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    I've been going out with this amazing girl for nearly 14 months now. She's beautiful, funny, sweet and our minds are on such a wavelength sometimes it makes me think we were made for each other. She really has given me some of the most incredible, blissful moments of my entire existence.
    She's a very anxious, sometimes depressed person. I question bipolar sometimes because of her mood swings. She recently decided she wanted to become a camgirl, to make some extra money for us because we're in such dire financial straits. She's tried so hard to get a job in the past but with no luck at all, so I've always been the breadwinner, and I'm between jobs right now. I've helped her take loads of sexy photos of her and upload them to her site. She charges a small amount for any kind of nudity, so I could justify it by saying it's not as bad as the girls who show everything for free. I guess I should just go ahead and list, to my opinion, the pros and cons of this situation. Here goes.

    Pros:
    • Boosts her confidence
    • Boosts her self-esteem
    • Lessens her anxiety/depression
    • Increases her sex drive (since she started, we've had some of the most incredibly kinky sex ever, I've never had orgasms as explosively powerful as the ones she's given me lately, and we're incredibly sexually compatible anyway)
    • I get to take loads of sexy pictures of her and occasionally videos of us having sex which turns me on a fuck ton (especially blowjob videos..)
    • I have no fear of her cheating on me because she uses a persona, all the people she talks to are miles and miles away and she refuses to give out her real name or location
    • Happenings in our town have resulted in her being a bit of a social reject, much like myself, and this gives her some form of social life
    • It is kind of entertaining when I get to see the bizarre messages some of these freaks send her


    Cons:

    • She can behave secretively sometimes. She speaks to people she wants to lure into her chatroom through a smartphone messenger and has snatched her phone away from me in the past, even though I've looked through it while she's been asleep or whatever (curiosity and a feeling I have a right to know) and there's really nothing bad in there.
    • Whenever I voice a concern, she flies off the handle asking me why I'm being so ridiculous and why I'm trying to ruin this for her, causing massive arguments.
    • I really, really do not like the amount of men that send her messages calling her 'baby' and the like (although that's not her fault). She's had a few professing their love to her although she usually ends up getting creeped out and blocks them.
    • Mostly, it feels like she's not all mine anymore because anybody with a few dollars floating about and an internet connection can get a look at her practically naked body.


    I really don't know what to think guys. Following past arguments about this subject she's insisted she'd stop as her relationship is more important, but I've always ended up begging her not to as I can see how it's good for her (and for us) in a number of ways. I know she loves me, her eyes, her body language and the way she is with me says it all. And I feel more strongly for her than I've ever felt for anyone or anything. Is it a case of this only being a problem if I let it bother me or get to me or could it genuinely become a serious issue? I very, very strongly doubt the possibility of her running away with some guy from a website because we're living together in a committed relationship. It's just.. I dunno. Do I really have anything to be worried about or am I just being a paranoid freak who should let her get on with what she wants to do and not add additional stress and hassle?

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    ... ummm, I'd say that you're mostly being a paranoid freak who should let her get on with it !!!

    I've been told by innumerable guys that the hardest part for guys to deal with is developing a real ability to realize and understand that their dancer / camgirl GF must essentially function as two different people ( or a schizophrenic ) in order to be financially successful at dancing / camming. The 'normal' GF is what she shares with you. The 'alter ego' dancer / camgirl persona is what she has to share with paying customers.

    In purely pragmatic terms, this is no different than a 'normal' GF not being able to share 100% of the 'alter ego' she presents to bosses and co-workers at a full time 'straight' job ... a situation which applies in reverse when you aren't able to share 100% of your own 'straight' job experiences with your GF. And in regard to thoughts that 'she's not all mine because she shares her practically naked body', from a global perspective, that perceived 'emotional' connection between nudity and intimacy is arguably an archaic leftover from America's 'Puritan' days. If topless / nude beaches were available in all parts of America, would you have the same fears if she went to the beach ... i.e. that she was actually 'sharing' part of her personal self with other guys at the beach simply because her boobs are getting a tan ?

