trying to learn more about the texts. I didn't find the texts but stumbled on an interesting article that got me thinking. I've never thought about what life would be like not having to take some many things into consideration before opening the door to leave home. Interesting article.

    "A woman must consider where she is going, what time of day it is, what time she will arrive at her destination and what time she will leave her destination, what day of the week is it, if she will be left alone at any point … the considerations go on and on because they are far more numerous than you or I can imagine. Honestly, I can’t conceive of having to think that much about what I need to do to protect myself at any given moment in my life. I relish the freedom of getting up and going, day or night, rain or shine, Westside or downtown. As men we can enjoy this particular extreme luxury of movement and freedom of choice. In order to understand rape culture, remember this is a freedom that at least half the population doesn’t enjoy."

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    The fact is, men need to consider all that too. The realty is, people, men and women, pay very little attention to their personal security. Men are statistically far more likely to be murdered and involved in a violent crime. Of course men also cause most of the violent crime. It's only dumb men who think think they can "relish the freedom of getting up and going, day or night, rain or shine" where ever they wish when ever they wish. I assure you, that's not the case. Women do of course have to take extra personal security measures, and I'm always blown away by how little measures they take. One can never blame the victim, but there's a lot people - men and women - can do to greatly reduce their potential for being victims, and they don't do it. Much of it very simple.
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    I'm really proud of her. I had a huge stalker in 2009-huge in obsession and size, he was 500 pounds-and outed him to his family, friends, and coworkers. He backed right off, probably to put his destroyed life back together. I'm SO thankful it didn't come to violence. Unfortunately, we live in a scary world and am just waiting for another one.
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