I feel like anyone who knows what I do is always expecting me to be handing out wads of cash to anyone who asks. I get it at work from DJs/management/bouncers expecting huge tips for doing jack shit, and then at home from family and friends.
My parents are the main culprit, and they make me feel the worst about it. Last week, their TV went out and my dad keeps going "I wish you'd buy me a TV". I'd totally buy them a small one, but he won't be happy unless it's a 50" plasma like the old one (which was around $1k). He screwed up their computer somehow (I think he clicked a popup and got a virus); this is the 3rd computer he's done that to; and now his lack of income is MY fault because I won't buy him another computer (and how he thinks he's gonna make income when he can barely use the thing, I don't know). They've called me numerous times over the years wanting me to pay various other bills for them as well.
It'd be one thing if their financial situation wasn't their fault... but it is. They had 2 businesses that pulled 400k a year for several years; they saved none, blew all of it, including my college fund, so when the economy tanked they were screwed. Now they're living on SS, the $600ish my mom makes grooming dogs, and the $20 a day she pulls out of their retail store (no paycheck otherwise). They refuse to close this store even though she's been offered more days at the grooming place (which is usually $100+ a day). If I buy anything visibly expensive, or take any trips, my dad subtly gives me crap for spending money and not "helping them out". I'd be happy to help them out in creating more income; I've tried to teach them some marketing stuff, built them a new website/FB page for the business, helped my mom do online job apps... but once I stop holding their hand, they stop doing any of it.
They're my parents and I love them dearly, I appreciate everything they did for me as a kid, but I feel that if I keep giving them money, they'll REALLY stop trying and just expect me to pay for things.
Now my bf's friend from rehab is asking me to lend her money "until her paycheck hits". I've hung out with her maybe 3 times outside of visiting him at rehab, and she has the nerve to ask me to lend her money? Especially being that 2 weeks ago she was asking him for Suboxone (which she doesn't need and means she's trying to get high from it, so this $$ is probably for pills). Oh, because I'm a stripper, so I can give her money, no big deal.
So yeah. I'm sure you ladies have all been in this scenario at some point. Any advice on dealing with it?



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