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    I've been dancing for about a year and a half in clubs that are pretty focused on VIP rooms, but lately I've noticed a weird change. Customers keep wanting/expecting me to make out with them. As a clean dancer, it's kind of disgusting. I tend to attract a lot of the middle aged, somewhat lonely guys who just want to talk/cuddle. Now I'm getting more and more customers who expect actual physical displays of affection. I'd almost rather see handjobs/blowjobs than kissing... It's just a very personal thing to expect from anyone, let alone someone you just met. When I repeatedly turn these guys down, they tend to get all uncomfortable and weird about it. What should I do about this? How do I keep up with increasing expectations for extras while keeping myself comfortable? Any ideas for things that can replace kissing? Displays of affection I could give these needy guys that don't cross my limits/could keep them distracted from kissing? Thanks ladies

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    You just need to find someone else to dance for. They aren't your type, and tell them as much. When I am confronted with a customer who wants a level of contact I'm unwilling to give, I will simply say, "Sorry Sweetie, but I don't think I'm your girl." Then I move away so they can find another dancer who suits their needs.

    A lot of dancers try to be all things to all customers. This isn't possible. Can you imagine a band trying to play enough different songs to make everyone happy? You just need to keep hustling until you find the guys who like your shows.

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    Grow a backbone. You are not 'obligated' to 'keep up w/ extras'. Brush them off the first time, & if they keep pushing for it then leave them. As for alternatives, I found backrubs to be my ticket. They eat up a good amt of time, generally keep you out of reach of wandering mouths & hands, & satisfy sm of that 'needy need for affection'.

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    Ugh tell me about it. I get at least one kissing request a day. Who started this bullshit? Anyway, I still satisfy the needy customers because I give very intimate, sensual dances as long as they have good hygiene and aren't grabby. I get close to their face (cheek to cheek), breathe on their ear, brush my hair against their face, gently pull their hair, squeeze their shoulders/arms, stuff like that. I also make a LOT of heavy eye contact with these types. Usually they will get dance after dance, but some guys just want to be kissed like others want a blow job and there's nothing we can do about it but move along.

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    I work in your area and struggle with this too. It's never good to dangle a promise of an extra in your hustle, but sometimes the only way for me to cope with this expectation is to say that I want to build up chemistry before our first kiss, and then never deliver. Since I don't have a great solution I want to subscribe to the thread.

    These customers are definitely being trained, though. I've been in plenty of VIPs with other girls who just make out with their guy the whole time without any hand stuff going on. It's weird to say the least.

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    Quote Originally Posted by lol1337a View Post
    These customers are definitely being trained, though. I've been in plenty of VIPs with other girls who just make out with their guy the whole time without any hand stuff going on. It's weird to say the least.
    I wonder if any of these make-out girls could just be looking for their soulmates?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Aniela View Post
    I wonder if any of these make-out girls could just be looking for their soulmates?
    LOL. That thread was SW gold.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Aniela View Post
    I wonder if any of these make-out girls could just be looking for their soulmates?
    BAhahahaa!


    @lol1337 I say similar things sometimes, like "I really like you but I want our first kiss to happen naturally" and shit like that. It works sometimes.

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    I get a few of these freaks. I turn my head and let them kiss my cheeks. Then lean in and rub noses and lean away before they can get my lips. Again and again.

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    I had have guys asking to make-out. I'd tell them that I sucked some random guy's dick before work and I still smell like jizz. That keeps their mouths at bay.





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    I agree! Guys never used to expect kissing 5 years ago, now it's like they're surprised when I'm shocked and disgusted by their request. I've just sort of adjusted my dancing style so it seems like less of an option.

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    Since you're in my area, I can't say I'm surprised. What I will say is that they're asking for these services cause they have gotten them before. I always say something along the lines of me being a health nut and that 80% of the population has oral herpes/cold sores and if I kissed everyone I went into a room with, I would end up with it, too..and so will you lol.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Jay12 View Post
    I had have guys asking to make-out. I'd tell them that I sucked some random guy's dick before work and I still smell like jizz. That keeps their mouths at bay.
    LMAO!!
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