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    Default Lost it at work last night. Should I stay or should I go?

    I had a whole novel typed out but I’m just gonna get straight to the point.

    The club I’m at now

    Pros
    -5 minutes away from home
    -cheap house fees
    -Flexible scheduling
    -Dayshift so I can do doubles
    -They let me get away with a lot of shit like never going on stage when it’s empty, never taking my top off, and throwing drinks on customers (which is what I did last night).
    -can be on the same schedule as the boyfriend

    Cons
    -DIRTY DIRTY EXTRAS DIRTY. SOOO DIRTY
    -Bouncers do not do their job at all
    -The customer is always right.
    -bartenders cause a lot of drama and steal money and drinks

    I’ve been drugged at this club and management did nothing.
    Am constantly molested and again nothing.
    And honestly what happened last night really wasn’t that big of a deal but I think I was just so pissed off with how the club handled it that I grabbed all my shit and walked out.

    A customer offered to buy me a drink. The bouncer actually overheard the conversation and when the drink gets there the customer refuses to pay. This normally wouldn’t have bothered me but he starts giving me a load of shit, he and his friends start insulting me (I mean some really nasty shit), so I decide to teach them a lesson and grab the beer out of his hand and throw it on his face and take my drink and throw it on his phone in his lap.

    They get mad and I go to both bouncers and tell them to kick them out. Instead the bouncers do nothing and they’re allowed to stay and they even get free drinks. The manager tells me downstairs that they’re not obligated to buy me a drink and that they’re still making money for the bar. I then tell him I’m aware of that but if they offer to buy me a drink and then refuse to pay it’s not my fault. Then I proceed to list all the nasty shit they said to me. Then I also remind him that they had three beers and were sitting in the cheap seats nursing them. The manager then tells me the customer didn’t deserve to get his drinks thrown on him. EXCUSE ME? Did you not hear what he said to me?! He’s lucky he didn’t get slapped or a heel to the balls. At that point I assume I’m fired so I tell him I’m getting my stuff, say bye to the housemom who I love so much, and get ready to walk out.

    Then get this. The bouncer felt sorry and went down and spoke to both the manager and her and said he overheard the entire conversation and everything I said was true. He also vouched for how the guys treated me and felt sorry I had to put up with that type of verbal abuse. So all of a sudden there’s a change of heart and I’m told I’m not fired and it’s not a big deal. I appreciate the bouncer coming down to stick up for me but WTF why didn’t u stick up for me up there?!

    Honestly I don’t know why they don’t fire me. They’ve fired, demoted, put on probation a ton of girls for little things. But here’s my dilemma.

    I’ve started a new club an hour away.

    Pros
    -Way more money
    -super clean
    -no drink commission so no forcing girls to drink
    -bouncers really do look out for you
    -the customer is not always right.

    Cons
    -mandatory topless
    -strict scheduling and fines
    -you’re either nightshift or dayshift. You can’t mix and match
    -one hour away
    -high house fees and cab home
    -lose my good regulars in my old club (they’ve already said they can’t visit me at this new club because it’s too far)
    -completely opposite schedule from boyfriend

    Then there’s the third option which is mix and match and work some days at my old club to keep my regulars. This one would be the hardest and most costly because instead of taking public transit to my new club I’d have to take a taxi both there and on the way home and pay a higher house fee and a fine for being late.

    There’s also my pride and going back to that club makes me feel like I don’t have any self respect for myself. But there’s the convenience factor. I feel like I'm trying to leave a bad relationship.

    I think I know the answer already but need that extra push. Any advice, similar stories, and words of wisdom would be greatly appreciated.
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    Default Re: Lost it at work last night. Should I stay or should I go?

    I read thru your whole post but pretty much had my opinion formed after reading the pros/cons list at the top:

    GTFO of your old club. IT IS NOT SAFE THERE.

    Extras on steroids + bouncers who apparently can't be paid to do their job (ensuring your safety) + mgmt that lets customers abuse you as long as the bar is making $$$ from them -- there is no contest there as far as I can see. I have worked in too many clubs where bouncers either flat-out didn't care, or the ones that did had their hands tied by mgmt half the time. Just, no. Get out of there. If it's got that bad & that well-deserved of a reputation I would also worry abt the risk of getting raided.