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    just wanna address the items on your 'cons' list one by one...

    Quote Originally Posted by PurpleDinosaurRex View Post
    She can behave secretively sometimes. She speaks to people she wants to lure into her chatroom through a smartphone messenger and has snatched her phone away from me in the past, even though I've looked through it while she's been asleep or whatever (curiosity and a feeling I have a right to know) and there's really nothing bad in there.
    that's a relationship issue that will exist whether she chooses to cam or not. keeping secrets, sneaking around, snooping on each other are not healthy habits to get into if you're planning on building something special together. without respect and trust you have, well, a dude seeking advice from strangers on an internet forum rather than talking to the woman he loves.

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    Whenever I voice a concern, she flies off the handle asking me why I'm being so ridiculous and why I'm trying to ruin this for her, causing massive arguments.
    again, this is not camming specific. If you can't talk and negotiate at this early stage (14 months is a blink of an eye in the grand scheme of things) this doesn't bode well for your future. Camming won't be the only issue you two encounter in which you won't be 100% in sync, if you can't actually talk to each other without the drama and histrionics you won't have much of a future, or at least, not a very happy one

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    I really, really do not like the amount of men that send her messages calling her 'baby' and the like (although that's not her fault). She's had a few professing their love to her although she usually ends up getting creeped out and blocks them.
    She's female, She prob gets hit on a lot and this is likely to continue whether she cams or not.

    Quote Originally Posted by PurpleDinosaurRex View Post
    Mostly, it feels like she's not all mine anymore because anybody with a few dollars floating about and an internet connection can get a look at her practically naked body.
    She's not 'yours', she belongs to herself. If she chooses to share herself with you that's one thing, but living with someone doesn't give you ownership over her body, her mind or her choices. I also question your idea of getting naked=guys getting a piece of her. I find it pretty simplistic and superficial tbh but to each their own. If you feel that strongly that getting naked automatically conveys something deeper than just removing clothings then yeah, this prob isn't a good situation for you.

    Quote Originally Posted by PurpleDinosaurRex View Post
    Do I really have anything to be worried about or am I just being a paranoid freak who should let her get on with what she wants to do and not add additional stress and hassle?
    I don't think you're a bad guy or a 'paranoid freak', I do have some empathy for the fact that being involved with someone in the adult field is probably a new experience for you. Of course it's going to be a bit harrowing, particularly considering the stigma we all absorb growing about about sexual women/sexual women monetizing that aspect of their being. Bear in mind too that not every guy is cut out to be the partner of someone involved in the sex industry. Only you will be able to decide that though.

    If I were you I'd work with your gf to fix some of the issues in your relationship vis a vis trust and communication (and that goes for both of you, you have some agency in how the two of you choose to interact, it's not all on her). If you can fix that then coming to mutually comfortable terms with camming dilemma will be much easier for both of you.


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    Wait, you're snooping through her phone when she's asleep? Seriously? Signals some potentially serious trust and control issues here. Also, what kind of concerns is she deeming ridiculous?

    However, the bit about feeling that shes not all yours anymore is what has me deeply concerned. You do not own this woman and the idea that she's "yours" signals some very serious contol issues that were hinted at when you admitted to invading her privacy by looking through her phone.

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    All very good points here.

    I am going to play devil's advocate here tho: first of all, does she know yoûve looked thru her phone? As stated already, this action doesn't stem so much from her camming as it does from your own insecurity. You thought she was hiding smtg, but did you think abt WHY she might feel she needs to hide things from you? She is probably well aware of the negative attitudes most ppl have toward sex work. If she was trying to hide smtg, it's possible that it was not bc she is going to do smtg she shouldn't, but bc she was afraid you would be upset. Many girls maintain varying degrees of 'Don't ask, don't tell' when it comes to telling their SO abt work. I have always been honest abt what's happened to me, but there are things I choose not to discuss bc the event in question makes me extremely uncomfortable & I don't think my SO would fancy hearing abt that kind of thing if he doesn't have to.

