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    Default Year one of Civilian life down

    I danced for ten years since I was 18 to almost 27 and it helped me in so many ways but changed me in a lot of ways too that I can see now that I've been off the pole for a year.

    I think anyone who dances for long enough becomes pretty jaded. Meeting new people isn't special anymore. I used to make sure not to emotionally invest myself in ANYONE because I thought they were just going to (literally or figuratively) try to fuck me. I missed out on a lot of what could have been amazing relationships during my 20s for that reason. And as a result felt incredibly lonely during that time.

    I just thought maybe others felt the same way...

    and....now that I've been out here in straight society for a while I understand that there seem to be a lot of people who genuinely like and respect me.

    And i guess dancing was kind of a mind fuck. I guess I still can't really put it into words.


    also Read my friends book. It's on Amazon ...The Yoga Stripper. I'm in it.

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    I feel the opposite.

    I danced for eight years before I quit and the quality of my relationships during that time were genuine and unconditional. Because of the perverse and shady nature of the environment that I lived, it allowed me to be more open with myself and not live up to the expectations of others since majority of the world was already against my profession. In that openness, I found people that accepted me for who I was; both the negative and positive and no longer judged me as doing something morally incorrect.

    My identity was centered around dancing. It was my career every day for eight years and the reality of it was that most of the world do no respect dancers and thus, there are very few people in the normal world that would respect what I've done. I lived in such a limited world as a dancer that the alternative became hostile and unusual to me. I find it difficult to fit in with those around me now.

    Where those relationships amazing to me? I don't know; I think it's a limit perspective I had due to the environment that surrounded me. So maybe you're onto something.

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    Default Re: Year one of Civilian life down

    I like your take on it too!!

    To be fair I did make some amazing other stripper friends, but boyfriend wise I was completely SOL

    I find it hard to fit in with the people around me too now....

    Idk what it is exactly..

    Sometimes I car really tell if a girl was a stripper before ( like long term not a couple months during a summer vacation) and then it's like we click.

    What do you do for a job now? And how are you reconciling straight life with our old wild side? We can't just tell civilians about our pasts right? Or can we?

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