    I wouldn't be too crazy abt all the restrictions from this new club either, but all the $$$$ in the world isn't going to be worth the serious mental, emotional & possibly physical dmg from sticking at your old club. Would it be possible to carpool w/ another dancer? Hell, maybe one of your coworkers from your old club might be thinking of defecting too. What's the earning potential at the new club like? Enough to make the fees + transportation worth it?

    Also, call me deeply jaded but I think it says a lot abt your 'really good' regulars who refuse to come see you 'bc of the distance' if your old club is really that dirty. That's them taking the easy way out, in more ways than one.

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    Default Re: Lost it at work last night. Should I stay or should I go?

    Quote Originally Posted by BarbieNYC View Post
    I had a whole novel typed out but I’m just gonna get straight to the point.

    The club I’m at now


    I’ve been drugged at this club and management did nothing.

    But here’s my dilemma.

    I’ve started a new club an hour away.

    Pros
    -Way more money
    -super clean
    -no drink commission so no forcing girls to drink
    -bouncers really do look out for you
    -the customer is not always right.

    Cons
    -strict scheduling and fines
    -you’re either nightshift or dayshift. You can’t mix and match
    -one hour away
    -high house fees and cab home
    Im sorry..... you were DRUGGED at your club and no one did anything?!??!!

    You're already working at a NEW club with better money... where you will develop better regulars... don't worry.

    Just show up and be on time to avoid extraneous fees/fines. You'll be very punctual if the money is right. Push yourself to be on time to make the most bank.

    As for opposite shifts with the significant other... http://www.wikihow.com/Make-Your-Rel...pposite-Shifts
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    ^What Sophia said.
    Quote Originally Posted by yoda57us View Post
    I wish there was an "auto-like" setting that I could just have applied to all of your posts Sophia....

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    I vote get out!! All the cons you've mentioned about the new club are expense and inconvenience related. Yes, it sucks to waste so much of your day on transit, and it's definitely intimidating at first to be so deep in the hole, but I promise you get used to it. I coped with my old hour long commute by doing all my makeup during that time. Sometimes if I were particularly lazy or not good on time I'd throw some rollers in my hair and take them off right before stepping in the club (I really don't give a fuck about people laughing at my rollers). And if you want to pm me, there are probably cheaper ways of getting you where I get the sense you want to go. My bf is a transit wizard.

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    Default Re: Lost it at work last night. Should I stay or should I go?

    Yeah GTFO of that other club, the new one sounds great.

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    Default Re: Lost it at work last night. Should I stay or should I go?

    The new club sounds much better.
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    Default Re: Lost it at work last night. Should I stay or should I go?

    If your concerned about how the change might affect your relationship with your boyfriend, think of it this way... If you're in an environment where you feel safer, maybe that will help improve your relationship as well. Sometimes the job affects interpersonal relationships subconsciously. (Less hugging and etc.) Stay safe girl.

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    Default Re: Lost it at work last night. Should I stay or should I go?

    Hey I just wanted to thank everyone for their advice and support. Just wanted to update.

    Left the old club for good and it turns out I left at the right time as they rehired an old manager who is a scheduling Nazi. From what I've heard, they are overscheduling girls (40 girls on a Friday day shift) and theres just not enough money to go around. My friend who is a mega hustler worked a double and left with 200 on Friday.

    Moneys been great at the new club. My goodness I've never worked such a clean club in my life. I love it. And the bouncers have your back there. Thankfully I only have to take one train. And lol1337A I've been doing my makeup on the subway like you suggested and while I get the occasional stare, it helps the hour commute fly by so quickly.

    And going to this new club has actually helped the relationship with the boy despite opposite schedules. He's semi moved in anyways. I no longer drink so I feel much happier and healthier. I look so much better too. And I didn't realize how much of a psychological toll that old club was taking on me. He's definitely happier with the club switch and things couldn't be better.

    So thanks everyone. I needed the push to leave that club and now that I have, I'm never going back!

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