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    However, the bit about feeling that shes not all yours anymore is what has me deeply concerned.
    If you feel that strongly that getting naked automatically conveys something deeper than just removing clothings
    Indeed, this almost uniquely American association that an exposed breast automatically implies 'intimacy' between the girl and the 'viewer' is the thing I miss the least after becoming an ex-pat. Seriously, every American guy should take a trip to the Riviera, to coastal South America, Australia, even California, to get a 21st century reality adjustment.

    But on the 'flip side', if that actually happened, lots of American guys would probably quit spending money on strip club 'air dances' and paid webcam !!!
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    I think you are way too involved with her work life. Let her do her damn job! If she worked in an office, would you constantly be showing up to bring her lunch, trying to see what's on her computer, and giving her shit for not being assertive enough when bosses/co-workers/vendors/clients hit on her? If she worked at a restaurant, would you be sitting at the bar and taking notes every time she flirts with her tables? I get the feeling that you'll find a reason to be jealous no matter what she does for a living, and fear of setting you off is one of the reasons she's been out of work for so long.

    You supported her for most of your relationship. You didn't buy her.

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    The snooping especially is bad. And you are overreacting to the sexual nature of her business, which is not necessary for you to do--but far more common than some people will ever admit.

    American men--and women for that matter--are not raised to easily 'share' their SOs when it comes to explicit sexual talk with strangers, sexual contact (such as grinding dick in lapdances), or members of the opposite sex seeing their SOs genitals in close up detail, fucking themselves with sex toys, etc.

    While you DO need to relax & let her do her job, if you want the relationship to survive, it might make it a little easier on you in the transition if you realize that 95% of women or men in the USA could never deal with their SO working in the sex business.

    It is emphatically not 'a job just like any other' to the vast majority of men & women outside the industry, even if it becomes so to those of us doing the work.

    Most of us in the sex industry long ago figured out that 'civilian' people will never really relax with it.

    But you better learn fast if you want to keep the relationship.
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    Ok so you sit at home with no job checking her cell phone and wonder why there's problems? Get a job, dude. Make some friends, get a life, and maybe check your own phone for a change?

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    Quote Originally Posted by KlassFX View Post
    Ok so you sit at home with no job checking her cell phone and wonder why there's problems? Get a job, dude. Make some friends, get a life, and maybe check your own phone for a change?
    Some places don't have that great of job opportunities. There is nothing wrong being being unemployed, as long as they are still looking for work. I know that feeling, my husband was recently laid off from his main income job. So I know that feeling when your sigfig is unemployed. It sucks. So give the dude a break.

    I do agree that he shouldn't look through her phone. Sex work is based on fantasy. Men will sometimes confuse masturbation material to love. Especially when that masturbation material talks back and says nice, sexy things. Especially when we show them our butthole. OP doesn't seem like a terrible person, just confused with the feels.

    I know I wouldn't want my husband reading my email, or go through my phone without my knowledge. Especially if I have nothing to hide, I can see why she would get upset.

    Talk to her tell her your concerns and fears. Communication is important in a relationship. Be calm, and try not to get frustrated. Good luck OP.




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    Your girlfriend's new job (if she's any good at it!) is not just about taking off her clothes, it's actually much more about making those guys feel as though they are her NUMBER ONE (I say customer, they say fan ) If she does this they will fall for her head over heels and will keep coming back, addicted to the attention and apparent affection and understanding she lavishes upon them. This emotional connection when coupled with the chemical high from an orgasm creates a powerful winning combination that when repeated will stick that customer to her like glue! This is what we want as camgirls - them eating out of our hands.

