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    So for the last 4 months I quit stripping and began escorting, I took a break to get my BA and returned this week... and I absolutely fucking hate it. I don't know what's changed, but it makes me feel ill to have my clients touch me, and I'm staring at the clock the whole time and flinching, and I can tell not only am I heading toward having a meltdown if I keep doing something I don't want to do, but my business is going to dissipate anyway as my clients can sense it and are probably steps away from trashing me online anyway. I just don't want to do this anymore. I loved escorting before I took my break, I don't know why I've done a 180-- the first couple days were bad and I thought I was just nervous, but the only time I felt slightly comfortable was with my best regular, who I normally have a great time with. So I feel like something has just changed in me.

    I want to go back to dancing, but it is not the same in this country and I was SO stressed before I turned to escorting making enough money to get by with the absolutely lubricous living expenses of living in London, that the thought of returning purely to dancing, with the unreliable income and up and downs... and working in clubs that I don't particularly like... well, it doesn't make me feel much better, the main reason I kept with escorting is the income is 100% reliable and consistent. When I worked it America yes there bad nights, but it all usually averaged out in the end of the week, whereas I don't feel that way in London. I know I moved here at not the best time and that this season is supposed to be better, but I just don't want to go back to all that stress.

    But I also don't want to quit, so I'm thinking my best option is to find some kind of part time job so that I at least have some reliable income coming in every week and also to begin to have more of a connection to the non-sex worker world besides my boyfriend. But I feel like I have no idea what I want to do? Everything on my CV is useless as it's all specialized internships geared to a field I have ZERO desire to work in, and which is not lucrative anyway as it's in entertainment. I was thinking I would like to start looking for a part time nanny job, but I have no experience in that industry and it seems like absolutely everyone wants experienced nannies. For those of you who work part time outside of stripping, what do you do? And how did you find a job with a useless CV basically just filled with sex-worker jobs? I have a BA from a top 25 university, but my CV seriously sucks.

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    I wonder if you could find a job as a secretary or receptionist for some rich businessman/lawyer who is looking for someone who is not only smart but also very, very sexy. I remember seeing lots of listings for this sort of thing when I was a nude maid. Maybe you could start applying for receptionist positions and include a photo with your CV. If the hiring person is looking for a sexy employee, I'm sure you would stand out. You could be creative with your CV, referring to "performer" or "modeling" work, which probably wouldn't put off the kind of guy you're looking for. Of course, they might be looking for more of a sugar baby kind of thing, and I don't know if that's something you're interested in.

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    Have you made it back into a club yet to try it out again? Is camming an option? It would be a bit ridiculous to get a dinky part-time job at this point when it's far easier to drag yourself into the club for a few hours once a week instead. And remember...generally even part-time jobs require an application process, referral checking, perhaps even background checks...it could be a month before you receive a paycheck. And that paycheck probably ain't gonna look pretty.

    I'd say stop escorting - for sure. That's clearly doing unhealthy things for you right now. And go in to the club as soon as possible. I would make a game of it - see how little hustling you can do with the help of your newest additions!

    It actually seems fairly common, IME, for women to come back from plastic surgery feeling less motivated to work. You get all of this alone time where you don't have people grabbing at you / wanting things from you, so heading back into the fray can be quite rough. However, getting a part-time job just doesn't make sense for your situation (in my very humble opinion).

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    How about some modeling? That way you could still make decent money but no contact with men. I'm talking anything from modeling for art classes (art colleges pay well to model and so do artists)to nudes.

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    Find a temp/recruitment agency. I found them to be pretty popular and useful in the UK, and although it may not be as stable as a regular part-time job, it will help you build your CV for now and you never know if they'll set you up in a nice, longer-term gig.

    FWIW, I would keep the sex work off the resume. Specialized internships can be good even if they're not in the same field as the jobs you're applying for because they show you've got some office experience and won't be a total noob. Look at the skills you gained and explain how they're transferable to whatever job you're applying to.

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    OOh there are so many jobs!

    If you like the sales aspect then could you do promo modelling? It usually pays higher than minimum wage, you could sign up with an agency. And put your hustling skills to good use.

    From handing out flyers to wearing costumes and promoting alcoholic beverages/quizzes in shopping centres etc.

