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    I'm sure there's a thread on this and certain things posted in this forum have already been stated,
    but I've been really proud of myself and the way I've handled this job for the past couple of months...and I'd like to share my tips on how I didn't lose my mind this time around

    A.) A consistent schedule.
    I've created a schedule working two shifts. 4PM-8PM, 9PM-1AM ; 5 days a week.
    After doing this schedule for the past couple of months, my income is pretty steady. I know I can make a certain amount during each of the shifts, and the same members continue to reappear. During the first year of camming, I would pretty much log on, "Whenever I felt like it."
    I would always be dejected and wonder, "Why aren't my regulars here?" "Why am I not making any money?"
    Well. I figured it out. Obviously, customers would like a reliable girl that will be on when they expect you to be. I rarely skip a shift, and I'm rarely late. Everything has improved because of that.

    B.) No money goals.
    I know I stated that I can pretty much rely on making a certain amount during a shift, but I don't beat myself up about it if I don't hit it. Why? Everyday isn't going to be great. Some days, I'll make less then I'd like to, but if I put in the 8 hours, I feel good about it anyways. It makes the customers believe that I'm not JUST there to make a crapload of money and can still enjoy my time with them. I've noticed that certain days will be less, certain days will be more ; and that makes up to an average of X amount per week, equaling a happy Lils.

    C.) Shutting off "Work Mode."
    During my shifts, I'm in complete work/hustle mode. Once I'm done, the computer goes off, I don't dwell about my day, and I continue about my everyday life. There is no reason to "Live, breathe, and eat" camming. There is no reason to do that, and I noticed I started to go crazy after awhile because it was ALL I would do.
    Enjoying your time off cam is completely essential because it keeps you in a better mood and you appreciate the things you love even more.

    D.) Splurging on Self-Confidence
    Well. Pretty self explanatory.
    In a days work, just think about HOW MANY PEOPLE think/tell you you're "pretty." "hot." "gorgeous." "beautiful." etc. Sure, it gets annoying when most of them are freeloaders..but imagine if you kept a tally chart of how many compliments you get in a day?
    Think about how many compliments a person would get, lets say for example, working at McDonalds.
    This job is an epic ego-booster because your income partially relies on how you look. So..if you're making money..think, "Wow. I made $___ because I'm hot and got paid to be it."
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    Default Re: How I Saved My Mind

    I really like B. I have to make a mental note of that!
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    Thx Lily!!!
    Taking a break from all unproductive shit will prove to be the best choice you can make.

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    Nice. As for B, I prefer to have money goals, but to keep em conservative. And budget my life according to those conservative goals, assessing them every so often such as during a slow period.
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    So happy I found this thread! Just what I needed as I stand at the cusp of full time camming

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    Great post, Lily! I agree with everything; started working the same way a while ago and am doing pretty well with everything but C. I actually think C might be the most important part because that down time lets us recover and have more to give on cam. There was a time when I worked every day and eventually I felt like a robot running on fumes.

    Also I get big-picture ideas when I am working on non-camming projects like painting or cleaning, but it's hard to not feel like my downtime should be free of the 1001 things I feel always need doing on social media, site messaging, research, profile updates, yadda yadda yadda.

    Today was supposed to be a day off but I cammed anyway and have been reading SW and FL all morning. I think I'm going to go strip a table now.
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    Eventually I'll write some more tactics that I do, but those three things were the most significant in changing my outlook on this job.
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    Great stuff, lils. I'm all for A and C. The reason B doesn't line up with my life (and not everyone will have the same points) is because I budget so I need to make an X amount of money per day or my budget will have to be readjusted on a daily bases. Also, I totally agree with not allowing the numbers to mess with your head. Some days are good, some are crap. That being said, once I move I'll have a small daily goal lined up with my budget so it will make things very attainable. I'm glad everything is working out for you, and I especially agree with breaking up shifts and allowing yourself to have a break to yourself. Also, I really love point C. It's super imperative to leave cam where cam belongs and enjoy your life. That's what gets me through each day.




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    I wish I could have a schedule but.. my life just does not work like that.

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    Added another pointer!
    I know all of these things are scattered in SW somewhere, but I feel like sometimes, we all get "down," here and there and forget certain things.. so I hope this thread helps!
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