    Now the thing you have to remember is that no matter how convincing it looks this is acting. She is not emotionally invested in those guys no matter what she says to them or how she says it. I remember when I started and I was just learning about all this, sometimes it did feel like i should hide all the messages and shut my fiance out so he couldn't hear what was going on. I did this because I was worried about him getting jealous. But as i gained more experience I learned to be able to quickly switch off that emotional overspill that can sometimes occur when cultivating a new 'regular'. I talked with my fiance and we had a good long chat about how we both felt about everything. And after this it was all gravy baby! Your girlfriend is simply going through this initial transition where she's finding her feet.

    If you can allow her the freedom to seemingly give herself emotionally to her customers, and you both work hard to keep the lines of communication open i think it won't be long until you're able to laugh together about those addicted guys calling her 'baby' all the time, while you get busy counting all the lovely ££

    Just relax and flow with it. It's all part of the job x
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    Hmmm this reminds me of how I started camming... My boyfriend didn't have a job and we were literally searching our apartment and rolling spare coins just hoping somehow we'd have enough for rent... I was like "hey is it cool if I cam?" and he said yeah...here we are 3 yrs later still together with me still camming.
    I know this is different with every couple but you need to work out boundaries involving camming. Voice your concerns with what u aren't comfortable with her doing (but be realistic!). Find out what her limits will be with camming, that will probably make you feel better.
    Guys will call her baby and 100s of other pet names... That's life, it will happen 100x a day on cam and it happens off cam I'm sure... I'm a girl and I call ppl by pet names... Sometimes it's just how ppl talk lol.

    My bf doesn't love the fact that I cam but he doesn't have a problem with it. It's my job, he understands that. He knows what my limits are, I know what his preferred limits for me are(basically not getting to personal with customers but hey that's one of my limits too so we are eye to eye lol). In our relationship my boyfriend doesn't like to hear too many details about camming which I'm fine with he doesn't want to hear about c2c crap, what the dirty talk is like or whatever , it gives me my privacy so it works out for both of us.

    To be more specific and address a few of your cons
    - "acting secretive" - Camming is her job. Like others have said u probably didn't tell her every little detail of your day when you got home from work. When works over some people just like to forget about it til the next day they don't want to go on and on about it.
    -"flying off the handle when you voice concerns"- I know you're just trying to be a good bf but pay special attention to your tone and words when doing this. I have freaked out at my bf in the past for him doing this thing too. She may feel like you don think she's doing good enough, she may think you're secretly trying to get her to stop... Who knows what she's thinking... We're girls and sometimes out minds just think the worst possible.
    -"feels like she's not mine anymore, anyone with a few bucks...." - It's her job. Dollars add up to paychecks. If your not okay with we camming u need to figure it out fast and talk to her about it.


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    I think what you are feeling is perfectly natural . You are a man who is in love. There is NO reason you SHOULD feel comfortable when other men call your girlfriend baby. It's tough. It really means nothing to her other than, cool - I'm gonna make some money soon. As a dancer, I deal with this all the time. Those guys don't put stars in my eyes, not for any amount of money they spend. Try to trust her, and if you can't, then be slow and honest about it. Try writing a letter so that the immediate defensive reaction could settle down for a bit. It's easy to get defensive when the whole world hates what we do.

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    Her being a cam girl is irrelevant. Her being a woman attractive enough to be a cam girl is a concern. The fact that you're not man enough to keep her faithful is a concern. Cheating is in her nature; she'll go after the best man she can get. It's not evil; it doesn't make her bad. It's just her nature. You don't blame a shark for biting you, do you? If you're not the best man she can get, the only thing you can do about it is to become the best man she can get by improving yourself.

    Quote Originally Posted by PurpleDinosaurRex View Post
    Whenever I voice a concern, she flies off the handle asking me why I'm being so ridiculous and why I'm trying to ruin this for her, causing massive arguments.
    I've never in my life taken a psychology course, and even I can see that's she's deflecting/projecting here. I'd say your relationship is doomed beyond repair. Not that you'll listen or care. Just do one thing for me. If she ever gets pregnant, get yourself a paternity test before getting married or signing any birth certificates.
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    Quote Originally Posted by lestat1 View Post
    Her being a cam girl is irrelevant. Her being a woman 4attractive enough to be a cam girl is a concern. The fact that you're not man enough to keep her faithful is a concern. Cheating is in her nature; she'll go after the best man she can get. It's not evil; it doesn't make her bad. It's just her nature. You don't blame a shark for biting you, do you? If you're not the best man she can get, the only thing you can do about it is to become the best man she can get by improving yourself.