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    Finding a part-time job may not make sense financially, but it may make sense for your mental well-being. I would suggest going back to a club soon, but also try to find a part-time job that you would enjoy on the side. I plan on getting a part-time job very soon, in addition to stripping once or twice a week. Make sure it is a job you would actually enjoy. What do you enjoy being around? It doesn't have to be a menial, boring, mind-numbing job. Myself, I love being around plants and nature, so I plan on getting a part-time job at a plant nursery. This will save my sanity. It isn't about the money, it's about my will to keep on living, at this point. We must be in another environment besides a sex-oriented one if we wish to keep our sanity in tact.
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    Wine-repping? vet assistant? cosmetic store? florist? Produce department in a grocery store (sounds cheezy, but it's somehow very stress relieving to cut fruits and veggies all day and not deal with people much).
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    Quote Originally Posted by ScarletKitten View Post
    Finding a part-time job may not make sense financially, but it may make sense for your mental well-being. I would suggest going back to a club soon, but also try to find a part-time job that you would enjoy on the side. I plan on getting a part-time job very soon, in addition to stripping once or twice a week. Make sure it is a job you would actually enjoy. What do you enjoy being around? It doesn't have to be a menial, boring, mind-numbing job. Myself, I love being around plants and nature, so I plan on getting a part-time job at a plant nursery. This will save my sanity. It isn't about the money, it's about my will to keep on living, at this point. We must be in another environment besides a sex-oriented one if we wish to keep our sanity in tact.
    This is why I want to find one, I'm not expecting to find a job that pays like stripping but I need something out of this industry because I cannot go back to work 4/5 days a week, sleeping all day, and realizing I haven't had contact with a real person in 3 days, besides the delivery guy. And even if it's only a few hundred pounds a week, just knowing I have something coming in will make me feel better as I have literally had weeks here where I've made £2500 and weeks where I've made £250, after working 5 shifts, 40 hours.
    And I think feeling better about both these things will make me a bettet hustler.

    I'm also getting very concerned about having absolutely nothing on my CV for two years since I won't put sex work down.

    I'm going to stick with escorting for the rest of the month and begin looking for a club next week, but I'f like to have another her joh for when I go back.

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    since you're living abroad, the gaps in your resume actually make your life a bit easier - while it may be awkward to write out on a resume, you can always say that you were travelling (backpacking etc) for a while. you're obviously foreign, so people probably won't question it that much.

    i also second what shanna dior said - put your internships down! put anything down you can think of, just make sure it relates to the job you're applying for. whatever you end up sending your resume into, you can usually google the qualities needed for that job and connect your skills to that. for example, when i first started bartending i had no experience, i had only worked in childcare and fast food. i googled which skills were needed for bartending and while i obviously didn't have experience making drinks, i had loads of experience interacting with people/cleaning up things/being organized/taking inventory. so i wrote my resume around those things, rather than on the fact that i had been taking care of kids/flipping burgers/whatever. it helped, and i got interviewed for quite a few bartending jobs (i hope this makes sense, i'm about to go to bed)!

    some jobs i can think of off the top of my head that possibly wouldn't require experience: housekeeping, front/back in retail, hostess in a restaurant, reception in a hair or nail salon, promoter for clubs

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    you can also say you were "teaching english" while abroad, I don't think they would actually verify that you did.
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    Audrey, are you enjoying living in London? I know getting a job is what's more on your mind these days. But aside from work-related woes, are you happy to be living there? It seems like you've been having a rough time from the start..

    I don't mean to pry. Just checking in to see how things are going in general.

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    ^I do like it here. I absolutely love the city and I like the British even though there are moments where I have to roll my eyes at their British-ness. I love being around another culture and in a city that's so multicultural and has so much interesting history, I love that it's so easy to travel around the UK, and that Europe is right next door. There's no way I would want to go back to America. Now that I have my own place and am not sharing with shitty flatmates I feel a lot better, I was REALLY unhappy living in that tiny flatshare and then my even shittier incall flat. I just find the work situation here very difficult and stressful to deal with in a way I didn't feel in America. Besides being high-hustle to the point of girls being aggressive with each other and customers being hard because you're not offering them shit (strict no-contact rules here, like to crazy levels of you can't even put a foot NEXT to the customer or do floor work) they're depressing places. I used to love going to work in LA, sometimes I would go in even when I hadn't planned to just because I was bored and my friends were busy. I mean I worked hard there, but I could also smoke a cigarette and chill with my GM or chat with one of the other girls in the DR when it was slow. I'm not looking to make best friends at work, but it would be nice to say hello to someone and not have them glare at you and then proceed to trash talk you. And that stressed out, negative, angry energy translates to the customers, so it's like not even are they hard to hustle, but they're not the most pleasant people to deal with. And it's also stressful to deal with the high cost of living-- I mean, I live in a tiny one bedroom apartment in a very old building, and I pay almost $2400 USD a month. Even in Los Angeles I could get a two bedroom apartment in West LA with a pool and a gym in the building. It's $17 for a pack of cigarettes here, I spent as much on public transport every week as I did filling up my tank LA... it's just off the charts how high the cost of living is here. But I just love London and can't imagine living in another city right now.

    I knew it would be a difficult move, moving to a new country straight of university, not knowing a single person in that country, going to a city that is very antisocial, expensive, has a high unemployment rate, and is bustling with too many people. And I haven't exactly made it easier for myself since I got here, I mean deciding to get plastic surgery 5 months after my move probably wasn't that bright. And I've thrown myself so far into my work that I haven't really made much of an effort to go out and make friends here either, now that I have my boyfriend I definitely feel much better, which is a sign I need to start focusing on my interpersonal relationships more. I just also feel like I'm not one of those people who can ONLY do sex work, I need to do something else. I felt this way when I quit stripping the first time, but I don't want to quit this time, I just don't want to burn out.

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    Default Re: finding a part time job outside of stripping?