    I've never in my life taken a psychology course, and even I can see that's she's deflecting/projecting here. I'd say your relationship is doomed beyond repair. Not that you'll listen or care. Just do one thing for me. If she ever gets pregnant, get yourself a paternity test before getting married or signing any birth certificates.
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    Because if a pretty girl gets naked on the internet, that means she is a cheater? Um you don't understand camming...





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    Quote Originally Posted by audritwo View Post
    Because if a pretty girl gets naked on the internet, that means she is a cheater? Um you don't understand camming...
    How did you manage to miss the first sentence I wrote?

    Quote Originally Posted by lestat1 View Post
    Her being a cam girl is irrelevant.
    I mean it'd be one thing if my post was really long and it was somewhere in the middle. Maybe you skimmed over a wall of text and just happened to miss it. But this was literally the very first sentence.
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    Quote Originally Posted by lestat1 View Post
    Her being a woman attractive enough to be a cam girl is a concern.
    Then after that you said this... Soooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo explain that more.





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    Quote Originally Posted by audritwo View Post
    Then after that you said this... Soooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo explain that more.
    People are only as faithful as their options. She's attractive enough to be a cam girl, so she has lots of options. OP needs to work on improving himself if he wants to keep her.
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    Quote Originally Posted by lestat1 View Post
    Her being a cam girl is irrelevant. Her being a woman attractive enough to be a cam girl is a concern. The fact that you're not man enough to keep her faithful is a concern. Cheating is in her nature; she'll go after the best man she can get. It's not evil; it doesn't make her bad. It's just her nature. You don't blame a shark for biting you, do you? If you're not the best man she can get, the only thing you can do about it is to become the best man she can get by improving yourself.
    This is Red Pill 101. How did you end up becoming a regular on THIS forum? Is it to study the greedy, promiscuous, hypergamous feeemales in their natural habitat and then write field reports about it so you can get circle-jerked by all your alpha bros?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Smurfette View Post
    This is Red Pill 101. How did you end up becoming a regular on THIS forum? Is it to study the greedy, promiscuous, hypergamous feeemales in their natural habitat and then write field reports about it so you can get circle-jerked by all your alpha bros?
    So back in the late 1990s, as a new and wide-eyed strip club customer I had questions. There was a forum called stripper power (I think? It's been a decade and a half). Anyway, after some brief time on there this new forum opened up, called stripperweb. I joined it in January '02. That's how I ended up on here.

    As for the rest, you pretty much described why I can't stand PUA culture. I do like to read, though, and on a variety of topics. Some stuff I agree with and some stuff I don't.
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    As for the rest, you pretty much described why I can't stand PUA culture. I do like to read, though, and on a variety of topics. Some stuff I agree with and some stuff I don't.
    Fair enough. It just seems a little odd to me that you would espouse red pill/PUA beliefs when you post on a forum for and about women, the sex industry, and female sexuality. All of which are hated and demonized by TRP. It's kinda like posting on a forum full of black people saying, "Well, it's just in their nature to steal, it's not wrong, we just have to adapt to it".

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    Fair enough. It just seems a little odd to me that you would espouse red pill/PUA beliefs when you post on a forum for and about women, the sex industry, and female sexuality. All of which are hated and demonized by TRP. It's kinda like posting on a forum full of black people saying, "Well, it's just in their nature to steal, it's not wrong, we just have to adapt to it".
    I understand, which is why you're not going to read such things from me in a Life Support thread started by one of the ladies here. It's not the place for it. This thread, however, is a guy asking for advice, and he's in a really bad spot. I know he's in a bad spot because he came here to ask this question. That's as useless as you asking me for dating advice. I'm not a woman, and I don't date men; I'm the last person you should ask. You should ask women who are successful at dating great guys. Likewise, he should be asking men who have had successful long-term relationships with a sex worker. They can best advise him. Until one shows up, I gave him the best advice I have to offer. I hope it helps him.
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    People are only as faithful as their options. She's attractive enough to be a cam girl, so she has lots of options. OP needs to work on improving himself if he wants to keep her.
    Ugly girls cheat too. Whether or not someone cheats isn't based upon their looks.
    Females ALWAYS have options when it comes to men wanting to fuck them. She can be the ugliest, horrible body gal & there will be a man out there trying to chat her up & get laid.

    What does run off partners of both sexes is accusations & insecurity. Always checking their phones, who they interact with, searchs of emails & the computer history & general mistrust doesn't work in any relationship.

    Instead try a hug, kissing her on the forehead, a smile when you feel insecure about her cam job. Don't you believe in her enough to know that she will see the bs & lies men throw at girls to get laid to take it beyond just a cam show. KNOW this, she will be so OVER that type they aren't even remotely a tempted. As an attractive gal, she has heard it all before & is with you because you didn't.

    These men are just words typed on a computer page. Made up names. Very few of them, like less than 1 % even remotely have enough game to get any single cam girl interested in him as a date, as a sex partner, as a future relationship. Also they don't go to cam site for that, they come for the fantasy & roll playing for it. If they truly wanted real life hook ups or dates then they would go to real places in the real world to meet REAL females.

    As a cam girl she will be hit on thousands of times a day, while flattering, none of it is tempting enough to meet anyone one of them in real life. Much less risk them life or current relationship.

    You do realize majority of these men live hundreds to thousands of miles away, if not in another country. I get asked if I will visit or vacation in England, France, Brazil, Ohio every time I log on. Now, what female is going to spend thousands of dollars to hook up with a man they don't know off the web because he wants to use her for sex? Yeah, that makes a lot of sense. Especially after knowing most of those guys rarely if any actually tip or take a girl private.

    Do you realize HOW unSEXY & delusional females think of men who demand sex or think sex will happen because they typed out in free chat or paid "Let' fuck", "I want to fuck, you", "I'd fuck you all night long", "I'll pay you $5000 for a night" is to us? "I want to fuck you" doesn't have the same effect on females as it does when I man has a female write it. Men would be like 'Hell, yeah'... Where as females, ALL of us think it, most of us don't say it, but for us it is "Hell, NO".... Well, I say it out loud all the time on cam.

    Fact is, no matter where she works, she will be hit on. Females get hit on at the bank, at the mall, at Walmart, pumping gas. I don't blame men for trying. But I would Never ever risk my relationship with the sweetest man I've ever met for strange dick.

    It never is a matter of options.

    She also knows these guys will go from cam girl to cam girl rooms for hours using the same ass lines on each one of them. They will hit on 20 to 100 girls in a night to see if it will happen. Spenders don't waste their time, they find a girl they like, take them private, jack off, log off & go about their day.

    She may lead them on to make money off of them, but she isn't going to be tempted.

    Hope this helps,
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    Log onto any cam site with her & watch what goes on in free chat. It is a hoot when you look at it how the guys hit on any girl & how each one handles it.

    You will NOT see 99 percent of the time any of the cam girls giving out their real name, email address, where they live or agreeing to meet up in person. Now, there is always that 1 percent who will agree & actually fuck them in real life. I know a few... sad, but true.

    Which category does your gal fall into?

    Females maybe faithful as their options. On the other hand many men cheat on some of the most beautiful women in the world. She can be a super model & he may cheat. Being faithful depends upon the individual not looks. I know, when I used to be an escort one of my best clients was married to a super model/victoria secret gal.

    Sam

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