    Here are some ideas:

    - Raise your escorting rate
    - Travel escort
    - Say you were a freelance makeup artist for your resume gap. Also add internships, yes
    - Sign up for "dating" sites and look for women only, who often state they are just looking for friendships
    - Volunteer
    - Look into graduate or certificate (if they do those?) programs in England

    I've never been an escort though so idk if #1 & #2 are good ideas or very safe, so use your judgment.

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    I think some paid modeling gigs are a good way to go. You said you didn't want it to be sexual, but you can film fetish clips-don't even have to show your face-I mean, c4s has everything from an apron fetish to a zipper fetish lol. Go through the list, find the least sexual ones, and film them. They'll sell and you'll get paid.
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    I think what I'd really like to do would be to do some part-time nannying, I love being around kids. I think I would have to start off as 'mother-helper' (not alone with the kids) and maybe get some kind of certificate, but I'm worried about that and being a sex worker not going together so well.

    I think I'm also going to look into applying to grad school earlier. The deadlines are more flexible with the universities in the UK than they are in the US, I could apply as late as April here and still have a shot of getting in. My plan was to apply next year, but I'm start to get bored and miss being in school.

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    I don't know what kind of money you want but there are a lot of promotional and catering employment agencies that pay pay a little more than minimum wage. They're very flexible so you can work as much or as little as you want. The promo agencies normally also take on girls without any experience too.
    I did that all through uni and it was great.

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    i used to be a nanny and i loved it! if you want a nannying job, another thing you could do is to look around for a volunteer job that works with children so that you have something on your resume and you have a reference. it also might be beneficial to go through a childcare agency rather than look for a job on your own.

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    if i was in your shoes and had to fill the resume gap, I would do one of the following things :
    -- say that I had spent the time turning a research paper into a journal article and doing additional supporting research;
    -- cite a dotcom in the US and say I was doing remote project management.. get someone stateside to give you a reference or elses say their last round of funding fell through so they dont exist anymore;
    -- make up a celebrity and say that I was their personal assistant, but they had a tantrum and fired me.

    Well I dont know if that last one would fly in London or not. In LA, that would be totally believable and excusable.

    The project manager one is nice because it makes you sound like you have a good head on your shoulder, but nobody is really sure what it consists of. (I used to know somebody who did that for realsies, which is what gave me the idea)

    I am sure there are other genteel-sounding things you could fill in with. unpaid curator at an art gallery, etc. You could also tell people you moved to London as an aspiring actress, and that would explain a lot of empty time on the resume. Going on auditions between bit roles in underground plays that no ones ever heard of.

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    I covered my time spent primarily in clubs by also having freelance writing and editing projects to put on there and emphasizing my skills and education, which will work even better for you given the top 25 thing. For the skills portion, edit each submission of your resume to reflect keywords and desired skills listed in the job ad. Someone wanted me to be a nanny once (I said hell no), but they were interested in my experience babysitting, my education/whether I could help tutor the kids or help with homework, and my willingness/ability to drive the kids home from school.

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    I think I'm also going to look into applying to grad school earlier. The deadlines are more flexible with the universities in the UK than they are in the US, I could apply as late as April here and still have a shot of getting in. My plan was to apply next year, but I'm start to get bored and miss being in school.
    I strongly feel this would be your best long term bet (providing you go into a field with good prospects). You're much more likely to find the intellectual stimulation you're looking for and deal with people on a more professional basis. You *can* continue to escort on a limited basis to bring in a little cash -- lotsa people do that even with full-time jobs. Taking a break and not having to depend on the daily grind will help you deal with it better. If there's a way to work it out financially, go for it. The longer you wait, the harder it will get.

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    Volunteering is a great option for those who simply want something on their resumes and don't need extra money. If you feel emotionally exhausted from dancing and don't want to volunteer in a 'social' position, there are usually volunteer opportunities available that are oriented more towards physical labor (e.g. unpacking boxes of donated goods).

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    i used to be a nanny and i loved it! if you want a nannying job, another thing you could do is to look around for a volunteer job that works with children so that you have something on your resume and you have a reference. it also might be beneficial to go through a childcare agency rather than look for a job on your own.
    I worked as a nanny while in college. The agency I worked for provided daytime and nighttime nannies and even hotel nannies for moms travelings with baby's. The money was decent and the work was fairly steady.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Elektra Luxx View Post
    I worked as a nanny while in college. The agency I worked for provided daytime and nighttime nannies and even hotel nannies for moms travelings with baby's. The money was decent and the work was fairly steady.
    Did you have any experience working as a nanny? I can think of some ways to convince someone if they gave me an interview I could take care of kids, but not much to put on a CV.

    I'm looking for a regular, full time or little less than full time one now since I've decided to quit stripping escorting for a while, I'm just beyond burned out I think (two more weeks of escorting and then done, thank god). But it seems like everyone wants experience here. I know volunteering would be a good way to start but I don't really want to be making nothing (but am also not concerned about making a ton since my living expenses will be almost nonexistent once I move in with my bf).

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    What about house cleaning for the time being? It's flexible, you can basically charge what you want, I wouldn't think all that much experience would be required, and since quite a few nanny jobs call for light cleaning anyway, maybe it could be a way to get your foot in the door?

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